FabSwingers.com forum: Behaviour of couples

By *rhuges OP Man
over a year ago

Cardiff

The experience of meeting couples recently on here has sadly not been a good experience for me.

So the first couple winked at me.

I sent a nice message back. Messages went backwards and forwards and a meet was arranged.

A few days before the meet I mailed the couple. They mailed back saying they had to cancel as they would be away.. I mailed back saying no problem I'd catch up with them later.

Four or five days after the cancel ed meet I mailed them again just asking if they would like to arrange another meet.

The message was read but no reply was sent to me.

If they had time to read my message they had time to mail me saying sorry changed our mind.

The second couple winked at me. Again I sent them a very nice message back.

The message was read but again no reply.

I am very disappointed at this behaviour especially when these couples are in their 50s and should know better.

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By *oan of DArcCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

"The experience of meeting couples recently on here has sadly not been a good experience for me.

So the first couple winked at me.

I sent a nice message back. Messages went backwards and forwards and a meet was arranged.

A few days before the meet I mailed the couple. They mailed back saying they had to cancel as they would be away.. I mailed back saying no problem I'd catch up with them later.

Four or five days after the cancel ed meet I mailed them again just asking if they would like to arrange another meet.

The message was read but no reply was sent to me.

If they had time to read my message they had time to mail me saying sorry changed our mind.

The second couple winked at me. Again I sent them a very nice message back.

The message was read but again no reply.

I am very disappointed at this behaviour especially when these couples are in their 50s and should know better. "

Maybe these 'couples' aren't what they appear to be!

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By *rhuges OP Man
over a year ago

Cardiff

They both have verifications so I think they are genuine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Basically, they just don't want to meet you or chat further. Just because they winked you doesn't mean you are guaranteed a meet. Perhaps whatever you wrote in your message was off-putting or they didn't like your photos. Don't be desperate or be a pest and keep badgering, and it's not cool to have a tantrum because someone didn't fancy you

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By *olden PoleMan
over a year ago

Kent

Fabs is an open buffet of willing singles and couples for couples to choose from.

My time on fabs has taught me that nothing is set in stone regarding meets....you may be the choice of the moment but one message from another guy whom the couple feel brings something more to the party, then your messages are ignored without so much as a bye or leave.

One had to have thick skin on fabs and take each opportunity as it comes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

these couples owe you nothing plain and simple

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By *rhuges OP Man
over a year ago

Cardiff

All I'm asking for is a bit of common courtesy. If you have time to open a mail and read it you have time to write a quick reply.

Single guys get a really poor write up on here I'm just evening it out a bit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"All I'm asking for is a bit of common courtesy. If you have time to open a mail and read it you have time to write a quick reply.

Single guys get a really poor write up on here I'm just evening it out a bit

sorry i disagree no reply is as good as not interested nobody owes anybody anything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"All I'm asking for is a bit of common courtesy. If you have time to open a mail and read it you have time to write a quick reply.

Single guys get a really poor write up on here I'm just evening it out a bit

Nobody is obliged to respond to any message or wink. No reply = not interested. Some people get a lot of messages and just don't have time to get into the "why not" dialogue which invariably follows if you turn someone down.

Be a grown up, accept they aren't interested, stop throwing your toys out of the pram, Stroppy men who feel they are owed a shag or message really are very off-putting and part of why single guys get a "poor write up" on here as you say....

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By *iss.ddWoman
over a year ago

Leeds + Newcastle

Just because you read a message really truly doesn't mean you do have the time to reply.

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By *asycouple1971Couple
over a year ago

midlands

We get the same thing from "ladies" we message and other men and couples.

Just get on with it and block them. We tend to block if they read and dont reply within a few days and they have looked at our profile again.

Not worth the hassle.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree OP, they could have replied. Especially the first couple who had arranged a meet.

Yes they can change their mind but they are ghosting you and that's childish and shit.

If a woman had posted this she would have had hugs and glitter replies.

You aren't throwing a tantrum or being stroppy at all. You are merely asking for some common decency!!

Forget the crappy people.

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By *otwifeandcuckCouple
over a year ago

Blackpool

Oh dear.

if we replied to every message and shagged every bloke who messeged us we'd never stop replying and shagging.

They didn't reply or meet no big deal. Move on.

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By *olden PoleMan
over a year ago

Kent

"I agree OP, they could have replied. Especially the first couple who had arranged a meet.

Yes they can change their mind but they are ghosting you and that's childish and shit.

If a woman had posted this she would have had hugs and glitter replies.

You aren't throwing a tantrum or being stroppy at all. You are merely asking for some common decency!!

Forget the crappy people. "

Well said indeed

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By *rhuges OP Man
over a year ago

Cardiff

"All I'm asking for is a bit of common courtesy. If you have time to open a mail and read it you have time to write a quick reply.

Single guys get a really poor write up on here I'm just evening it out a bit

sorry i disagree no reply is as good as not interested nobody owes anybody anything "

My dear I'm not saying that they owe me anything but on here they represent couples as a whole and their behaviour I think show a complete lack of respect to other couples and people

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By *imply_SensualMan
over a year ago

warrington

The best one I had was a message out of the blue from a couple, I checked their profile and it was full of demands for this, that and the other, a code word in the subject field, a decent message instead of a one liner, pictures attached… you get the script.

I opened The message and it was just “hi”, nothing else, made me laugh…. And then delete and block

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I agree OP, they could have replied. Especially the first couple who had arranged a meet.

Yes they can change their mind but they are ghosting you and that's childish and shit.

If a woman had posted this she would have had hugs and glitter replies.

You aren't throwing a tantrum or being stroppy at all. You are merely asking for some common decency!!

Forget the crappy people. "

Well said. The arrogance is rife in this thread.

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By *entlecaressMan
over a year ago

Wakefield/ Beverley

A meet is never guaranteed until your face to face then never guaranteed to develop to a sexual one.

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By *llaboutthewifeCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

"All I'm asking for is a bit of common courtesy. If you have time to open a mail and read it you have time to write a quick reply.

