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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I've noticed that on here bigger/chunky men seem to get passed by alot or insulted. From what it seems, is BBW /SSBBW are widely accepted (except for small minded idiots, who feel the need to insult) but a male on the larger side, like myself is continually bypassed.

Why is there an off put, or a need to insult us bigger/chunky males?

And are there really any lovers of Big males out there?

The other thing I've noticed is single males, who claim to be straight are the ones messaging us single big guys. What's all that about?

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By *ondonerMan
over a year ago

London / Essex borders

I'd say there are two simplistic answers

The couples/ female / male ratios on here make it a 'buyers market' - as such women or cpls have the luxury to choose their exact ideal partner.

I'm sure there are those who are looking for a bigger build, but maybe not in the volume looking for an addonis lol

As for straight guys messaging bi guys, they so seem tomessage other straight guys - it's a case of the classic 'Fab straight' - not wanting to mark themselves as Bi in a way so they aren't excluded by those fem / cpl profiles who say 'no bi guys'..

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By *landfordfabbersCouple
over a year ago

Blandford ish

Read our profile it actually says we want bigger chunky guys, we often get slim guys put out by it! Lol I guess it works both ways

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know a guy who is big but he’s never had trouble, however he got himself out there, known on the club scene etc.

I know lot of girls that like bigger guys

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I know a guy who is big but he’s never had trouble, however he got himself out there, known on the club scene etc.

I know lot of girls that like bigger guys "

See I'm quite a confident guy in day to day life. Even though I'm a big chap, I always look and smell good and I'm sure there are many other big guys who are the same.

However I've never ever been to a club as I'm a single guy and I've always thought that I don't know it's a little daunting.

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

Hi, I've experienced things as a single guy on the Fab and Club scene before I met Mrs Misfit. Fab can be difficult for all men. I'm fairly robustly built myself but you need to understand a big part of people being attracted to you is loving yourself and owning your body. We can't be everyone's cup of tea, no one on fab is. But in my experience people fancying you as a human first (even on a site for NSA) is important. Which makes sense because my attraction to someone else tends to grow based on how I find them as a person. So the way I see it is:

Own your body and love it.

Concentrate on being the best person you can be when you interact.

Ignor the haters. The Internet is full of them and they hate on everyone regardless of body type.

Be realistic of your expectations of Fab, its a harsh world for all single men regardless of body type.

Don't hold yourself back. If you want to try a club, do. Life's too short. I know it's hard to make that first step through the door, it was for me. But the only way to do a thing is to do it. One I went once I never looked back. Plus it really helps as a single guy once you get a bit known on the scene rather than just being another Internet profile. There's loads of help on the forums about going to club for the first time.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hi, I've experienced things as a single guy on the Fab and Club scene before I met Mrs Misfit. Fab can be difficult for all men. I'm fairly robustly built myself but you need to understand a big part of people being attracted to you is loving yourself and owning your body. We can't be everyone's cup of tea, no one on fab is. But in my experience people fancying you as a human first (even on a site for NSA) is important. Which makes sense because my attraction to someone else tends to grow based on how I find them as a person. So the way I see it is:

Own your body and love it.

Concentrate on being the best person you can be when you interact.

Ignor the haters. The Internet is full of them and they hate on everyone regardless of body type.

Be realistic of your expectations of Fab, its a harsh world for all single men regardless of body type.

Don't hold yourself back. If you want to try a club, do. Life's too short. I know it's hard to make that first step through the door, it was for me. But the only way to do a thing is to do it. One I went once I never looked back. Plus it really helps as a single guy once you get a bit known on the scene rather than just being another Internet profile. There's loads of help on the forums about going to club for the first time."

Thank you, thats really appreciated you taking the time to write that. I may have to give these clubs a try then. I suppose in for a penny and all that.

