FabSwingers.com forum: Tips on how to meet people off here

By *ft5 surpise OP Man
over a year ago

Staines-upon-Thames

Very slow start to this experience just wondering if everything is worth it

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By *oxy lady40Woman
over a year ago

bridgwater

You are very young , so will put a lot of people off , good luck

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By *ft5 surpise OP Man
over a year ago

Staines-upon-Thames

Reckon it's best to come back in a few years then ?

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By *oxy lady40Woman
over a year ago

bridgwater

"Reckon it's best to come back in a few years then ?"
not saying that , but it very hard for any single man on here

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By *ranfondoMan
over a year ago

Cambridgeshire

Just take it easy fella... All will come to you in time...pushy is not a good way, not saying you are, relax, message coherently and real rewards... Stay safe...oh...and most are waiting until they've had both Covid jabs before meeting up....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have more chance of being struck by lightening then getting many hook ups on here.

Add to the fact the male to female ratio is like 1000 for every 1 female then for the females it's like a turkey shoot.

In that they can be as picky as picky can be due to the amount of males on here.

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By *ft5 surpise OP Man
over a year ago

Staines-upon-Thames

"Reckon it's best to come back in a few years then ? not saying that , but it very hard for any single man on here "
yea it's like that most platforms tbh , ill stay humble and look

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By *ft5 surpise OP Man
over a year ago

Staines-upon-Thames

"Just take it easy fella... All will come to you in time...pushy is not a good way, not saying you are, relax, message coherently and real rewards... Stay safe...oh...and most are waiting until they've had both Covid jabs before meeting up...."
nah I hear that, just seeing if was like it for everyone , which it isn't but just making myself known atm

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By *ft5 surpise OP Man
over a year ago

Staines-upon-Thames

"Have more chance of being struck by lightening then getting many hook ups on here.

Add to the fact the male to female ratio is like 1000 for every 1 female then for the females it's like a turkey shoot.

In that they can be as picky as picky can be due to the amount of males on here."
just like tinder and the bro

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you are just looking for meet-ups and sex then fab prob isn’t the best place to be, it’s good for the social side and finding out about events etc, but in all honestly the ratio of women to men is crazy, plus a lot of the ladies prob wouldn’t be exactly the type you would go for normally (not all, some stunning ladies on here and beauty is in the eye of the beholder)

Your best bet is tinder/ bumble etc, had tons of success on there, I’ve removed myself from them due to some issues I was having and do miss them, everyday I itch to get back on it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have more chance of being struck by lightening then getting many hook ups on here.

Add to the fact the male to female ratio is like 1000 for every 1 female then for the females it's like a turkey shoot.

In that they can be as picky as picky can be due to the amount of males on here. just like tinder and the bro"

Yeah pretty much mate, I think unless you are part of a couple or gay, then in terms of getting with a single female on here , it's a slim chance.

Most of the status I see are females saying about the 100s of msgs they have a day so it gets to the point where there is no real point in trying basically.

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By *ft5 surpise OP Man
over a year ago

Staines-upon-Thames

"If you are just looking for meet-ups and sex then fab prob isn’t the best place to be, it’s good for the social side and finding out about events etc, but in all honestly the ratio of women to men is crazy, plus a lot of the ladies prob wouldn’t be exactly the type you would go for normally (not all, some stunning ladies on here and beauty is in the eye of the beholder)

Your best bet is tinder/ bumble etc, had tons of success on there, I’ve removed myself from them due to some issues I was having and do miss them, everyday I itch to get back on it."
I don't care about looks and size as long as your a good vibe and genuine I'm most likely down, I'm interested in the social side just not built for single guys by looks of.it

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By *ft5 surpise OP Man
over a year ago

Staines-upon-Thames

"Have more chance of being struck by lightening then getting many hook ups on here.

Add to the fact the male to female ratio is like 1000 for every 1 female then for the females it's like a turkey shoot.

In that they can be as picky as picky can be due to the amount of males on here. just like tinder and the bro

Yeah pretty much mate, I think unless you are part of a couple or gay, then in terms of getting with a single female on here , it's a slim chance.

Most of the status I see are females saying about the 100s of msgs they have a day so it gets to the point where there is no real point in trying basically."
yea I got that impression frist 3 hrs creating a p

is, but not looking to join the messages sitting in drop box lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have more chance of being struck by lightening then getting many hook ups on here.

