FabSwingers.com forum: Time wasters everywhere

By *unny and bare OP Couple
over a year ago

kent

What’s happened to fab it’s now populated by picture collectors time wasters and dreamers! They want to meet they want pictures they are full of what they want to do and then they disappear ! Fab time wasters!

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By *educerMan
over a year ago

Brentwood

"What’s happened to fab it’s now populated by picture collectors time wasters and dreamers! They want to meet they want pictures they are full of what they want to do and then they disappear ! Fab time wasters!"

Always been that way I am afraid, does seem to have got worse though of late….

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yup it’s been he same for a long time

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By *r GLTMan
over a year ago

Richmond Upon Thames

Completely agree OP Fabs has changed for the worse not what it used to be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It does seem to have got worse through lockdown. No prob swapping pics if everyone is happy esp during a time where we cant meet. No shows are a pain in the ass but i dont think any site ever gets rid of them.

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By *he Jizz PlayerMan
over a year ago

Hatfield

The biggest problem on sites like these.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's a bit dramatic.

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By *aypurce70Man
over a year ago

Liverpool

I've tried to arrange a meet a few times with couples but they've never gone through at end..Maybe because I'm male , married,but why go along until up to the moment before and then just don't turn up.? There are still some decent people on here though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because most want wank chats but won’t admit it

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By *he incognito twoCouple
over a year ago

near you

we think yes its main swinging more accessible but its far to easy for all the time wasters and pic collectors to make an account, back in the day before the web was so accessible we used to use a post box in a local paper it was a very drawn out process but in the end and after all the effort we would say we met some of the best swinging friends and still friends 25 years later

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By *HELONDONCOUPLECouple
over a year ago

london

Yes welcome to the club, it’s always been like this you just have to find the real ones out of them

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By *awksordMan
over a year ago

Wirral.

I have met lots of nice people in the earlier days 10 plus years ago. But like OP said you get close to the meeting and they don’t reply or block you or even don’t turn up. Sheeeeesshhh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We think it's just depends how lucky you are! Probably the rules to join the site and verify process must be much tougher and lots of so called time wasters will disappear slowly x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely got worse. Out of the last 10 messages received I'd say 6 are from fellas pretending to be a female or pretending to be the female half of a couple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've tried to arrange a meet a few times with couples but they've never gone through at end..Maybe because I'm male , married,but why go along until up to the moment before and then just don't turn up.? There are still some decent people on here though. "

Probably a bloke and after he’s cum (from the chat and pics) he goes quiet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah lockdown has definitly seen a surge of new comers and some of them definitly come across as fantasists or like this site is free personalised porn or something.... Hoping now things are going back to normal fab will start settling back into how it was before

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

Don't send photos or chat about sex, until you're certain they will meet, or until after you've met.

I stopped using Kik because every single person I chatted to on there was only after wank fodder, and I'm talking a lot of them all blocked for not being serious about meeting.

If I want wank chat I can message men I'm actually having sex with.

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By *aypurce70Man
over a year ago

Liverpool

Probably a bloke and after he’s cum (from the chat and pics) he goes quiet. "

Your so right!..thing is they could just say they're only interested in Chat and Pics.. im sure they'd still find people who are interested.. leaving those that want to meet, alone..

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

As people were not meant to be arranging meets for sex for the last year then I am not surprised that there were people about who wanted to chat only as that was all people could do.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

It seems to be a bit of rite of passage on this site, at least one time wasting experience. It takes me at least two hours to get ready, so if you end up sitting around dressed and on your own it makes you wonder why you bother.

That’s why I’m more insistent in meeting in clubs rather than inviting someone over. At least if they don’t turn up it’s not a wasted evening.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

there’s always been an element of this, but increased publicity, awareness of the scene and over a year of lockdown in some format has exacerbated it.

It would be good to have filters for people who only want to use the forums, chat or pic share. I don’t think anything short of enforcing photo face verification and subscription before being allowed to message will make a big difference, but that’s a lot of money in subscriptions to turndown! And most of the fakes and fantasists have gold subscriptions!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That is (fab) in a nutshell.