Single guys get a really poor write up on here I'm just evening it out a bit

No, couples don't have to reply, this applies to couples and singles, maybe they get a massive amount of winks and messages, maybe they just don't want to meet just now, you are drawing conclusions based on nothing other than a non response, maybe fab is not the place for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also don't forget that not all couples live together and sometimes both like to read messages before replying, which can take time

If I'd arranged to meet and then cancelled , I'd feel obliged to reply, even 'if sorry changed my mind'..

But the whole winking and expecting an answer because someone read a message is unrealistic

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By *rhuges OP Man
over a year ago

Cardiff

"All I'm asking for is a bit of common courtesy. If you have time to open a mail and read it you have time to write a quick reply.

Single guys get a really poor write up on here I'm just evening it out a bit

Jo"

Jo They winked at me, by so doing I think if they change their mind for what ever reason ,just a quick mail back isn't asking an awful lot

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Funniest message I've ever received was from a couple who introduced themselves by telling me I was limiting my chances of ever meeting them because I was straight but I could improve my standing by bringing a sexy lady. When I asked if this approach normally worked the answer was yes every time. They then told me it was my loss when I refused their kind advances. This was from a couple with 100+ veris.

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By *ogerroger69Man
over a year ago

West Yorks

The number of couples who won’t meet Asians yet see my wife’s body and say they’ll meet my wife alone! That’s rich isn’t it?

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By *otwife and MasterCouple
over a year ago

Derby

"The experience of meeting couples recently on here has sadly not been a good experience for me.

So the first couple winked at me.

I sent a nice message back. Messages went backwards and forwards and a meet was arranged.

A few days before the meet I mailed the couple. They mailed back saying they had to cancel as they would be away.. I mailed back saying no problem I'd catch up with them later.

Four or five days after the cancel ed meet I mailed them again just asking if they would like to arrange another meet.

The message was read but no reply was sent to me.

If they had time to read my message they had time to mail me saying sorry changed our mind.

The second couple winked at me. Again I sent them a very nice message back.

The message was read but again no reply.

I am very disappointed at this behaviour especially when these couples are in their 50s and should know better. "

If you are upset by this Fab really isn't the place for you.

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By *eventysixCouple
over a year ago

glossop

Some people are just plain rude in life. it's almost like leading someone on. Yes or no thanks is the way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP sometimes we don't reply immediately or even for a couple of days. We don't live together and sometimes it's a case of wanting both to read the message and perhaps have a discussion about the person. Sometimes we just don't get around to it for no reason other than just that - we haven't got around to it.

But honestly, saying if you've time to read a message then you've time to reply is bullshit. I might open a message and then the phone rings, or one of the children needs something, or one of the cats jumps on my knee looking fussed, or the programme I'm waiting to watch starts, or the timer goes off on the oven...you see where I'm going here? Replying to messages on Fab is not my top priority in life. I've other shit to do. And sometimes, by the time I've done the other shit, I've forgotten about the message. Failure to appreciate & understand that is really off-putting. Chill and don't get your knickers in a twist. If they want to rearrange with you they will.

We've had to cancel just recently because a long awaited hospital came up. That's life unfortunately and we have no idea when we can rearrange.

On your other point about winking, see all of the above. Plus a wink is just that. It's not an invitation to message someone nor does it mean they're beholden to read a message you've sent on the back of it.

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By *otwifeandcuckCouple
over a year ago

Blackpool

Really no need to pm us a reply

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By *nLCuriousCoupleCouple
over a year ago

notts

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By *nLCuriousCoupleCouple
over a year ago

notts

If we courteously replied to every message we got from single guys we wouldn’t have time to do anything else! Even though our profile asks them not to contact us.. we usually delete without even reading, and only a few get through and then mostly deleted.

Like the cheeky guy yesterday asking to pay Mrs to make a BJ video with her that he can sell….

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By *ausageNmashCouple
over a year ago

Andover

Maybe the person reading the message was not the same as sent the initial wink. Couples could be on their profile in 2 locations..i.e work etc.

I maybe logged in but i leave Rosie to read messages and reply which has led to stroppy blokes saying they are being ignored

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The best one I had was a message out of the blue from a couple, I checked their profile and it was full of demands for this, that and the other, a code word in the subject field, a decent message instead of a one liner, pictures attached… you get the script.

I opened The message and it was just “hi”, nothing else, made me laugh…. And then delete and block

Women and couples send crap messages too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"All I'm asking for is a bit of common courtesy. If you have time to open a mail and read it you have time to write a quick reply.

Single guys get a really poor write up on here I'm just evening it out a bit

I disagree. No one has to reply, it’s their choice, and single men demanding a reply are part of the problem on this site.

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By *oveAndBangCouple
over a year ago

where the mood takes us

We all know how's fab like. There's plenty of fakes, timewasters and guys pretending to be couples. We also know that both guys, couples and single ladies don't act online like they would in real life. Let's just cut all that moaning and try to have as much fun as possible. Good luck OP and maybe try to act more like a real man so You'll be more lucky. Sorry for saying that but nobody's into crying guys

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By *ornyhappyCouple
over a year ago

perth

"OP sometimes we don't reply immediately or even for a couple of days. We don't live together and sometimes it's a case of wanting both to read the message and perhaps have a discussion about the person. Sometimes we just don't get around to it for no reason other than just that - we haven't got around to it.

We've had to cancel just recently because a long awaited hospital came up. That's life unfortunately and we have no idea when we can rearrange.

This sounds similar to our situation and I'm sure will also apply to a lot of couples around our age. Work, family and many other things take priority over fab.

If a message comes in I will read it and then usually leave it for M to read and we will share our thoughts on it before one of us will reply. That can mean a reply might take anything from a few hours to a couple of days, depending on what else is happening in our life at the time.

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

"All I'm asking for is a bit of common courtesy. If you have time to open a mail and read it you have time to write a quick reply.

Single guys get a really poor write up on here I'm just evening it out a bit

sorry i disagree no reply is as good as not interested nobody owes anybody anything

My dear I'm not saying that they owe me anything but on here they represent couples as a whole and their behaviour I think show a complete lack of respect to other couples and people"

I think they behaved reasonably. At least they didn't organise the meet and not turn up on the day. If all it takes to get a free fuck is a nice polite message we'd all be quids in!