Add to the fact the male to female ratio is like 1000 for every 1 female then for the females it's like a turkey shoot.

In that they can be as picky as picky can be due to the amount of males on here. just like tinder and the bro

Yeah pretty much mate, I think unless you are part of a couple or gay, then in terms of getting with a single female on here , it's a slim chance.

Most of the status I see are females saying about the 100s of msgs they have a day so it gets to the point where there is no real point in trying basically. yea I got that impression frist 3 hrs creating a p

is, but not looking to join the messages sitting in drop box lol"

A lot of the impressions I get from reading profiles on here is that unless you have a body of a god, a 20 inch cock and are tanned or dark then you're likely not for them

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By *ft5 surpise OP Man
over a year ago

Staines-upon-Thames

"Have more chance of being struck by lightening then getting many hook ups on here.

Add to the fact the male to female ratio is like 1000 for every 1 female then for the females it's like a turkey shoot.

In that they can be as picky as picky can be due to the amount of males on here. just like tinder and the bro

Yeah pretty much mate, I think unless you are part of a couple or gay, then in terms of getting with a single female on here , it's a slim chance.

is, but not looking to join the messages sitting in drop box lol

A lot of the impressions I get from reading profiles on here is that unless you have a body of a god, a 20 inch cock and are tanned or dark then you're likely not for them "
I'd say I'm quite decent all areas,it's alright I'll be looking to pick them up for dives soon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's no secret or magic spell to make people meet you. The best thing you can do is just be you and you will find the right playmate for you. If your looking for a quick fuck, other platforms are probably better. It's hard for everyone, especially in a pandemic.

Good luck OP

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By *ft5 surpise OP Man
over a year ago

Staines-upon-Thames

"There's no secret or magic spell to make people meet you. The best thing you can do is just be you and you will find the right playmate for you. If your looking for a quick fuck, other platforms are probably better. It's hard for everyone, especially in a pandemic.

Good luck OP

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yea think that's what I'm gonna do , not desperate just want a playmate, nah looking more for a Fwb

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe try social events. Usually in the Meets forum section. You seem like a friendly bloke. Good luck.

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West

"Very slow start to this experience just wondering if everything is worth it

Get rid of the “show me the ropes” types or comments... not many want to babysit.

Make sure your dead clear about what you want, wanting anything and everything most will presume you don’t have a clue.

Be aware that “looking for older women” will rule out most mid/ late twenties too

Your age isn’t relevant x

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By *ft5 surpise OP Man
over a year ago

Staines-upon-Thames

"Very slow start to this experience just wondering if everything is worth it

Get rid of the “show me the ropes” types or comments... not many want to babysit.

Make sure your dead clear about what you want, wanting anything and everything most will presume you don’t have a clue.

Be aware that “looking for older women” will rule out most mid/ late twenties too

Your age isn’t relevant x"
thank you xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West

"Very slow start to this experience just wondering if everything is worth it

Get rid of the “show me the ropes” types or comments... not many want to babysit.

Make sure your dead clear about what you want, wanting anything and everything most will presume you don’t have a clue.

Be aware that “looking for older women” will rule out most mid/ late twenties too

Your age isn’t relevant x thank you xx"

Be as polite in message as you are on here and maybe....

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

Biggest tip would be as use fab as one of your tools in the box not the be all and end all, attend social events and get yourself known for all the right reasons. I know a fair few guys on here that haven't got monster cocks and they would say that if they resemble a god it would be Buddha, but they do have a good understanding of how to behave in the swinging community and this goes a very long way with a lot of people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Firstly OP, you've only been on here 5 weeks. When I first joined fab around 7 or 8 years ago it used to take, on average, around 6 months for a single guy to get a first meet.

You have to consider also that we're still in the tail end of a Pandemic and not everyone is comfortable to start meetingbagain quite yet.

Factor in also that a lot of users, me included, decided to take a break from the site during the crisis. I do see some of the old familiar faces, but there are quite a few that seem to have dissappeared.

The best approach is to not have any expectations.

