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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Had discussion with work colleague who said...how can you let your wife fuck another man. You cannot respect your marriage and she obviously not satisfied with you....thoughts x

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By *errynjuneCouple
over a year ago

Barnsley

Well of course, that's the only reason for getting married.

So you can own a female, then you get to dictate what use you can make of her and decide if YOU wish to share her around or not.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

My thoughts are it's none of your colleagues business and why are you referring to your partner as "the wife ?

Some people don't understand and they never will that's why we never discuss swinging with others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Each to their own but I found that it made me love her more as it shows complete trust in each other. We did it for years before we split but that was due to non swinging reasons . It was a huge turn on seeing her getting fucked by someone else . Even did a GB once with 4 other guys and to see her enjoy herself was such a turn on but I get it’s not for everyone .

Now I fuck wife’s while husband joins in or watches and they love it (pre covid of course !)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unless the work colleague is involved in the relationship it has absolutely nothing to do with them.

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By *andD300Couple
over a year ago

london

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By *andD300Couple
over a year ago

london

“the wife”

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Dont judge please...thats the term we use and have agreed on. X

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Dont judge please...thats the term we use and have agreed on. X"

Ok, sorry.

So how did the conversation come up with your colleague and how did you explain your position to them?

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

From what I have observed when I meet couples they almost always have a very solid relationship. Sharing their marriage with other people only strengthens it and they both get to know that the other one is happy.

Seems like OPs work colleague has a typically closed mind about how relationships should work

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"Had discussion with work colleague who said...how can you let your wife fuck another man. You cannot respect your marriage and she obviously not satisfied with you....thoughts x"

My thoughts are that he/she is perfectly entitled to his opinion the same as you are.

I love a good debate and the best way is to simply explain your reasons and he'll either change his/her mind or they won't.

Either way they'll know a bit more about why you do it and how it works for you.

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By *ee And MikeCouple
over a year ago

Cannock

Depends on the couple to be honest.

Very early on in our marriage it was obvious that my wife needed to cuckold me at times to keep things going for us. I was happy to oblige and still are.

Relationship are built on more than sex, it’s just an act that gives pleasure, if it works for you and your wife the damn what anyone else thinks !

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By *ikAshCouple
over a year ago

London

I think all relationships are different... some like to share and some don’t. There’s no need for judgement... as long as everyone involved is happy, it’s not anyone else’s business x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Great answers and thank you...I stood up for myself and fellow swingers when a big mouth straight romeo thought it was ok to inflict his judgemental views on everyone. Funnily enough he single lol x

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"I think all relationships are different... some like to share and some don’t. There’s no need for judgement... as long as everyone involved is happy, it’s not anyone else’s business x"

Yes I'm inclined to think like that. No other area of our sex life or relationship is up for discussion with colleagues but if I was asked outright I wouldn't hide it, I'd just refuse to justify or explain. I wouldn't ask them to justify or explain monogamy and I bet they'd be offended if I did

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Great answers and thank you...I stood up for myself and fellow swingers when a big mouth straight romeo thought it was ok to inflict his judgemental views on everyone. Funnily enough he single lol x"

I bet he didn't feel the need to justify his way of being in a relationship.

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By *scottMan
over a year ago

Uttoxeter


"Had discussion with work colleague who said...how can you let your wife fuck another man. You cannot respect your marriage and she obviously not satisfied with you....thoughts x"

It is the ultimate sign of respect, I totally trust and respect my better half. I love to see her enjoy herself (sexual or otherwise).

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By *leo and LeoCouple
over a year ago

Worcestershire

We share each other because sex is fun and we enjoy meeting and playing with new people.

Absolutely nothing to do with one of us not being up to scratch in some way.

I understand why monogamous people may question it and think it’s a bit odd, but then that’s why they aren’t swingers.

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By *ugarbearCouple
over a year ago

Tredegar

we share because it fun and only its sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always say something along the lines of "Bless, I really admire your commitment of been in an insecure vanilla relationship"

Dunno why I do that, it never goes down well & suddenly I become a "whore"

But if someone wants to bash my marriage because we are swingers I'm coming right back at ya

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tbh everyone in this day and age loves confrontation when it comes to any subject that can be argued/disagreed on (so literally anything). Its up to you weather you try and argue your case back but lets be honest why even waste your time and do you really care what he/she thinks. If you do change the mind of this person there is going to be hundreds of others who think it soooooo wrong and your going to hell for it lol. (As the wife says if we do go to hell for this then the devil will get tied down and fucked when i get there hahaha). So to sum up this rant i would say look at the reasons you swing in the first place if they are not good enough or strong enough reasons to make you not care about what others think if they do find out about you swinging lifestyle then you may have trouble accepting the lifestyle because of the fear of what others think.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow. This ia a question and a half. Depends on so many things. A lot of which has already been answered on here. I am going to play devil's advocate and take the moral high ground for just one moment. Morally you could argue its wrong. Shows signs of insecurity perhaps. Can't really please each other. It's disgusting. Christian values etc etc. Would not have happened in the forties and fifties so much etc etc. I could go on. However we are more liberated these days. Providing its not hurting anyone. Nor ilegal and gas everyones consent then why not. It can strengthen a relationship and it can wreck it. Each to their own so to speak. I personally have been involved in sharing my wife's over the years and found like many others a massive turn on. As people have already commented. It's up to the individuals concerned. It's not for everyone and some people will never understand it. Interesting topic though.

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By *ee And MikeCouple
over a year ago

Cannock


"I think all relationships are different... some like to share and some don’t. There’s no need for judgement... as long as everyone involved is happy, it’s not anyone else’s business x

Yes I'm inclined to think like that. No other area of our sex life or relationship is up for discussion with colleagues but if I was asked outright I wouldn't hide it, I'd just refuse to justify or explain. I wouldn't ask them to justify or explain monogamy and I bet they'd be offended if I did "

Totally agree, a few of my wife’s friends and a couple of mine know that I like to be cuckolded by her. We don’t advertise the fact to family or other friends but if asked I wouldn’t lie, it’s just a personal part of our life that’s nobodies business really.

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By *lixir of lifeMan
over a year ago

knob Creek

It’s being able to have the mental strength to separate sex from love ..

Sex can be an act between people.. or privately together it can be making love ..

It’s having the mind set to separate the two ..

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