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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Is it me or other people find it on the site, when you read someone’s profile and then you nicely introduce yourself to them and they completely ignore your message or just delete it ? I know people get a lot of messages daily but would be nice to just reply back sorry but not for me or not interested instead of ignoring people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There was a profile I was looking at yesterday and she had a screenshot of her fab profile. She had over 3,500 messages waiting to be read. I know its frustrating, but its just the way it goes on here.

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

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If the people who had lots of messages answered every one of them it would literally take hours and hours, that would kind of suck all the fun out of the site if it was me.

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By *otplumMan
over a year ago

Margate

This topic seems to come up every week!

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

A fab rule is no answer is an answer. I do tend to reply to most unless the sender has put zero effort into the message. But i don't get the hundreds some girls get and neither have i had any bad reactions to a thank you but no thank you. That's not the case for some who get insulted so it's easier not to reply. So as usual a few idiots spoil it for everyone.

My advice to you though is send the message and then forget all about it. Go into your sent folder and delete it. That way if they respond its a nice surprise but you are not going in to your sent folder to see if they have read it.

Target your mails to people you want to meet who seem to have a lot in common with you. Read their profile and reference it.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

Most people check out the other persons profile before responding or even reading the message.

If the profile of the message sender doesn't intrigue or interest them or has something off-putting in it, including warnings that are utter codswallop (tells ya in the site FAQs) they're unlikely to be interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No point messaging a women that's near the top of the most fabd pics list.

She won't see it and has plenty to choose from.

Don't get frustrated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There was a profile I was looking at yesterday and she had a screenshot of her fab profile. She had over 3,500 messages waiting to be read. I know its frustrating, but its just the way it goes on here."

Its why I don't initiate a message much anymore. Only a waste of my time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There was a profile I was looking at yesterday and she had a screenshot of her fab profile. She had over 3,500 messages waiting to be read. I know its frustrating, but its just the way it goes on here.

Its why I don't initiate a message much anymore. Only a waste of my time. "

This is correct

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There was a profile I was looking at yesterday and she had a screenshot of her fab profile. She had over 3,500 messages waiting to be read. I know its frustrating, but its just the way it goes on here."

How does a person have 3.5K messages??? is every single filter off? I blocked single men and message guys first. Saves having to send thanks but no thanks messages or my filters being affected on the times i do unblock single guys. Are there really too many men on fab or not enough ladies? Its tough for genuine guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There was a profile I was looking at yesterday and she had a screenshot of her fab profile. She had over 3,500 messages waiting to be read. I know its frustrating, but its just the way it goes on here.

How does a person have 3.5K messages??? is every single filter off? I blocked single men and message guys first. Saves having to send thanks but no thanks messages or my filters being affected on the times i do unblock single guys. Are there really too many men on fab or not enough ladies? Its tough for genuine guys. "

They need validation that's why they do not apply filters

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By *iss LovelyWoman
over a year ago

Here and There

There are posts about this almost daily. It’s not rude to not reply, it’s part of the site rules. A stranger doesn’t owe you a reply just because you’ve decided they should like you. You might think you meet their profile requirements, but the choice is theirs not yours.

If you can’t cope with how the site works then you shouldn’t be here. It won’t do you any good.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are posts about this almost daily. It’s not rude to not reply, it’s part of the site rules. A stranger doesn’t owe you a reply just because you’ve decided they should like you. You might think you meet their profile requirements, but the choice is theirs not yours.

If you can’t cope with how the site works then you shouldn’t be here. It won’t do you any good. "

I also notice it's always women telling others to leave the site.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"There was a profile I was looking at yesterday and she had a screenshot of her fab profile. She had over 3,500 messages waiting to be read. I know its frustrating, but its just the way it goes on here.

How does a person have 3.5K messages??? is every single filter off? I blocked single men and message guys first. Saves having to send thanks but no thanks messages or my filters being affected on the times i do unblock single guys. Are there really too many men on fab or not enough ladies? Its tough for genuine guys.

They need validation that's why they do not apply filters"

I don't have my filters very tight because I speak to forum folk and play the odd forum game....not coz I need validation. My levels of shit giving for people wanting to shag me are null and void.

