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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It can't just be me who is getting no replies from anyone in my area?? I've messaged everyone within my area a polite "Hi doll, how are you" and I either get blanked, deleted or left on read.

Am I doing anything wrong? I'm not sending dick pics or the likes

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

I'm a doll

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Just be your self it will happen

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I doubt it will, I could show you my message history here and you'll see [Deleted] or [Read]

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"I doubt it will, I could show you my message history here and you'll see [Deleted] or [Read] "

You will hun have faith keep trying xxx

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Put a meet up in meet sections

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I have hon, i've done it around 3x to no avail.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Write a bio

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Use the forums more show your

Personality join in other threads

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

I have to say that 'introduction' message would not inspire me to reply in the slightest.... Wouldn't capture my attention for longer than it takes to hit delete.

Try and be a little more imaginative and I don't mean Mills n Boon storytime, just not so bland!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think 'I've messaged everyone' is the answer here. If your looking to just hook up with anyone, you are probably messaging people without considering if you could be a match. Also that opening message doesn't show any interest, personality or any idea that you've read their profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It can't just be me who is getting no replies from anyone in my area?? I've messaged everyone within my area a polite "Hi doll, how are you" and I either get blanked, deleted or left on read.

Am I doing anything wrong? I'm not sending dick pics or the likes "

Welcome to fab my man, it’s a hard days work for a single guy on fab, 100 guys to one lady, just chat in the forums and you will soon meet some amazing people

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By *aughtycp1Couple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

You've not sent me a message x

Mrs N x

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I look at a profile before I even open a new message if the profile doesn't appeal then chances are I won't answer.Your profile is your shop window and one that has almost no effort especially when it tells you nothing about the person wouldn't appeal at all .

The hi doll starter rates right up there with hi babe hi hun which I don't like at all especially from people I don't know that would also be almost immediate delete unread.

But that's just me it may appeal to others .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I look at a profile before I even open a new message if the profile doesn't appeal then chances are I won't answer.Your profile is your shop window and one that has almost no effort especially when it tells you nothing about the person wouldn't appeal at all .

The hi doll starter rates right up there with hi babe hi hun which I don't like at all especially from people I don't know that would also be almost immediate delete unread.

But that's just me it may appeal to others ."

Hits the nail on the head really.

Most will look at your profile before they even think of looking at your message. You won't know about it though because most women and some couples view in stealth mode.

Your profile says nothing about you, so how is anyone to know if you might be what they're looking for?

Your message is also uninspiring and most won't like being referred to as 'doll'. Most would like to see some effort put into a message. Demonstrate that you've read their profile.

Your message and profile both display zero effort.

You're also very young. A lot of those on here will probably have children your age, and for many that's a big no no.

I'm afraid everything about your prifile, messages and this thread give the impression that, like a lot of young, new men on the site, you seem to be ofbthe view that all you need do is create a profile, upload a few pics, blanket message a few people and be knee deep in offers by lunch time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You’re not ugly op and you have youth on your side but just going by you thread post and looking at your profile and following your green arrow I’d suggest that you are selling your self very very short and the reason you are Steve ruggling is closer to home than you may think.

Best of luck baby boy(not nice is it)

Tony

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

I wouldn't look at the profile of someone who sent a "hi doll how are you" message and I wouldn't reply

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"the reason you are Steve ruggling is closer to home than you may think.

Tony, how do you know he is called Steve Ruggling ?

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By *1c4yMan
over a year ago

stourbridge

I don't know the exact figures but there must be 1000 guys here to 1 woman it's impossible for a woman to respond to every message. Moreover in the world outside fab a guy who is normally a 10 becomes a 4 a woman that is normally a 4 becomes a strong 8 or 9 due to the imbalance.

I'd advise if you want to come on here lower the bar if you want choice go on AW and pay.

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford

Your profile says you're looking for couples, so of you sent us a message with "hi doll" in it, it'd get deleted straight away.

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By *C7995XCouple
over a year ago

London

"I have to say that 'introduction' message would not inspire me to reply in the slightest.... Wouldn't capture my attention for longer than it takes to hit delete.

Try and be a little more imaginative and I don't mean Mills n Boon storytime, just not so bland!

