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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Nothing gets me harder than cuckolding - it's been a thrill for me since I first had girl-friends - if that counts! Why does it have such sexual power? I'd be interested in your amateur (and professional - as long as I don't get invoiced) insights into the psychology of being cucked.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You would have to elaborate as there are different versions.

The extreme of the hubby/partner being completely humiliated or less extreme him just watching via cam or same room?

Would then take on a different stance psychologically.

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By *kmale421Man
over a year ago

wirral


"You would have to elaborate as there are different versions.

The extreme of the hubby/partner being completely humiliated or less extreme him just watching via cam or same room?

Would then take on a different stance psychologically.

"

Thats interesting Julie, I have an American friend who'd husband often simply watches video's of her having sex with 1 or more guys or with a couple and he gets off on that. For the record he also on other occasions joins in fully as per a couple in a "normal" meet.

I only asked her the other day whether she would describe her hubby as a cuck because of him watching her on video and she said 100% not. So part of this discussion could be what do people think a cuck is in the first place?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me, it's an incredible thrill seeing my partner at play with another guy, a heady mix of emotions that simply makes me feel so alive.

We've not played for just over ten years, but are now back on the scene at long last.

I agree that cuckolding can cover a whole spectrum of position for the cuck to adopt from simply watching to full sissification (if that's a proper word) of the hubby. What works for one most likely will not work for others, but what works for all, the cuck, the wife and the bull can be a great mix.

For me, its the being ignored when she is so wrapped up with the guy she is with. Seeing her cumming and knowing that the guy who has made that happen is bigger or better or maybe even both, that I.

I;m a str8 cuck so not into fluffing, again a case of each to their own.

Why I do it. Other than the kick, I am sure that there are all sorts of deep reasons why I enjoy seeing my woman with another man, loss of status, alpha/beta male, loss of control and the sense of relief that can bring are all elements of it for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My hubby loves watching, gets off big time seeing me enjoy myself with a stronger and better hung guy, especially black .

He enjoys watching my body react and being pleasured from a distance, things that he cannot see when he's up close and personal. He's totally straight and not interested in the submissive side.. just a perv LOL. Sometimes he'll then join in for some MMF fun, it depends what I'd want on the day

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By *andd2Couple
over a year ago

The Dungeon

We do LOTS of mfm and fmf, we love it. But for the cuck part? No thanks. When with another person we both join in. Neither of us wish to just sit and watch, we want to be adding to the others pleasure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the cuck part is how i get my pleasure and it pleases my better half that i am having pleasure thanks to her.

it's certainly not a solo sport, but the most important part is that everyone is happy and getting a kick from it.

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By *it of fun cplCouple
over a year ago

village between York and Hull


"For me, it's an incredible thrill seeing my partner at play with another guy, a heady mix of emotions that simply makes me feel so alive.

We've not played for just over ten years, but are now back on the scene at long last.

I agree that cuckolding can cover a whole spectrum of position for the cuck to adopt from simply watching to full sissification (if that's a proper word) of the hubby. What works for one most likely will not work for others, but what works for all, the cuck, the wife and the bull can be a great mix.

For me, its the being ignored when she is so wrapped up with the guy she is with. Seeing her cumming and knowing that the guy who has made that happen is bigger or better or maybe even both, that I.

I;m a str8 cuck so not into fluffing, again a case of each to their own.

Why I do it. Other than the kick, I am sure that there are all sorts of deep reasons why I enjoy seeing my woman with another man, loss of status, alpha/beta male, loss of control and the sense of relief that can bring are all elements of it for me."

Very similar for us. a total mixture of emotions, sometimes I watch other times I listen. Knowing she is getting pleasure and also giving pleasure is such a turn on especially when the guy tells me how lucky I am! Very hard to put into words how it effects me but we always seem very close after she has played.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am in a cuck relationship for most part. My fiancee meets the men and women she chooses, she may allow me to watch or look at pics. It is the humiliation and feeling of being worthless and not good enough that gets me off, I just love it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the fact that other men find your wife or partner very attractive and desirable has something to do with it as well.

At a party we enjoy my wife nipping off into a room where she can get lots of action from guys and I join her a little while later while she's in mid flow. She likes me to join in and have her all to myself later on. I like hearing what she got up to before I came into the room.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are not into the full humiliation thing but hubby loves to watch me fucking another guy and guys. He loves it especially if I'm really into the other guy, with some passion and not just mechanical sex! Lol! He also loves it if I ignore him or give him some abuse if he tries to touch me! I think it's the fine line between pleasure and jealousy that he finds so erotic! It drives him wild watching me totally give myself to another!