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By *oliday slutCouple
over a year ago

tenerife


"Is it me or other people find it on the site, when you read someone’s profile and then you nicely introduce yourself to them and they completely ignore your message or just delete it ? I know people get a lot of messages daily but would be nice to just reply back sorry but not for me or not interested instead of ignoring people "

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By *it-of-AlrightMan
over a year ago

South west


"If the people who had lots of messages answered every one of them it would literally take hours and hours, that would kind of suck all the fun out of the site if it was me."

Take me 5 seconds lol lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There was a profile I was looking at yesterday and she had a screenshot of her fab profile. She had over 3,500 messages waiting to be read. I know its frustrating, but its just the way it goes on here.

How does a person have 3.5K messages??? is every single filter off? I blocked single men and message guys first. Saves having to send thanks but no thanks messages or my filters being affected on the times i do unblock single guys. Are there really too many men on fab or not enough ladies? Its tough for genuine guys.

They need validation that's why they do not apply filters

I don't have my filters very tight because I speak to forum folk and play the odd forum game....not coz I need validation. My levels of shit giving for people wanting to shag me are null and void.

"

I never implied you needed validation.

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By *oliday slutCouple
over a year ago

tenerife

It really depends. If they haven't read your profile .I.e they are bi or they smoke or don't have face photos then why bother to respond if they cannot be bothered to read a profiles requirements

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By *rufflesCouple
over a year ago

manchester


"Is it me or other people find it on the site, when you read someone’s profile and then you nicely introduce yourself to them and they completely ignore your message or just delete it ? I know people get a lot of messages daily but would be nice to just reply back sorry but not for me or not interested instead of ignoring people "

Sorry but its you I am afraid. Unlike many, we are not swamped with requests, however we do get more than our fair share. You would be amazed at how many one liners, cut 'n' pastes, obviously haven't read our profile etc etc, messages we get on a daily basis.

Same principal applies to unsolicited winks / friend invites

Replying to all would be a daily (sometimes lengthy) task. Please accept a delete as a no thanks.

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By *umalotagainMan
over a year ago

a town called malice

I think a lot of the problem is on this site

‘Cock is plentiful and it’s value is low’

You pays your money you takes your chances and you may or may not get a reply…..mostly may not

Just stay happy and enjoy any surprise messages you do get

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No one is obliged to massage your ego. If you don't get a reply get over it and move on.

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By *batMan
over a year ago

Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales)

I get why people don't answer messages, there's a lot of rubbish messages floating around out there!

What does surprise me is when there are forum games, "send a pic to the person above" etc, and people say "I'm in" then don't bother to respond to the message arising from that thread.

Either you're in or your not????? (Albeit I understand that consent or "joining in" can be withdrawn at anytime).

Gbat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sites rules say No reply = Not interested. They aren't ignoring you, just following the rules

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sites rules say No reply = Not interested. They aren't ignoring you, just following the rules "

Correct

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bear in mind that, for couples, there’s not much point answering until both have had time to read your message. MissJ tends to look at Fab 2-3 times a week whereas I’m on it often so that can mean delays

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If the people who had lots of messages answered every one of them it would literally take hours and hours, that would kind of suck all the fun out of the site if it was me."

Would the answer be to disable messaging for men until they receive a message from a woman/couple. At which point, the man can send and reply to that specific account. If the women or couple decide the man is not for them, they can close the message link. Or block.

Men would no longer get their messages ignored because the women/couple have initiated contact. In return they benifit too as their inbox will no longer be full of unsolicited mail. It could be a spam filter of sorts? Its not fair to the men that we could only reply and not initiate, but when the message you carefully write gets lost in the 3500 others. Does that matter? It won't be read anyway.

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By *bsolutebeginnersCouple
over a year ago

Planet Ork

We get about a dozen flyers from local take aways through our letterbox each week even though we don’t like some of them and haven’t asked for any of them. We don’t feel the need to contact each take away shop individually to thank them politely so we just bin the ones that don’t interest us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As soon as you've sent your message, delete it from your sent box straight away. That way, youll never know if the message was read, read and deleted or unread. It takes a lot of the frustration away and when you do get a reply, its a nice surprise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m sure you don’t answer every unwanted email or post you get, this is the same.

