FabSwingers.com forum: Getting into swinging

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi, have been married over 1 year and in an on-off relationship for 10 years now, we are both (reasonably) sexually satisfied with each other but I find myself wanting us to really get into swinging. I have done group sex between "stints" in our relationship. She has not. We love each other very much but I really want us to try swinging as a couple, but she is afraid of it -- this despite her currently being a part time escort and participating in some very "extreme" activities with clients (let's just say she's very open minded when it comes to sex and she does this with my consent).

Are there any open venues/events we can go to so maybe she can get a vibe/feel for this? (once lockdown has ended, of course)

Any advice welcome, also am interested in other people's stories of how they got into it and/or any problems it caused..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just to confirm, is this 2 different women?

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By *obka3Couple
over a year ago

bournemouth

Go to a social and speak to people, no pressure and no playing but meet a few people you can get on with, to me there are two types of swinging, one just meeting up for sex and never see them again and making friends with people and having sex more than one time, to us the second way is better as you can become friends as well as sexual partners, nothing wrong with the first way occasionally and some people will only want to do it that way.

The most important thing is communication between you two before you jump in, if she is having sex with clients and tells you about it she doesnt sounds shy, perhaps she is unsure how she will feel if you have sex with other women

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Does your wife participate in group sex with clients?

Group sex is not for everyone and I don't think people should do anything sexually that actually frightened them

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

no i am married to a part time escort it's the same woman

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

try coing to a club when they are open, no pressure to play, then she can see what its all about

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

i will try and bring up the subject with her

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By *isstinseltoesWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

"try coing to a club when they are open, no pressure to play, then she can see what its all about"
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yes she said she would be comfortable me seeing another escort, but not with sex that isn't purely a "transaction", which i find a bit strange but then those are what we've mutually agreed so far. But i think she has a hard time realising that i can separate sex from emotion just as easily as she does in her sex work. She's somewhat insecure and probably thinks i will run off with someone, which is absolutely not the case and i have no desire to do so. I'm more than emotionally satisfied, but I have told her i enjoy variety in sex partners, that's all there is to it really for me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I wouldn't pressure her into such things, though I've said I would like to try an MMF threesome which i suspect she might entertain if she becomes more comfortable (she's hinted as much). but i think the main thing is that she's intimidated by swinging, as if it's some scary monolith filled with monsters but she doesnt realise it's just normal people like everyone else.

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By *ic_khan2341Man
over a year ago

Manchester

"Hi, have been married over 1 year and in an on-off relationship for 10 years now, we are both (reasonably) sexually satisfied with each other but I find myself wanting us to really get into swinging. I have done group sex between "stints" in our relationship. She has not. We love each other very much but I really want us to try swinging as a couple, but she is afraid of it -- this despite her currently being a part time escort and participating in some very "extreme" activities with clients (let's just say she's very open minded when it comes to sex and she does this with my consent).

Are there any open venues/events we can go to so maybe she can get a vibe/feel for this? (once lockdown has ended, of course)

Any advice welcome, also am interested in other people's stories of how they got into it and/or any problems it caused.."

Look for club events in your area. You can use this site to search for them. Thats the best way to get to know people and friends and then you can meet them outside of the club.

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