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

"Because most want wank chats but won’t admit it "

Yep

And if you've given them all their wank fodder then the urge to meet strangely wanes...

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By *aughtywifeandhimCouple
over a year ago

bedford

There are thousands of time wasters on here but you can’t blame them for wanting pics of you ,we don’t mind picture hunters we just show the pics without faces attached , unfortunately with all this going on we all need something to keep us going

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As people were not meant to be arranging meets for sex for the last year then I am not surprised that there were people about who wanted to chat only as that was all people could do."

This....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't send photos or chat about sex, until you're certain they will meet, or until after you've met.

I stopped using Kik because every single person I chatted to on there was only after wank fodder, and I'm talking a lot of them all blocked for not being serious about meeting.

If I want wank chat I can message men I'm actually having sex with. "

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By *aypurce70Man
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Because most want wank chats but won’t admit it

Yep

And if you've given them all their wank fodder then the urge to meet strangely wanes...

Suppose I've given them a virtual helping hand.!!!

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By *ikAshCouple
over a year ago

London

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By *ikAshCouple
over a year ago

London

"Don't send photos or chat about sex, until you're certain they will meet, or until after you've met.

I stopped using Kik because every single person I chatted to on there was only after wank fodder, and I'm talking a lot of them all blocked for not being serious about meeting.

If I want wank chat I can message men I'm actually having sex with. "

Definitely great advice!

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By *asques and boxersCouple
over a year ago

Ashford and dept16

It has got worse but straight request of them asking to exchange face pics as a couple clothed, then naked normally ends the chat. Of course it could be adjusted so without those two elements they cannot message or be messaged, the site already asks for a pic holding the sign with their site name to be verified just restrict the access based on that.

Then no one could message as non verified members.

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By *riving_Home_For_MimiWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

I don't ever do any sex talk, sending photos until I've met someone and even then it's quite tame.

There's a time and a place, in the real world for all that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We feel your pain!!! Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People like that will probably disappear from fab when we get to June 21st. For some people, not just on here, they see it as a game. Not communicating with real people.

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By *issmeteasemeCouple
over a year ago

nottinghamshire

Agree x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agree OP. The site needs to be a paid for site to get rid of all the timewasters who have no intention of meeting.

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By *egvisir71Man
over a year ago

Derbyshire

I’m totally up for meeting but had the runaround to the point of almost giving up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me and her thought it would be easy to find a guy/girl or bi couple to join us.

How wrong where we then?

Fabs has changed, it's more like a dating site now, Swingers seem to be few and far between,bi swingers even more so....

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It's always been the case that people on Internet sites may have very different motivations than we would like them to have. After over a year waiting to meet, thousands of profiles have been made that may not be typical users of the site.

We can only refine our use of site tools and our expectations, with our approach influencing our results for the better.

Lots of tips around the forum.

A key 1 is that most people will not be attracted to most other people, so each successive interaction with them should be expected to reduce the numbers of people who remain as potential future partners. Perhaps just 10% left after each mutual exchange of messages and pics. That's very different to what most people expect

. Starting with the assumption that you’ll lose most of the people who you share pics with is really helpful. It's not that we're not each beautiful specimens but that personality and looks are important and these take some time to become evident.

We can think that people are collecting pics or wank fodder but it's more ideal potentially to think that we share our wares in order to get the best mutual fits for each side.

It's no good to meet people who aren't matched. The cost of getting this is that we have to share ourselves a lot, so that we filter out the unmatched.

Others will lie and deceive but as long as we minimise our investments into them, we will still be filtering them out. Being stood up is the worst waste of time, so aim to refine your approach, so that you don't get it to occur.

Clubs are reopening and are a good place to help to filter out the incompatible. Another good tool.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Iv trying talking to people to get a conversation going. But don't get no luck on here really .. there are plenty of time wasting people and fake profits going around.. I won't give up on a meet or even a social..

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

"Agree OP. The site needs to be a paid for site to get rid of all the timewasters who have no intention of meeting. "

I have paid into the site for the last two years with no intention of meeting anyone. So would the time wasters who may see the site as a good ‘wank bank’.