In respect of jealousy, there is none either way in reality and we can do this because our relationship is so solid

Xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are not into the full humiliation thing but hubby loves to watch me fucking another guy and guys. He loves it especially if I'm really into the other guy, with some passion and not just mechanical sex! Lol! He also loves it if I ignore him or give him some abuse if he tries to touch me! I think it's the fine line between pleasure and jealousy that he finds so erotic! It drives him wild watching me totally give myself to another!

In respect of jealousy, there is none either way in reality and we can do this because our relationship is so solid

Xxxx"

Love that aspect, the jealousy. I used to get so jealous I almost exploded

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By *inups99Couple
over a year ago

manchester


"I think the fact that other men find your wife or partner very attractive and desirable has something to do with it as well.

At a party we enjoy my wife nipping off into a room where she can get lots of action from guys and I join her a little while later while she's in mid flow. She likes me to join in and have her all to myself later on. I like hearing what she got up to before I came into the room."

Agreeing with this - such a turn on to know how men find your wife desirable and that they might be able to fuck her too!

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By *ocoTemptationMan
over a year ago

london

Before becoming a voyeur I had several memorable meets with couples. None of them were overtly cuckold but on reflection I do now wonder able some of the couples I met.

I wouldn't be surprised if some of them discussed the meet in a cuckold context after I left mmmmmm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is it cuckholding to have a husband watch over a cam as a guy fucks his wife? I would of thought it was more voyuerism

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it cuckholding to have a husband watch over a cam as a guy fucks his wife? I would of thought it was more voyuerism"

This is what I thought, I always assumed that the dynamic was more to do with humiliation to some degree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've always found it exciting when squames used to confess her "indecretions" to me after she'd got off with a guy in a club or whatever, long before we were swingers! She was just a slut and i loved her! One of my favorite confessions was as she road me she told me about an old friend of ours who had sucked and bitten her breasts around the back of our local pub, I came hard as she told me how good it had felt.

Lately due to a heart condition i can no longer fuck her as hard as she likes so it's given us a good excuse to get into the cuck lifestyle a bit, it's mostly been her meeeting guys on her own then coming home and telling me about it. But i have also been lucky enough to witness her enjoy 2 amazing black guys. Now although it was thrilling to see how much she enjoyed herself being fucked hard by these bulls of men, what really got my blood pumping was the softer missionary style with soft kisses, whispering and legs wrapped around backs! I think that's what seperates the voyeur from the cuckold. Hard fucking fun to watch, but to see your wife making love takes you to a whole different level!! Oh Also amazing to fluff them hard for another round!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've always found it exciting when squames used to confess her "indecretions" to me after she'd got off with a guy in a club or whatever, long before we were swingers! She was just a slut and i loved her! One of my favorite confessions was as she road me she told me about an old friend of ours who had sucked and bitten her breasts around the back of our local pub, I came hard as she told me how good it had felt.

Lately due to a heart condition i can no longer fuck her as hard as she likes so it's given us a good excuse to get into the cuck lifestyle a bit, it's mostly been her meeeting guys on her own then coming home and telling me about it. But i have also been lucky enough to witness her enjoy 2 amazing black guys. Now although it was thrilling to see how much she enjoyed herself being fucked hard by these bulls of men, what really got my blood pumping was the softer missionary style with soft kisses, whispering and legs wrapped around backs! I think that's what seperates the voyeur from the cuckold. Hard fucking fun to watch, but to see your wife making love takes you to a whole different level!! Oh Also amazing to fluff them hard for another round!!"

Mmmm cuckolding is so hot! I'm gonna be having a lovely black guy tmrw for sum very naughty and passionate sex...I shall forget hubby is there watching! He loves that! Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Both jealous lol!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it cuckholding to have a husband watch over a cam as a guy fucks his wife? I would of thought it was more voyuerism"

We had one guy stay for us for a weekend were i was happily relegated to spare room. twice i watched live via a video camera, total fly on wall experience. very erotic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

nice, think i'd quite like to try being in the room next door getting the occasional picture text between the screams, ideally just being invited in sometimes to clean up and fluff!!

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By *he Happy ManMan
over a year ago

Merseyside

I think the easiest way to understand what cuckolding about is search Google for a cuckold contract. Cuckolding and voyeurism are often seen as the same thing when they are not really.

