FabSwingers.com forum: Seriously??

By *antingmore72 OP Woman
over a year ago

Hastings

So i joined the site thinking it would be a fun place to chat with like minded people!

So far, just today alone, I have been asked if I would shit on someone, if I've ever thought about being r#*@d, if someone could mark me in a first meet, and if my daughter would join in?!?!

I'm done! I wasn't aware that complaining about behaviour that I could only really describe as virtually deviant, would be completely ignored! And for the haters out there, yes I've complained after blocking these people! (I would use the word MEN but normal men don't talk like that)

I'm all for having a fetish but people like this are making women leave the site, is absolutely vile! I'm officially done!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry your having issues. Some people feel they can get away with anything while hiding behind a keyboard.

Be a shame to see you go, but now all men are like that and there is sometimes someone good around.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So i joined the site thinking it would be a fun place to chat with like minded people!

So far, just today alone, I have been asked if I would shit on someone, if I've ever thought about being r#*@d, if someone could mark me in a first meet, and if my daughter would join in?!?!

I'm all for having a fetish but people like this are making women leave the site, is absolutely vile! I'm officially done!!

Damn that is horrible, I'm sure they're trolls after a reaction. To think I get ignored for saying hello lol

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

I'm very sorry to hear that. That's some really shit messages you have received has and is unacceptable. Not everybody is like that fortunately. I'm sorry it has put you off and I entirely understand your reasoning. Luke

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Jeeze you've been unlucky, I've had the odd strange request but never anything like you've described.... And I don't want any either, just putting that out there lol

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

And then they wonder why there is an unequal ratio of men to women !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So i joined the site thinking it would be a fun place to chat with like minded people!

So far, just today alone, I have been asked if I would shit on someone, if I've ever thought about being r#*@d, if someone could mark me in a first meet, and if my daughter would join in?!?!

I'm all for having a fetish but people like this are making women leave the site, is absolutely vile! I'm officially done!!

Wow.That is quite disgusting and I am sorry you have experienced that. I think the trouble is that these sort of sites will always attract vermin like that who really need to be put away and the key thrown away etc. I think your experiences are more the exception then the rule as I have not came across this before. Ladies will always get the rough edge of the deal I think. Stick with it. Hopefully you will get a better class if person contacting you. All the best

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By *ooking4othersMan
over a year ago

Here ...

We aren't all like that for sure ... di you know how to use filters? Maybe better to restrict who can contact you until you acclimatise to the assholes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's foul that you have had such horrible mail.

I will say that referencing anything BDSM on your profile does..in my experience..bring out the Extreme weirdos.

They think that BDSM equates up for anything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sorry this is happening OP.

ive had abuse in the past and im sure many have on here.

all i can recommend to you is to use the message filters and block men or whatever group is giving you the most trouble.

this will allow you to mail the ones that interest you, and if they turn out to be a wally you can just block them.

only way to stop it. good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's rotten luck, try not to let it out you off though, there are still more good people on here than bad. I've only had vile piss, poo, r@pe type requests a handful of times since I've been on here, amongst literally 10s of thousands of messages. Block and chin up xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So i joined the site thinking it would be a fun place to chat with like minded people!

So far, just today alone, I have been asked if I would shit on someone, if I've ever thought about being r#*@d, if someone could mark me in a first meet, and if my daughter would join in?!?!

I'm all for having a fetish but people like this are making women leave the site, is absolutely vile! I'm officially done!!

Really sorry to read your story. Like others have done above, can I assure you that we aren't all like that. In fact, I don't think most of us are. It's just that a site like this is bound to attract a wide variety of people, not all of whom we would like to meet.

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By * AND R 777Couple
over a year ago

Teesside

We have found blocking new profiles and none verifed profiles can help with this sort of thing,

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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

Why don't you block all men messaging you? It really is that simple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s crap that you’ve been sent so much dross op and I’m sorry to hear that you are planning to leave but maybe a step back and a little rethink would work better for you.

We had the same type of crass messages which did indeed make us leave twice before but we have found the way we approach fab now works so much better for my wife therefore we both enjoy it more.

Best of luck in what ever you decide.

Tony

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By *toC Thats MeWoman
over a year ago

Sheffield

Hi OP. Sorry to hear this, have also been on the receiving end of many bizarre and vile messages. Try and think of the good factors rather than these. I’ve found when it gets like that I either put all my filters on, hide my profile and have a breather or block single men

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By *riving_Home_For_MimiWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Don't let them spoil it for you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And then they wonder why there is an unequal ratio of men to women !"

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By *asycouple1971Couple
over a year ago

midlands

Just block and report them

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

Tighten your filters right up and block and report abuse .of you get an indication that the message is anyway wrong before you even open it delete it unread then block. A lot seem to send messages like that just to get a reaction the more you react the happier they are. They are just trolling Muppets.

Forget the people who act like twats and concentrate on the ones who are what you are looking for.There are plenty of decent men on here as well that far outweigh the others. But if you feel that they have put you off the site then that's a pity.

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By *ollydoesWoman
over a year ago

Shangri-La

You appear to have had a shit run of messages. It can be too much at times. When it has for me I've set all my filters to pretty much block any one from messaging me. That way I'm the one doing the looking and contacting them. Still not fool proof but helps amd gives a break if you need it with out leaving. I find most friends thro the forums anyway. There really are some good ones here. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Speaking as a couple, this is not unusual. It doesn't help that the site owners are faceless, uncontactable by any other means than email and do nothing about these despicable people.

On previous occasions when we have publicly complained about this behaviour, it was us that got a temporary ban - you really couldn't make it up!

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