Just like in the real world it's all about mutual attraction. Just because people are on fab doesn't mean they'll want to have sex with you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m an old guy on here so you have a lot going for you being younger

What I have found is that you need to be patient and I would agree with the other comments- join the forums, and chat groups, contact people without being pushy and over time you will find people that will notice you

There are a lot of guys on here, some very pushy and not so nice - it rightly puts a lot of women and couples off so you are up against a lot.

Vary your profile photo and find one that seems to attract attention

And finally - persevere

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Saying your a Dom is an instant no no

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By *ft5 surpise OP Man
over a year ago

Staines-upon-Thames

"Saying your a Dom is an instant no no"
depends on the women no?

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By *ekkatransTV/TS
over a year ago

Scarborough

Just be yourself and don’t act creepy, it takes time and there is no magic formula

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By *oojCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

Could not agree more, single ladies that actually meet are a rare commodity on here but persevere

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By *ft5 surpise OP Man
over a year ago

Staines-upon-Thames

Persevere I will

happy fabing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve been on a few months and it’s very rare anyone female actually chats … I’ve never been lucky enough to meet anyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Saying your a Dom is an instant no no depends on the women no?"

No at 20 I bet you haven’t the experience or the knowledge to be a Dom

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By *ft5 surpise OP Man
over a year ago

Staines-upon-Thames

"Saying your a Dom is an instant no no depends on the women no?

No at 20 I bet you haven’t the experience or the knowledge to be a Dom "
that's why there's levels no ?

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By *ft5 surpise OP Man
over a year ago

Staines-upon-Thames

Nevermind I shouldn't I double checked myself I am capable

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

"Nevermind I shouldn't I double checked myself I am capable "

Do you know what a Dom is?

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By *ft5 surpise OP Man
over a year ago

Staines-upon-Thames

Yes , but I've been with women before who like the full experience off it and I've been with women who like it 50/50, I was just saying sometimes there's levels but I put it across wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This may not be helpful, and others may disagree, but I felt there are a few things in your profile that could be turnoffs for some people on here:

"new to this" - new to what? What are you expecting is going to happen?

"just looking for fun" - meaning you're not interested in anything but sex.

"lockdiwn coming 2 a end" - bad spelling and text speak, a big issue for some on here, though easily fixable. There are other examples.

"early birds to the front" - are you really expecting to come back from a night's work to some sort of sex scene?

"If you want to go straight into action" - have a bit of patience. Nobody on here would go along with that.

The other thing is that it's not clear what sort of person you are and what you're looking for and you're compensating by suggesting you're up for anything. On a site such as this over-eagerness and a lack of specifics can be signs of a time waster. Are you really interested in all the stuff in your interests list?

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By *ifeandhubby400Couple
over a year ago

Arse hole of nowhere ,Scotland

"This may not be helpful, and others may disagree, but I felt there are a few things in your profile that could be turnoffs for some people on here:

"new to this" - new to what? What are you expecting is going to happen?

"just looking for fun" - meaning you're not interested in anything but sex.

"lockdiwn coming 2 a end" - bad spelling and text speak, a big issue for some on here, though easily fixable. There are other examples.

"early birds to the front" - are you really expecting to come back from a night's work to some sort of sex scene?

"If you want to go straight into action" - have a bit of patience. Nobody on here would go along with that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have more chance of being struck by lightening then getting many hook ups on here.

Add to the fact the male to female ratio is like 1000 for every 1 female then for the females it's like a turkey shoot.

In that they can be as picky as picky can be due to the amount of males on here. just like tinder and the bro

Yeah pretty much mate, I think unless you are part of a couple or gay, then in terms of getting with a single female on here , it's a slim chance.

is, but not looking to join the messages sitting in drop box lol

A lot of the impressions I get from reading profiles on here is that unless you have a body of a god, a 20 inch cock and are tanned or dark then you're likely not for them "

Lol....look at me....I've had 1 meet and possibly gonna meet a few more...nothing to do with God bod or huge cock...yes those help but I ain't got that so I use personality....just be yourself on the forums and take it slow

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By *rad670Man
over a year ago

South Lakes

Patience, it's frustrating at times but I believe there is someone for everyone on here if you look hard enough and refrain from being pushy.

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By *ustustwo.1965Couple
over a year ago

"Very slow start to this experience just wondering if everything is worth it

A 20 year old Dom.

Really? ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't be on here?

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