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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

He's interested, oh yes he's very interested. Then he ghosts you for weeks then pips up apologizing he's been busy, yet you see him on fab daily. Then he disappears for months, returns, begs you to chat again, then ghosts you again. What's your thoughts? Thanks.

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By *oxy lady40Woman
over a year ago

bridgwater


"He's interested, oh yes he's very interested. Then he ghosts you for weeks then pips up apologizing he's been busy, yet you see him on fab daily. Then he disappears for months, returns, begs you to chat again, then ghosts you again. What's your thoughts? Thanks."
block him and forget

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

He's not interested unless he's not getting it elsewhere.

As above, block and forget

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"He's interested, oh yes he's very interested. Then he ghosts you for weeks then pips up apologizing he's been busy, yet you see him on fab daily. Then he disappears for months, returns, begs you to chat again, then ghosts you again. What's your thoughts? Thanks. block him and forget "

My thoughts exactly! How patient can a woman be!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"He's not interested unless he's not getting it elsewhere.

As above, block and forget"

Or maybe he's attached and can't. Difficult to know

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"He's not interested unless he's not getting it elsewhere.

As above, block and forget

Or maybe he's attached and can't. Difficult to know

"

Maybe, if you're happy with the situation it's not a problem.

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By *oxy lady40Woman
over a year ago

bridgwater


"He's interested, oh yes he's very interested. Then he ghosts you for weeks then pips up apologizing he's been busy, yet you see him on fab daily. Then he disappears for months, returns, begs you to chat again, then ghosts you again. What's your thoughts? Thanks. block him and forget

My thoughts exactly! How patient can a woman be!"
it he’s lose , block

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

Depends where it is, on here or by text.

I could understand not logging on here for a week or so but not replying to a text is a bit poor.

If there's no reply by text, there's plenty more to take your time up with. Though there may simply just be chat fatigue?

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By *ardiffCoupleNJCouple
over a year ago

Pontypridd/Rhyfelin


"He's interested, oh yes he's very interested. Then he ghosts you for weeks then pips up apologizing he's been busy, yet you see him on fab daily. Then he disappears for months, returns, begs you to chat again, then ghosts you again. What's your thoughts? Thanks."

Yep block.

Think often guys (generalising a bit here but...) will message & clearly they are talking to several people, looking for a meet. When they have something arranged it all goes quiet, then they suddenly re-appear when it falls through, or a few weeks later when on the prowl again!

Not in itself unsurprising, but generally guys would do well to continue chatting and cultivate a rapport rather than assuming a rebutal automatically means NO NEVER as opposed to NOT RIGHT now / tonight / this week.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"He's interested, oh yes he's very interested. Then he ghosts you for weeks then pips up apologizing he's been busy, yet you see him on fab daily. Then he disappears for months, returns, begs you to chat again, then ghosts you again. What's your thoughts? Thanks."

And they say women play games on fab. Lol. Move on OP, this clearly has other stuff going on and investing in getting to know you isnt a priority for him right now.

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

Yes it’s very annoying. They say busy. It takes 2 mins to send a message.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yes it’s very annoying. They say busy. It takes 2 mins to send a message. "

Precisely!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"He's interested, oh yes he's very interested. Then he ghosts you for weeks then pips up apologizing he's been busy, yet you see him on fab daily. Then he disappears for months, returns, begs you to chat again, then ghosts you again. What's your thoughts? Thanks.

And they say women play games on fab. Lol. Move on OP, this clearly has other stuff going on and investing in getting to know you isnt a priority for him right now. "

How right you are. If I'm not his priority, then why waste my energy!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"He's interested, oh yes he's very interested. Then he ghosts you for weeks then pips up apologizing he's been busy, yet you see him on fab daily. Then he disappears for months, returns, begs you to chat again, then ghosts you again. What's your thoughts? Thanks.

Yep block.

Think often guys (generalising a bit here but...) will message & clearly they are talking to several people, looking for a meet. When they have something arranged it all goes quiet, then they suddenly re-appear when it falls through, or a few weeks later when on the prowl again!

Not in itself unsurprising, but generally guys would do well to continue chatting and cultivate a rapport rather than assuming a rebutal automatically means NO NEVER as opposed to NOT RIGHT now / tonight / this week. "

Excellent advice and observations ty

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By *atty CoramWoman
over a year ago

Wimbledon

What you permit you promote.

People like this do what they can get away with.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Depends where it is, on here or by text.

I could understand not logging on here for a week or so but not replying to a text is a bit poor.

If there's no reply by text, there's plenty more to take your time up with. Though there may simply just be chat fatigue? "

They have multiple ways to contact and my chats are never dull darling lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What you permit you promote.

People like this do what they can get away with.

"

Absolutely 100%

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"He's not interested unless he's not getting it elsewhere.

As above, block and forget

Or maybe he's attached and can't. Difficult to know

Maybe, if you're happy with the situation it's not a problem. "

It's the block route!

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island


"He's interested, oh yes he's very interested. Then he ghosts you for weeks then pips up apologizing he's been busy, yet you see him on fab daily. Then he disappears for months, returns, begs you to chat again, then ghosts you again. What's your thoughts? Thanks."

Like a fish on a hook and it time you stop him from pulling you in and jump back into the sea.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm finding that guys don't really want to invest time in getting to know you, if you're not interested in meeting now then they can't be bothered...

