FabSwingers.com forum: Falling in love with your fwb

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

How many of you have fallen in love with a fwb ?

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By *esplease!xMan
over a year ago

corfe mullen

Twice in 20 years, seems to happen without noticing, neither ended well, mainly me fault!

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By *exycouple68Couple
over a year ago

herefordshire

I married mine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Luckily for them, no... It will never happen... I love both, live with one but am incapable of any more than being their friend and lover and for me, being in love is much more

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

The feelings themselves aren’t the problem , I love most my friends even the guys, it’s what you do with them or rather what you don’t do like making stupid decisions and acting like a teenager

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *hrough the looking gla55Couple
over a year ago

Epsom

"I married mine "

Ditto

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By *urora1912Woman
over a year ago

Norfolk East anglia

I did, so I walked away and broke my heart in the process

He no longer speaks to me

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I know that, I feel like a love sick kid.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

impossible for me.

i closed that avenue off

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By *heekyFlirtyCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Stockport

I married mine

not that we were fwb for long. Think it was only 12 weeks from our first sexual encounter to moving in together!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me, and it was mutual, though I can’t say it was a FWB situation, more a love affair, met her from Fab, lasted for 4years, it was doomed from the start as we lived 150 miles apart and both married. I still think and dream of her even though we haven’t seen or corresponded for 5 years

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By *etwifeandhim69Couple
over a year ago

Darlington

"How many of you have fallen in love with a fwb ? "

We know someone who did and they're a very happy couple now.

So it certainky happens.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As others have mentioned, happened over a period of time and when realised its difficult to stop. Didn't end well if I'm honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Deep feelings ....yes

Falling in love....... never

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By *oudLoutishLoverWoman
over a year ago

Colchester

Absolutely. I fall in love with all mine. Good taste, I guess?

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By *rya MyneWoman
over a year ago

Sheffield

"Me, and it was mutual, though I can’t say it was a FWB situation, more a love affair, met her from Fab, lasted for 4years, it was doomed from the start as we lived 150 miles apart and both married. I still think and dream of her even though we haven’t seen or corresponded for 5 years

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By *lirty and funMan
over a year ago

Redditch

"Deep feelings ....yes

Falling in love....... never

True this.

Shame I can't message you... Just a fraction too old! Lol x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

With this lady yes, as she is perfection in my eyes.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

I enter in to D/s relationships.

You have no choice but to fall in love, otherwise it wouldn’t work.

You have to cognitively recognise domestic life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never but had to shut down some regulars who could not stick to the clear lines

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I married mine "

Lucky Ye

I was beginning to `fall` for a fwbs...& It hit me totally out of the blue...I actually felt like a love sick teenager... Truth...

Actually I had fallen for him big time after a long wkend spent with him...even though I had met him many times without these strong feelings. When I returned home I woke up the following morning missing him terribly

I had to make the difficult decision to never see him again

He still contacts me & still asks to meet. I never told him I fell for him, nor will I ever...

If the age gap wasn't so big I probably would have met him again...what I mean by saying this is I knew if a relationship was to form...it wouldn't last as who wants to spend a life with someone who is 20yrs older...I'd be traded in for a much younger new model

...So I was actually protecting myself from heart ache by never meeting him again

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By *ssexPolyGentMan
over a year ago

southend

Yup the times now lol one was an 8 year relationship that ended last year during the 8 years I fell for my first meta who I was with for two years, I'm polyamorous so yeah they knew about each other as my nesting partner was dating her husband at the same time, and the third my current meta who I am dating now.

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By *uyfrombristolMan
over a year ago

Bristol

Yes, and it was reciprocal, but she wasn't single and it broke my heart (very recently). I knew it would happen, but it hurt all the same. That said, I wouldn't have denied myself a year of happiness. I'm just worried I won't find anything similar again...

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Had close encounter of the thought but it needs to be a two way thing so switched off and respectful of the pleasurable aspects that were still to be enjoyed pointless making this feel uncomfortable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My ex was a fwb to start. We were together 16yrs from age 17 to 33, and have one child! He's still my best friend and I'll always love him, just not in love with him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I married mine

Lucky Ye

I was beginning to `fall` for a fwbs...& It hit me totally out of the blue...I actually felt like a love sick teenager... Truth...

