FabSwingers.com forum: Putting effort into a chat?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Been on Fab a long time full stop and I've made multiple accounts over them years of being on Fab.

There's one thing that I can never understand? you start a conversation and it goes well and you get blocked?

Then you'll find someone that's very pretty and you think you can have a great time, with them.

For example: they block you even when you just say hi how is everything going??

All you get on here,

people that waste your time love to block you for no apparent reason and don't give you any explanation or Nothing.

What they think there god or a goddess, if that right why the hell you on fab?

Can you tell me your experiences about people wasting your time blocking you for no apparent reason.

I just want to know I'm not the only one this is happening to

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

Of course your not. Just read the multiple daily threads about this. Unless you're just looking to vent?

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By *landfordfabbersCouple
over a year ago

Blandford ish

Unfortunately it’s nature of the beast, I think sometimes you talk a bit decide there is no chemistry or a personality trait you don’t like etc and move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No you're not, however try not to take it personally - folks will have many and varied reasons for hitting the block button and they don't need to justify it. Just live with it and move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always remember its better to be blocked earlier then for something to carry on thats not working out

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Of course your not. Just read the multiple daily threads about this. Unless you're just looking to vent?"

Is amazing seeing how many people are affected by the same shit

It is mad

I think you're right I need a vent

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Unfortunately it’s nature of the beast, I think sometimes you talk a bit decide there is no chemistry or a personality trait you don’t like etc and move on"

Yeah you're right.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No you're not, however try not to take it personally - folks will have many and varied reasons for hitting the block button and they don't need to justify it. Just live with it and move on"

I have to admit it is still a shock to the system

You are right I need to move on from it

But it just piss me right off

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Always remember its better to be blocked earlier then for something to carry on thats not working out"

That's a good way of looking at it.

But I just don't know why you just can say that in the message.

Example: hey it was nice talking with you but I can't see It working sorry for leading you on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No you're not, however try not to take it personally - folks will have many and varied reasons for hitting the block button and they don't need to justify it. Just live with it and move on

I have to admit it is still a shock to the system

You are right I need to move on from it

But it just piss me right off

Doesn't mean you're not to feel annoyed, rejected or pissed off all reasonable emotions but you have to remember that the other side will have other emotive reasons for blocking all equally valid. Life's a bitch then you die

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Always remember its better to be blocked earlier then for something to carry on thats not working out

That's a good way of looking at it.

But I just don't know why you just can say that in the message.

Example: hey it was nice talking with you but I can't see It working sorry for leading you on."

Think it's just down to sheer numbers ... if a lady has 50 messages in one day that'll be a lot of replies and a lot of time that noone really has in life.

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By *Ci LutherMan
over a year ago

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Just gotta suck it up mate that simple .. but I feel your pain it is very frustrating

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No you're not, however try not to take it personally - folks will have many and varied reasons for hitting the block button and they don't need to justify it. Just live with it and move on

I have to admit it is still a shock to the system

You are right I need to move on from it

But it just piss me right off

Be pissed off then move on

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By *ick and PamelarrCouple
over a year ago

Oxfordshire

"Been on Fab a long time full stop and I've made multiple accounts over them years of being on Fab.

There's one thing that I can never understand? you start a conversation and it goes well and you get blocked?

Then you'll find someone that's very pretty and you think you can have a great time, with them.

For example: they block you even when you just say hi how is everything going??

All you get on here,

people that waste your time love to block you for no apparent reason and don't give you any explanation or Nothing.

What they think there god or a goddess, if that right why the hell you on fab?

Can you tell me your experiences about people wasting your time blocking you for no apparent reason.

I just want to know I'm not the only one this is happening to"

So the reasons we have blocked people beforehand are....

Honesty - for example on your profile your name is Rob...that's fine, but once we got chatting if you suddenly said 'oh, by the way, my name's Dave' why not give your name from the start? We would think what else are you hiding/not saying.

Bluntness - yes, we all know why we are here, but things like 'wanna fuck' and 'can I get the milf pregnant' (yes, somebody used that as an opening message) not good at all.

Pic hunting/wank material - Don't send a friend request without chatting first just so you can see our private pics/videos

Read the profile - might seem an obvious one, but if a profile says 'we want a man with a nine inch tongue that can breathe through his ears' and you are not this man, save your time messaging

Life in general - we would love to dedicate all our time to the site, but life happens, so if you message all the time, despite being politely told that shit is going on, and you still keep messaging, you'll be added to the block list.

Having said all that, we are friendly really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Always remember its better to be blocked earlier then for something to carry on thats not working out

That's a good way of looking at it.

