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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I’ve seen numerous female profiles stating no Bi men yet are Bi themselves, I don’t imagine many men turning down a woman based upon them being Bi? just wondering what the preconception is that a Bi male differs from a straight male when wanting to meet a woman ? Are they considered unmanly? Or dirtier ? Opinions?

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By *westUKguyMan
over a year ago

Southport

I posted a similar post a while ago and got slaughtered for it, yes it seems that way, most women are put off by bi men unless they are already in a bi male relationship,however as you say..if it was the female who was bi would it put guys off..NO is the answer

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By *ooo wet tight hornyWoman
over a year ago

lancashire

Maybe it's to do with society...as it's more accepting of Bi females...or maybe the stigma that still surrounds hiv and it been a disease that mostly affects gay men...all though now it is more wide spread to both sexes. I wouldn't turn down a Bi curious guy, but I'm not turned on by 2 men having full anal sex...I am turned on though at the thought of sharing a fat cock orally with another guy!! Just a thought on this topic!

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By *ickDastardlyMan
over a year ago

North East

It's a preference sure and if a woman/couple won't meet a bi male, cool. Thats for them to decide.

But I often think wheres the guarantee?

We're talking about sexual history. Is there a good chance you've been with a bi man before but he just wasn't open about it.

I dunno.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

I have no problems with bi guys. But then i don't have any race preferences either. My only real preference is intelligence. Good sex starts in the body but great sex starts in the mind.

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By *orkshrCplCouple
over a year ago

Ripon

I think it's hot x

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By *ustustwo.1965Couple
over a year ago

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"I’ve seen numerous female profiles stating no Bi men yet are Bi themselves, I don’t imagine many men turning down a woman based upon them being Bi? just wondering what the preconception is that a Bi male differs from a straight male when wanting to meet a woman ? Are they considered unmanly? Or dirtier ? Opinions? "

Are these women you speak of not allowed a choice?

Does anyone really need to explain their choice??

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By *etwifeandhim69Couple
over a year ago

Darlington

Blunt response here is, people can choose to not meet someone for whatever reason they wish.

You might think its arbitrary but that is only your opinion. At the end if the day it's not up to you to question why, just accept that they wont.

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By *ooo wet tight hornyWoman
over a year ago

lancashire


"It's a preference sure and if a woman/couple won't meet a bi male, cool. Thats for them to decide.

But I often think wheres the guarantee?

We're talking about sexual history. Is there a good chance you've been with a bi man before but he just wasn't open about it.

I dunno.

"

Your right there magic fm...some times the fact is that we don't always know. There is the difference from Bi-curious that won't go the full way but will still play with another guy with limits and then there's bi-sexual...meaning they do go the full way with other guys. I'm some one that doesn't like anal between a female and male it's just not for me.

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By *westUKguyMan
over a year ago

Southport

We are accepting it, it is a forum after all, it was a question put out that is all, of course its peoples choice no one said otherwise, its a debatable topic like most things on this forum

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By * New YorkieMan
over a year ago

Leeds


"Maybe it's to do with society...as it's more accepting of Bi females...or maybe the stigma that still surrounds hiv and it been a disease that mostly affects gay men...all though now it is more wide spread to both sexes. I wouldn't turn down a Bi curious guy, but I'm not turned on by 2 men having full anal sex...I am turned on though at the thought of sharing a fat cock orally with another guy!! Just a thought on this topic! "

Its still a taboo for guys to be bi or curious.. Bi women are very excepted and even encouraged.

I am not int0 any anal but I do enjoy giving oral with females. Very hot and enjoyable, especially if she is getting off to it..

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By *havennaturistsCouple
over a year ago

Banff

As a couple who are both bi, we are contacted by countless 'straight' males on profile, who behind the scenes then say they are bi with experience.

The question is, 'Are women that easily misled by deceitful profiles'?

We don't think so.

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By *etwifeandhim69Couple
over a year ago

Darlington


"

Its still a taboo for guys to be bi or curious.. Bi women are very excepted and even encouraged.

I am not int0 any anal but I do enjoy giving oral with females. Very hot and enjoyable, especially if she is getting off to it.."

Completely disagree.

In this day and age, most people (especially on this site) dont consider being bi "taboo" regardless of gender. T

Like it or not, there is a huge difference between what we accept and who we want to have sex with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

More bi guys for me then!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It doesn't turn me on but doesn't put me off either

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By *ollydoesWoman
over a year ago

Shangri-La

I make it very clear on my profile I'm not after straight guys just bi guys. I don't know why some women have that but then it's up to each person/couple to have what they want in their profile and who they are looking for no matter how odd or strange we may think. Dont spend time on the who wonts but the who wills

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

As long as their practicing safe sex it doesn't make any difference to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn’t meet Bi men. It’s just not for me... I know that some men may lie but there isn’t anything I can do about that and I just have to trust my gut instinct.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’ve seen numerous female profiles stating no Bi men yet are Bi themselves, I don’t imagine many men turning down a woman based upon them being Bi? just wondering what the preconception is that a Bi male differs from a straight male when wanting to meet a woman ? Are they considered unmanly? Or dirtier ? Opinions?