Just because you seem your message polite, it doesn’t mean you’re entitled to a reply. If I’m not interested I won’t respond and I state this on my profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it me or other people find it on the site, when you read someone’s profile and then you nicely introduce yourself to them and they completely ignore your message or just delete it ? I know people get a lot of messages daily but would be nice to just reply back sorry but not for me or not interested instead of ignoring people "

Sorry but this thread has been posted so many times… but it’s your lucky day and got many responses

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are posts about this almost daily. It’s not rude to not reply, it’s part of the site rules. A stranger doesn’t owe you a reply just because you’ve decided they should like you. You might think you meet their profile requirements, but the choice is theirs not yours.

If you can’t cope with how the site works then you shouldn’t be here. It won’t do you any good.

I also notice it's always women telling others to leave the site.

"

Because it’s always men whinging about not getting a reply...

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By *iss LovelyWoman
over a year ago

Here and There


"There are posts about this almost daily. It’s not rude to not reply, it’s part of the site rules. A stranger doesn’t owe you a reply just because you’ve decided they should like you. You might think you meet their profile requirements, but the choice is theirs not yours.

If you can’t cope with how the site works then you shouldn’t be here. It won’t do you any good.

I also notice it's always women telling others to leave the site.

"

That’s because the ones that don’t like how it works but stay anyway are annoying. And if you struggle with this form of rejection it really won’t be good for you to be here, it’ll do more harm than good.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you want an advice

Look how many men there are in your area. Look how many are fitter than you. Then read her profile twice or three times. Then ask yourself if you are the type she’s looking for? Then again compare yourself to the others, how many of you send her messages? Yes too many prob for her to reply… it’s cruel yes. Maybe better chance down the pub

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There was a profile I was looking at yesterday and she had a screenshot of her fab profile. She had over 3,500 messages waiting to be read. I know its frustrating, but its just the way it goes on here."

This is a great idea. I might do this myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There was a profile I was looking at yesterday and she had a screenshot of her fab profile. She had over 3,500 messages waiting to be read. I know its frustrating, but its just the way it goes on here.

This is a great idea. I might do this myself "

Me too!

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By *batMan
over a year ago

Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales)


"We get about a dozen flyers from local take aways through our letterbox each week even though we don’t like some of them and haven’t asked for any of them. We don’t feel the need to contact each take away shop individually to thank them politely so we just bin the ones that don’t interest us."

I think this explains it very well! Nicely done.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It's appropriate to adjust your expectations, if you expect a reply, whilst Fab terms state that no reply = no interest. And this is so long enshrined into time and habit here, that it's unlikely to change.

You could reacquaint yourself with the Fab terms and conditions again, then decide how you can change your perspective - or not.

As long as you are doing your best to sell yourself, that's all you can do. Be grateful that those who don't find you as a match, keep a clean break between you. Saves so much energy!

Most people will just not be compatible with most other people. And they'll have no time to spare on the majority who are not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There was a profile I was looking at yesterday and she had a screenshot of her fab profile. She had over 3,500 messages waiting to be read. I know its frustrating, but its just the way it goes on here.

This is a great idea. I might do this myself

Me too! "

Off topic but welcome to the site/forums.

By eck lass you’re pretty

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

I would try not to get too put out by it. There are lots of reasons why people don't reply. For us its often because we live apart. So the time we have together we generally don't want to spend sorting fab admin. Also we don't really do any hooking up with people on fab, we leave that to the club. At the end of the day when you send an unsolicited message I don't think you should expect or feel entitled to someone else's time in return. They've not asked you for it. I get that you may feel its a common curiosity. If it were a club and you said hello I'm sure most people would respond politely and courteously. Manners in that respect cost no time at all. But message responses do take time and effort (especially when writing is not your forte and there's loads of them). I would just accept if someone ignores you chances are they are not interested or in a position to chat at that point in time. Take it on the chin and move on. Maybe try another message in a month or so time?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

my reply to these threads is, do you reply to every leaflet put through your door, no thanks dominos i dont want a thick crust pizza thanks.

