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Masculine, Alpha Subs?

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By *issAphrodite OP   Woman
over a year ago

Norwich

I'm sure like most women on here, I get contacted by all different sorts of men.

Sometimes submissive men wanting to be dominated, despite my profile making no reference to being dominant or anything like that.

Anyway, a lot of the submissive men seem to have a particular set of physical characteristics. So purely out of curiosity, are there any men here who are very masculine looking and aloha acting who are actually sexually submissive with women?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well although I'm a CD I'm certainly not femme looking, and I don't buy alpha as a designator except for bullshit wannabe doms; I'm generally in control of myself and situations I'm in and confident, so if that's alpha then I'll take it.

And I switch, I'm quite happy for a badass woman I respect to take control and have her way, as long as she expects the same in return.

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By *issAphrodite OP   Woman
over a year ago

Norwich

Yes, there seem to be a lot of well built/athletic men on here who think their physical presence and having watched 50 Shades, makes them an actual Dom.

But equally, the vast majority of messages I receive from submissive men are usually quite slender and don't present as having a lot of "masculine energy" if you know what I mean.

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By *lli_sissyTV/TS
over a year ago

Cambridge

i think there are a good number of masculine sub males... i know when i told one of my female friends that i was sub and cd, she refused to believe me due to how she knew me.

Finding them in the wild, can be tricky, as in social circumstances they are often going to be bound by those masculine expectations.

AS to come and go subs and doms, sadly there are loads... but as one Domme just posted a comment on another sight 'the amount of men messeging me wanting to be my sub, then run away when they realise it is not about sex'... could apply that to both groups. But you have to be a little tolerant, we all started somewhere, and you have to learn where the fun is and yes, it's not just the sex bit

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By *orkshrCplCouple
over a year ago

Ripon


"I'm sure like most women on here, I get contacted by all different sorts of men.

Sometimes submissive men wanting to be dominated, despite my profile making no reference to being dominant or anything like that.

Anyway, a lot of the submissive men seem to have a particular set of physical characteristics. So purely out of curiosity, are there any men here who are very masculine looking and aloha acting who are actually sexually submissive with women? "

My favourite

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So purely out of curiosity, are there any men here who are very masculine looking and aloha acting who are actually sexually submissive with women? "

I'd be down with wearing a lei, if it got me lei'd

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm no mean a bodybuilder but ain't skinny either and I'm submissive. Some women reply to me saying I don't look as a sub and have to do some convincing after hah

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm sure like most women on here, I get contacted by all different sorts of men.

Sometimes submissive men wanting to be dominated, despite my profile making no reference to being dominant or anything like that.

Anyway, a lot of the submissive men seem to have a particular set of physical characteristics. So purely out of curiosity, are there any men here who are very masculine looking and aloha acting who are actually sexually submissive with women?

My favourite "

You’d probably like me then

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By *issAphrodite OP   Woman
over a year ago

Norwich

I mostly like confident and assertive but not dominant men as I'm not remotely submissive. I have played with submissive men before; both an orally submissive man and a full on, would be collared if he could, foot worshipping sub.

I generally like men who can match my energy and "presence" but occasionally I hanker after a man who looks masculine and carries himself as an alpha but it a pure pleaser and does as he's told

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By *ucky88oMan
over a year ago

london

In everyday life nobody would guess my sexually submissive nature.

I have a job that in no way I could be submissive but in my private life there is nothing more than worshipping and being at the mercy of a confident lady I love more.

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By *ylonlickMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

This is a stunning post.

I am in good condition and submissive to the right lady.

Like to have fun and please the lady but like to think I can hold my own and try most things xx

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By *uts123Man
over a year ago

Nr Ipswich

I think you will find quite a few masculine, alpha guys hanker after a dominant woman.

It could be a switch from their possible powerful alpha day to day persona or just get turned on by a woman being in control.

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By *as_no_ideaWoman
over a year ago

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There are quite a few confident, assertive, alpha males out there...

I have had the pleasure of dominating a few, and they have been the better play partners/submissive.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire


"I'm sure like most women on here, I get contacted by all different sorts of men.

Sometimes submissive men wanting to be dominated, despite my profile making no reference to being dominant or anything like that.

Anyway, a lot of the submissive men seem to have a particular set of physical characteristics. So purely out of curiosity, are there any men here who are very masculine looking and aloha acting who are actually sexually submissive with women? "

Yes they’re called Husbands

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By *riving_Home_For_MimiWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

There's a few lurking, seriously hot!

Waiting on a social with one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't consider myself a masculine alpha but I did enjoy being all tied at the mercy of a lady once

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sub here

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By *lameBoyMan
over a year ago

Enfield & Dublin


"I'm sure like most women on here, I get contacted by all different sorts of men.