Incidentally, if anyone addressed me with a patronising "my dear", they would be instantly blocked.

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By *ffanotdykeCouple
over a year ago

Telford

When we get unsolicited winks we try to evaluate the person/persons from thier profile. We then try to reply appropriately.

What really pisses us off is when a few messages have flowed each way and a meet is set up and suddenly everything goes blank. With no explanation. Common courtesy seems to be sadly lacking and so often instant gratification appeares to be the driving force. A "sorry we have changed our mind" message would not go amiss

Our time is valuable so we try to spend it wisely.

We dont have any public photos for a very good reason from our past but we are always prepared to share with genuine (as far as we can see) people.

G&A

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP think of FAB as game of cricket.

You have been selected to open the batting and you have taken up position and your guard is middle and leg.

It seems the first two delivery’s have been googleys and you have been foxed. Take some time look at the wicket and understand the situation and adapt accordingly.

The next ball in the over could be a full toss (pun intended) which you stroke through the covers for a delectable boundary. The fourth ball is swinging down the leg side but you connect and smash the red ball out of sight. However the right arm spinner is seeking out the rough and bowls into it you push forward and before you know it your bails are off and cries of Howzat echo in your ears.

The walk back to the pavilion seems akin to the 1000 mile march.

Console yourself in the knowledge that there is always a second innings and the chance to bat again!

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By *isty286Couple
over a year ago

Dorset

Lots of single guys on here can't seem to take rejection with any sort of grace, they become insulting and aggressive, what they don't seem to get is that for a couple you are just a distraction, entertainment or maybe just the warm up act, it's not a matter of having manners or not, no reply or a block can save all the abuse, we now filter all single guys from contacting us, and will chose who we message ourselves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The experience of meeting couples recently on here has sadly not been a good experience for me.

So the first couple winked at me.

I sent a nice message back. Messages went backwards and forwards and a meet was arranged.

A few days before the meet I mailed the couple. They mailed back saying they had to cancel as they would be away.. I mailed back saying no problem I'd catch up with them later.

Four or five days after the cancel ed meet I mailed them again just asking if they would like to arrange another meet.

The message was read but no reply was sent to me.

If they had time to read my message they had time to mail me saying sorry changed our mind.

The second couple winked at me. Again I sent them a very nice message back.

The message was read but again no reply.

I am very disappointed at this behaviour especially when these couples are in their 50s and should know better. "

The first couple probably changed their minds and made up an excuse not to meet. (But they were polite enough to do so rather than block/ghost)hence ignoring your later message.

The second couple who sent the wink...winks often mean nothing...if someone winks at you in the real world it doesn't mean they want to jump your bones ..so don't read too much into winks ..

As for over 50,s knowing better, that's a bit of a daft thing to say really. If that were the case no over 50's would drink,smoke ect... because they would all know better.

To be fair to couples... single men and single females can be just as bad as any couples...

Best thing you can do is forget both couples and move on...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Block couples, end of problem

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By *isstinseltoesWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

If I were you op, I'd block the first couple, they don't sound interested I'm afraid. If I cancel, I'd try to rearrange if I wanted to meet someone and wouldn't blank them.

The second couple I don't know why but it happens alot here, people wink then don't reply if you message. Maybe it was an accident (done that in past) or one of you liked the look of you more than the other. Or it could be something you wrote that was off putting, I don't know.

Maybe try clubs and socials when things reopen, you sound quite frustrated with fab at the min.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"these couples owe you nothing plain and simple"
this!

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By *etwifeandhim69Couple
over a year ago

Darlington

"Basically, they just don't want to meet you or chat further. Just because they winked you doesn't mean you are guaranteed a meet. Perhaps whatever you wrote in your message was off-putting or they didn't like your photos. Don't be desperate or be a pest and keep badgering, and it's not cool to have a tantrum because someone didn't fancy you

Dung ding ding.

This is the exact type of single guy behaviour that upsets people.

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By *ornyhappyCouple
over a year ago

perth

I think winks are used, & interpreted, by different people in different ways. Some it is an expression of interest, for others it is similar to a 'like' on other social media, for some people it might just be like a calling card acknowledging they viewed & appreciated your profile. It isn't necessarily an invite for anything more though. It could be that the couple who winked at you just use winks in a different way to you OP.

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over a year ago

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By *aughtyBlokeKentMan
over a year ago

Kent/Gatwick area

If you are upset by this Fab really isn't the place for you.

There are thousands of single mens profiles and not that many couples where both parties are happy to meet single men; get used to it, be prepared to jump through hoops or you'll never get a meet. The men we meet are very happy to be our sex toy and don't demand anything."
I'm not sure that's entirely correct, as may be just your experience based on your preferences. My preference for meets with couples is where all are equally involved, based on mutual attraction, connection and often can be the start of an ongoing friendship. I don't have to jump through hoops as the types of couples I get on with aren't using men as merely a sex toy. There's more than one type of meet between couples and single guys and some do involve respect for the guy as a human.

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over a year ago

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By *riving_Home_For_MimiWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

I was chatting to someone, had verifications, was a catfish. So you just never know!

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

People are allowed to get cold feet or simply change their mind. Sex is a very personal issue that often intercects with current moods and what's going on in peoples lives. People on FAB blow hot and cold, it's normal and totally not exclusive to couples. Yes it sucks, especially if you've got all excited or even worse invested time and/or money. And it's also annoying when people don't get back to say they've just changed their mind for now. But it is what it is, that's FAB. Try to take it on the chin and move forward.

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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

I get where you're coming from op, and yes a quick message to end the chance of a future arrangement would have cost them nothing more than a couple of seconds. Unfortunately, on here single men's emotions count for nothing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some people are just plain rude in life. it's almost like leading someone on. Yes or no thanks is the way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get winks all the time and usually just acknowledge them with a thank you message. It’s nice to be polite. I certainly wouldn’t start badgering the senders, not all single guys are “pests”.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I get where you're coming from op, and yes a quick message to end the chance of a future arrangement would have cost them nothing more than a couple of seconds. Unfortunately, on here single men's emotions count for nothing."

