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"We are a soft swing couple and have spoken together about taking the step to full swing with the right person when the moment is right. Can anyone let us know how it was fir them and what it felt like? We will practice safe sex when it comes to it with condoms but whats it like with condoms as the wife likes full sex and giving oral as well, not sure she likes a mouth full of rubber, do you take off the condom for oral then put it back on for full sex? Any advice would be great . Thanks x" Ok. This is going to be a long one as context is key here. The simple answer might not make much sense. We are a bit unusual in how we took our path to full swap but I'll tell you how it went. We originally started swinging 24 years ago. For us it was because my wife has what we now know is a cuckquean fetish and is bi sexual. She loves me being with other women (lucky me, I know). Our first endeavour was simply with a friend of my wife's. My wife had had one drink to many on a girls night out and shared her fantasy with her friend who was completely down to fool around with me. On that first occasion, my wife stayed home and I went out. It was a full sex experience. We practice safe sex (always have and always will) so we tend to take a full box of condoms and take them off / put them on as needed. I can only tell you my wife LOVED that experience (would not have continued if she didn't). When I got back it she'd not stopped using her wand for several hours and then pounced on me when I got in. Again...lottery winning result for me. That then lead to our first couples meet a couple of months or so later. That was just a soft swing situation where the ladies only played as my wife wanted to explore her bi side for the first time. At that point I absolutely wasn't sure about seeing her with another man and she wasn't sure about seeing me with another woman. I know it sounds weird after she had sent me off but the idea of it vs seeing it was a line she wasn't sure about. This then lead to another meet with another couple where soft play got a bit more..open. The couple in question where very relaxed and friendly and let us go out our own pace as we where young and new to it all really still. After a few meets, we agreed to do a separate room swap. Still where not sure about seeing each other with other people. We knew we where ok not seeing it though. Kinda hard to explain but we where fine with it happening...just not seeing it (or so we thought). So being in separate rooms did nothing for me, good or bad. My wife liked it but in that situation she was otherwise occupied. Then we stopped swinging for about a decade. Purely due to raising a family and never having much free time due to work. It just got put on the side and forgotten about. Then out of the blue, around 2010, an old school friend of mine (a woman) made a post on Facebook about something and I just knew she was a swinger. I asked, she said she was and suddenly we are right back to square one. My wife wants to go down this road again now the kids are much older and I'm encouraged to meet said lady. It's all good and she tells us all about Fab. We join, we have a few socials, play with a few soft swap couples but no one is separate room swapping which we knew we where ok with. Then a local party event gets posted and the hosts message us and ask if we would like to come. they'd seen we had only joined a few months previously and where already on our friends list. We explain we only do soft swap / separate room and are not really into the whole party / orgy thing. They explain that's fine, not an issue and that it was going to be a social event till late in the evening anyway. Some couples wouldn't be staying and there would be an option to leave before play commenced. They asked how about we came an hour early, sit and have a no pressure chat with them and treat it as a social event. So we did. The night goes on, everyone was lovely and it was what was said on the tin. A social event that people came and went from. The wife and I are really enjoying ourselves. Eventually, it gets late and just a few couples are left. We decide we'd like to stay but on the terms we just play with each other and watch. Everyone was fine with that and things kick off. Things got hot and heavy very fast. I cant tell you why it happened, just that it did. My wife and I are going at it and I just look at her and ask "do you want these guys to fuck you?". She says yes and the next thing you know, two couples are all over her at my invitation. She loved it and so did I. Next thing you know both guys are screwing her whilst their wives are screwing me. We're watching each other and all I can say is it was electric. All those fears we had..gone. That final line was crossed and there was no going back after that. It changed everything in a positive way for us and soft swap isn't something we are interested in anymore. We both enjoy seeing each other with others. We just make sure we have plenty of condoms, stick to our own rules and it's all good. But we have seen others lose their shit over this. So make sure you're completely on the same page and open and honest with each other about everything you want and expect. | |||
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"We are a soft swing couple and have spoken together about taking the step to full swing with the right person when the moment is right. Can anyone let us know how it was fir them and what it felt like? We will practice safe sex when it comes to it with condoms but whats it like with condoms as the wife likes full sex and giving oral as well, not sure she likes a mouth full of rubber, do you take off the condom for oral then put it back on for full sex? Any advice would be great . Thanks x Ok. This is going to be a long one as context is key here. The simple answer might not make much sense. We are a bit unusual in how we took our path to full swap but I'll tell you how it went. We originally started swinging 24 years ago. For us it was because my wife has what we now know is a cuckquean fetish and is bi sexual. She loves me being with other women (lucky me, I know). Our first endeavour was simply with a friend of my wife's. My wife had had one drink to many on a girls night out and shared her fantasy with her friend who was completely down to fool around with me. On that first occasion, my wife stayed home and I went out. It was a full sex experience. We practice safe sex (always have and always will) so we tend to take a full box of condoms and take them off / put them on as needed. I can only tell you my wife LOVED that experience (would not have continued if she didn't). When I got back it she'd not stopped using her wand for several hours and then pounced on me when I got in. Again...lottery winning result for me. That then lead to our first couples meet a couple of months or so later. That was just a soft swing situation where the ladies only played as my wife wanted to explore her bi side for the first time. At that point I absolutely wasn't sure about seeing her with another man and she wasn't sure about seeing me with another woman. I know it sounds weird after she had sent me off but the idea of it vs seeing it was a line she wasn't sure about. This then lead to another meet with another couple where soft play got a bit more..open. The couple in question where very relaxed and friendly and let us go out our own pace as we where young and new