Are these women you speak of not allowed a choice?

Does anyone really need to explain their choice??"

Everyone’s allowed a choice, I’m just interested in why that choice is made.

They don’t have to explain, and no one has to reply to my post if they don’t wish, but sometimes asking gives you an understanding of why

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By *entlemanrogueMan
over a year ago

Glasgow


"I posted a similar post a while ago and got slaughtered for it, yes it seems that way, most women are put off by bi men unless they are already in a bi male relationship,however as you say..if it was the female who was bi would it put guys off..NO is the answer"

This isnt true I personally know at least two men who would not meet a bi woman.

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Considering how many straight men also happen to have a profile on fabguys, you'd be forgiven if you thought people change their profile to whatever they think will improve their chances of a meet...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Blunt response here is, people can choose to not meet someone for whatever reason they wish.

You might think its arbitrary but that is only your opinion. At the end if the day it's not up to you to question why, just accept that they wont.

Well that’s obvious, I’m not saying anyone can’t am I?

I can question whatever I like, and if someone wants to give me some insight or not again they’re free to either way, isn’t this what these forums are for to ask things? Or is it just like a pic of the person above rubbish lol

I fully accept they won’t and I’m not trying to persuade them otherwise

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By *ustustwo.1965Couple
over a year ago

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"I’ve seen numerous female profiles stating no Bi men yet are Bi themselves, I don’t imagine many men turning down a woman based upon them being Bi? just wondering what the preconception is that a Bi male differs from a straight male when wanting to meet a woman ? Are they considered unmanly? Or dirtier ? Opinions?

Are these women you speak of not allowed a choice?

Does anyone really need to explain their choice??

Everyone’s allowed a choice, I’m just interested in why that choice is made.

They don’t have to explain, and no one has to reply to my post if they don’t wish, but sometimes asking gives you an understanding of why "

Fair comment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have no problems with bi guys. But then i don't have any race preferences either. My only real preference is intelligence. Good sex starts in the body but great sex starts in the mind. "

Great point

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By *ony1980Man
over a year ago

bromsgrove

Each to their own.. we are all different and enjoy different experiences. Some women don’t mind, some prefer and some don’t.. Just message the women who prefer or don’t mind bi guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s all about preferences and choice

Some men don’t want a BJ, some only want that

People have preferences to size, shape, height, skin colour, etc

There’s a huge variety of different kinks and sexual preferences too

There’s enough people on fab to cater for everyone’s choices and so long as everyone is treat with respect that is all that matters

No one should be judged for setting out their stall and saying what they are or aren’t looking for

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s all about preferences and choice

Some men don’t want a BJ, some only want that

People have preferences to size, shape, height, skin colour, etc

There’s a huge variety of different kinks and sexual preferences too

There’s enough people on fab to cater for everyone’s choices and so long as everyone is treat with respect that is all that matters

No one should be judged for setting out their stall and saying what they are or aren’t looking for "

Well said x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It’s all about preferences and choice

Some men don’t want a BJ, some only want that

People have preferences to size, shape, height, skin colour, etc

There’s a huge variety of different kinks and sexual preferences too

There’s enough people on fab to cater for everyone’s choices and so long as everyone is treat with respect that is all that matters

No one should be judged for setting out their stall and saying what they are or aren’t looking for "

Your completely right in what you say, and can Assure I’m not judging anybody!!! There’s a lot of weird stuff on here lol

I’m just asking a question in the hope of an honest answer, I’m not after comments lecturing me of free choice

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By *etwifeandhim69Couple
over a year ago

Darlington


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I’m just asking a question in the hope of an honest answer, I’m not after comments lecturing me of free choice "

Is any answer going to be good enough? Free choice IS the answer.

But if you want specifics, I'll happily tell you our reasons for not meeting bi guys.

My wife is the bi one, not me. I'm straight (and contrary to some peoples claims on fab, no, never once thought about anything with a guy ever). My wife gets off on other women but absoultely not two two guys performing sex acts on each. It's a huge turn off for both of us.

So comparing bi women to bi men shouldnt even be in the discussion here. People like what they like.

So a bi guy or bi male play is not something we want in a meet.

But then it goes further. What if the guy is playing straight? Well it's never that simple. Some guys say they'll act like gentlemen on a meet but act the exact opposite when you actually meet them. Some guys say they can go all night but are a two pump engine. In short some guys say a lot of things and in the heat of the moment, some guys might get carried away.

Now I dont ever want to be in a position where another guy is grabbing me or touching me. It's that simple.