On behalf of all single men on here can I thank you for the enlightenment shown in your last sentence

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dung ding ding.

This is the exact type of single guy behaviour that upsets people."

Exactly. We have had many message conversations with guys, who seem to be decent, and on a couple of occasions had arranged a meet. In between, the vein of their messages totally changed, as did their chances of said meet.

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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago

Sandwich

Welcome to the fickle world of Fab. If you can’t handle the heat, step out of the kitchen.

Seriously though it’s not the best place for people that don’t have a bit of a thick skin. Expect nothing to come from all interactions and then sometimes you are pleasantly surprised. Sure, it’s frustrating to be ghosted but it’s not affected your life any more than that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I get winks all the time and usually just acknowledge them with a thank you message. It’s nice to be polite. I certainly wouldn’t start badgering the senders, not all single guys are “pests”."

I never get winks..........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Welcome to the fickle world of Fab. If you can’t handle the heat, step out of the kitchen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A meet is never guaranteed until your face to face then never guaranteed to develop to a sexual one. "

Not exactly? It would start as social and either female or couple as one of them can say nice meeting but we not taking it further as everything online going well then face to face well not what they looking for or attitude of the social first could be same for single male?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe the person reading the message was not the same as sent the initial wink. Couples could be on their profile in 2 locations..i.e work etc.

I maybe logged in but i leave Rosie to read messages and reply which has led to stroppy blokes saying they are being ignored"

Exactly our profile says joint account and who probably will be online, I've chatted to one's at night when she online during her break probably won't reply back due to misunderstanding of message or because the fella on the other end being a dick and automatically think he should fuck her and no regards it's a couple's account thinking more a single female profile as other couples have had issues with

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By *rhuges OP Man
over a year ago

Cardiff

I've given them 6 days since they read my message so with respect I don't think it's that

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By *rhuges OP Man
over a year ago

Cardiff

Dung ding ding.

This is the exact type of single guy behaviour that upsets people.

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By *rhuges OP Man
over a year ago

Cardiff

Dung ding ding.

This is the exact type of single guy behaviour that upsets people.

Lol oh I do have a thick skin ex military, I just find rudeness irritating

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By *rhuges OP Man
over a year ago

Cardiff

On behalf of all single men on here can I thank you for the enlightenment shown in your last sentence

With respect I believe a wink is to show someone that you are interested in you else what's the point of it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The experience of meeting couples recently on here has sadly not been a good experience for me.

So the first couple winked at me.

I sent a nice message back. Messages went backwards and forwards and a meet was arranged.

A few days before the meet I mailed the couple. They mailed back saying they had to cancel as they would be away.. I mailed back saying no problem I'd catch up with them later.

Four or five days after the cancel ed meet I mailed them again just asking if they would like to arrange another meet.

The message was read but no reply was sent to me.

If they had time to read my message they had time to mail me saying sorry changed our mind.

The second couple winked at me. Again I sent them a very nice message back.

The message was read but again no reply.

I am very disappointed at this behaviour especially when these couples are in their 50s and should know better. "

One of the many reasons I won't meet MF couples. They're always full of their own self righteousness and never see their actions as wrong and always blame everyone else. Stick with the single ladies darling and after a while the couple's will come crawling back. Ignore them. They hate that

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By *etro1940sCouple
over a year ago

Kingston upon Thames

It is challenging for everyone in this space: we all see profiles we like; appreciate a photo or video; or think a chat might be good. But singles and couples have real life pressure as well (family, job, pandemic and other interests). If someone is late in replying or the chat does not go further - it is like being in a crowded pub or dance floor. There is too much noise. It will be better when we can meet up in person (say at clubs) with some return of swinger normality. x Anne & George

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sadly it’s seems it’s ok to be rude, ill mannered and obnoxious here

And if you call it out, that too will get you abuse and rudeness

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By *r and Mrs B xxCouple
over a year ago

Chippenham

"I've given them 6 days since they read my message so with respect I don't think it's that"

The site can be very disheartening at times for single guys, couples and single women but unfortunately you just have to put it down to experience and move on. Yes the couple should have the decency to send a message to tell you if they have changed their mind, but there could be a perfectly reasonable explanation why they haven't. The second couple don't really owe you anything, people use winks in different ways and may have just winked to show appreciation for your profile.

Chin up OP and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've given them 6 days since they read my message so with respect I don't think it's that"

Well in that case I'd refer you to the site's FAQ where it states clearly that no reply IS your reply. Block them and move on if it bothers you.

Incidentally, we've sent winks to many people during our time here & I'd say a fair number have illicited no response. But I'd actually have no idea because we're not sat waiting for them to message us just because we winked at them.

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By *atinTongueMan
over a year ago

Colchester

I don't agree, some people just have no manners.

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By *atinTongueMan
over a year ago

Colchester

I agree, some people have no manners

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By *arkus1812Man
over a year ago

Lifes departure lounge NN9 Northamptonshire East not West MidlandsMidlands

"The experience of meeting couples recently on here has sadly not been a good experience for me.

So the first couple winked at me.

I sent a nice message back. Messages went backwards and forwards and a meet was arranged.

A few days before the meet I mailed the couple. They mailed back saying they had to cancel as they would be away.. I mailed back saying no problem I'd catch up with them later.

Four or five days after the cancel ed meet I mailed them again just asking if they would like to arrange another meet.

The message was read but no reply was sent to me.

If they had time to read my message they had time to mail me saying sorry changed our mind.

The second couple winked at me. Again I sent them a very nice message back.

The message was read but again no reply.

I am very disappointed at this behaviour especially when these couples are in their 50s and should know better.

Spot on

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By *r and Mrs B xxCouple
over a year ago

Chippenham

"The experience of meeting couples recently on here has sadly not been a good experience for me.

So the first couple winked at me.

I sent a nice message back. Messages went backwards and forwards and a meet was arranged.

A few days before the meet I mailed the couple. They mailed back saying they had to cancel as they would be away.. I mailed back saying no problem I'd catch up with them later.

Four or five days after the cancel ed meet I mailed them again just asking if they would like to arrange another meet.

The message was read but no reply was sent to me.

If they had time to read my message they had time to mail me saying sorry changed our mind.