I had to make the difficult decision to never see him again

He still contacts me & still asks to meet. I never told him I fell for him, nor will I ever...

...So I was actually protecting myself from heart ache by never meeting him again"

Aww I'm really sorry to hear that, but that's not always the way it goes, some guys stay very happily with older women. My parents are a case in point!

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By *issysbee69Woman
over a year ago

Brandenburg

Met him on Date Hookup and we've been Married for Almost 8 years (and then I will say that I think he is to the sex of the relationship and it is changing and not in a good way

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By *assunach and CuimreachCouple
over a year ago

Wiltshire

I’m polyamorous. I do get the feels sometimes (but not always sometimes it’s also just fucking) and sometimes they do too and that’s okay because I’ve accepted that it’s possible to live multiple people, just like you can have multiple friends. They don’t always feel the same way and that’s okay too. Ultimately, I just want my lovers to enjoy my company and live their best most fulfilling lives. If I get a slice of that then I’m blessed. Sass

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve never fell in love but a lot of my fwb have with me and gets complicated then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve never fell in love but a lot of my fwb have with me and gets complicated then"

Seems legit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunately yes. Was a turbulent couple of years. He wrote me a letter as well saying how he felt but I soon learnt it was all bullshit or he wouldn’t have hurt me when when I was most vulnerable. I stupidly let him back in where as now I wish I had never met him at all as he completely broke me. I won’t ever let anyone get that close to me again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Unfortunately yes. Was a turbulent couple of years. He wrote me a letter as well saying how he felt but I soon learnt it was all bullshit or he wouldn’t have hurt me when when I was most vulnerable. I stupidly let him back in where as now I wish I had never met him at all as he completely broke me. I won’t ever let anyone get that close to me again

Ouch, sorry to hear

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m here looking for a FWB but I do t want that to happen I’m happy being single so let’s see where the craziness takes me

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By *ssexPolyGentMan
over a year ago

southend

"I’m polyamorous. I do get the feels sometimes (but not always sometimes it’s also just fucking) and sometimes they do too and that’s okay because I’ve accepted that it’s possible to live multiple people, just like you can have multiple friends. They don’t always feel the same way and that’s okay too. Ultimately, I just want my lovers to enjoy my company and live their best most fulfilling lives. If I get a slice of that then I’m blessed. Sass"

Same here

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By *ssexPolyGentMan
over a year ago

southend

"I’m here looking for a FWB but I do t want that to happen I’m happy being single so let’s see where the craziness takes me "

If that's all you want it to be then just make sure you make it clear from the start but be warned the feels can creep up on you out of the blue even if it's not what you wanted at the start lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happily so ... wouldn't be a fwb if I didn't love them! But I love my friends too ... love is absolutely an awesome thing and our lives without it would be terrible!

Think the problem isn't about love per se it's more about how individuals perceive love and theyvgo about loving someone else

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Leeds

"Deep feelings ....yes

Falling in love....... never

I totally get this.

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Leeds

"I married mine

Lucky Ye

I was beginning to `fall` for a fwbs...& It hit me totally out of the blue...I actually felt like a love sick teenager... Truth...

I had to make the difficult decision to never see him again

He still contacts me & still asks to meet. I never told him I fell for him, nor will I ever...

...So I was actually protecting myself from heart ache by never meeting him again"

What a sad story.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, very unexpectedly too.

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By *otwifedundeeWoman
over a year ago

Dundee

Yes I have in past, one I met for 15 months and another one for 7 months. Was never leaving my hubby for them but developed strong feelings.

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Gatwick

Yep, me. We both did and confessed our feelings to each other a few months ago.

Then there was a twist of fate so been hitting the brakes since then... with relative success.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, I’m very good at not letting that happen.