But I just don't know why you just can say that in the message.

Example: hey it was nice talking with you but I can't see It working sorry for leading you on."

Someone replying back to you isn’t leading you on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Been on Fab a long time full stop and I've made multiple accounts over them years of being on Fab.

There's one thing that I can never understand? you start a conversation and it goes well and you get blocked?

Then you'll find someone that's very pretty and you think you can have a great time, with them.

For example: they block you even when you just say hi how is everything going??

All you get on here,

people that waste your time love to block you for no apparent reason and don't give you any explanation or Nothing.

What they think there god or a goddess, if that right why the hell you on fab?

Can you tell me your experiences about people wasting your time blocking you for no apparent reason.

I just want to know I'm not the only one this is happening to"

OP i can understand your feeling and little frustration, i have gone through same senario and asked myself, what did I do wrong? Never get the subtle hint, just moved on.

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By *hesblokeMan
over a year ago

Derbyshire village

"Always remember its better to be blocked earlier then for something to carry on thats not working out

That's a good way of looking at it.

But I just don't know why you just can say that in the message.

Example: hey it was nice talking with you but I can't see It working sorry for leading you on."

We have a cut n' paste that says "thanks but we're not looking for anyone right now, sorry, have a great day".

We don't get many messages (certainly not as much as a single woman or more experienced couple get), maybe 20 a day max.

I'd say 75% message again asking why, asking if they can meet us next week instead or whatever. Easily messaged back with a no thanks. Most don't reply again.

But if you're (and I know some do) getting hundreds of messages, this takes ages and can get quite draining.

As frustrating as it is, I don't blame anyone for not messaging back.

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By *irty desireWoman
over a year ago

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I blocked and get blocked daily.. I blocked people so the cant see my pics, anyone too local and also the ones who constantly moan on there statuses about no genuine people on here.

If no face pic until a few messages exchange and I don’t find them attractive i say sorry not for me and block.

I can say 100% that men do that to me too!

Try not to let it get you down

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Always remember its better to be blocked earlier then for something to carry on thats not working out

That's a good way of looking at it.

But I just don't know why you just can say that in the message.

Example: hey it was nice talking with you but I can't see It working sorry for leading you on."

If someone says no thank you they often get abuse. Or whining messages asking "why won't you meet meeeeeee??"

If they block it saves you wasting any more time on them.

A few messages doesn't guarantee a shag.

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By *uzboxCouple
over a year ago

Northwich

When we receive a message saying "hi how is everything going??" (Your example) this starts the finger hovering over the Block button, however we would probably view your profile because you can't dismiss everyone because they send you a pointless message. First thing you see on your profile is an aggressive status and then a bio with nothing in it so BLOCKED! When I spotted the title of the thread I thought it was going to be about others not putting any effort in, maybe it should have been titled "as you sow so shall you reep

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By *irty PrettyWoman
over a year ago

Cardiff

"Been on Fab a long time full stop and I've made multiple accounts over them years of being on Fab."

So you should be fairly well aware of how it works by now then.

"There's one thing that I can never understand? you start a conversation and it goes well and you get blocked? Then you'll find someone that's very pretty and you think you can have a great time, with them. For example: they block you even when you just say hi how is everything going??"

Maybe they didn’t think the conversation was going well, maybe they didn’t think they’d have a great time with you.

"All you get on here, people that waste your time love to block you for no apparent reason and don't give you any explanation or Nothing."

They have a reason, you just don’t know what it is. They don’t owe you an explanation. Frankly, the tone of your post will probably get you blocked by some people.

"What they think there god or a goddess, if that right why the hell you on fab?"

I’m sure they don’t think that, they’re just people. People with their own reasons for being here, people with their own wants and desires, people with their own ways of managing their time on here.

"Can you tell me your experiences about people wasting your time blocking you for no apparent reason. I just want to know I'm not the only one this is happening to"

They aren’t wasting your time by blocking you, arguably they’re preventing any more waste of time on either side.

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By *irty PrettyWoman
over a year ago

Cardiff

"Always remember its better to be blocked earlier then for something to carry on thats not working out

That's a good way of looking at it.

But I just don't know why you just can say that in the message.

Example: hey it was nice talking with you but I can't see It working sorry for leading you on."

Wow. “Sorry for leading you on”? Are you for real? Talking to a man does NOT equal leading him on! FFS

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You should see Fab like being on a nightclub dancefloor.

You can break some shapes and impress but not every women will wanna dance with you and maybe even turn there back on you.

Just life and their choice.

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Bexley

"Been on Fab a long time full stop and I've made multiple accounts over them years of being on Fab.