Agreed with this

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

The key is not to worry about it and accept that's part of the game. You can't be everyone's cup of tea and lots of people tend not to want to reply when they are not interested (which could be due to their current situation/mood rather than you per se). And obviously it would be unfair to expect a reply to an unsolicited message, they are effectively the same as the advertisersing leaflets you get through the letterbox (as someone on a similar thread pointed out). I understand it can be frustrating but try not to let it bother you.

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By *etwifeandhim69Couple
over a year ago

Darlington

"I wouldn't look at the profile of someone who sent a "hi doll how are you" message and I wouldn't reply"

Same here.

It's a zero effort message and as a couple we would most certainly delete it without opening.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

You have nothing written as far as a profile goes so they literally only have "how are you" to respond to.

A pleasantry perhaps but one that, if answered honestly would likely be enough to have the receiver of the reply... you...listening to Cradle of Filth and wrist slitting.

Do you really wanna hear "shit actually, had a terrible day at work, missing my dog something rotten, I was tidying round her grave and totally fucking lost it, I've got bindweeeeed devouring my garden and sprouting up from under her gravestone so I know it's wrapped round her body. I was so close to digging her up to "save" her from it even though she's been dead over a year. I've never been so angry at nature and it sent me into a spiral of not knowing what to do. I'm on my arse financially and having regular meltdowns over it. Why are you even messaging anyway? Haven't you read my profile where it says I'm a fucking mess and only here for the forums? Don't you respect my personal space? I'm clearly not wanting to meet or interact with new people"

Honestly, would you really want to receive something like that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think its the area we are in. Over populated so there's endless choice. If we were in all remote village or something we'd be fighting them off lol

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

I would delete that message too. It says nothing about either of us and is just so lazy. #instadelete

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Honestly, would you really want to receive something like that?"

He could reply "I'm happy to come and clear the grave for you and then we could have a coffee afterwards. I'm sure you have lots of good memories of your dog you could share. Oh and FAF ?"

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By *irty desireWoman
over a year ago

newcatle

"It can't just be me who is getting no replies from anyone in my area?? I've messaged everyone within my area a polite "Hi doll, how are you" and I either get blanked, deleted or left on read.

Am I doing anything wrong? I'm not sending dick pics or the likes "

Is this a joke?

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By *iss LovelyWoman
over a year ago

Here and There

I think maybe your expectations of what you’ll get from Fab need an adjustment.

Realistically you’re very young (for this site) and your profile says nothing about you. Someone considering meeting you wants to see what you’re offering, and they expect to see it in your bio.

Also the fact you’re firing out messages shows that you’re not taking the time to see if you meet the requirements of the people you’re messaging. Most here are looking for a mutually enjoyable experience. I could be wrong, but I get the impression you’re using Fab as a service provider and expecting to click a button and be able to take your pick. It’s really not like that here.

Out of curiosity why are here and not on Tinder for example?

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By *lym4realCouple
over a year ago

plymouth

You are many ..many..many....and we are few and simple maths in the end though

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

Honestly, would you really want to receive something like that?

He could reply "I'm happy to come and clear the grave for you and then we could have a coffee afterwards. I'm sure you have lots of good memories of your dog you could share. Oh and FAF ?""

Bit like the dude a few years ago who offered to help me transport a washing machine coz mine broke and I couldn't afford a brand new one so got a second hand one but had no way of getting it to mine. He had a van and took him 10 whole minutes.... then as he was leaving proceeded to drop his boxers, point at his dick and say "well... you didn't think I was doing it for free did ya?"

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Brilliant !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

doll = instant delete

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"the reason you are Steve ruggling is closer to home than you may think.

Tony, how do you know he is called Steve Ruggling ?

It’s what the hip cool kids say for struggling in a cool hip way!!!!!

I was just winging it really

Tony

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By *ams12345Man
over a year ago

london

Not at all, too much competition and a lot of the women on here are looking for centaurs not men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never no what to write lol so I’ll never get a message back

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford

"I never no what to write lol so I’ll never get a message back "

"Hi....my name's XXXXX and after reading your profile I thought I'd drop you a line. You say you're looking for YYYYY, well I am also, etc, etc, etc. I like that you have a cat/dog/car/cd collection, and wondered if you'd seen.....".

Something that actually warrants a reply and generates interest.

