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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Is there an etiquette for paying for hotels.

I cannot accommodate but I also cannot justify spending on hotels.

Is this seen as a bad attitude?

Ps I’m also always a little bit cold, so I’m not into outdoor fun!

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

"Is there an etiquette for paying for hotels.

I cannot accommodate but I also cannot justify spending on hotels.

Is this seen as a bad attitude?

Ps I’m also always a little bit cold, so I’m not into outdoor fun! "

Whatever you agree with your partner(s) is fair by definition. If that's the truth, there's no room for received wisdom on the subject, no matter what it may be. Just be honest and clear about it.

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By *ittleAcornMan
over a year ago

visiting the beach

What you need is someone like myself. I regularly (well once we are back to the new normal) travel for business.

I therefore get my food, hotel etc. paid for by my company.

Obviously the downside, is that it tends to be short planning time to get to know someone in the target area.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually pay half as I'm not a fan of outside and car meets (although I have) xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always pay for a hotel when I know I'm not able to accommodate and do not expect a contribution from the lady.

If someone is unable to accommodate, I would prefer they just said they can't in their profile and left it up to me to provide a solution. If she demands a hotel or demands I pay for it, I feel like a free lunch and would worry they expect a 5* with all expenses paid.

It's a tricky one I know, but like most men, I'm susceptible to womanly wiles and will generally do as I'm told as long as I think it's my idea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whenever my good lady has a meet she will always book the room and pay

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By *urulovesnylonMan
over a year ago

Harrow

I’ve always paid for hotels. One of my FWB prefers a certain hotel for discrete entry and exit. Another one preferred the 4-5star ones. Depends on the evening planned.

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

If having a hotel meet I prefer to book & pay for my own room, that way I am in control. I also make it clear in advance that I generally don't do overnight meets unless it is with someone I know well and they shouldnt expect to be staying.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I’ve had FWB and have played at their place. As a couple we can accommodate it’s just as a single female I can’t. I don’t expect a hotel, I’m happy to play at the guys home.

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By *ouis CyphreMan
over a year ago

The Midlands

Either happy to pay and or share the cost. It's all about the discussion/agreement we've come to.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Either happy to pay and or share the cost. It's all about the discussion/agreement we've come to. "

But you wouldn’t be put off if she didn’t pay?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is there an etiquette for paying for hotels.

I cannot accommodate but I also cannot justify spending on hotels.

Is this seen as a bad attitude?

Ps I’m also always a little bit cold, so I’m not into outdoor fun! "
no worries id pay for you all day long x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We would always pay half on hotel meets.

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By *aidForSharingWoman
over a year ago

Lancashire

I'm not paying to be fucked. If the man books it, the hotel has his details so the prospect of meeting a stranger is less terrifying. I bring drinks: alcohol, water, fruit juice and massage oil.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally have no issue with paying for the hotel, if she surprises you by paying for drinks to be served to the room I suppose it softens the blow lol

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By *ouis CyphreMan
over a year ago

The Midlands

"Either happy to pay and or share the cost. It's all about the discussion/agreement we've come to.

But you wouldn’t be put off if she didn’t pay?"

No not at all .....

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By *rMrsBrightsideCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle

As we meet us a couple we are likely to be staying in the room all night so we would pay for it. If I met alone I would expect to pay for half. It doesn't sit well with me having the man pay for the hotel.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"As we meet us a couple we are likely to be staying in the room all night so we would pay for it. If I met alone I would expect to pay for half. It doesn't sit well with me having the man pay for the hotel.

Kx"

It doesn’t sit well with me either, that’s why I asked the question. But if I can’t pay for a hotel and I can’t accommodate do I give the guy opportunity to solve the problem?

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By *asmartsCouple
over a year ago

sheffield

"Is there an etiquette for paying for hotels.

I cannot accommodate but I also cannot justify spending on hotels.

Is this seen as a bad attitude?

Ps I’m also always a little bit cold, so I’m not into outdoor fun! "

We always pay for the hotel

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It doesn’t sit well with me either, that’s why I asked the question. But if I can’t pay for a hotel and I can’t accommodate do I give the guy opportunity to solve the problem?"

