FabSwingers.com forum: Verification

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm a newbie. It is really hard to find attention if you are not verified. But in order to be verified, you need to meet people. I know it all makes sense, but it's kinda catch 22... What do you think?

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By *ap d agde coupleCouple
over a year ago

Broadstairs

"I'm a newbie. It is really hard to find attention if you are not verified. But in order to be verified, you need to meet people. I know it all makes sense, but it's kinda catch 22... What do you think?"
Mostly that on Fab verifications matter

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So for you, hypothetically, it wouldn't be a problem? Photo verification is enough for you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is tough, us men are well out numbering the women so they have the pick of the crop - a small bit of advice if it helps;

1. If you find someone treat them well and stick with - I dont have countless varifications, that because I wrapped my gal in cotton wool - respect

2. add a little bit more in your profile, expand more on you and what your looking for - a simple "i'm here for sex" does not cut it here

Both are my own opinions, you can do whatever you want

J xx

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

Go to a club and get the actual club to verify you, they will gladly do that

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks. Good tips, appreciate it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

You see, that's the thing. I like parties, but I'm not really into club parties... Nevertheless thank you for your reply.

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By *inranWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

Clubs, socials, more info on your profile about why you. You have to stand out a bit. Don't message loads of people with no effort. Find fewer people and really put effort into writing a message that suits them and their profile.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

That's really helpful, thanks. I suppose you're right. I probably take for granted that people here are for one reason only, hence my messages are too brief...

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

Whilst verification is undoubtedly important for a lot of people, it isn't some sort of golden ticket, don't expect that getting verified will suddenly have you inundated with offers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As much as on one hand, a verification proves you to be real, a lot of people use them as a way of proving you’ll most likely turn up. Especially if quite a lot of effort is going into the preparation.

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By *oneymitchMan
over a year ago

Huddersfield

Your 4 weeks in, there are guys that have been on the site for 5 years plus.

The best advise I can give is stick it out, stay polite and be prepared to be very patient. Alot of guys dont last on the site as they expect to be swimming in vagina within an hour. When the clubs open swallow your pride and get to one and socialise, slowly you will see your network start to grow and the veris and profile confidence comes with that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i disregard any cam veris as they really do prove nothing other than you wank on line .. i look at meet veris for one reason and its to prove that you really did turn up for that meet but we all know on here that there are so many false veris being given now that it just resorts back to gut instincts ,, veris are fast becoming ''nothing''

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By *ollydoesWoman
over a year ago

Shangri-La

Verifications don't mean half as much as people like to think and won't be the reason no one will meet them.

Anyway some people just prefer not to show them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Your 4 weeks in, there are guys that have been on the site for 5 years plus.

Thanks. Good tip

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Verifications don't mean half as much as people like to think and won't be the reason no one will meet them.

Anyway some people just prefer not to show them. "

I've been told couple of times that lack of meets verification was the reason... not to meet

Thank you for your comment though.

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By *evilandTheBeastCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough and Bedford

You got plenty of good advice already. Our take:

- no, not everyone is here for "one thing" (we assume you mean sex?)- this is not an instashag. Some people use this site to have a quick wank and disappear; some use it to just cam/chat online, show off but never really meet; some use it to find local like-minded people they would be happy to connect with via organised socials; some use it to find parties in their area; some just want to know what clubs are there and what they offer. So no, not everyone is here for just one thing.

- we cannot stress enough the importance of getting yourself known for other like-minded people, if you truly want the lifestyle, not just sex. As swinging is about so much more than just sex. How to get yourself known? Clubs (not all are just about parties, some are spa-based etc) and organised socials are the best ways to do some networking. As is the forum - get involved, show some personality, and you never know, you might benefit from them (we met through partly forum, partly good profile).

- have a good profile that is appealing; put photos there that leave something for the imagination. Look at other successful male profiles, what do they have in common?

Don't get disheartened too quickly, it can take a long time to get verified unless you put some effort in. Also, you say you don't like club parties- you have a rare opportunity at the moment that some clubs (ones that have already opened/are opening soon) are doing social events. Maybe it's worth giving those a try?

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By *evilandTheBeastCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough and Bedford

"Verifications don't mean half as much as people like to think and won't be the reason no one will meet them.

Anyway some people just prefer not to show them.

I've been told couple of times that lack of meets verification was the reason... not to meet

Thank you for your comment though."

How are you expected to have a meet verification when we were all in lockdown? Or we were supposed to be? It could have been just an excuse.

But anyway, as others have said, getting verified is not a golden ticket to be swimming in vagina. Good profile, being able to do some networking, being polite and patient- those are the keys.

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

That's a vicious circle, not catch 22.

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By *elshcouple18Couple
over a year ago

Cardiff

We are meet, cam and photo verified, and still find it hard to get meets, there are way too many 'couples' who join, and within a few days seem to get meet verified, makes you wonder doesn't it??

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By * and BCouple
over a year ago

Durham

"That's really helpful, thanks. I suppose you're right. I probably take for granted that people here are for one reason only, hence my messages are too brief..."