The second couple winked at me. Again I sent them a very nice message back.

The message was read but again no reply.

I am very disappointed at this behaviour especially when these couples are in their 50s and should know better.

Totally disagree, we treat single guys the way we wish to be treated. I (Mrs) reply to every decent message that we receive. The operative word being "decent"

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By *etwifeandhim69Couple
over a year ago

Darlington

On behalf of all single men on here can I thank you for the enlightenment shown in your last sentence

With respect I believe a wink is to show someone that you are interested in you else what's the point of it"

A wink does not mean you're guaranteed a shag. It's just a wink. A lot of people send them then blank you when you message. Happens to us a lot. Just move on.and waste no more time on them.

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By *iscreet-is-paramountMan
over a year ago

somewhere only we know.

I've got to say this, as I've been here a long time, on and off, it has got worse. The attitude towards others in general across the media online game, is way less respectful than it used to be. There's way more fakes and it is a minefield. 10 years ago, we got messages from fems and cpls with no prompt. There were more meets and a lot more happening. The daily hone screen changed all the time, now it seems there are less profiles and very low amount of meets occurring. Times have changed and it's best to stick to a regular if possible. Up here in Cumbria it's thin on the ground to start with.

You can however, accidentally send a wink, done it before, but yes, your correct, there is no time limit on replying however many messages you get. If you had time to read them, you have time to reply. Regardless of what pictures have been sent or weather they get priority or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just be patient mate, there are some genuine couples still. Same problem goes on there way, lot of lads wasting people’s time too. Positive thinking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"All I'm asking for is a bit of common courtesy. If you have time to open a mail and read it you have time to write a quick reply.

Single guys get a really poor write up on here I'm just evening it out a bit

I think you’re right single guys get abad press on this site, Additionally given the ratio of single guys to females/ couples, means that women and couples can afford to be quiet picky (their prerogative- no judgement, it’s just what it is).

In a couple”s defence regarding reading the message abs not replying immediately, one half may have read the message but might not want to reply until their partner has also read it, so this might explain a delay. Also given that many couples on here have kids and work etc, it might well be that one half read the message and plain forgot to mention it to the other half.

It is easy to think that they are being rude etc but there could be multiple reasons for this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sadly it’s seems it’s ok to be rude, ill mannered and obnoxious here

And if you call it out, that too will get you abuse and rudeness "

Couldn’t agree more I once had the temerity to fab a couples pictures and the abuse I got in return from them shocked me and I’m not easily shocked.

Regrettably some people on this site are indicative of the population as a whole with rudeness and lack of respect now being the norm.

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By *tstillworksMan
over a year ago

Darlington

"The experience of meeting couples recently on here has sadly not been a good experience for me.

So the first couple winked at me.

I sent a nice message back. Messages went backwards and forwards and a meet was arranged.

A few days before the meet I mailed the couple. They mailed back saying they had to cancel as they would be away.. I mailed back saying no problem I'd catch up with them later.

Four or five days after the cancel ed meet I mailed them again just asking if they would like to arrange another meet.

The message was read but no reply was sent to me.

If they had time to read my message they had time to mail me saying sorry changed our mind.

The second couple winked at me. Again I sent them a very nice message back.

The message was read but again no reply.

I am very disappointed at this behaviour especially when these couples are in their 50s and should know better.

Well said Duchess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The experience of meeting couples recently on here has sadly not been a good experience for me.

So the first couple winked at me.

I sent a nice message back. Messages went backwards and forwards and a meet was arranged.

A few days before the meet I mailed the couple. They mailed back saying they had to cancel as they would be away.. I mailed back saying no problem I'd catch up with them later.

Four or five days after the cancel ed meet I mailed them again just asking if they would like to arrange another meet.

The message was read but no reply was sent to me.

If they had time to read my message they had time to mail me saying sorry changed our mind.

The second couple winked at me. Again I sent them a very nice message back.

The message was read but again no reply.

I am very disappointed at this behaviour especially when these couples are in their 50s and should know better. "

Welcome to the wonderful world of fab

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By *rotic-TouchTV/TS
over a year ago

doncaster

"The experience of meeting couples recently on here has sadly not been a good experience for me.

So the first couple winked at me.

I sent a nice message back. Messages went backwards and forwards and a meet was arranged.

A few days before the meet I mailed the couple. They mailed back saying they had to cancel as they would be away.. I mailed back saying no problem I'd catch up with them later.

Four or five days after the cancel ed meet I mailed them again just asking if they would like to arrange another meet.

The message was read but no reply was sent to me.

If they had time to read my message they had time to mail me saying sorry changed our mind.

The second couple winked at me. Again I sent them a very nice message back.

The message was read but again no reply.

I am very disappointed at this behaviour especially when these couples are in their 50s and should know better.

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I don't entertain the mf couples either, always give the impression that they own fab lol

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"The experience of meeting couples recently on here has sadly not been a good experience for me.

So the first couple winked at me.

I sent a nice message back. Messages went backwards and forwards and a meet was arranged.

A few days before the meet I mailed the couple. They mailed back saying they had to cancel as they would be away.. I mailed back saying no problem I'd catch up with them later.

Four or five days after the cancel ed meet I mailed them again just asking if they would like to arrange another meet.

The message was read but no reply was sent to me.

If they had time to read my message they had time to mail me saying sorry changed our mind.

The second couple winked at me. Again I sent them a very nice message back.

The message was read but again no reply.

I am very disappointed at this behaviour especially when these couples are in their 50s and should know better. "

Dealing with couples is always going to be more complicated than dealing with singles. There is twice as much opportunity for people changing their minds or taking offence to some tiny thing in a message.

Also sometimes one half of the couple will do all the messaging and make plans thinking the other-half is going to be on the same page... then they aren't.

All too often, people just ignore you when they change their minds rather than speak up and be honest about it, maybe because they're afraid of getting abuse.

Cal

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By *weettonguedMan
over a year ago

Bideford

"The experience of meeting couples recently on here has sadly not been a good experience for me.

So the first couple winked at me.

I sent a nice message back. Messages went backwards and forwards and a meet was arranged.