If u connect well with the guy and he's keen what's the issue? It's not like you're stringing him along

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It doesn’t sit well with me either, that’s why I asked the question. But if I can’t pay for a hotel and I can’t accommodate do I give the guy opportunity to solve the problem?

If u connect well with the guy and he's keen what's the issue? It's not like you're stringing him along"

It doesn’t feel equal. Particularly in this day and age.

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By *lixir of lifeMan
over a year ago

knob Creek

I’m lucky as I can accommodate..

But I’ve had hotel meets many times in the past, each time the lady or couple has insisted on paying half ..

It’s hardly a big expense..

Hardly equality..

But there are lots of guys on here that will pay for you ..

not a great attitude though when you expect someone else to pay I don’t think..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm not paying to be fucked. If the man books it, the hotel has his details so the prospect of meeting a stranger is less terrifying. I bring drinks: alcohol, water, fruit juice and massage oil. "
your on see you at holiday inn sutton lol

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By *iss DevilWoman
over a year ago

Bedford

For me, it all depends on the situation. If I am staying at the hotel overnight (I normally avoid that as prefer to sleep in my own bed, on my own), then I am happy to pay for the room and have others join me. I would not expect them to pay towards it.

If I am meeting a couple or a man and they insist on hotel, then I see it as they need to pay. I'd be happy with some contribution but less than half. It's because I am not expecting to use the room for more than just a few hours.

Equality, on carer's wages- sorry, can't afford that.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I would usually pay half if it's a hotel meet or if he insists on paying then I would pay for the next time if we meet again or for meal or drinks or something .I would not feel comfortable expecting the guy to pay for the room if we are both using it . I'm not on a big wage but I still would pay my way .

There are people on here who would be happy to meet and pay for the room tho.

I also would never go to a guys place on a first meet I made that mistake once and never will again.

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By *lixir of lifeMan
over a year ago

knob Creek

"I would usually pay half if it's a hotel meet or if he insists on paying then I would pay for the next time if we meet again or for meal or drinks or something .I would not feel comfortable expecting the guy to pay for the room if we are both using it . I'm not on a big wage but I still would pay my way .

There are people on here who would be happy to meet and pay for the room tho.

I also would never go to a guys place on a first meet I made that mistake once and never will again. "

Well said .. you’re obviously a lady with class and morals..

Full respect to you

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By *ovelifelovefuntimesMan
over a year ago

Where ever I lay my hat

If it is a meet with a lady I always pay. I've often found couples tend to book for mfm meets but I always offer to pay.

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By *eWillMakeYouSquirtCouple
over a year ago

leicester

50 50 if couple meet together or one pays one time the other pays the other time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm not paying to be fucked. If the man books it, the hotel has his details so the prospect of meeting a stranger is less terrifying. I bring drinks: alcohol, water, fruit juice and massage oil. "

For a woman meeting in this world someone she hasn’t met before this is a very sensible approach - even if the room is booked under a false name the credit card is traceable

Sensible advice

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By *jkuk72Man
over a year ago

London & Herts

If I meet at a hotel, I would typically pay myself or share the cost, unless I'm not the one initiating the meet, but even then I would offer to share costs.

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By *um2me123Man
over a year ago

burin

I generally dont have a first meet at a hotel...nothing like face to face to get a proper look and a proper chat to see if there is chemistry...then if s hotel meet happendms i have no issue paying unless she wants to help out...its all good.

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By *ibswarksCouple
over a year ago

warks

We pay ourselves, as like to make a night of it.

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By *ouneed meMan
over a year ago

mold

I dont have an issue with paying for hotel normally but let me throw this one out there...recently had a mmeet where woman wanted a meet she insisted on booking a serviced apartment then i can reimburse.....so we did 80 pound ok but it turned on a social like 90 min....so she then texts really enjoyed meet can we do again..so same thing 80 pound she books i reimburse...got wanted to fuck but no kissing no touchy feely stuff no hands near pussy and dont do bj.....one other big thing serviced apartment but bed not made etc....so after that i declined another then got slagged off for time wasting....also supplied her fave drink brandy 20 pound each time.....said she wanted fwb but didnt feel that way

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