FabSwingers.com forum: Men Owning Toys between Partners

By *iercedIt OP Man
over a year ago

North West

Bare with me on this... I'm told I'm being a princess (well was actually a bitch but same same for context).

What are you women feelings about guys with a toy collection which are transferable between partners ?

I mean I own a bunch of fetish and kink gear, cuffs, spreaders, paddles, bindings, ropes, etc and I feel find using them between partners but actual sex toys I feel a bit weird.

I'm currently rebuilding my toy chest after I gave loads away and binned loads, and at the point there I'm looking at buying a doxy, a womanizer, etc.

Normally I would buy bullets and small vines which I always left with partners.

I know with proper cleaning, and even a UV steriliser it will be clean but I just can't seem to bite the bullet and drop serious cash on high end toys.

How do you women feel about it ?

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By *iercedIt OP Man
over a year ago

North West

Meh @ spelling apologies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Use condoms on them. I wouldn't trust anyone if they said they'd cleaned it first. No offence to you at all OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would not be OK having an insertable toy used on me that has been used on other women. IMO vibrators, dildos, butt plugs should be a one person thing.

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By *evilandTheBeastCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough and Bedford

Same, use condoms on them, then still clean them in between.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Condoms on wands and insertables.

If a condom is ok for me to use my cock with multiple play partners, its good enough for wands and dildos.

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By *iercedIt OP Man
over a year ago

North West

I'm really on on the no no side.

I have a full collection of cleaning sprays, wipes, etc and I'm going to buy one of the UVC Sterilisers, which is more for my own piece of mind as I clean everything before every use anyway just because it gets dust and stuff in the storage bags, and lube from hands etc so always clean.

Personally IF I go ahead and it's a big if, I would want to clean them before use while the person is there to see I'm taking it seriously more so in the current climate.

Each time I think ok sod it, something stops me.

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

I think I would always bring my own toys, so they only ever get used on me.

I wouldn't want to play intimately with someone else's.

Bit like using someone else's toothbrush... Yuk!

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Seriously no....

If toys were to be used then I would bring my own. If a guy came near me with any he had, they'd be going in him.....not me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Find it a bit yuk tbh. I wouldn’t let them anywhere near me. I’d bring my own

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fetish gear fine/insertables not fine!

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

"I'm really on on the no no side.

Personally IF I go ahead and it's a big if, I would want to clean them before use while the person is there to see I'm taking it seriously more so in the current climate.

Each time I think ok sod it, something stops me. "

Each to their own, but my mouth, hands and genitals present a higher level of risk for the transmission of any nasties than a toy that has been cleaned before and after each use and can use other barriers such as condoms.

Do you make sure you have sterile lube or do you have a generic larger tube/dispenser? Do you wipe that down between each use?

As with everything its about consent. If they want to use their own toys thats great, leas for me to carry.

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By *iercedIt OP Man
over a year ago

North West

I think most people are in the same boat as me. I was assured I was being a princess in the group chat I'm in with about 60% women hahah.

Fair point about Condom usage on those which are capable of that, always have extra strong condoms too.

My current thinking is waterproof toys which can be properly cleaned, which may ease my mind. Honestly we're going to put our tongue / penis / fingers / hands / foot / head (I saw that video :p) in various places, so not 100% sure I'm so torn on this.

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By *iercedIt OP Man
over a year ago

North West

I use a soap based cleaner or alcohol wipe depending on lube type to wipe the bottles down otherwise they end up slick and sticky ewww.

Absolutely Consent, I'll think about it more and probably buy some waterproof, toys which for my peace of mind can cleaned properly and just make it another question asked. Very good point about consent beforehand to avoid the uncomfortable issues at the time.

"Do you make sure you have sterile lube or do you have a generic larger tube/dispenser? Do you wipe that down between each use?

As with everything its about consent. If they want to use their own toys thats great, leas for me to carry.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

agree condoms and a good cleaner but i will not use any ones toys outside of my bedroom whats mine n hubs i know are kept spotlessly clean and used with condoms i cant trust what others do with there toys....

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By *iercedIt OP Man
over a year ago

North West

I sound so Anal about this, but I'm sat here with Sweet Sandalwood Ranapur Leather Conditioner feeding and conditioning my leather bits so

I'm just glad I'm not the only one

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

I'd be a bit weird with any kink toy that may have broken someone else's skin, especially with porous materials. Though I worry about everything and prefer to use my own things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Bare with me on this... I'm told I'm being a princess (well was actually a bitch but same same for context).

What are you women feelings about guys with a toy collection which are transferable between partners ?

I mean I own a bunch of fetish and kink gear, cuffs, spreaders, paddles, bindings, ropes, etc and I feel find using them between partners but actual sex toys I feel a bit weird.

I'm currently rebuilding my toy chest after I gave loads away and binned loads, and at the point there I'm looking at buying a doxy, a womanizer, etc.

Normally I would buy bullets and small vines which I always left with partners.

I know with proper cleaning, and even a UV steriliser it will be clean but I just can't seem to bite the bullet and drop serious cash on high end toys.

How do you women feel about it ?"

I have my own toys and bdsm gear and take it with me in an overnight bag if meeting away from home. I never use anyone else’s and particularly anything that will be inserted.

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By *inkycreamCouple
over a year ago

manchester

Happy with fetish stuff except vampire flogger gloves etc, wands are fine easy clean.

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By *uckslut and MCouple
over a year ago

Poole

Fetish gear should never be shared. It's a big no no in the community. If theres a possibilty of blood on an item. Then no you don't share.

Same gose for vibes ect in my opinion.

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough

"Fetish gear should never be shared. It's a big no no in the community. If theres a possibilty of blood on an item. Then no you don't share.

Same gose for vibes ect in my opinion. "

Or put simply, there's a reason why you don't share toothbrushes.

Try it, just the thought of it, is enough.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

I'd rather bring my own wand, glass dildo etc to be honest. I do understand logically a penis *could* be less sterile but I wouldn't feel comfortable using certain items that other women have used.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I put a condom on my strapons, unless I buy someone something specific

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By *nigmatic_AngelWoman
over a year ago

The place where fairies live

"Bare with me on this... I'm told I'm being a princess (well was actually a bitch but same same for context).

What are you women feelings about guys with a toy collection which are transferable between partners ?

I mean I own a bunch of fetish and kink gear, cuffs, spreaders, paddles, bindings, ropes, etc and I feel find using them between partners but actual sex toys I feel a bit weird.

I'm currently rebuilding my toy chest after I gave loads away and binned loads, and at the point there I'm looking at buying a doxy, a womanizer, etc.

Normally I would buy bullets and small vines which I always left with partners.

I know with proper cleaning, and even a UV steriliser it will be clean but I just can't seem to bite the bullet and drop serious cash on high end toys.

How do you women feel about it ?"

I refuse to use the same toys been used by other partners.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I don't ever use other people's toys it's not the only reason but some of the stuff people use to clean things with gives me a bad reaction.

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