FabSwingers.com forum: What makes it hard on fab to get a meet

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Answers below

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By *orYourPleasure xxWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

I'm getting loads of offers...

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Having a cock unless you also have boobs.

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By *uriouscouple83Couple
over a year ago

Worcester

"Having a cock unless you also have boobs. "

A winning combo

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By *rojan23Man
over a year ago

neverland

Being the right combination of things people like and not being lost in the reels of messages women receive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Finding mutual attraction

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By *exyredheadtattooCouple
over a year ago

Beaumont

"Finding mutual attraction"

I agree with this one!

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By *ylonloverboy69Man
over a year ago

cheltenham

"Finding mutual attraction"
right answer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Finding genuine people who aren’t just wanking behind a keyboard/screen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All the timewasters and dreamers make it hard to find real people who want to meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being (rightly) very fussy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Finding genuine people who aren’t just wanking behind a keyboard/screen

there are a few gen gems!

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By *oneymitchMan
over a year ago

Huddersfield

"Finding mutual attraction"

This!! Thats why i prefer meets at clubs/parties. You know what your getting and no text ping pong

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By *ersey GirlCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

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By *ersey GirlCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

the wrong attitude, overblown expectations, lack of effort

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being ugly don't help

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By *an hjCouple
over a year ago

Stowmarket

Sending a message that shows you have not read their profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm getting loads of offers...

You would

you’re a sexy woman with amazing tits

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Finding genuine people who aren’t just wanking behind a keyboard/screen

there are a few gen gems!

Oh I hope so!

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Finding someone I fancy and click with, doesn't seem to happen v often now.

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By *unforyou73Man
over a year ago

worcester weekend in exmouth

I don’t get any messages lol

Being like me every lady wants a younger model now

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By *oGDomMan
over a year ago

Barry

..having XY Chromosomes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm getting loads of offers...

I’m not surprised tbh

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Attitude and impatience

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By *ebjonnsonMan
over a year ago

Maldon

"Having a cock unless you also have boobs.

A winning combo

I would just stay in. No need to meet!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most of the messages we receive are from men who want a Shag, they want it now with the absolute minimum of effort and don't care who they shag!

Lack of standards, lack of effort and most likely doing it without their wife's knowledge!

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

Time wasters, fantasists and those who have no intention of meeting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Time wasters, fantasists and those who have no intention of meeting"

this. The site is rife with them i call it fakeswingers.com

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

As with most things on the Internet it's just a window but somebody needs to give it a bloody good clean.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As with most things on the Internet it's just a window but somebody needs to give it a bloody good clean.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

1) being male

2) being in the wrong location

3) not having recent verifications

4) being an older male

All of the above make it pretty difficult to get any interaction.

Just my observations

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By *ud and BryanCouple
over a year ago

Boston, Lincolnshire

Attitude

No pics

Attitude

Only dick pics

Attitude

Negativity

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By *rooperRedMan
over a year ago

Littlehampton

I think

1) Being a male

is answer enough.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Finding mutual attraction"

Very much agree.

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By *uliette500Woman
over a year ago

Hull

Sending messages that say nothing.

Like:

"hi"

"fancy meeting me"

or my least favourite

"how are you"

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By *halMan
over a year ago

North West

"I'm getting loads of offers...

Your Going to get another one in a min lol x

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By *aughty shift workerMan
over a year ago

Bedford

I love the thrill of The Chase meeting that person after all the flirting and messages. Getting ready is a huge turn on knowing what's going to happen

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By *rooperRedMan
over a year ago

Littlehampton

"Sending messages that say nothing.

Like:

"hi"

"fancy meeting me"

or my least favourite

"how are you" "

Yes, but even proper, polite, verbose, witty, and relevant replies which outline how you meet someone's criteria in every way, accompanied by a recent photo not showing any genitalia are met with a resounding silence, and sometimes a block.

And then you check their verifications and it's a dude with a one line profile and a blurry dick pic and you just think "Why bother...?".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sending messages that say nothing.