I'm well aware that many people are respectful and do stay within the established boundries but when weve had one or two couples get so carried away they've tried to start having sex with us without protection (a huge must for us), I'm not going to put much faith in a bi guy saying he will play straight.

So there you have it. Does nothing for us and we dont want to be in a situation where someone makes a mistake. We are out for our fun and that comes best when we are on the exact same wave length as the other parties we are meeting. No mistakes can be made and everyone goes home happy.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

My wife is very bi, she likes masculine men and doesn’t see bi men that way.

Sub modalities, however they are the things that influence preference.

Kind of like, some people like spiders, some, well fill in the blank.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

I’m just asking a question in the hope of an honest answer, I’m not after comments lecturing me of free choice

Is any answer going to be good enough? Free choice IS the answer.

But if you want specifics, I'll happily tell you our reasons for not meeting bi guys.

My wife is the bi one, not me. I'm straight (and contrary to some peoples claims on fab, no, never once thought about anything with a guy ever). My wife gets off on other women but absoultely not two two guys performing sex acts on each. It's a huge turn off for both of us.

So comparing bi women to bi men shouldnt even be in the discussion here. People like what they like.

So a bi guy or bi male play is not something we want in a meet.

But then it goes further. What if the guy is playing straight? Well it's never that simple. Some guys say they'll act like gentlemen on a meet but act the exact opposite when you actually meet them. Some guys say they can go all night but are a two pump engine. In short some guys say a lot of things and in the heat of the moment, some guys might get carried away.

Now I dont ever want to be in a position where another guy is grabbing me or touching me. It's that simple.

I'm well aware that many people are respectful and do stay within the established boundries but when weve had one or two couples get so carried away they've tried to start having sex with us without protection (a huge must for us), I'm not going to put much faith in a bi guy saying he will play straight.

So there you have it. Does nothing for us and we dont want to be in a situation where someone makes a mistake. We are out for our fun and that comes best when we are on the exact same wave length as the other parties we are meeting. No mistakes can be made and everyone goes home happy.

"

Yeh I understand why a straight couple wouldn’t be interested in meeting a bi guy due to the reasons you’ve stated. My post was about single women straight or bi that won’t, I have my own ideas but sought real ones.

I’d assume there reasons would be either bi men are seen as more likely to carry an std/sti

Or they are just that repulsed by the thought of two guys that they couldn’t get past that to get jiggy with them

Or there’s something else? Who knows, if you don’t ask ay

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"My wife is very bi, she likes masculine men and doesn’t see bi men that way.

Sub modalities, however they are the things that influence preference.

Kind of like, some people like spiders, some, well fill in the blank."

So bi men are not manly enough lol fair assumption, thanks for your honesty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I posted a similar post a while ago and got slaughtered for it, yes it seems that way, most women are put off by bi men unless they are already in a bi male relationship,however as you say..if it was the female who was bi would it put guys off..NO is the answer"

It's not most women, it's some women... And why do you make it sound like it's womens fault that men don't care if they are bi?!

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"My wife is very bi, she likes masculine men and doesn’t see bi men that way.

Sub modalities, however they are the things that influence preference.

Kind of like, some people like spiders, some, well fill in the blank.

So bi men are not manly enough lol fair assumption, thanks for your honesty "

Truthfully, it’s not to do with being manly, sexual masculinity is her thought.

It’s a value that creates a persons identity, and values drive identity and preference.

Suspect as humans evolve, then memetic values will.

Somewhere in all this it feels like we are creating a sameness to a loss of individuality.

We like choices, not sameness.

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds


"

I’m just asking a question in the hope of an honest answer, I’m not after comments lecturing me of free choice

Is any answer going to be good enough? Free choice IS the answer.

But if you want specifics, I'll happily tell you our reasons for not meeting bi guys.

My wife is the bi one, not me. I'm straight (and contrary to some peoples claims on fab, no, never once thought about anything with a guy ever). My wife gets off on other women but absoultely not two two guys performing sex acts on each. It's a huge turn off for both of us.

So comparing bi women to bi men shouldnt even be in the discussion here. People like what they like.

So a bi guy or bi male play is not something we want in a meet.

But then it goes further. What if the guy is playing straight? Well it's never that simple. Some guys say they'll act like gentlemen on a meet but act the exact opposite when you actually meet them. Some guys say they can go all night but are a two pump engine. In short some guys say a lot of things and in the heat of the moment, some guys might get carried away.

Now I dont ever want to be in a position where another guy is grabbing me or touching me. It's that simple.

I'm well aware that many people are respectful and do stay within the established boundries but when weve had one or two couples get so carried away they've tried to start having sex with us without protection (a huge must for us), I'm not going to put much faith in a bi guy saying he will play straight.

So there you have it. Does nothing for us and we dont want to be in a situation where someone makes a mistake. We are out for our fun and that comes best when we are on the exact same wave length as the other parties we are meeting. No mistakes can be made and everyone goes home happy.

"

We could have written exactly this

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