Kind of sums it up really

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By *wistedTooCouple
over a year ago

Frimley


"Is it me or other people find it on the site, when you read someone’s profile and then you nicely introduce yourself to them and they completely ignore your message or just delete it ? I know people get a lot of messages daily but would be nice to just reply back sorry but not for me or not interested instead of ignoring people "

It’s just how it has to be. You can’t expect people to work on Fab messages like they would their work emails… they have lives outside of the Fab inbox

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By * Plus ECouple
over a year ago

The South


"Is it me or other people find it on the site, when you read someone’s profile and then you nicely introduce yourself to them and they completely ignore your message or just delete it ? I know people get a lot of messages daily but would be nice to just reply back sorry but not for me or not interested instead of ignoring people "

Out of interest, what has Facebook got to do with Fab?

E

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By *R coupleCouple
over a year ago

Croydon

We get a reasonable number of messages from single guys despite what it says on our profile and we never reply. Why would we? Some of them are laughable. I mean if your a single guy sending a message to a couple who’s profile says not interested in single guys and you really think there’s something about you that’s going to change our mind the surely you must be intelligent enough to realise it’s going to take more than a “hi” or “how r u”! Although our personal favourite is the three pronged combo of a copy and past message a wink and a friend request at the same time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There was a profile I was looking at yesterday and she had a screenshot of her fab profile. She had over 3,500 messages waiting to be read. I know its frustrating, but its just the way it goes on here.

This is a great idea. I might do this myself

Me too!

Off topic but welcome to the site/forums.

By eck lass you’re pretty "

Aw thank you so much! I have been here before but my Dad passed away so took some time away from a lot of things actually.

But thank you, it’s good to be back!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There was a profile I was looking at yesterday and she had a screenshot of her fab profile. She had over 3,500 messages waiting to be read. I know its frustrating, but its just the way it goes on here.

This is a great idea. I might do this myself

Me too!

Off topic but welcome to the site/forums.

By eck lass you’re pretty

Aw thank you so much! I have been here before but my Dad passed away so took some time away from a lot of things actually.

But thank you, it’s good to be back! "

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By *tace 309TV/TS
over a year ago

durham

As long as the message isn't silly or rude, I would always try to reply even if it's just a no thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yawn! It's unsolicited. You don't ring the pizza restaurant to tell them no thanks when they put a pizza menu through your door

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

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"If the people who had lots of messages answered every one of them it would literally take hours and hours, that would kind of suck all the fun out of the site if it was me.

Would the answer be to disable messaging for men until they receive a message from a woman/couple. At which point, the man can send and reply to that specific account. If the women or couple decide the man is not for them, they can close the message link. Or block.

Men would no longer get their messages ignored because the women/couple have initiated contact. In return they benifit too as their inbox will no longer be full of unsolicited mail. It could be a spam filter of sorts? Its not fair to the men that we could only reply and not initiate, but when the message you carefully write gets lost in the 3500 others. Does that matter? It won't be read anyway."

I think the answer would be for some men to stop obsessing over whether their messages are answered or not. No one is entitled to a reply.

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By *arah_kieran_ukCouple
over a year ago

Greater London


"Yawn! It's unsolicited. You don't ring the pizza restaurant to tell them no thanks when they put a pizza menu through your door "

This is probably my favourite response lol

Kieran x

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By *ena_LjubovTV/TS
over a year ago

Cork

No answer should be an answer enough. I honestly can't be bothered to respond to every message I receive.

Not even talking about "hi" messages from blank profiles... I do get some nicely written messages from nearby people with face pictures, but there is a limit to how many people I can coverse at any given time so some of those good messages never get a reply.

At the end of the day... I don't really owe anyone a reply. A bit arrogant, I know, but it is what it is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it me or other people find it on the site, when you read someone’s profile and then you nicely introduce yourself to them and they completely ignore your message or just delete it ? I know people get a lot of messages daily but would be nice to just reply back sorry but not for me or not interested instead of ignoring people "

49ish posts on a thread started by you op and it would have been nice if you’d replied to a few of them but you have chosen not too even though you have been showing as online!!!!

No reply = no thank you so don’t sweat it as I’m sure it’s not just you in that boat.

We/I reply to all messages but at times I wish that wasn’t the case.

Best of luck op.

