I'll do a short description and a long description as this has been inspired by a recent cuckquean couples thread (and how hard it is to find ladies willing to entertain that sort of dynamic).
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Short Description: Males playing solo with permission of their spouses (on a couples account) upload a video of their partner saying exactly that...that they have permission. A short video of the lady saying the Fab user name and that their spouses are free to play solo in whatever manner they've agreed.
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Long description:
So as many of you will know, there are plenty of cuck couples, hot wives, open relationships etc etc on Fab where the female half of the couple is free to play. Obviously the dynamics change in each situation, but the basic underline is that it's the female half playing with the males consent. Ultimately, this is a widely accepted and common thing on fab with no shortage of men ready to step in and make that fantasy a reality.
But then on the other side of that coin we have the female equivalent. The Cuckquean / Hot husband or whatever you would like to call it situation. Again, there are different dynamics but it's a much less explored and discussed thing and a recent forum thread highlighted the very problems we have had for years with dynamic of our relationship.
Now as much as we are a full swap bi fem swinger couple (and have been for many years), the whole reason we started with our swinger lifestyle was because my wife wanted me to be with another woman. She wanted to know I was in a bed with another woman then coming home to her. It ticks all the right boxes for her. Sometimes she wants to watch, sometimes she wants to join in and have a straight up threesome and sometimes it's something else like not know who I'm with. I don't want to put a specific label or description on our thing as it's not the norm and has no real definition beyond a a vague cuckquean situation.
But our choice of kink has proven to be somewhat problematic and we've never gotten to explore it the way we would have liked to over the years.
Whilst we've had "some" success over the years, we've not had much (or in-fact any) on Fab. The biggest problem (as far as we can tell) is that we constantly run into a wall where we are just not believed. Now we know there are a lot of fantasists and bull shitter's on Fab. There's also a lot of people messing around without their spouses knowledge. That's just a reality of the situation. This in itself no doubt raises a lot of red flags for a lot of ladies. We've been shot down on many first messages where the lady we have approached just doesn't believe us. Couple that with the fact that single male accounts are predominant on Fab and well, it's a problem with no clear solution. There is also, quite frankly, no shortage of single Female accounts (many of whom are on a relationship themselves) that clearly state they wont meet married men, because of the negatives attached or past bad experience's.
In those situations, even an offer of a social meet with both of us just to show we are on the level isn't enough as those ladies wont even take the risk.
Now we don't expect or hope to change anyone's stance. Everyone has every right to meet who they want under whatever terms they want. It's always ladies choice.
But we are, at the end of the day, all on a swinging website. The whole point of which is opening up your relationship and involving others in various ways. There shouldn't be this stigma of dishonesty where there is none.
I know some people might suggest clubs and/or socials and we'd love to use them but due to distance and home life, we can just about manage a couple of trips a year to a club and socials have to be really local for us to attend and they're not that frequent for ones we can attend (to the point we are in the process of working out hosting our own social events).
So out of practicality, my wife thought if she recorded a short message saying our username, date, how we both play solo and how she wants other women to, well you know, it might help some. It's video proof we are being honest. I'm not saying it'll change much but it's all we can think of.
It also crosses our mind it might also legitimately help other couples like ourselves on the site as we all have different things that work for us.
Now we are happy to make and upload a video but we don't want to do it if it comes off as weird or un-needed to ladies or other couples. We don't even know if many ladies get off on our kink but if you don't try, you don't get.
So if you've read this far, thanks for getting through the wall of text and we'd appreciate thoughts and feedback.
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