FabSwingers.com forum: " make an exception"

By *litterbabe OP Woman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

I only meet in clubs and venues, and only by chance, unless I know somebody really well in person.

I just go along to events and mingle.

I do get quite a few messages from guys, once I have explained this, telling me that I should make an exception for them.

Do you think that is entitled of them to feel I should change what I'm comfortable with and works for me, or do you think it's fair enough that they are chancing their arm?

Sometimes it can grate just a little, as I know what I'm comfortable with and I feel that should be respected.

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By *oner HornCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Of it's not acceptable, your choice is your choice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I only meet in clubs and venues, and only by chance, unless I know somebody really well in person.

I just go along to events and mingle.

I do get quite a few messages from guys, once I have explained this, telling me that I should make an exception for them.

Do you think that is entitled of them to feel I should change what I'm comfortable with and works for me, or do you think it's fair enough that they are chancing their arm?

Sometimes it can grate just a little, as I know what I'm comfortable with and I feel that should be respected."

No no and thrice no

If you don’t want to no man should say that you should break your rules.

Men should respect your choice.

If they really want to meet you then off to a club I say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No it's not acceptable. If they already know you and you're friends, the offer of something different would be fine. From a total stranger it's disrespectful and entitled. They don't care about you, they only care about what they want.

It's always a definite no from me.

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By *litterbabe OP Woman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

Thank you for the replies, your opinion is appreciated and I'm glad that it's justified to feel like I do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only do what’s right for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never understand why guys try and persuade others to meet despite it clearly stating in your profile what you're looking for. I used to get quite a few messages from guys (before I realised you could block them) asking me for oral or to pop round for a quick no penetration play. Even after saying no they would suggest things like playing in a dark room so I wouldn't know it was another guy I was playing with etc.

Some folk are bonkers.

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By *iss LovelyWoman
over a year ago

Here and There

It’s not ok and shows a clear lack of respect for your boundaries.

I meet like you do, in clubs only and I get the same messages. These men really do fancy themselves a cut above the rest. News flash - they’re not

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By *onochrome2Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

"I only meet in clubs and venues, and only by chance, unless I know somebody really well in person.

I just go along to events and mingle.

I do get quite a few messages from guys, once I have explained this, telling me that I should make an exception for them.

Do you think that is entitled of them to feel I should change what I'm comfortable with and works for me, or do you think it's fair enough that they are chancing their arm?

Sometimes it can grate just a little, as I know what I'm comfortable with and I feel that should be respected."

They are definitely entitled. It’s disrespectful! All they care about it getting their end away.

If a guy was really interested, he would follow your rules as he would want you to feel comfortable.

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By *host63Man
over a year ago

Bedfont Feltham

Nope you Stated your preferred method to meet.

They should accept it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only do what you want.

Do something someone else's way you take your life with your hands

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I only meet in clubs and venues, and only by chance, unless I know somebody really well in person.

I just go along to events and mingle.

I do get quite a few messages from guys, once I have explained this, telling me that I should make an exception for them.

Do you think that is entitled of them to feel I should change what I'm comfortable with and works for me, or do you think it's fair enough that they are chancing their arm?

Sometimes it can grate just a little, as I know what I'm comfortable with and I feel that should be respected.

They are definitely entitled. It’s disrespectful! All they care about it getting their end away.

If a guy was really interested, he would follow your rules as he would want you to feel comfortable."

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By *uckslut and MCouple
over a year ago

Poole

"No it's not acceptable. If they already know you and you're friends, the offer of something different would be fine. From a total stranger it's disrespectful and entitled. They don't care about you, they only care about what they want.

It's always a definite no from me."

Had a right old giggle at your profile pic! Thank you it was much needed.

And Op, it's your body your choice. No it's not acceptible, for them to surjest it. We get offers every day to meet. I feel bad saying no. But we have a normal life, have to earn to pay bills. We don't make acceptions.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

There are always exceptions to rules. It's your perogative to apply those rules and exceptions as you see fit. If the vibe is there, you'll bend your rules, it's not for anyone to tell you to - and if they feel they need to, then maybe the vibe isn't there and they're lazily chancing their arm.

I never flex if I'm told I should - it puts me right off

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By *riving_Home_For_MimiWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

They should respect your boundaries.

I get this all the time with regards to distance and other preferences.

"Just thought I'd take a; chance"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you won't meet and it's clear on your profile then block them from messaging you in the first place then you'll not be put in that position

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People will always try their luck and think your boundaries dont apply to them. I laugh at these people and carry on about my merry way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe I need someone to take me to a club.

I dunno

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By *uitednbooted2Man
over a year ago

Berkshire

"I only meet in clubs and venues, and only by chance, unless I know somebody really well in person.

I just go along to events and mingle.

I do get quite a few messages from guys, once I have explained this, telling me that I should make an exception for them.

Do you think that is entitled of them to feel I should change what I'm comfortable with and works for me, or do you think it's fair enough that they are chancing their arm?

Sometimes it can grate just a little, as I know what I'm comfortable with and I feel that should be respected."

Well OP I’ve been on fab a long time like you and always watched your profile. Tbh I’m surprised at the post because my impression is you do what’s right for you and always have done and a few guys challenging that I assumed would be like water off a ducks back !!!

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By *aughtycp1Couple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

Any guy that says MAKE AN EXCEPTION gets blocked instantly

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By *etwifeandhim69Couple
over a year ago

Darlington

There's always someone who thinks you'll make an exception and lets be honest, sometimes people do.

I'm not talking about on here, just life in general. It's like saying "I don't let people cut in front of me in ques" but I'll make an exception at the checkout for the person behind me who has one item.

I don't think it's entitled to ask per se as everyone's out to serve their own self interests at the end of the day. That's just human nature.

I do however think it's a bit rude, especially if you are very clear about it on your profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I only meet in clubs and venues, and only by chance, unless I know somebody really well in person.

I just go along to events and mingle.

I do get quite a few messages from guys, once I have explained this, telling me that I should make an exception for them.

Do you think that is entitled of them to feel I should change what I'm comfortable with and works for me, or do you think it's fair enough that they are chancing their arm?

Sometimes it can grate just a little, as I know what I'm comfortable with and I feel that should be respected."

Do they really tell you that you should, or that do they suggest that you perhaps could?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldnt ask someone I hardly know to make an exception for me.

#emotional intelligence

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