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By *onny Bones OP   Man
over a year ago

a block away from heaven

I’m just wondering how open people are with close friends and family about being involved in the lifestyle. Have you told your nearest and dearest of the naughty antics we get up to? Or do you keep your cards a little closer to your chest?

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

I don't want to know anything about my relatives' sex lives, and they have no need to know about mine.

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By *histle do nicelyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow South


"I’m just wondering how open people are with close friends and family about being involved in the lifestyle. Have you told your nearest and dearest of the naughty antics we get up to? Or do you keep your cards a little closer to your chest?"
I told a few...went down like a lead balloon.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Both our families and close friends know, we thought it better that then being seen out with other people.

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By *uiteniceguyMan
over a year ago

High Wycombe

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.it's Christmas

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By *an and wifeyCouple
over a year ago

n lincs

Don’t tell my friends or family although some have their suspicions. We leave it at that lol. Although out with close friends the other day while meeting another group of friends for a social meet up and 2 separate females asked if we were swingers or on fab one front of our close friends. Talk about hush hush and trying to keep it under wraps as our friends didn’t quiet get the conversation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's only 2 people I've met outside of fab that know I'm on here.

1 has since joined the other only found out because she was in the lifestyle herself but has since concentrated on a new relationship

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

My mum knows I go to clubs, so does my sister. I don't go into details though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't keep it a secret

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By *onny Bones OP   Man
over a year ago

a block away from heaven


"Don’t tell my friends or family although some have their suspicions. We leave it at that lol. Although out with close friends the other day while meeting another group of friends for a social meet up and 2 separate females asked if we were swingers or on fab one front of our close friends. Talk about hush hush and trying to keep it under wraps as our friends didn’t quiet get the conversation "

Not great. Must have been really awkward

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
Forum Mod
over a year ago

My Own Little World

Nope.

I have no interest in the sex lives of friends and family, and I am not telling them about mine. It is no-ones business but mine.

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By *urora1912Woman
over a year ago

Norfolk East anglia

My close friends know, so when I go on a meet they know where I am

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By *onny Bones OP   Man
over a year ago

a block away from heaven


"My close friends know, so when I go on a meet they know where I am "

Great reason to do so.

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By *etwifeandhim69Couple
over a year ago

Darlington


"I don't want to know anything about my relatives' sex lives, and they have no need to know about mine.

"

This.

Our freinds know though and have done for 20+ years. They dont care. Not for them but they still ask questions from.time to.time.

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

What goes on in our bedroom stays in the bedroom, we don't even discuss it with friends or works colleagues. So not only do that not know we dabble in swinging, nor do they know kinky stuff we do between the two of us.

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By *ueenbeetipp43Woman
over a year ago

my own world

I told my family and my two closest friends, no one else really matters to me. I told them mainly because I'm opening a Swingers retreat and theres someone in Ireland that is known for giving personal information to the Irish papers about these things. I'd rather my family find out through me than the papers. I wouldn't give anyone the satisfaction of outting me.

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up


"I’m just wondering how open people are with close friends and family about being involved in the lifestyle. Have you told your nearest and dearest of the naughty antics we get up to? Or do you keep your cards a little closer to your chest?"
my family know I'm a swinger. They mostly dont know more detail than that... however some do as some horrible person outed me... I certainly dont envisage a situation where I would need to tell them I love gangbangs and bukkake

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By *an and wifeyCouple
over a year ago

n lincs


"Don’t tell my friends or family although some have their suspicions. We leave it at that lol. Although out with close friends the other day while meeting another group of friends for a social meet up and 2 separate females asked if we were swingers or on fab one front of our close friends. Talk about hush hush and trying to keep it under wraps as our friends didn’t quiet get the conversation

Not great. Must have been really awkward"
was quiet funny the reactions we were getting. Then a couple of single guys in the group twigged and kept popping over asking if the coast was clear lol lol

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By *hesblokeMan
over a year ago

Derbyshire village


"My close friends know, so when I go on a meet they know where I am "

That's pretty smart to be fair.

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

Family will never know.

Our close friends do though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Those who wonder why I've suddenly got new friends in meeting up with, have been told we met on a forum for people with a love of photography.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

M and m looking..you are beautiful

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By *itsAndTaffCouple
over a year ago

Grays, Essex

Some of ours do & I often think it would be easier if more knew especially when OH has lads weekends away, I'd rather they knew he had the freedom to do as he wishes rather than them thinking he cheats on me

But there's a few that are real gossips who would tell others & that wouldn't be fair on friends we've been on holiday with etc as people would then start talking about & suspecting them too

MrsB

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By *hesblokeMan
over a year ago

Derbyshire village


"Those who wonder why I've suddenly got new friends in meeting up with, have been told we met on a forum for people with a love of photography. "

Which is absolutely true!