Sometimes submissive men wanting to be dominated, despite my profile making no reference to being dominant or anything like that.

Anyway, a lot of the submissive men seem to have a particular set of physical characteristics. So purely out of curiosity, are there any men here who are very masculine looking and aloha acting who are actually sexually submissive with women?

Yes they’re called Husbands "

Steph, you absolutely win the internet with that comment

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By *Ci LutherMan
over a year ago

Cumalot

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By *Ci LutherMan
over a year ago

Cumalot

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire


"I'm sure like most women on here, I get contacted by all different sorts of men.

Sometimes submissive men wanting to be dominated, despite my profile making no reference to being dominant or anything like that.

Anyway, a lot of the submissive men seem to have a particular set of physical characteristics. So purely out of curiosity, are there any men here who are very masculine looking and aloha acting who are actually sexually submissive with women?

Yes they’re called Husbands

Steph, you absolutely win the internet with that comment "

You can tell when I’ve had a drink

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By *Ci LutherMan
over a year ago

Cumalot

Always fancied being a sub to a hot mature lady

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What a delicious carrot to dangle

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By *rotic-TouchTV/TS
over a year ago

doncaster

Yes , I've met plenty ultra alpha masculine ripped subby men , they do exist

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By *adyx4Woman
over a year ago

Durham


"I think you will find quite a few masculine, alpha guys hanker after a dominant woman.

It could be a switch from their possible powerful alpha day to day persona or just get turned on by a woman being in control.

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As a dominant female a variety of men contact me all different ages and sizes. A lot of men who claim to be dominant on their profile will message me to say they are exploring their submissive side

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"I think you will find quite a few masculine, alpha guys hanker after a dominant woman.

It could be a switch from their possible powerful alpha day to day persona or just get turned on by a woman being in control.

As a dominant female a variety of men contact me all different ages and sizes. A lot of men who claim to be dominant on their profile will message me to say they are exploring their submissive side "

This is odd to me, I read posts saying you should explore your sub side to understand dominance.

I cannot think of anything worse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m not skinny, but I’m not ripped either.

I’m a submissive male that would love to be dominated properly at some point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think I may come across this way x

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By *issAphrodite OP   Woman
over a year ago

Norwich

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By *fricanguyMan
over a year ago

warr

I am sub lol

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By *issAphrodite OP   Woman
over a year ago

Norwich


"I wouldn't consider myself a masculine alpha but I did enjoy being all tied at the mercy of a lady once "

And I wouldn't consider myself a Domme. But sometimes I just want to be really selfish and greedy and ideally with a man who doesn't look or act "subby". A man who on any other occasion could blow my back out but is also happy to give the lovely lady what she wants and to be at the mercy of my whim

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By *ne4meMan
over a year ago

London

You are looking for a real man who is a pleasure pleaser, a true giver by nature, well built for the job of being manly and an equal in the bedtroom who would happily switch between who is the lead dynamic. Hi .....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes, there seem to be a lot of well built/athletic men on here who think their physical presence and having watched 50 Shades, makes them an actual Dom.

But equally, the vast majority of messages I receive from submissive men are usually quite slender and don't present as having a lot of "masculine energy" if you know what I mean."

I don't think there is a body type associated with submissive or dominant..

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By *eldomVanillaMan
over a year ago

London

I wouldn't say I'm macho or overly masculine but would not present day to day as someone who enjoys being sub.

But there's so much more to it than that, it's more about building a dynamic with someone. Large part of it is compersion. But that can be topping from the bottom or bottoming from the top. But also there's a submissive side that does just enjoy that being more submissive.

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By *teve969Man
over a year ago

London


"I wouldn't consider myself a masculine alpha but I did enjoy being all tied at the mercy of a lady once

And I wouldn't consider myself a Domme. But sometimes I just want to be really selfish and greedy and ideally with a man who doesn't look or act "subby". A man who on any other occasion could blow my back out but is also happy to give the lovely lady what she wants and to be at the mercy of my whim "

Sounds good to me

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By *orkshire_roses999Couple
over a year ago

yorkshire

Fir me it’s all about power….at work I am the authority and I make the rules (to an extent)

Ever feel like one time you just don’t want to be in control……..hope that helps?

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By *issAphrodite OP   Woman
over a year ago

Norwich


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I don't think there is a body type associated with submissive or dominant.. "

It shouldn't but then most of the big "Doms" I'm referring to are not really Doms at all. Many are just selfish or bullies and use their size and physique to assume an "alpha" position. In reality it is of course psychological and more about dynamic. But it is mostly slimmer guys who message me wanting to be dominated and often men with smaller penises who are currently cuckolded, while those with bigger penises like to call themselves Bulls. It's mostly word play and bravado I think, anyway.

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