A few days before the meet I mailed the couple. They mailed back saying they had to cancel as they would be away.. I mailed back saying no problem I'd catch up with them later.

Four or five days after the cancel ed meet I mailed them again just asking if they would like to arrange another meet.

The message was read but no reply was sent to me.

If they had time to read my message they had time to mail me saying sorry changed our mind.

The second couple winked at me. Again I sent them a very nice message back.

The message was read but again no reply.

I am very disappointed at this behaviour especially when these couples are in their 50s and should know better.

The first couple probably changed their minds and made up an excuse not to meet. (But they were polite enough to do so rather than block/ghost)hence ignoring your later message.

The second couple who sent the wink...winks often mean nothing...if someone winks at you in the real world it doesn't mean they want to jump your bones ..so don't read too much into winks ..

As for over 50,s knowing better, that's a bit of a daft thing to say really. If that were the case no over 50's would drink,smoke ect... because they would all know better.

To be fair to couples... single men and single females can be just as bad as any couples...

Best thing you can do is forget both couples and move on...

What sensible advice Hev (wink wink

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By *WKinkMan
over a year ago

Bury

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By *uchislife66Man
over a year ago

Leeds

"The experience of meeting couples recently on here has sadly not been a good experience for me.

So the first couple winked at me.

I sent a nice message back. Messages went backwards and forwards and a meet was arranged.

A few days before the meet I mailed the couple. They mailed back saying they had to cancel as they would be away.. I mailed back saying no problem I'd catch up with them later.

Four or five days after the cancel ed meet I mailed them again just asking if they would like to arrange another meet.

The message was read but no reply was sent to me.

If they had time to read my message they had time to mail me saying sorry changed our mind.

The second couple winked at me. Again I sent them a very nice message back.

The message was read but again no reply.

I am very disappointed at this behaviour especially when these couples are in their 50s and should know better.

Totally disagree, we treat single guys the way we wish to be treated. I (Mrs) reply to every decent message that we receive. The operative word being "decent" "

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By *Ci LutherMan
over a year ago

Cumalot

"The experience of meeting couples recently on here has sadly not been a good experience for me.

So the first couple winked at me.

I sent a nice message back. Messages went backwards and forwards and a meet was arranged.

A few days before the meet I mailed the couple. They mailed back saying they had to cancel as they would be away.. I mailed back saying no problem I'd catch up with them later.

Four or five days after the cancel ed meet I mailed them again just asking if they would like to arrange another meet.

The message was read but no reply was sent to me.

If they had time to read my message they had time to mail me saying sorry changed our mind.

The second couple winked at me. Again I sent them a very nice message back.

The message was read but again no reply.

I am very disappointed at this behaviour especially when these couples are in their 50s and should know better. "

I feel your pain buddy happens to me all the time … I polite no thanks we have changed our minds goes a long way.. and your right couples old enough to know better manners cost nothing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"these couples owe you nothing plain and simple"

This exactly

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By *inkywife1981Couple
over a year ago

A town near you

"The experience of meeting couples recently on here has sadly not been a good experience for me.

So the first couple winked at me.

I sent a nice message back. Messages went backwards and forwards and a meet was arranged.

A few days before the meet I mailed the couple. They mailed back saying they had to cancel as they would be away.. I mailed back saying no problem I'd catch up with them later.

Four or five days after the cancel ed meet I mailed them again just asking if they would like to arrange another meet.

The message was read but no reply was sent to me.

If they had time to read my message they had time to mail me saying sorry changed our mind.

The second couple winked at me. Again I sent them a very nice message back.

The message was read but again no reply.

I am very disappointed at this behaviour especially when these couples are in their 50s and should know better. "

Maybe they winked at several guys and ultimately found another guy the liked better and rather than be straight with you they gave yiu the cold shoulder

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By *oeBiggs321Man
over a year ago

Reading

Part and parcel of fab, obviously something isn’t working quite right for them and as people said they don’t owe an explanation as they’ve never met you

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By *rhuges OP Man
over a year ago

Cardiff

"these couples owe you nothing plain and simple

This exactly"

You are wrong, they owe me common courtesy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do I get to reply to all messages before they expire? Nope. Do I wish I had? Yep.

Have a ever winked at someone and then on another day seen a different angle or in a different light? yep. Free choice and all that stuff. Not even genie can help there.

Has my situation ot mental/physical health changed? It’s happened. Not going to message 200 people sayibg, sorry,but the antidepressants the doctor put me are making me a little nauseous or withdrawn. With someone I’ve planned witch? Yes. No doubt. Winked at? Nope.

Maybe it was an accident I’ve accidentally done it many a time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"these couples owe you nothing plain and simple

This exactly"

“This exactly” attitude stinks !!!!!

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

"All I'm asking for is a bit of common courtesy. If you have time to open a mail and read it you have time to write a quick reply.

Single guys get a really poor write up on here I'm just evening it out a bit

Personally, I think you are making it worse.

We find intellect and fun sexy.

Whiny whinging big turn off, but hey, that is us.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

They messaged to tell you they had to cancel. When you messaged again to ask for another date, no reply pretty much answered that. As rude as you think that looks, it’s what sites rules state.

The wink could have been from one of the couple, they could have pressed wink by mistake, they’ve changed their mind…so many reasons, but it really doesn’t matter.

Stop thinking FAB owes you something - it doesn’t.

The best thing I ever done as a single was delete the sent message as soon as I sent it and then I couldn’t look to see if was read and then start questioning why there was no response. I got on with my day without my head thinking all sorts.

If I then got a reply it was a bonus…not an expectation.

Enjoy FAB, don’t endure FAB

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

"these couples owe you nothing plain and simple

This exactly

You are wrong, they owe me common courtesy

Just as you owe common courtesy to the Pizza takeaway by explaining why you don't want to order one of their pizzas after they push an unsolicited flyer through your letter box?

Sorry, but Fab terms explain that no answer is equivalent to a "no thank you".

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

"The experience of meeting couples recently on here has sadly not been a good experience for me.

So the first couple winked at me.

I sent a nice message back. Messages went backwards and forwards and a meet was arranged.