Xtasia is one alot of people talk about, I may have to have a look.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

some wwill some wont

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By *urulovesnylonMan
over a year ago

Harrow

It’s been pretty mixed for me on fab and AFF but hey keep trying until the clubs open I suppose

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It’s been pretty mixed for me on fab and AFF but hey keep trying until the clubs open I suppose "

Well like I said in a post previous I feel that going to a club, as a single Male can be a little nerve wracking, especially if your new to it. But I'm open to the possibility.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Read our profile it actually says we want bigger chunky guys, we often get slim guys put out by it! Lol I guess it works both ways "

love this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i married a bigger guy ive been with plenty of bigger guys but i still have to like them its not just a case of bigger guys i find most bigger guys have beards insant turn off for me so its about the whole package that gets meets not oh let find a bigger guy there more to guys than body size

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"i married a bigger guy ive been with plenty of bigger guys but i still have to like them its not just a case of bigger guys i find most bigger guys have beards insant turn off for me so its about the whole package that gets meets not oh let find a bigger guy there more to guys than body size"

I agree there's more to bigger guys then just body. But on a majority of occasions, well bigger guys seem less desired

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try being fat AND short AND over 50

You got it good atm OP

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By *olex99Man
over a year ago

Hull

Chunky guy here

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By *ifeandhubby400Couple
over a year ago

Arse hole of nowhere ,Scotland

Not sure if it's the same but I'm amazed at the bi guys who prefer the bigger guys which is handy as my hubby is big ,there is someone for everyone on here as in life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People are only passed by if someone is not attracted to them... Your body type, facial features, height, hairyness, cock size and any or all other physical traits may or may not be part of that attraction but to only put it on your size is not correct... I am attracted to faces and attitudes... I used to meet a guy that was 6'3" and almost as wide but he was a lovely man and had what I considered, a gorgeous face, which meant I found all of him gorgeous, so men larger than average are not passed by.... Attraction is key and something none of us can do anything about, whether we are the messager or the messaged... Try not to sweat it, it's nothing personal,apart from to the other person

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"People are only passed by if someone is not attracted to them... Your body type, facial features, height, hairyness, cock size and any or all other physical traits may or may not be part of that attraction but to only put it on your size is not correct... I am attracted to faces and attitudes... I used to meet a guy that was 6'3" and almost as wide but he was a lovely man and had what I considered, a gorgeous face, which meant I found all of him gorgeous, so men larger than average are not passed by.... Attraction is key and something none of us can do anything about, whether we are the messager or the messaged... Try not to sweat it, it's nothing personal,apart from to the other person "

I don't really sweat it. I am who I am, that's the way I see it. Although I smdont think I should of said passed by. Maybe I should of said less desired.

But like you said, everyone has a preference.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Curvier chunkier guy here

Good to see so many people still appreciate curvy guys x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Curvier chunkier guy here

Good to see so many people still appreciate curvy guys x"

I tell you something mate. It really is good to see isn't it. Its great that posting in a forum like this opens bigger men up to a wider audience.

Not just that though, it's fantastic to see the positivity towards us.

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By *orsetDaddyAndPrincessCouple
over a year ago

Ferndown

We have on our profile that we prefer bigger guys. Everyone has their preferences I guess x

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By *arakiss12TV/TS
over a year ago

Bedford

love big bellied guys

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By *akeyFunTimesCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Mexborough

I agree. Love a bigger guy but beards just don’t do it for me - Layla

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By *arakiss12TV/TS
over a year ago

Bedford

I`m not keen on beards too.

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By *HAKERMAKER73Man
over a year ago

Essex / London

Im happy to have shave

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Im happy to have shave "

Fair play mate.

I like my beard though. Haha if I shaved mine, I'd see my double chin.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi, I've experienced things as a single guy on the Fab and Club scene before I met Mrs Misfit. Fab can be difficult for all men. I'm fairly robustly built myself but you need to understand a big part of people being attracted to you is loving yourself and owning your body. We can't be everyone's cup of tea, no one on fab is. But in my experience people fancying you as a human first (even on a site for NSA) is important. Which makes sense because my attraction to someone else tends to grow based on how I find them as a person. So the way I see it is:

Own your body and love it.

Concentrate on being the best person you can be when you interact.

Ignor the haters. The Internet is full of them and they hate on everyone regardless of body type.

Be realistic of your expectations of Fab, its a harsh world for all single men regardless of body type.