Tony

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By *ornucopiaMan
over a year ago

Bexley


"This topic seems to come up every week! "

and nobody seems to take a blind bid of notice of the oft repeated ground rules or any other advice given.

If people just want to get noticed, there are other topics for doing that. Rate my profile, rate my cock....

Take the pressure off the present topic and spread it around the other two!

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By *tirling DarkCouple
over a year ago

Stirling

No reply means no interest in you, simple really

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds


"Is it me or other people find it on the site, when you read someone’s profile and then you nicely introduce yourself to them and they completely ignore your message or just delete it ? I know people get a lot of messages daily but would be nice to just reply back sorry but not for me or not interested instead of ignoring people "

Just out of interest do you reply to every bit of junk mail that comes through your letter box or email, or have a conversation with every person that makes an unsolicited phone call?

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By *batMan
over a year ago

Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales)


"Just out of interest [...] have a conversation with every person that makes an unsolicited phone call? "

I love chatting to the unsolicited caller! I try and sell them stuff, keep them hanging on the phone, play daft. It's way more fun than Candy Crush or Sudoku.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most people check out the other persons profile before responding or even reading the message.

If the profile of the message sender doesn't intrigue or interest them or has something off-putting in it, including warnings that are utter codswallop (tells ya in the site FAQs) they're unlikely to be interested."

This

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By *irty desireWoman
over a year ago

newcatle

Do you feel better now op that you have ignored us all back??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm always fascinated about how well penises can type... Incredible!

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By *andycandy88Woman
over a year ago

Northolt


"There was a profile I was looking at yesterday and she had a screenshot of her fab profile. She had over 3,500 messages waiting to be read. I know its frustrating, but its just the way it goes on here.

This is a great idea. I might do this myself

Me too!

Off topic but welcome to the site/forums.

By eck lass you’re pretty "

Very pretty xx

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By *andycandy88Woman
over a year ago

Northolt


"There was a profile I was looking at yesterday and she had a screenshot of her fab profile. She had over 3,500 messages waiting to be read. I know its frustrating, but its just the way it goes on here.

This is a great idea. I might do this myself

Me too!

Off topic but welcome to the site/forums.

By eck lass you’re pretty

Aw thank you so much! I have been here before but my Dad passed away so took some time away from a lot of things actually.

But thank you, it’s good to be back! "

I'm very sorry for your loss hun that must be hard. Wishing you and those that knew your dad the strength to cope xxx

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By *ornucopiaMan
over a year ago

Bexley


"

...

Just out of interest do you reply to every bit of junk mail that comes through your letter box or email, or have a conversation with every person that makes an unsolicited phone call? "

Not very often, but I always make a point of telling all the gorgeous black girls who come up to me in the street with bible tracts and leaflets that

"I am far too naughty for your church". It is challenge that one day might lead to being put to the test. After all, if you don't try....

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

There is an odd phenomenon on this site.

When you say “no”, it somehow gets translated into, “talk to me more”.

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By *hesblokeMan
over a year ago

Derbyshire village


"I'm always fascinated about how well penises can type... Incredible! "

PFFFT! Tea down my nose. Cheers.

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By *hesblokeMan
over a year ago

Derbyshire village


"Do you feel better now op that you have ignored us all back?? "

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By *andycandy88Woman
over a year ago

Northolt

Hi Op hope you have taken in the replies even if you don't choose to reply, that is YOUR RIGHT to reply or not.

So please bear in mind when you enter a person's inbox, it is THEIR RIGHT to reply or not.

I'm not the type to tell people I'm not intrested it is annoying to repeat myself and you may not be aware but majority of us females and couples have had nasty messages just by not replying.

Now that makes it even more of a reason to not reply bit silly if you ask me for a person to treat a no reply with that when a few minutes they wanted to meet and be sexual with a person. Xx

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By *etwifeandhim69Couple
over a year ago

Darlington


"There is an odd phenomenon on this site.

When you say “no”, it somehow gets translated into, “talk to me more”.

"

It's even odder when they're capable of messaging but not taking 30 seconds to read the profile which will clearly show them not to message in the first place.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is an odd phenomenon on this site.

When you say “no”, it somehow gets translated into, “talk to me more”.