A few days before the meet I mailed the couple. They mailed back saying they had to cancel as they would be away.. I mailed back saying no problem I'd catch up with them later.

Four or five days after the cancel ed meet I mailed them again just asking if they would like to arrange another meet.

The message was read but no reply was sent to me.

If they had time to read my message they had time to mail me saying sorry changed our mind.

The second couple winked at me. Again I sent them a very nice message back.

The message was read but again no reply.

I am very disappointed at this behaviour especially when these couples are in their 50s and should know better. "

Welcome to Fab. That happens all the time here. It’s the norm.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s so terrible that a website you don’t pay for, that hosts couples that have free will to change there mind or speak to whoever they want, won’t get you laid.

My heart bleeds purple piss for you.

Although I do appreciated the irony of your attitude being like something from a rold dhal book.

“Daddy. Daddy. I want that squirrel”

“But sweetums. That squirrel doesn’t want our penis near it how about I find you some others?”

“But I want that one….”

*runs to forum to complain about a non-issue*

*man shakes fist at cloud*

But seriously dude. This is borderline INCEL kinda stuff. Couples owe you nothing. You owe them nothing.

No means no after all. A red or spongebob definitely means no.

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

"I agree OP, they could have replied. Especially the first couple who had arranged a meet.

Yes they can change their mind but they are ghosting you and that's childish and shit.

If a woman had posted this she would have had hugs and glitter replies.

You aren't throwing a tantrum or being stroppy at all. You are merely asking for some common decency!!

Forget the crappy people. "

Hugs and glitter. Exactly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very noticeable and telling that the majority of people disagreeing with the OP’s point are couples. Such smugness and arrogance !

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over a year ago

"It’s so terrible that a website you don’t pay for, that hosts couples that have free will to change there mind or speak to whoever they want, won’t get you laid.

My heart bleeds purple piss for you.

Although I do appreciated the irony of your attitude being like something from a rold dhal book.

“Daddy. Daddy. I want that squirrel”

“But sweetums. That squirrel doesn’t want our penis near it how about I find you some others?”

“But I want that one….”

*runs to forum to complain about a non-issue*

*man shakes fist at cloud*

But seriously dude. This is borderline INCEL kinda stuff. Couples owe you nothing. You owe them nothing.

No means no after all. A red or spongebob definitely means no.

Can I see this purple piss

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

"Very noticeable and telling that the majority of people disagreeing with the OP’s point are couples. Such smugness and arrogance !"

Really, if we are giving advice and people don’t listen, who knows best?

Who is arrogant?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've had to cancel just recently because a long awaited hospital came up. That's life unfortunately and we have no idea when we can rearrange.

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s so terrible that a website you don’t pay for, that hosts couples that have free will to change there mind or speak to whoever they want, won’t get you laid.

My heart bleeds purple piss for you.

Although I do appreciated the irony of your attitude being like something from a rold dhal book.

“Daddy. Daddy. I want that squirrel”

“But sweetums. That squirrel doesn’t want our penis near it how about I find you some others?”

“But I want that one….”

*runs to forum to complain about a non-issue*

*man shakes fist at cloud*

But seriously dude. This is borderline INCEL kinda stuff. Couples owe you nothing. You owe them nothing.

No means no after all. A red or spongebob definitely means no.

Can I see this purple piss

No you can’t. No go start a new thread complaining about how you feel that couples don’t take you seriously.

Sometimes I wish I could post all the screenshots we get from guys. And you know… with being off work at the moment I kinda have ten time in the day to see how long it takes for guys to get the hint.

But for all the guys out there. I used to be one of you. I know what it’s like. If you want a certain person at a certain time, exactly how you want I would suggest one of four things. A) it’s around £150ph and isn’t shameful. Every profession taht came after it was invented to pay for the first profession. B) take the time and I effort. I do suggest clocking your hours as your realise A is cheaper. But you have to throw so much shit at the wall that maybe something stick? If nothing sticks, it is you and not them. Change something. Try and again. C) get a gf/Bf/furby/cherry pie and date? Anyone remember dating? Nah.. me neither. D) guys. Go fuck you actual wife instead. I know a few of you have just got a twinge of guilt there.

But yeah. Couples owe you nothing. You owe couples nothing. See how it works.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"these couples owe you nothing plain and simple

This exactly

You are wrong, they owe me common courtesy

they owe you nothing ...get over yourself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Very noticeable and telling that the majority of people disagreeing with the OP’s point are couples. Such smugness and arrogance !"

This!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I’m coming across as smug and arrogant to you, and if that means that there’s a reduced chance of being messaged. Awesome.

Smug and arrogant mode. Engage!

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By *ausage1970Man
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

"Very noticeable and telling that the majority of people disagreeing with the OP’s point are couples. Such smugness and arrogance !

This!

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By *ersey GirlCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

"The experience of meeting couples recently on here has sadly not been a good experience for me.

So the first couple winked at me.

I sent a nice message back. Messages went backwards and forwards and a meet was arranged.

A few days before the meet I mailed the couple. They mailed back saying they had to cancel as they would be away.. I mailed back saying no problem I'd catch up with them later.

Four or five days after the cancel ed meet I mailed them again just asking if they would like to arrange another meet.

The message was read but no reply was sent to me.

If they had time to read my message they had time to mail me saying sorry changed our mind.

The second couple winked at me. Again I sent them a very nice message back.

The message was read but again no reply.

I am very disappointed at this behaviour especially when these couples are in their 50s and should know better. "

If they had arranged to meet you they should have the courtesy to reply or tell you why. It's nothing short of rudeness

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Very noticeable and telling that the majority of people disagreeing with the OP’s point are couples. Such smugness and arrogance !"

Very noticeable and telling that the majority of people agreeing with the OP's point are single men. Such smugness and arrogance! So much butt hurt!

See? It works both ways.

A fair few of us have actually not been smug or arrogant in the slightest. We've taken the time to explain why sometimes we don't ask how high immediately after we're instructed to jump. There's been absolutely no acknowledgement of that. So who's being smug and arrogant? You seem to have as much of a bee in your bonnet as the OP. And I can guarantee you that not all the ugly attitudes on this thread have been displayed by couples.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m just bored.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The experience of meeting couples recently on here has sadly not been a good experience for me.