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

It's not something we're ashamed off, it's not something we shout from the roof tops. Some freinds and family know, some don't. It's hardly a big thing to us if people we know find out but it's our personal business, no one else's.

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester


"M and m looking..you are beautiful "

Thank you

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By *onny Bones OP   Man
over a year ago

a block away from heaven


"I told my family and my two closest friends, no one else really matters to me. I told them mainly because I'm opening a Swingers retreat and theres someone in Ireland that is known for giving personal information to the Irish papers about these things. I'd rather my family find out through me than the papers. I wouldn't give anyone the satisfaction of outting me. "

Good on you.

Best of luck with the retreat. I’m sure loads of here will be wanting to find out more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most of my friends and family know and have seen my profile xx

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By *ty31Man
over a year ago

NW London


"My mum knows I go to clubs, so does my sister. I don't go into details though. "

The Wanted posters around Darlaston and West Bromwich give it all away anyhow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Those who wonder why I've suddenly got new friends in meeting up with, have been told we met on a forum for people with a love of photography.

Which is absolutely true!"

Absolutely. My best mate is on here and he knows when I've got a meet up with someone who isn't my Sir as Sir is too far to come and rescue me if needs be.

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By *ueenbeetipp43Woman
over a year ago

my own world


"I told my family and my two closest friends, no one else really matters to me. I told them mainly because I'm opening a Swingers retreat and theres someone in Ireland that is known for giving personal information to the Irish papers about these things. I'd rather my family find out through me than the papers. I wouldn't give anyone the satisfaction of outting me.

Good on you.

Best of luck with the retreat. I’m sure loads of here will be wanting to find out more "

Thank you so much. That's really sweet

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By *elightfulharmonyWoman
over a year ago

Cheshire

Where to start.. yes my best friend knows of my interest so I can let her know where I am on socials/clubs visits

My younger sis as I live with her but things have become strained since and we are not getting on wether the lockdown has had part in that to I don’t know but she actually told my older sister which I was fuming about but luckily she was fine with up to a point I think, said it’s up to me what I do. Sadly I have to now find somewhere else to live as it’s got so bad with us both as I rent of her but she has given me til nxt yr to find somewhere. So hopefully sisterhood can be saved when I move out x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Families can be strained over sorts. I have a sister not talking to me because of something to do with my health.

I hope you're relationship with her is better once you have that bit of distance between you xx

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By *ermite12ukMan
over a year ago

Solihull and Brentwood

Only one close friend knows.

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

A couple of our friends know we meet women together, it’s not really something they are curious about though.

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By *ounty durham bbw coupleCouple
over a year ago

darlington

A few know none been judgmental so far

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

We don't discuss our sex lives with many people which I think is pretty normal. In some cases it is appropriate and there are at least two friends of ours we have been completely open with about our experiences. They are both fine with it and one is interested in exploring this scene with her boyfriend.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes my parents know they got a little suspicious when they turned up and we had male company and I was sat in stockings and heels. Obviously I told them and they were ok as they said your an adult you make your own choices

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By *onny Bones OP   Man
over a year ago

a block away from heaven


"We don't discuss our sex lives with many people which I think is pretty normal. In some cases it is appropriate and there are at least two friends of ours we have been completely open with about our experiences. They are both fine with it and one is interested in exploring this scene with her boyfriend. "

It is very normal to be private about intimate things. It’s what works best for some.

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By *onny Bones OP   Man
over a year ago

a block away from heaven


"Yes my parents know they got a little suspicious when they turned up and we had male company and I was sat in stockings and heels. Obviously I told them and they were ok as they said your an adult you make your own choices "

Very understanding of them. I hope the evening wasn’t affected too much and you still enjoyed yourselves

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By *urvytreatWoman
over a year ago

somewhere nice

My mum and my best knew. I met hubby at a club, never thought I’d meet a husband there though lol. Mum and best mate were fine with it, in fact the night hubby (who was fiancé then) met my best mate they ended up playing. Mum loves hubby and says I couldn’t of found a more fantastic guy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My relatives no, some of Mr J's do.

Some of our close friends know, we're quite open about things

Her x

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