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By *riskynriskyCouple
over a year ago

Essex.

I don't think of myself as cuck but love watching a man pleasuring Frisky. Usually I join in, but have just watched a couple of times as well. I like the idea of her going off to a hotel or an other room at a party and I have to wait for a set time or for a signal to join them. It would almost be a pleasure/pain thing with the frustration of waiting... However this would be a tease not humiliation. It is not something either of us needs to do it's just a different facet of swinging.... But what ever you do...Have fun! Risky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think of myself as cuck but love watching a man pleasuring Frisky. Usually I join in, but have just watched a couple of times as well. I like the idea of her going off to a hotel or an other room at a party and I have to wait for a set time or for a signal to join them. It would almost be a pleasure/pain thing with the frustration of waiting... However this would be a tease not humiliation. It is not something either of us needs to do it's just a different facet of swinging.... But what ever you do...Have fun! Risky"

Best form of cuckolding I have come across for me is my GF's lesbian lover taking her out for dinner and fun in the car, knowing that they are having an amazing time together whilst I babysit or work.

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By *riskynriskyCouple
over a year ago

Essex.


"I don't think of myself as cuck but love watching a man pleasuring Frisky. Usually I join in, but have just watched a couple of times as well. I like the idea of her going off to a hotel or an other room at a party and I have to wait for a set time or for a signal to join them. It would almost be a pleasure/pain thing with the frustration of waiting... However this would be a tease not humiliation. It is not something either of us needs to do it's just a different facet of swinging.... But what ever you do...Have fun! Risky

Best form of cuckolding I have come across for me is my GF's lesbian lover taking her out for dinner and fun in the car, knowing that they are having an amazing time together whilst I babysit or work."

Exquisite torture....

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By *eakcoupleCouple
over a year ago

peak district

Don't think of myself as a cuck either, but love watching Rose with another man or men - she loves watching me with other women too, so guess its just the lovely sight of your other half getting pleasure from sex with people other than yourself. Not something vanilla people get to experience, which is a pity.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If cuck is simply seeing/watching your wife with another man then the clubs are full of cucks.

Infact the male of 90% of couples on the swinging scene is "Cuck" Personally I think just the swapping/watching is SWINGING.

Cuck's don't get off on just watching from what I've seen. The turn on for them is humiliation of a kind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it does need to be separated properly and defined - a man enjoying seeing his partner getting fucked isn't cuckolding - I think at its broadest definition could be that the woman is getting something sexual from the 'bull' that her partner cannot provide - be that domination, a bigger cock, a better tongue, harder orgasms, etc

I really do enjoy the thought of taking and dominating a woman as her partner watches - not humiliating or interacting with him but giving the woman what he cant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also worth mentioning, my fella loves 2 women at once which we do and enjoy. Sometimes I will just lye back and watch his cock thrusting hard into another woman. I get very wet watching that so am I female cuck?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Also worth mentioning, my fella loves 2 women at once which we do and enjoy. Sometimes I will just lye back and watch his cock thrusting hard into another woman. I get very wet watching that so am I female cuck? "
i have to agree i love watching Ad with other woman make me so horny

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a phsycological mistery LOL.

It sounds to me like some guys/girls are stimulated by watching their partner on 360 degree view where their brain can catch every single aspect of sex being performed, which is not the case when the person it self is involved.

My question is (this is pointed to those people who like their partner having sex).

Do you get the equal or similar similar stimulation by recording a video of you having sex with your partner and then watching it ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's a phsycological mistery LOL.

My question is (this is pointed to those people who like their partner having sex).

Do you get the equal or similar similar stimulation by recording a video of you having sex with your partner and then watching it ?"

Nope!

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By *riskynriskyCouple
over a year ago

Essex.


"

My question is (this is pointed to those people who like their partner having sex).

Do you get the equal or similar similar stimulation by recording a video of you having sex with your partner and then watching it ?"

No, I think a big part of it, is that you enjoy the fact that other people find your partner sexually attractive. You like to see how your partner reacts to an others touch, moves etc. You are never too good to learn from an others skill and experiences... Risky(m)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

My question is (this is pointed to those people who like their partner having sex).

Do you get the equal or similar similar stimulation by recording a video of you having sex with your partner and then watching it ?