Don't hold yourself back. If you want to try a club, do. Life's too short. I know it's hard to make that first step through the door, it was for me. But the only way to do a thing is to do it. One I went once I never looked back. Plus it really helps as a single guy once you get a bit known on the scene rather than just being another Internet profile. There's loads of help on the forums about going to club for the first time.

Thank you, thats really appreciated you taking the time to write that. I may have to give these clubs a try then. I suppose in for a penny and all that.

Xtasia is one alot of people talk about, I may have to have a look. "

Xtasia will be a good club to try at present as its only open for socials so u can sit and talk to people in a relaxed environment and no one judges u there

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By *rueone71Man
over a year ago

Hiding in the Barnes

Not easy..but don’t give up..my age don’t help either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a bigger chunky guy but helps sometimes that i used to play rugby aswell as big chunky I got big thighs and shoulders but life hasn't been best on the wasteline and feel I don't get much interest.....any ladies in Yorkshire ???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a bigger chunky guy but helps sometimes that i used to play rugby aswell as big chunky I got big thighs and shoulders but life hasn't been best on the wasteline and feel I don't get much interest.....any ladies in Yorkshire ??? "

thats because your married id guess

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By *adetMan
over a year ago

South of Ipswich

I much prefer stocky/chunky guys

Slim doesn't do a lot for me

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hi, I've experienced things as a single guy on the Fab and Club scene before I met Mrs Misfit. Fab can be difficult for all men. I'm fairly robustly built myself but you need to understand a big part of people being attracted to you is loving yourself and owning your body. We can't be everyone's cup of tea, no one on fab is. But in my experience people fancying you as a human first (even on a site for NSA) is important. Which makes sense because my attraction to someone else tends to grow based on how I find them as a person. So the way I see it is:

Own your body and love it.

Concentrate on being the best person you can be when you interact.

Ignor the haters. The Internet is full of them and they hate on everyone regardless of body type.

Be realistic of your expectations of Fab, its a harsh world for all single men regardless of body type.

Don't hold yourself back. If you want to try a club, do. Life's too short. I know it's hard to make that first step through the door, it was for me. But the only way to do a thing is to do it. One I went once I never looked back. Plus it really helps as a single guy once you get a bit known on the scene rather than just being another Internet profile. There's loads of help on the forums about going to club for the first time.

Thank you, thats really appreciated you taking the time to write that. I may have to give these clubs a try then. I suppose in for a penny and all that.

Xtasia is one alot of people talk about, I may have to have a look.

Xtasia will be a good club to try at present as its only open for socials so u can sit and talk to people in a relaxed environment and no one judges u there "

Yeah I definitely think within the next few weeks, I may.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a bigger chunky guy but helps sometimes that i used to play rugby aswell as big chunky I got big thighs and shoulders but life hasn't been best on the wasteline and feel I don't get much interest.....any ladies in Yorkshire ???

thats because your married id guess "

Is that's what's against me ?

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By *hybuthornydanMan
over a year ago

grays

im a chunker guy and im still looking so see if anyone is intersted

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"im a chunker guy and im still looking so see if anyone is intersted"

I think we all are mate.

Mind you it's good to see the positivity for us bigger guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't look at body size / shape personally. It's personality that matters to me. Treat me or others like a dick and I won't find someone attractive no matter their size.

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By *ralextacyMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

Have wondered who might be interested in my physique...?

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By *adetMan
over a year ago

South of Ipswich


"Have wondered who might be interested in my physique...?"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don't look at body size / shape personally. It's personality that matters to me. Treat me or others like a dick and I won't find someone attractive no matter their size. "

Spot on. Unfortunately others don't adopt that attitude.

I mean each to there own, you c can't force somebody to change there preferences, if would just be nice if bigger guys were more of a preference and I suppose highlighted a bit more on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im in the no mans land between avg and chunky lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Im in the no mans land between avg and chunky lol"

So I think that's classed as dad bod.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im in the no mans land between avg and chunky lol

So I think that's classed as dad bod. "

Yes perfect description, although trying to lose a few lbs atm

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Im in the no mans land between avg and chunky lol

So I think that's classed as dad bod.