You only get out what you put in, that's with anything in life. Getting site verified is a good start. Put in the effort or you will get no reward. You say you like the party scene, surely if you have been to parties the hosts will verify you. Its just common decency

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By *rouble1998Woman
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Most of my verifications are from clubs and socials, it’s definitely the easiest way to get verified

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you all for your comments. I do appreciate it. I've updated my profile, so I've got a favour to ask: tell me what you think? Hopefully it's way better now

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By *evilandTheBeastCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough and Bedford

"Thank you all for your comments. I do appreciate it. I've updated my profile, so I've got a favour to ask: tell me what you think? Hopefully it's way better now

You did put some personality in there, that's for sure. Do get more photos, but please, whatever you do, don't photograph your cock from hundreds of different angles. If you do have to have a cock shot, then put them in your "friends only" folder?

Unfortunately, your height is not going to be your advantage. As a lot of women, Devil included, prefer men at least as tall as they are. Nothing you can do about that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Thank you all for your comments. I do appreciate it. I've updated my profile, so I've got a favour to ask: tell me what you think? Hopefully it's way better now

Unfortunately, your height is not going to be your advantage. As a lot of women, Devil included, prefer men at least as tall as they are. Nothing you can do about that. "

Yeah, I'm short. And it definitely works against me. I used to have friend called me LPS: Little Polish Shit

Anyway, thank you.

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By *evilandTheBeastCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough and Bedford

"Thank you all for your comments. I do appreciate it. I've updated my profile, so I've got a favour to ask: tell me what you think? Hopefully it's way better now

Unfortunately, your height is not going to be your advantage. As a lot of women, Devil included, prefer men at least as tall as they are. Nothing you can do about that.

Yeah, I'm short. And it definitely works against me. I used to have friend called me LPS: Little Polish Shit

Anyway, thank you. "

Does this mean you're Polish? If yes, congratulations (and we mean it)- your profile reads much better than those of plenty of British people, who are supposed to have English as their mother tongue.

Good luck, OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thank you all for your comments. I do appreciate it. I've updated my profile, so I've got a favour to ask: tell me what you think? Hopefully it's way better now

Unfortunately, your height is not going to be your advantage. As a lot of women, Devil included, prefer men at least as tall as they are. Nothing you can do about that. "

I’d say cock pics in friends only unless you’ve got a decent cock. My fully naked pics have been the reason some people have started chatting.

Still, don’t over do it. One or two is more than adequate and try not to make them just of your cock

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Thank you all for your comments. I do appreciate it. I've updated my profile, so I've got a favour to ask: tell me what you think? Hopefully it's way better now

Unfortunately, your height is not going to be your advantage. As a lot of women, Devil included, prefer men at least as tall as they are. Nothing you can do about that.

Yeah, I'm short. And it definitely works against me. I used to have friend called me LPS: Little Polish Shit

Anyway, thank you.

Does this mean you're Polish? If yes, congratulations (and we mean it)- your profile reads much better than those of plenty of British people, who are supposed to have English as their mother tongue.

Good luck, OP. "

Yes I am. And my accent doesn't give it away either

Nice chatting, thank you. I feel more confident now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be your self stop worrying chat to people about normal stuff find some one you get on with meet them get verified if that fails join bumble or tinder and meet some one new every week for casual sex without having to get verified by simply swiping......see easy.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Be your self stop worrying chat to people about normal stuff find some one you get on with meet them get verified if that fails join bumble or tinder and meet some one new every week for casual sex without having to get verified by simply swiping......see easy.

Cool. I'll try to be patient... That said, I have no idea how Tinder or Bumble work. Are you saying I should try there?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cool. I'll try to be patient... That said, I have no idea how Tinder or Bumble work. Are you saying I should try there?"
I'm saying fab takes work but its a swinging site for swingers, if your just after anything with a pulse go on a dating app.

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By *aul DeUther-OneMan
over a year ago

Sussex

"You see, that's the thing. I like parties, but I'm not really into club parties... Nevertheless thank you for your reply."

Organise a social yourself in a neutral location like a town centre pun. Invite everybody! Have lots if polite, no strings conversations and verify everyone you speak to.

What goes around comes around, so you should get a few return invitations.

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By *aul DeUther-OneMan
over a year ago

Sussex

"You see, that's the thing. I like parties, but I'm not really into club parties... Nevertheless thank you for your reply.

Organise a social yourself in a neutral location like a town centre pun. Invite everybody! Have lots if polite, no strings conversations and verify everyone you speak to.

What goes around comes around, so you should get a few return invitations."

* pub

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You see, that's the thing. I like parties, but I'm not really into club parties... Nevertheless thank you for your reply.

Organise a social yourself in a neutral location like a town centre pun. Invite everybody! Have lots if polite, no strings conversations and verify everyone you speak to.

What goes around comes around, so you should get a few return invitations."

That's good idea, thanks.

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By *evilandTheBeastCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough and Bedford

"You see, that's the thing. I like parties, but I'm not really into club parties... Nevertheless thank you for your reply.

Organise a social yourself in a neutral location like a town centre pun. Invite everybody! Have lots if polite, no strings conversations and verify everyone you speak to.

What goes around comes around, so you should get a few return invitations.

* pub"

Yes, it's definitely a good idea. It does take a lot of work though (Devil speaking from experience). Messages like "how many women/couples are coming?", "Can I play?", "If there is no option to play, I/we are not coming" etc. It might be a bit different at present, but still only expect some of the people to turn up. Worth a shot though.

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Verification - catch 22