No, I think a big part of it, is that you enjoy the fact that other people find your partner sexually attractive. You like to see how your partner reacts to an others touch, moves etc. You are never too good to learn from an others skill and experiences... Risky(m) "

Yep!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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No, I think a big part of it, is that you enjoy the fact that other people find your partner sexually attractive."

That's interesting. I wouldn't have thought of that but this raises another question.

Why you think there's a need to check whether others find your partner sexually attractive? Is that because if others find him/her attractive then, does this makes it easier consider her/him attractive?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

im massivlt turned on by being the bull and find i get more pleasure the more the cuck is humiliated,normally sound out the couple to find what turns them on and its normally humiliation in there some were

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The power, control and arrogance for me, makes me cum like thunder!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

been bull and cuck, both excellent

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By *riskynriskyCouple
over a year ago

Essex.


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Why you think there's a need to check whether others find your partner sexually attractive? Is that because if others find him/her attractive then, does this makes it easier consider her/him attractive?"

I don't need to check that Frisky is attractive. I know she is!

However it is still nice that others find her attractive, also it's a confidence builder for her. Sometimes she'll ask me if she looks nice. I'll say yes and she'll be your only saying that. Then some one else will tell her and she's happy with boosted confidence. So to get all that and have sex is a win win situation....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i had a go at that cuckolding lark on omegle where you can chat in private with people with the same interests, its amazing how many couples want a more dominant man to take on there wife while they watch and one woman was saying to me she wanted pleasuring by the me aka the bull and her husband forced to lick out her cunt then sit back down and watch and then the bull to stick it back in and now this was the "unusual" bit,she wanted her husband forced to suck the bulls cock clean and the bull to stick it back in her again and force the husband lick her out after the bull comes up her....... women what are they like !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i had a go at that cuckolding lark on omegle where you can chat in private with people with the same interests, its amazing how many couples want a more dominant man to take on there wife while they watch and one woman was saying to me she wanted pleasuring by the me aka the bull and her husband forced to lick out her cunt then sit back down and watch and then the bull to stick it back in and now this was the "unusual" bit,she wanted her husband forced to suck the bulls cock clean and the bull to stick it back in her again and force the husband lick her out after the bull comes up her....... women what are they like ! "

so what was the unusual part? I'm in the "waiting at home while she's out with some bbc" part of the experience at the moment!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i had a go at that cuckolding lark on omegle where you can chat in private with people with the same interests, its amazing how many couples want a more dominant man to take on there wife while they watch and one woman was saying to me she wanted pleasuring by the me aka the bull and her husband forced to lick out her cunt then sit back down and watch and then the bull to stick it back in and now this was the "unusual" bit,she wanted her husband forced to suck the bulls cock clean and the bull to stick it back in her again and force the husband lick her out after the bull comes up her....... women what are they like !

so what was the unusual part? I'm in the "waiting at home while she's out with some bbc" part of the experience at the moment!"

well for starters i'm not into getting frisky with blokes so that would be unusual for me,maybe you like to suck cock after its been in your mrs's 3 holes

ahh forget what i wrote.......... your at level 2 in the cuckolding ranks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No idea what it is about cucking or why, but it does it for me. lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i had a go at that cuckolding lark on omegle where you can chat in private with people with the same interests, its amazing how many couples want a more dominant man to take on there wife while they watch and one woman was saying to me she wanted pleasuring by the me aka the bull and her husband forced to lick out her cunt then sit back down and watch and then the bull to stick it back in and now this was the "unusual" bit,she wanted her husband forced to suck the bulls cock clean and the bull to stick it back in her again and force the husband lick her out after the bull comes up her....... women what are they like !

so what was the unusual part? I'm in the "waiting at home while she's out with some bbc" part of the experience at the moment!

well for starters i'm not into getting frisky with blokes so that would be unusual for me,maybe you like to suck cock after its been in your mrs's 3 holes

ahh forget what i wrote.......... your at level 2 in the cuckolding ranks "

Be interested to see how you rank cuckolding so I can score myself!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are not into the full humiliation thing but hubby loves to watch me fucking another guy and guys. He loves it especially if I'm really into the other guy, with some passion and not just mechanical sex! Lol! He also loves it if I ignore him or give him some abuse if he tries to touch me! I think it's the fine line between pleasure and jealousy that he finds so erotic! It drives him wild watching me totally give myself to another!

In respect of jealousy, there is none either way in reality and we can do this because our relationship is so solid

Xxxx"

Lovely post. You really seem to be very comfortable and enjoying what you do.

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