Yes perfect description, although trying to lose a few lbs atm"

As long as you do it for yourself and your comfortable, that's the main thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im in the no mans land between avg and chunky lol

So I think that's classed as dad bod.

Yes perfect description, although trying to lose a few lbs atm

As long as you do it for yourself and your comfortable, that's the main thing. "

Definately, for my health, cut dowm on drinking had helped

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By *romsgrove1Man
over a year ago

bromsgrove

Bigger guy here and i have to agree i do think bhm are a small niche for women generally especially somewhere like Fab.

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By *arakiss12TV/TS
over a year ago

Bedford

A friend of mine never looked at chubby guys, had an experience with a fella and was converted. She loved riding him.

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By *ave1976XXXMan
over a year ago

newmarket

I’m a bigger chunkier guy. Not shy about my body.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m a chunky guy and struggle to meet woman on here. But as has been said, it’s more to do with the ridiculous male/female ratio on here as opposed to all woman disliking bigger guys, just keep trying OP, sure you will get noticed and appreciated if you stay active on the forums

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’m a chunky guy and struggle to meet woman on here. But as has been said, it’s more to do with the ridiculous male/female ratio on here as opposed to all woman disliking bigger guys, just keep trying OP, sure you will get noticed and appreciated if you stay active on the forums "

It seems as if us big guys are still in demand .

I think sometimes, we don't see interesting as the updates part is only our local catchment area of updates. The only way you see more is doing an advanced search.

So it's good to see a post that attracts the people who enjoy bigger males.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never give up! Us chunky guys are have one advantage!

We have food always ready and near by!

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By *arakiss12TV/TS
over a year ago

Bedford


"Never give up! Us chunky guys are have one advantage!

We have food always ready and near by! "

mmm full fridge, full belly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hubby here I'm a chunky guy and I think alot of the issue is the sheer volume of men to women on this site is huge and when you see that alot of meets on here are from initial 1st time reactions most people go for the 6pac and biceps instead of the extra padding I don't take it personal I'm an extremely lucky guy being part of a hotwife couple it's just blatantly obvious the Mrs gets much more attention than I do it's the way it is lol luckily I enjoy the attention she gets

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hubby here I'm a chunky guy and I think alot of the issue is the sheer volume of men to women on this site is huge and when you see that alot of meets on here are from initial 1st time reactions most people go for the 6pac and biceps instead of the extra padding I don't take it personal I'm an extremely lucky guy being part of a hotwife couple it's just blatantly obvious the Mrs gets much more attention than I do it's the way it is lol luckily I enjoy the attention she gets "

100% agree.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Chunky monkey here. Carrying a bit of extra timber but also probably fitter than most slim people. I love my food and I love my exercise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You say that....but then alot of the videos posted by some very hot women often seem have chunky/overweight guys in... certainly in gangbangs it appears..maybe thats just in my experience or bad timing when having a perv!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You say that....but then alot of the videos posted by some very hot women often seem have chunky/overweight guys in... certainly in gangbangs it appears..maybe thats just in my experience or bad timing when having a perv! "

Can't say I've seen many pal. But I know there about.

Us chunky guys, what csn I say, we're unique.

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By *romsgrove1Man
over a year ago

bromsgrove


"You say that....but then alot of the videos posted by some very hot women often seem have chunky/overweight guys in... certainly in gangbangs it appears..maybe thats just in my experience or bad timing when having a perv!

Can't say I've seen many pal. But I know there about.

Us chunky guys, what csn I say, we're unique. "

If there are girls after chunky guys for gangbangs maybe we should offer a service with the guys here lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You say that....but then alot of the videos posted by some very hot women often seem have chunky/overweight guys in... certainly in gangbangs it appears..maybe thats just in my experience or bad timing when having a perv!

.

Can't say I've seen many pal. But I know there about.

Us chunky guys, what csn I say, we're unique.

If there are girls after chunky guys for gangbangs maybe we should offer a service with the guys here lol"

That's a bloody good idea.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

It's good to see alot of body positivity on this thread.

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