to it all really still. After a few meets, we agreed to do a separate room swap. Still where not sure about seeing each other with other people. We knew we where ok not seeing it though. Kinda hard to explain but we where fine with it happening...just not seeing it (or so we thought). So being in separate rooms did nothing for me, good or bad. My wife liked it but in that situation she was otherwise occupied. Then we stopped swinging for about a decade. Purely due to raising a family and never having much free time due to work. It just got put on the side and forgotten about. Then out of the blue, around 2010, an old school friend of mine (a woman) made a post on Facebook about something and I just knew she was a swinger. I asked, she said she was and suddenly we are right back to square one. My wife wants to go down this road again now the kids are much older and I'm encouraged to meet said lady. It's all good and she tells us all about Fab. We join, we have a few socials, play with a few soft swap couples but no one is separate room swapping which we knew we where ok with. Then a local party event gets posted and the hosts message us and ask if we would like to come. they'd seen we had only joined a few months previously and where already on our friends list. We explain we only do soft swap / separate room and are not really into the whole party / orgy thing. They explain that's fine, not an issue and that it was going to be a social event till late in the evening anyway. Some couples wouldn't be staying and there would be an option to leave before play commenced. They asked how about we came an hour early, sit and have a no pressure chat with them and treat it as a social event. So we did. The night goes on, everyone was lovely and it was what was said on the tin. A social event that people came and went from. The wife and I are really enjoying ourselves. Eventually, it gets late and just a few couples are left. We decide we'd like to stay but on the terms we just play with each other and watch. Everyone was fine with that and things kick off. Things got hot and heavy very fast. I cant tell you why it happened, just that it did. My wife and I are going at it and I just look at her and ask "do you want these guys to fuck you?". She says yes and the next thing you know, two couples are all over her at my invitation. She loved it and so did I. Next thing you know both guys are screwing her whilst their wives are screwing me. We're watching each other and all I can say is it was electric. All those fears we had..gone. That final line was crossed and there was no going back after that. It changed everything in a positive way for us and soft swap isn't something we are interested in anymore. We both enjoy seeing each other with others. We just make sure we have plenty of condoms, stick to our own rules and it's all good. But we have seen others lose their shit over this. So make sure you're completely on the same page and open and honest with each other about everything you want and expect. " Love this! | |||
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"Thank you all so far that has explained . It is a thing that we want to try. I'm not sure if she will want me to be with another lady maybe soft play but so far this is just about her going all the way with another man. I guess the time may come whereby we all have sex with different people once she has experimented but I dont have the urge to have full sex with another lady yet. We have both spoken in terms of her having full sex and it turns us both on and I guess the thing with condoms we will have to decide about using a new condom everytime the guy fucks her and wants oral and then fuck her again unless we leave the fucking to last. Thanks so far x Do whatever makes you happy and you both enjoy. Just ensure you’re upfront with any couples you plan to meet about whether it’s soft or full swap, nothing worse than someone feeling left out " | |||
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"We are a soft swing couple and have spoken together about taking the step to full swing with the right person when the moment is right. Can anyone let us know how it was fir them and what it felt like? We will practice safe sex when it comes to it with condoms but whats it like with condoms as the wife likes full sex and giving oral as well, not sure she likes a mouth full of rubber, do you take off the condom for oral then put it back on for full sex? Any advice would be great . Thanks x" With us it just seemed a natural thing to do with a couple we had met a few times , pretty much went with the flow during the meet , we were all relaxed at the idea of a full swap at that particular time | |||
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"Just wanted to point out probably the obvious; putting a condom ‘back on’ is not an option "Thanks, we know lol Wife likes me to swap between her pussy and mouth when we have sex so I am guessing it will be the same with the other man. Might need to stock up on condoms. | |||
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"We started soft swing mainly fem on fem fun then talked about watching each other moved on to full swap , just do everything at your own pace " Thanks. Wife has been having soft swing for about 3yrs now with different men. Both ready to try full with the right person. She has tried fem fem and loved it. I would like her to try a bigger cock and let another man experience what I have felt and join in and make her the centre of attention. | |||
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"Just wanted to point out probably the obvious; putting a condom ‘back on’ is not an option
Thanks, we know lol
Wife likes me to swap between her pussy and mouth when we have sex so I am guessing it will be the same with the other man. Might need to stock up on condoms."I don’t think I’ve heard of a married couple who use condoms for oral together.  | |||
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"Just wanted to point out probably the obvious; putting a condom ‘back on’ is not an option
Thanks, we know lol
Wife likes me to swap between her pussy and mouth when we have sex so I am guessing it will be the same with the other man. Might need to stock up on condoms.
I don’t think I’ve heard of a married couple who use condoms for oral together. "We dont use condoms, I am thinking of the other guy when he wants to fuck and oral then fuck again etc | |||
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"We started from soft and two meetings later we were doing full swap and it is great. Often we also do MFM. We play safe sex only but oral without a condom. Otherwise there is no pleasure. We accepted a risk. " Thats probably what we are thinking of, oral with no condom as she loves the taste of cock but fucking with condom. | |||
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"We started from soft and two meetings later we were doing full swap and it is great. Often we also do MFM. We play safe sex only but oral without a condom. Otherwise there is no pleasure. We accepted a risk. Thats probably what we are thinking of, oral with no condom as she loves the taste of cock but fucking with condom." We see no other option. There is sometimes discussion about a risk of STI when a woman takes a cock to mouth, but hey - man also eats women pussy and there is similar risk but no one thinks about putting a cling film. | |||
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