I pretty much had a row with one guy about why he shouldn't have messaged, after actually reading my profile... He took it as bloody banter, that we were getting on and would I still meet him!!! Wtf?!

It's even odder when they're capable of messaging but not taking 30 seconds to read the profile which will clearly show them not to message in the first place.

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is an odd phenomenon on this site.

When you say “no”, it somehow gets translated into, “talk to me more”.

I pretty much had a row with one guy about why he shouldn't have messaged, after actually reading my profile... He took it as bloody banter, that we were getting on and would I still meet him!!! Wtf?!

It's even odder when they're capable of messaging but not taking 30 seconds to read the profile which will clearly show them not to message in the first place.

"

Bollocks! What I wrote is in the frggin middle lol

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

I went through a test phase of responding to every message I got, at least a quarter gave me a sarcastic comment or abuse. Usually along the lines of 'I wouldn't shag you anyway you fat slag'. So, now I just delete.

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By *issAphroditeWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

Here we go again. Try being a woman who politely says "No thank you", only to be asked why, hounded and abused. Sometimes (often) it's easier to avoid all that by just deleting.

Nobody owes you anything.

As for reading profiles, the amount of men who claim they have but actually haven't is unreal. Mine clearly states no reply means no thanks but still they keep harassing until they're blocked. They also ignore my preferences for age and martial status.

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By * Plus ECouple
over a year ago

The South

Where's the OP, why's he not replied to my question? ^^^^

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When you joined you should have had an email telling you the dos and donts?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Here we go again. Try being a woman who politely says "No thank you", only to be asked why, hounded and abused. Sometimes (often) it's easier to avoid all that by just deleting.

Nobody owes you anything.

As for reading profiles, the amount of men who claim they have but actually haven't is unreal. Mine clearly states no reply means no thanks but still they keep harassing until they're blocked. They also ignore my preferences for age and martial status."

Do you think there are 2 types of people on fab? On the odd occasion I've searched profiles i don't think I've seen the people in search on the forums....

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By *issAphroditeWoman
over a year ago

Norwich


"Here we go again. Try being a woman who politely says "No thank you", only to be asked why, hounded and abused. Sometimes (often) it's easier to avoid all that by just deleting.

Nobody owes you anything.

As for reading profiles, the amount of men who claim they have but actually haven't is unreal. Mine clearly states no reply means no thanks but still they keep harassing until they're blocked. They also ignore my preferences for age and martial status.

Do you think there are 2 types of people on fab? On the odd occasion I've searched profiles i don't think I've seen the people in search on the forums...."

What do you mean?

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Here we go again. Try being a woman who politely says "No thank you", only to be asked why, hounded and abused. Sometimes (often) it's easier to avoid all that by just deleting.

Nobody owes you anything.

As for reading profiles, the amount of men who claim they have but actually haven't is unreal. Mine clearly states no reply means no thanks but still they keep harassing until they're blocked. They also ignore my preferences for age and martial status.

Do you think there are 2 types of people on fab? On the odd occasion I've searched profiles i don't think I've seen the people in search on the forums....

What do you mean?"

There are people here just for the forums who probably understand the messages more than people who don't use the forums and just search and send messages?

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By *lassy_but_sassyWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham

It's honestly hard as a woman on here, I'm not saying this in a moaning way and I know full well every single woman gets inundated, guys have told me that they will message anyone that's female to try their luck, but when you get 1600+ messages in less than 12hrs it's crazy trying to get through them, especially when you have a life, in my case a child who takes priority!

I try my best to reply to as many people as possible, I'm polite and kind to everyone and I really do try my best but it's physically impossible to respond to everyone.

I'd just say to everyone please don't take it personally if you don't get a reply.

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By *inkylipsWoman
over a year ago

Debauchery

Oh this age old thread, seriously I can’t reply to every message it’s impossible, I don’t have the time. I’m so fed up of trying to explain this, if this makes me ignorant then so be it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh this age old thread, seriously I can’t reply to every message it’s impossible, I don’t have the time. I’m so fed up of trying to explain this, if this makes me ignorant then so be it. "

The worse thing is your telling people this on a thread where 99% of guys understand....its the non forum users who don't get it...