Like:

"hi"

"fancy meeting me"

or my least favourite

"how are you"

And then you check their verifications and it's a dude with a one line profile and a blurry dick pic and you just think "Why bother...?"."

Lol ... I must admit to not liking those kind of messages! But have responded, and met, after it started with a hi! I understand that not all people are wordsmiths or might be shy whereas the "I fit your profile criteria" messages are just to contrived for me! Like a laugh and a somewhat intelligent conversation for me to meet anyone ... but on the plus side I do answer all my messages

Luckily we're all absolutely different and looking for different people!

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By *uliette500Woman
over a year ago

Hull

I always look at profiles of any message before I reply but a boring profile and a crap message gets a no thanks.

If its a crap message but decent profile I will often reply and try to get some conversation going.

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By *dd_soxMan
over a year ago

Suffolk

...being older...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

think there are alot of people who like the idea of meeting, but when it comes down to it they bottle it, and weve had it with all sexes

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By *etwifeandhim69Couple
over a year ago

Darlington

"Having a cock unless you also have boobs. "

We have both. Still getting our time wasted on here.

Not saying we don't get meets (we do) but currently being subjected to a lot of catfishing attempts, picture hunters or just straight up "meet now, we are d*unk and horny" types. Single guys posing as couples has become a big thing to deal with recently. Never used to be like this.

I dont know what the solution is aside from message filters and vigilance but the ratios on this site and the sheer number of single guys taking the mick has become a problem that makes fab a less pleasant place to be on.

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By *aul_j80Man
over a year ago

Bloxwich

"Sending messages that say nothing.

Like:

"hi"

"fancy meeting me"

or my least favourite

"how are you"

And then you check their verifications and it's a dude with a one line profile and a blurry dick pic and you just think "Why bother...?"."

Yes I know what you mean, I get that couples & single ladies get lots of messages, and probably can't reply to everyone, they will just pick who most appeals to them at that time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can imagine there are many here like myself who have tried messages from all angles which include the boring "hi" and to the other extreme being direct and straight to the point. None of which seem to be suitable to warrant a response. To be honest it's near impossible to get a reply from anyone in my area or when you do, it lasts for 1 message then they disappear

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford

Wasting your one opportunity of the week waiting for someone who (now obviously) isn't going to turn up

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By *uchislife66Man
over a year ago

Leeds

"I'm getting loads of offers...

I can see why

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Time wasters. We get enough guys that say their willing to meet and then you give them a date or say yeah lets sort something and then all of a sudden they ghost us. They are quick enough to send 100 messages but as soon as you’re like yeah lets meet “……”

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By *atenaWoman
over a year ago

Hyde

"Time wasters, fantasists and those who have no intention of meeting"

Thisssssssss

Or people who arrange and then cancel

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By *lan157Man
over a year ago

a village near Haywards Heath in East Sussex

It's not hard to get a meet with fab people but it is hard to get meet using fab messaging. However when you find the "best for you" alternative route then your ability to meet fab people improves considerably as you get introduced to friends of friends who are also on Fab.

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By *ounty durham bbw coupleCouple
over a year ago

darlington

3 months isn't that long in fab terms especially as most people have only just started meeting again single guys we have met told us they get a lot of meets just being in right place at right time keep eye on local statuses and try be available at short notice especially a Friday Saturday night

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Finding mutual attraction"

^^^

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Time wasters, fantasists and those who have no intention of meeting

Thisssssssss

Or people who arrange and then cancel "

I’m finding it’s mainly fantasists atm

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

"Answers below "

A pandemic?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Being (rightly) very fussy. "

This

Having discussed what ticks our boxes and how quickly I can be turned off by a message on here I've realised I'm very fussy

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By *uietly_KinkyMan
over a year ago

High Wycombe

Being an ugly git with a depressed personality presents a few obstacles

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By *ic_khan2341Man
over a year ago

Manchester

Better if you know the people already from a club.

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