So the first couple winked at me.

I sent a nice message back. Messages went backwards and forwards and a meet was arranged.

A few days before the meet I mailed the couple. They mailed back saying they had to cancel as they would be away.. I mailed back saying no problem I'd catch up with them later.

Four or five days after the cancel ed meet I mailed them again just asking if they would like to arrange another meet.

The message was read but no reply was sent to me.

If they had time to read my message they had time to mail me saying sorry changed our mind.

The second couple winked at me. Again I sent them a very nice message back.

The message was read but again no reply.

I am very disappointed at this behaviour especially when these couples are in their 50s and should know better.

If they had arranged to meet you they should have the courtesy to reply or tell you why. It's nothing short of rudeness

Thank you at last an acknowledgment that it IS rude !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s so terrible that a website you don’t pay for, that hosts couples that have free will to change there mind or speak to whoever they want, won’t get you laid.

My heart bleeds purple piss for you.

Although I do appreciated the irony of your attitude being like something from a rold dhal book.

“Daddy. Daddy. I want that squirrel”

“But sweetums. That squirrel doesn’t want our penis near it how about I find you some others?”

“But I want that one….”

*runs to forum to complain about a non-issue*

*man shakes fist at cloud*

But seriously dude. This is borderline INCEL kinda stuff. Couples owe you nothing. You owe them nothing.

No means no after all. A red or spongebob definitely means no.

Can I see this purple piss

No you can’t. No go start a new thread complaining about how you feel that couples don’t take you seriously.

But yeah. Couples owe you nothing. You owe couples nothing. See how it works. "

Only bantering you

Actually agree with everything you said.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP there is no need to message us with a reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The experience of meeting couples recently on here has sadly not been a good experience for me.

So the first couple winked at me.

I sent a nice message back. Messages went backwards and forwards and a meet was arranged.

A few days before the meet I mailed the couple. They mailed back saying they had to cancel as they would be away.. I mailed back saying no problem I'd catch up with them later.

Four or five days after the cancel ed meet I mailed them again just asking if they would like to arrange another meet.

The message was read but no reply was sent to me.

If they had time to read my message they had time to mail me saying sorry changed our mind.

The second couple winked at me. Again I sent them a very nice message back.

The message was read but again no reply.

I am very disappointed at this behaviour especially when these couples are in their 50s and should know better.

If they had arranged to meet you they should have the courtesy to reply or tell you why. It's nothing short of rudeness

Thank you at last an acknowledgment that it IS rude !"

If it keeps happening? Of course it’s everyone Elses fault.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s so terrible that a website you don’t pay for, that hosts couples that have free will to change there mind or speak to whoever they want, won’t get you laid.

My heart bleeds purple piss for you.

Although I do appreciated the irony of your attitude being like something from a rold dhal book.

“Daddy. Daddy. I want that squirrel”

“But sweetums. That squirrel doesn’t want our penis near it how about I find you some others?”

“But I want that one….”

*runs to forum to complain about a non-issue*

*man shakes fist at cloud*

But seriously dude. This is borderline INCEL kinda stuff. Couples owe you nothing. You owe them nothing.

No means no after all. A red or spongebob definitely means no.

Can I see this purple piss

No you can’t. No go start a new thread complaining about how you feel that couples don’t take you seriously.

But yeah. Couples owe you nothing. You owe couples nothing. See how it works.

Only bantering you

Actually agree with everything you said. "

Banter back dude. ()

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By *ersey GirlCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

"The experience of meeting couples recently on here has sadly not been a good experience for me.

So the first couple winked at me.

I sent a nice message back. Messages went backwards and forwards and a meet was arranged.

A few days before the meet I mailed the couple. They mailed back saying they had to cancel as they would be away.. I mailed back saying no problem I'd catch up with them later.

Four or five days after the cancel ed meet I mailed them again just asking if they would like to arrange another meet.

The message was read but no reply was sent to me.

If they had time to read my message they had time to mail me saying sorry changed our mind.

The second couple winked at me. Again I sent them a very nice message back.

The message was read but again no reply.

I am very disappointed at this behaviour especially when these couples are in their 50s and should know better.

If they had arranged to meet you they should have the courtesy to reply or tell you why. It's nothing short of rudeness

Thank you at last an acknowledgment that it IS rude !

If it keeps happening? Of course it’s everyone Elses fault. "

If it happens 10 times it doesn't make it any less rude

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By *azianCouple
over a year ago

stamford

You'll rarely get common courtesy fella. Sad to say as a single bloke on here (which I have been) it doesn't matter how nice, decent or respectful/respectable you are you'll get dropped like trash by some the second they decide they've got a better offer. I drove two hours to meet a couple once who cut me dead 30 minutes before we met, then posted a verification with another guy the very next morning.

It's not nice at all and you'd think if you'd ticked the boxes and not blotted your copybook you wouldn't just get dropped without a by your leave........but sadly its commonplace - and as a single bloke many women and couples will treat you that way simply because you are a single bloke. To add to that you'll always be seen as the bad guy if you say anything on here.

It can be very hypocritical, but try not to put it on the forums as the naysayers will mark you out as trouble and bad news - again quite possibly unfairly, but that's how Fab is. Try to look at it as a bullet dodged as who'd want to get invved with people who would act so dishonourably?

It's a funny old world, but not worth bothering to get stressed about. When you find a good one it'll have been worth the effort.

I still have some brilliant friends I met as a single - mostly at clubs and socials where people can see you as you really are. That was WAY more successful for me, so give it a try once places start opening up again. Good luck - but be as immaculate as you can, no matter how others behave.

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By *he Ring WraithMan
over a year ago

Bradford

They do it because they can and that is what they want to do.

No one on this site owes anyone anything, expect that people will do things that they want and not what you want and you will maybe now and again get to arrange something with someone that you click with.

yes it is rare and yes some people are twats but there are some really great people on fab, it is just; and in my humble opinion only; they are in a minority and the nasty unpleasant people are in the majority.

In this I include single men, single women, couples (or all gender combinations) and TV/TS people. It is not specific to one group.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Supply and demand. It’s basic economics.

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