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By *etite_delightWoman
over a year ago

BunnyLand

More like fall in lust! yes , happened few times over the years

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've got a huge soft spot for one of my fwbs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m here looking for a FWB but I do t want that to happen I’m happy being single so let’s see where the craziness takes me

If that's all you want it to be then just make sure you make it clear from the start but be warned the feels can creep up on you out of the blue even if it's not what you wanted at the start lol"

Fair I’ll keep that in mind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wouldn't and would not fall in love with a regular lover but definitely want to have deep feelings each way and hubby encourages me to find this

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By *ranfondoMan
over a year ago

Cambridgeshire

wasn't me with her but her with me....I was really fond of her and all that...but she spent a fair bit of time in my company inc dinners out (probs a mistake doing too many social things) but she wanted to leave hubby and bring all the baggage...in the end she stayed with him but it was complicated...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wouldn't and would not fall in love with a regular lover but definitely want to have deep feelings each way and hubby encourages me to find this

And how could you ensure these deep feelings don't become love?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes & I married him. 17 years almost

Mrs x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes & I married him. 17 years almost

Mrs x"

And I marry mine in just over 4 months.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wouldn't and would not fall in love with a regular lover but definitely want to have deep feelings each way and hubby encourages me to find this

And how could you ensure these deep feelings don't become love?"

Hubby is too special, been together since late teens, family together and he's too good to me! So could never develop to the same way i feel about him, however be nice to have another where we have strong feelings, mutual respect and lust after eachother, i guess be the third in our relationship

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By *r SensualMan
over a year ago

London

I mean yes there’s always some level of feeling towards them, as there’s an emotional and physical connection. Harsh as it may be, I feel that’s why sometimes its good to keep a healthy distance and step back when you sense you’re getting in the feels

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

The FWB stage didn't really happen for long. From the first met we both knew there was something more. After a few more meets we were OK I kind love you and the rest is history. Nice one Fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wouldn't and would not fall in love with a regular lover but definitely want to have deep feelings each way and hubby encourages me to find this

And how could you ensure these deep feelings don't become love?

I reckon you're hoping for something pretty impossible

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wouldn't and would not fall in love with a regular lover but definitely want to have deep feelings each way and hubby encourages me to find this

And how could you ensure these deep feelings don't become love?

I reckon you're hoping for something pretty impossible "

Maybe but that's our ideal situation x

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By *etite_delightWoman
over a year ago

BunnyLand

"Wouldn't and would not fall in love with a regular lover but definitely want to have deep feelings each way and hubby encourages me to find this

And how could you ensure these deep feelings don't become love?

I reckon you're hoping for something pretty impossible "

Love comes in different types and forms and It is possible

I’m also married and I might end up loving someone else too. That doesn’t mean I would want to replace my husband with another! Guessing you have to be open to a poly relationships in mind a bit to make this possible

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wouldn't and would not fall in love with a regular lover but definitely want to have deep feelings each way and hubby encourages me to find this

And how could you ensure these deep feelings don't become love?

I reckon you're hoping for something pretty impossible

Love comes in different types and forms and It is possible

The poster I replied to specifically said she didn't want to and wouldn't fall in love

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, unfortunately! And I don't catch feelings easily!

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By *llNatural36FWoman
over a year ago

Denbighshire

Love being in his arms feeling all safe but don’t love him although I do care for him but not love. We have the right balance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes unfortunately. We were the male female equivalents. Inseparable. Finished sentences, closest friends, confided everything........ She was married to someone else

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, in the throes of being a pair of smitten kittens after seeing each other regularly since summer. Not part of my plan but from first meet I had no barriers up ... it just felt easy and fun and natural.

God knows how it will pan out but we are both single so why not go with the flow.

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By *ilverfoxcharlieMan
over a year ago

Maidstone

This might sound odd but I'd like to. Happily married but we've agreed enm may work for us. So I'd like to find a connection with a fwb with the possibility of it turning to love and a poly relationship one day in the future.

Just need to get anyone to reply to a message so I can start chatting them up though lol

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By *WB 5040Man
over a year ago

Aldridge

Close friends for 15 years, FWB for 14 months and broke my heart. Hurt more than i've ever known then and still does now.....

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By *ilverjagMan
over a year ago

swansea

I don't set out to look for lurve, but if they are smart, and don't crank up the pressure to try and get the whole package, then I'm happy to stay in for the long haul together.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have had a FBW fall in love with me and it's not easy to tell them that you don't feel the same. The first time he said I love was after amazing session so thinking he was on a high ,I did say I love you but I soon learned that was a mistake, as he did love me and really want to be my partner. I liked him but I just didn't love him.

I have learned from my mistake, now I keep things plan and simple , it just sex and that is all xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

had a few over the years tell me they are falling for me .... erm no bye bye i only love one man thats my hubs i have fun with others theres never a emotional connection from me ..not only that they should know from the start that we are unbreckable yet every now and then one tries .... not a chance ever

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