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By *razy Shenanigans OP   Couple
over a year ago

Chelmsford

...what in the name of flying fudge...has happened to the art of connecting? Via messages initially, which let's face facts, is the basis for developing "relationships" on here....

We think we come across as a pretty decent, open and friendly couple, very much hoping to form bonds and friendships with other like-minded couples and singles, but it seems the ability to hold a semi decent conversation via text chat (before leading on to calls/group/vid chats etc) evades sooo many....we frequently get a relatively nice intro, which is swiftly followed by "so what you looking for?"....which is swiftly followed by an unsolicited friend invite....then when that is politely declined...

....yep....radio silence

Do other couples go through this as frequently as we do? Do you guys also love the whole "getting a vibe going" thing? We genuinely can't play with people we can't connect with but there really seems to be a massive kind of instant gratification/must add you as friends after the first two messages type thing happening here....

We know there are decent chatters out there....and decent chat, leads to decent experiences

Paul and Alyson x x

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

We're now in a world where people don't wanna wait. And I hate to say it, but a lot of dudes really don't wanna make any effort, but for some reason think having a dick makes them desirable. Literally, just having a dick.

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By *razy Shenanigans OP   Couple
over a year ago

Chelmsford


"We're now in a world where people don't wanna wait. And I hate to say it, but a lot of dudes really don't wanna make any effort, but for some reason think having a dick makes them desirable. Literally, just having a dick."

Social media has a lot to answer for....it is all about now, now, now....funny thing is tho...a lot, not all, but a lot has come from "couples"....verified couples as well....obviously that doesn't say much in this day and age but we've actually had a few (not many) but a few, very decent chats with respectful and entertaining single guys....

We're open to fun times with whoever floats our boats but we'd love more connections with couples

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By *lassy_but_sassyWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham


"We're now in a world where people don't wanna wait. And I hate to say it, but a lot of dudes really don't wanna make any effort, but for some reason think having a dick makes them desirable. Literally, just having a dick."

Yes! Covid has made it worse too. Even on the dating sites where I'm after DATING the guys all swerve to the sex chat ASAP. I've never known such thirst from the male species before, lockdowns has turned everyone into crazy horn monsters!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes totally hear you! It's a struggle to find people who actually want a conversation first. I know we are all here for the same thing but I like to get to know someone a little before even thinking about a meet!

Hang in there, there are some gems here just takes a little finding

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By *razy Shenanigans OP   Couple
over a year ago

Chelmsford


"We're now in a world where people don't wanna wait. And I hate to say it, but a lot of dudes really don't wanna make any effort, but for some reason think having a dick makes them desirable. Literally, just having a dick.

Yes! Covid has made it worse too. Even on the dating sites where I'm after DATING the guys all swerve to the sex chat ASAP. I've never known such thirst from the male species before, lockdowns has turned everyone into crazy horn monsters! "

Hasn't that been the norm on dating platforms pre covid tho?

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By *nSeeNMan
over a year ago

Z'ha'dum

It's hard to strike up a conversation with some people.

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By *exandthesuburbans83Couple
over a year ago

EASTBOURNE

We really like this post as it mirrors a lot of our experience.

We have a full profile, try and properly chat but then radio silence after one or two emails. We wonder if we put others off or people are just less patient. Maybe we are too open or just not up for a shag after one message. Don't get us wrong, each to their own and if that's your thing then fair play but our hope is that we keep on trying and will meet the right couple or girl that is similar to us. Time is precious for us so we want to spend it with people we really get on with socially and sexually.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we get it all the time

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