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By *inkylipsWoman
over a year ago

Debauchery


"Oh this age old thread, seriously I can’t reply to every message it’s impossible, I don’t have the time. I’m so fed up of trying to explain this, if this makes me ignorant then so be it.

The worse thing is your telling people this on a thread where 99% of guys understand....its the non forum users who don't get it..."

Well if at least the OP is made to understand then my rant was worth it

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By *iamond coupleCouple
over a year ago

leeds

If the person messaging hasn’t read our profile and is outside our age range, we delete but answer all others

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By *olden RatioWoman
over a year ago

Buckinghamshire

I have a question for the OP... why haven't you responded to every poster on this thread?

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By *inkylipsWoman
over a year ago

Debauchery


"I have a question for the OP... why haven't you responded to every poster on this thread? "

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire


"I have a question for the OP... why haven't you responded to every poster on this thread? "

Because that would be a waste of his time, to reply to people he’s not interested in …oh wait

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh this age old thread, seriously I can’t reply to every message it’s impossible, I don’t have the time. I’m so fed up of trying to explain this, if this makes me ignorant then so be it.

The worse thing is your telling people this on a thread where 99% of guys understand....its the non forum users who don't get it...

Well if at least the OP is made to understand then my rant was worth it "

I doubt he has

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By *iss pleasuringWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere near


"There was a profile I was looking at yesterday and she had a screenshot of her fab profile. She had over 3,500 messages waiting to be read. I know its frustrating, but its just the way it goes on here.

How does a person have 3.5K messages??? is every single filter off? I blocked single men and message guys first. Saves having to send thanks but no thanks messages or my filters being affected on the times i do unblock single guys. Are there really too many men on fab or not enough ladies? Its tough for genuine guys.

They need validation that's why they do not apply filters

I don't have my filters very tight because I speak to forum folk and play the odd forum game....not coz I need validation. My levels of shit giving for people wanting to shag me are null and void.

I never implied you needed validation.

"

3.5k messages . If not gonna reply to any shame she can't turn off messages

I mostly reply if just for banter shits n giggles

A minority will get different attention

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There was a profile I was looking at yesterday and she had a screenshot of her fab profile. She had over 3,500 messages waiting to be read. I know its frustrating, but its just the way it goes on here.

This is a great idea. I might do this myself

Me too!

Off topic but welcome to the site/forums.

By eck lass you’re pretty

Aw thank you so much! I have been here before but my Dad passed away so took some time away from a lot of things actually.

But thank you, it’s good to be back!

I'm very sorry for your loss hun that must be hard. Wishing you and those that knew your dad the strength to cope xxx"

Thank you so much!

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

They just don't like you, not interested, it doesn't matter, onto the next, big man.

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By *asycouple1971Couple
over a year ago

midlands

If we get a read and no reply or delete we just block them. Saves us from seeing their profile on searchs again.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"There is an odd phenomenon on this site.

When you say “no”, it somehow gets translated into, “talk to me more”.

I pretty much had a row with one guy about why he shouldn't have messaged, after actually reading my profile... He took it as bloody banter, that we were getting on and would I still meet him!!! Wtf?!

It's even odder when they're capable of messaging but not taking 30 seconds to read the profile which will clearly show them not to message in the first place.

Bollocks! What I wrote is in the frggin middle lol"

Perhaps that’s what happens, the site puts something in the middle.

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By *rsTrellisWoman
over a year ago

Cambridge

I’ll tell you what OP, why don’t you write an individual reply to each person in this thread.

After all, they’ve been polite to you. Why haven’t you replied to each and every one of them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There was a profile I was looking at yesterday and she had a screenshot of her fab profile. She had over 3,500 messages waiting to be read. I know its frustrating, but its just the way it goes on here."

Exactly, my inbox has over 2700 messages that needs to be read, I kinda scroll through, if something catches my eye like a good pic or a good line then I’ll open if not I don’t. If I had to reply to every single person even as no sorry. It’d become a full time job lol

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By *ecky and justCouple
over a year ago

Godalming

We have filters on so don’t get too many messages.

Of the ones we get, we’ll answer the more considered and intelligent ones, even if it’s just a ‘no thanks’

The one liners or rude messages just get deleted.

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