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill

I have a little 23-year-old who is like that. Biggest timewaster ever my guess is he contacts me when he gets dumped by younger girls he sees and when he’s horny... begs for forgiveness for being out of touch, then I suggest making plans to meet up and he disappears... been going on for a couple of years already.

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

You’ve had some good advice here OP!

If you’re unsure as to what’s happening with him, then ask. If you’re unsatisfied with the response, then just move on.

I’d always try and resolve things directly if possible, but I think that you already know what you should do in this situation

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North


"I'm finding that guys don't really want to invest time in getting to know you, if you're not interested in meeting now then they can't be bothered... "

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By *isstinseltoesWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Move on op,

He's using you as an option

Chatted to someone like this in past, ended up blocking him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He’s a dick.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Move on op,

He's using you as an option

Chatted to someone like this in past, ended up blocking him. "

Thank you. There were actually two and both blocked now. It's just nice to hear others musings and advice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just one question for you, have you ever been receiving messages from a guy and your not instantly responding for whatever reason probably valid reasons. Life sometimes gets in the way. Maybe ask the guy why he is slow responding before just blocking them.

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

What annoys me is you move away from fab start chatting then nothing for ages then they contact you with some bs how they have been so busy etc etc yet been on fab the whole time. Just be honest why lie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah, this really bugs me and honestly, it’s one of the things that has really started to put me off this site especially when they’ve messed you around and then turn around and complain nobody shows no interest in them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"He's interested, oh yes he's very interested. Then he ghosts you for weeks then pips up apologizing he's been busy, yet you see him on fab daily. Then he disappears for months, returns, begs you to chat again, then ghosts you again. What's your thoughts? Thanks."

These are the worst kind of men and need to be treated accordingly. As disposable

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.

Happens all the time with some guys, sadly. I no longer engage with them, once they start messing me around.

If a guy WANTS to see me, he'll be in touch.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hot/cold/hot = block

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"He's interested, oh yes he's very interested. Then he ghosts you for weeks then pips up apologizing he's been busy, yet you see him on fab daily. Then he disappears for months, returns, begs you to chat again, then ghosts you again. What's your thoughts? Thanks."

Typical “single” Fab male

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like the saying goes..fool me once shame on you, 2nd time shame on me...3rd time will not happen.

Block him as he is not worth it and is taking you for granted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Block him don't entertain

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Block him don't entertain "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"He's interested, oh yes he's very interested. Then he ghosts you for weeks then pips up apologizing he's been busy, yet you see him on fab daily. Then he disappears for months, returns, begs you to chat again, then ghosts you again. What's your thoughts? Thanks.

Typical “single” Fab male "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Like the saying goes..fool me once shame on you, 2nd time shame on me...3rd time will not happen.

Block him as he is not worth it and is taking you for granted"

How right you are!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"He's interested, oh yes he's very interested. Then he ghosts you for weeks then pips up apologizing he's been busy, yet you see him on fab daily. Then he disappears for months, returns, begs you to chat again, then ghosts you again. What's your thoughts? Thanks.

These are the worst kind of men and need to be treated accordingly. As disposable "

I like your attitude!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What annoys me is you move away from fab start chatting then nothing for ages then they contact you with some bs how they have been so busy etc etc yet been on fab the whole time. Just be honest why lie"

OMG you are on point there!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yeah, this really bugs me and honestly, it’s one of the things that has really started to put me off this site especially when they’ve messed you around and then turn around and complain nobody shows no interest in them."

Unfortunately what you've said is all to true. I feel the same way. I detest anyone playing mind games, yet at the end of the day, they never accept blame!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He is officially a wanker.....probably got all horny and worked up thinking of you, had a wank and now doesnt want to bother...hence...a wanker

Or....more likely he is married in which case....yeah you guessed it.... he's a wanker, you'll get the subtle clue from the breadcrumbs I'm leaving soon enough xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"He's interested, oh yes he's very interested. Then he ghosts you for weeks then pips up apologizing he's been busy, yet you see him on fab daily. Then he disappears for months, returns, begs you to chat again, then ghosts you again. What's your thoughts? Thanks."

Don’t waste your time and energy.

Fab should be fun.

Block.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i find these guys that want to be regular (some not all) like to keep you as back up so if nothing else is happening then they contact you ... ive had this done to me ...it wont happen again their loss

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By *nigmatic_AngelWoman
over a year ago

The place where fairies live


"He's interested, oh yes he's very interested. Then he ghosts you for weeks then pips up apologizing he's been busy, yet you see him on fab daily. Then he disappears for months, returns, begs you to chat again, then ghosts you again. What's your thoughts? Thanks."

He's a dickhead

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Just one question for you, have you ever been receiving messages from a guy and your not instantly responding for whatever reason probably valid reasons. Life sometimes gets in the way. Maybe ask the guy why he is slow responding before just blocking them. "

Really appreciate the advice. Unfortunately his behaviour has gone on for 3 months.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Move onwards and upwards lady....there are literally millions of men that would love to spend time with you and have great sex etc etc, ask yourself this... if you both walked down a road naked and just shouted out "i want sex now"....how many miles do you think he would cover compared to you? before someone took him in, probably because they felt sorry for the disheveled wreck of a man is would of become by then....compared to you, i reckon maybe 100 yards! You hold all the power of the pussy and men want it..... youre the godesses and dont let any easily replaceable mere mortal male (probably with a small cock) tell you or let you think otherwise...

X love yourself, aint no one else gonna love you the same as you, respect yourself or others wont respect you X

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

The moment you identify that someone is not a match, stop all contact and block. You'll never see hot/cold waves again

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