FabSwingers.com forum: Replying to messages

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi everyone hi many on here will read a message and not reply if not intrested and how many will reply saying no thanks

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By *C7995XCouple
over a year ago

London

If the person has taken the time to write a lengthy individual message we will reply. If it’s a one liner or a copy and paste then we won’t

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By *all me FlikWoman
over a year ago

Galaxy Far Far Away

Depends on the message

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By *etwifeandhim69Couple
over a year ago

Darlington

"Depends on the message "

Exactly this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on the the message, most of the time probably won’t reply due to the message

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

We generally wouldn't reply if not interested. Too many don't take rejection messages well.

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By *olmateMan
over a year ago

west mids

I am a man. Maybe man usually reply but it is just a hypothesis.

On the other hand, I always compose a new message after reading the profile.

And my messages are never "one liners"...

What I usually recieve in return is "silence"!

I am very open minded and take rejection as a sign of personal preference but only very few people reply if I'm not their type.

It is sad and strange behaviour but true.

Xxx

Sol

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By *igfun911Man
over a year ago

East Lancashire

Defo depends on the message.

If they've clearly not read interests etc or it just says "hi" it's a delete from me.

If some efforts gone into the message and it's polite I always answer even if it's a no thanks.

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By *isstinseltoesWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

If I can see itsa good message or a decent profile, I reply, even with a no thanks.

Any messages where its clear they haven't read my profile or haven't filled anything in themselves, I delete.

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By *oristheboldMan
over a year ago

Winsford

Always reply even if it's a "No thanks". Have had several guys message me and as a straight bloke it's not my thing. But I like to think I'm polite enough to at least message back.

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

Chesterfield

Depends what I’m doing. I do get distracted and forget.

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By *torm in a G cupWoman
over a year ago

Land of the Long White Cloud

"We generally wouldn't reply if not interested. Too many don't take rejection messages well."

This is my approach too generally.

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

"If the person has taken the time to write a lengthy individual message we will reply. If it’s a one liner or a copy and paste then we won’t "

Same here

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By *ncemoreroundthesunCouple
over a year ago

on the move

If they've ignore our filters delete unread.

Others depends on the content. One lines, copy and paste, cock pics plus abuse delete and block.

All others replied.

Think that covers it

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

From Fab FAQs

There are too many rude people on here who don't reply to my messages!

It's not rude not to reply.

Some ladies and couples get hundreds of messages a day so it simply isn't possible for them to reply to everyone. If you don't get a response, you should assume they aren't interested. If you're getting a lot of "no-replies" then you should consider your profile and the messages you send. Are they giving the right message? Are you standing out from the thousands of other guys on here?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"From Fab FAQs

There are too many rude people on here who don't reply to my messages!

It's not rude not to reply.

I was just going to write pretty much this exact thing. Sometimes when we’re particularly active on here we get literally bombarded with messsges, it’s just unrealistic to expect anyone to keep up to date with that. We’d need to employ a secretary part time, lol. And most messages off guys are crap to be honest, you’re not getting a response for a “hey” or “hi there”. We respond to guys and couples that make an effort and we’re attracted to. It’s that simple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Depends on the message "

this and profile

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By *issAphroditeWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

I state in my profile that no reply means no thanks, this is because, like most women and couples, I get a lot of messages and I really can't be doing with replying to them all. Particularly as it often leads to whining or abuse.

If someone has clearly taken the time to read my profile and send something decent then I will politely decline but if it's a lazy message or clearly isn't what I want as per profile info, then I'm not wasting any time on him.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

"If the person has taken the time to write a lengthy individual message we will reply. If it’s a one liner or a copy and paste then we won’t "

Exactly this. If they have not bothered why should i?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I state in my profile that no reply means no thanks, this is because, like most women and couples, I get a lot of messages and I really can't be doing with replying to them all. Particularly as it often leads to whining or abuse.

To be honest i do get a lot of messages

And i always reply even if its no thank u.

Since stating i was bi i probably get an extra 150-200 messages a day

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By *valanche1001Man
over a year ago

Leeds

Due to the collasal number of emails I receive a week (about 1) I do make the effort to reply.

However I had to draw the line at the “Hi” and nowt else email I received recently. Ironically from a profile demanding messages that were more than one-liners

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By *arc and KamaCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

We might not reply if not interested.

Two reasons:

1. Message is like copy/paste

2. They do not match criteria we put in the profile

It is hard to reply sometimes. We have days when we get multiple messages.

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By *attoo manMan
over a year ago

Rhyl

I reply to every message i get.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I suppose everyone is different me personally as a single man wont get as many messages as a single woman before i used to get probably 90 messages a day probably half were not what i was looking 4 sp it was a polite no thank u but happy fabbing the other half id chat to.

When i declared i was bi i got about an extra 150-200 messages of either single blokes tvs/ts or bi couples will alwayd reply no thanks at least then probably block them

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By *arkus1812Man
over a year ago

Lifes departure lounge NN9 Northamptonshire East not West MidlandsMidlands

I reply to all my messages, but as I only get 10 - 15 messages a week it is no big deal finding the time to reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Defo depends on the message.

If they've clearly not read interests etc or it just says "hi" it's a delete from me.

If some efforts gone into the message and it's polite I always answer even if it's a no thanks. "

This

NBVN x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to reply even if its a thanks but no thanks.

Only if its a one or two word message I don't bother. If they can't put the effort into an initial message I can't be bothered to reply.

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By *ick34Man
over a year ago

Overton

think the problem is some guys send stupid ill thought out messages and when they get a no thankyou they keep sending messages as to why not

so if the few send a thought out message and except the response then the rest of us would get a response to our messages

think about it meeting someone in a pub and saying want to fuck your wife would no doubt get you a black eye

its no different on here be respectful and polite and you never know

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By *nigmatic_AngelWoman
over a year ago

The place where fairies live

"Depends on the message

Exactly this."

Yes this

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

If the sender's profile is I will read the message, & if they have clearly read my profile & have put effort into writing more than 'hi' or 'how you doin?' then I will usually reply, even just to say no thanks.

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By *1c4yMan
over a year ago

stourbridge

"Hi everyone hi many on here will read a message and not reply if not intrested and how many will reply saying no thanks"

I always reply even if it's just a respectful decline.

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By *hesblokeMan
over a year ago

Derbyshire village

If it's a polite message then it'll get an answer.

"Luv ya tits Wana fuk", not so much, probably just a "nope"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I rarely reply now. If my filters are off I get a lot of messages, and I don’t have time to reply to them all, I don’t want any grief for saying no, and once your filters are back on, they can then still message you, which is just annoying (and this is the main reason I don’t reply).

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By *urflrCouple
over a year ago

wirral

Like others have said, depends on the message. Also some time we read and then don’t have time to answer and then it drops down the messages.

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By *angOnBunnyCouple
over a year ago

Ipswich

Depends on the message and if we have time. Been fortunate not to have been abused for saying no. No effort is generally just a delete

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

I reply to most of my messages, but I don't get that many.

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