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By *ams12345Man
over a year ago

london

Might have to copy paste this one loool

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks man, i've read all the replies and they're helping me understand wjere i've gone wrong

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi everyone, my apologies for the late response.

I've read all replies to my post and i'm beginning to see where i've gone wrong.

I need to develop my profile and be much more fluid in the way I introduce myself.

Thanks everyone,

Jake

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By *ollycouple71Couple
over a year ago

manchester

[Removed by poster at 14/06/21 17:19:39]

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By *ekkatransTV/TS
over a year ago

Scarborough

Women usually get inundated with messages, you need to make an impression, that’s my thought on it,

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By *leanor1717Woman
over a year ago

Gillingham

"Hi everyone, my apologies for the late response.

I've read all replies to my post and i'm beginning to see where i've gone wrong.

I need to develop my profile and be much more fluid in the way I introduce myself.

Thanks everyone,

Jake"

Yes this

And it's a shame you're not in Medway/Kent, young man

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I've just made an edit to my profile description. Could someone give me feedback

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford

"I've just made an edit to my profile description. Could someone give me feedback "

I know that we're not your "target market" but you do seem to sound like a genuine and nice guy, and can write in easy to read sentences. Only thing we'd pick up on is the photos....they all make you look a bit like a moody teenager

Smile in some new pics, and try and use a self timer to get a better shot of that (really rather nice looking) cock.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Haha will do guys i've been told to smile many times

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've just made an edit to my profile description. Could someone give me feedback "

In the profile it says 18-35 but the "looking for" says 18-45. Make them match

Not a bad bio over all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've just made an edit to my profile description. Could someone give me feedback

Smile in some new pics, and try and use a self timer to get a better shot of that (really rather nice looking) cock."

Ahahaha love this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It can't just be me who is getting no replies from anyone in my area?? I've messaged everyone within my area a polite "Hi doll, how are you" and I either get blanked, deleted or left on read.

Am I doing anything wrong? I'm not sending dick pics or the likes "

Dude, evertime you get rejected, go lift weights or find yourself a way to make money. There are dudes still playing here and out dating well into their sixties or seventies.

Its momentary frustration, it will pass.

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford

"Ahahaha love this."

You're okay L....you are his target market

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Doll?!?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't know the exact figures but there must be 1000 guys here to 1 woman it's impossible for a woman to respond to every message. Moreover in the world outside fab a guy who is normally a 10 becomes a 4 a woman that is normally a 4 becomes a strong 8 or 9 due to the imbalance.

I'd advise if you want to come on here lower the bar if you want choice go on AW and pay. "

Ignore this horseshit OP!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're a good looking lad, and there will be plenty of young ladies who will be interested in you (if only I was half my age!). Be patient, chat in forums, etc, but do the same "in real life" too - join clubs which also have a high number of female members you can chat to (running, badminton, etc.....).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think maybe your expectations of what you’ll get from Fab need an adjustment.

Realistically you’re very young (for this site) and your profile says nothing about you. Someone considering meeting you wants to see what you’re offering, and they expect to see it in your bio.

Out of curiosity why are here and not on Tinder for example? "

Tinder is rubbish no one talks. The girls on tinder are more fake and timewasting than those on here. I highly doubt many get a date on tinder its all a farce.

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By *issAphroditeWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

Guys messaging every woman within their desired radius, is one of the biggest problems on Fab.

Did you read their profiles first? Did you check to see if you're what they're after?

Obvious, zero effort copy and paste messages fuck me off and I just delete them. Double quick if they call me a.silly name such as "doll".

Try not seeing woman as convenient targets and before selective and respectful. Scatterbombing just makes it harder for everyone in the long run.

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By *heNYCSausageMan
over a year ago

Everton

"It can't just be me who is getting no replies from anyone in my area?? I've messaged everyone within my area a polite "Hi doll, how are you" and I either get blanked, deleted or left on read.

Am I doing anything wrong? I'm not sending dick pics or the likes "

Maybe calling them doll and using the same message for everyone is where you’re failing?

Mind you, I’m no expert lol

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By *issAphroditeWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

I'd advise if you want to come on here lower the bar if you want choice go on AW and pay. "

Tell me you're an icel without actually telling me you're an incel.

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