Money isn’t guaranteed to make the site a better place as verifications aren’t a guarantee that person is genuine. My last time waster had a plethora of verifications including some from clubs and socials, so I’d done my due diligence prior to the invitation to mine.

I don’t see any simple answers apart from meeting in clubs, so if they don’t turn up, my time isn’t wasted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Agree OP. The site needs to be a paid for site to get rid of all the timewasters who have no intention of meeting.

I have paid into the site for the last two years with no intention of meeting anyone. So would the time wasters who may see the site as a good ‘wank bank’.

I don’t see any simple answers apart from meeting in clubs, so if they don’t turn up, my time isn’t wasted. "

I mean a paid subscrpition to actually join the site. Clubs maybe ok for a select few but for most who are looking for some casual sex then arranging a meet and getting down to business without the circus of timewasters shouldnt be a lot to ask if people used the site to actually hook up with genuine folk who want the same.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Pandemic

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By *urvycrimsonWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

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By *urvycrimsonWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

I do know what you mean, but I’ve had some seriously amazing meets both as a single and as a couple, they’re incredibly few and far between but absolutely worth it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fab is full of time wasters, fakes , people who just want to talk bollox, people who just post pics and want the attention that way it always has been this way and it always will be, if been here for 10 years and tbh its probably at its worst it's ever been , but on the flip side you have some amazing people on here who are genuine

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By *alty surpriseMan
over a year ago

Uttoxeter

Well. I'm genuine and would never let anyone down... Unfortunately I'm just not anyone's cup of tea in my area..

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By *urchoicenowCouple
over a year ago

Ashford

Yup. Roll on the clubs opening

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By *ovelifelovefuntimesMan
over a year ago

Where ever I lay my hat

There are some fakes and tidewater to work through, but focusing on those verified and site supporting are pretty good filters.

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By *riving_Home_For_MimiWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

I wouldn't want to pay/subscribe to use the site.

I like the options they have already.

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By * F 2018Couple
over a year ago

shropshire

It's not the same I agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There are some fakes and tidewater to work through, but focusing on those verified and site supporting are pretty good filters."

Some of the biggest timewasters are verified so it makes no difference if they are as it proves nothing. Trying to get verified is another issue on its own as sometimes meets cant veryfi you as they are not verified themselves and some just wont verify you for whatever reason.

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By *omerset tvTV/TS
over a year ago

Weston-super-Mare

Maybe its more prone on fab cus its basically a "free" site maybe charge a subsciption would get rid of a few of dreamers and time wasters??

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By *etwifeandhim69Couple
over a year ago

Darlington

It's a free site so bound to happen.

We just out as much as possible by leaving our photos public and not entertaining any talk of what people will or will not do. Naughty chat on here isn't really our thing.

Polite chat for a short bit and then agree to meet or not. Isn't perfect but what is?

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Way out of control my first year the site was if I put it mildly normal but after that year it's gotten as you the op stated picture collectors wank chats claiming to be a female but a guy but shouldn't everyone only need one account why so many in general just adds more clutter.

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By *OXO2018Couple
over a year ago

Norfolk

This is why we go to clubs, most people are there for the same reason as is

Mrs

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By *aughty Hubby n Sexy WifeCouple
over a year ago

Scarborogh

Your not joking, send messages after mutual wink, stirs there for a couple of days and you can see their on line.

They asked can we swap face pics, after a few messages. Sure this is us. Nothing in return. Ok F’off delete and blocked button on overtime at mo and that’s just the couples.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

"There are some fakes and tidewater to work through, but focusing on those verified and site supporting are pretty good filters.

People can verify each other on a meeting even if both don't originally have any verification

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know what you mean totally shit

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By *jonesMan
over a year ago

Plymouth

"This is why we go to clubs, most people are there for the same reason as is

Mrs"

Clubs and organised socials are so much better than messaging on here ..

I've always wondered what people do with the pics they collect ..partly to create fake profiles I suppose...do they have like an album of strangers faces

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