There's one thing that I can never understand? you start a conversation and it goes well and you get blocked?

Then you'll find someone that's very pretty and you think you can have a great time, with them.

For example: they block you even when you just say hi how is everything going??

All you get on here,

people that waste your time love to block you for no apparent reason and don't give you any explanation or Nothing.

What they think there god or a goddess, if that right why the hell you on fab?

Can you tell me your experiences about people wasting your time blocking you for no apparent reason.

I just want to know I'm not the only one this is happening to"

In all probability it'll be something you said (perhaps witout even realising it) that put them off in some way. As harsh it it may seem, what would you expect them to do? Try to explain and risk a load of abuse? The easiest thing is just to block and thereby avoid any trouble.

A while ago this happened to us. A '100% straight' guy we'd been chatting to happily for a couple of months let slip that he really liked to play with the male halves of couples not just the female. We blocked him instantly because until that point he'd assured us he was totally straight so had clearly deceived us.

I'm not suggesting you've done exactly the same thing but just that you may have said something that raised some doubts.

As regards being blocked for simply saying 'how you doing?', you're assuming that was the reason when it's more likely to be that before replying, the recipient checked the sender's profile and decided they didn't like the look of that so decided to block them rather than risk explaining and potssibly getting abuse. Not everyone wants to chat to complete strangers all the time, especially if they don't like what they've seen and they're constantly being approached with unsolicited messages.

I can see how it may seem harsh from your point of view but there are so many guys sending these messages having not bothered to read profiles first, that it gets highly annoying and it's alot easier to block them than explain over and over again.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No you're not, however try not to take it personally - folks will have many and varied reasons for hitting the block button and they don't need to justify it. Just live with it and move on

I have to admit it is still a shock to the system

You are right I need to move on from it

But it just piss me right off

Yep like is a bitch

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Always remember its better to be blocked earlier then for something to carry on thats not working out

That's a good way of looking at it.

But I just don't know why you just can say that in the message.

Example: hey it was nice talking with you but I can't see It working sorry for leading you on.

Think it's just down to sheer numbers ... if a lady has 50 messages in one day that'll be a lot of replies and a lot of time that noone really has in life. "

Oh yeah I seeing tv and women got over 100 messages a day and I not surprised that they don't want to reply to everyone.

I do feel bad for them getting over 100 it mad

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just gotta suck it up mate that simple .. but I feel your pain it is very frustrating "

yeah you are right

Sicking it up and moving on

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By *Ci LutherMan
over a year ago

Cumalot

Been on here to long to worry about now buddy

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Been on Fab a long time full stop and I've made multiple accounts over them years of being on Fab.

There's one thing that I can never understand? you start a conversation and it goes well and you get blocked?

Then you'll find someone that's very pretty and you think you can have a great time, with them.

For example: they block you even when you just say hi how is everything going??

All you get on here,

people that waste your time love to block you for no apparent reason and don't give you any explanation or Nothing.

What they think there god or a goddess, if that right why the hell you on fab?

Can you tell me your experiences about people wasting your time blocking you for no apparent reason.

I just want to know I'm not the only one this is happening to

So the reasons we have blocked people beforehand are....

Bluntness - yes, we all know why we are here, but things like 'wanna fuck' and 'can I get the milf pregnant' (yes, somebody used that as an opening message) not good at all.

Pic hunting/wank material - Don't send a friend request without chatting first just so you can see our private pics/videos

Read the profile - might seem an obvious one, but if a profile says 'we want a man with a nine inch tongue that can breathe through his ears' and you are not this man, save your time messaging

Having said all that, we are friendly really

Thank you very much for telling me that it is something I need to hear

Brutal honest truth

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

When I get a message I look at the profile before I even open the message, if the profile doesn't interest me then I am unlikely to reply, if there is anything on the profile that really doesn't appeal to me I block.

In the past when I have responded to a message with a polite "no thanks" it has often resulted in either abuse or more messages asking why I'm not interested. So now I don't usually bother replying.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Always remember its better to be blocked earlier then for something to carry on thats not working out

That's a good way of looking at it.

But I just don't know why you just can say that in the message.

Example: hey it was nice talking with you but I can't see It working sorry for leading you on.

Someone replying back to you isn’t leading you on

To give you more depth into this what I meant.

So I was talking to this person 2 days and we gone quite nicely recent 24 messages back and forth and it was the last few messages that got me.

The last few messages was

Person wanted to meet up I said that awesome.

They Give me the address and their postcode so I know how to get there.

There was the last message I double checked I said do you have WhatsApp or do you have Kik so I can actually contact you when I'm on my way.

Then The next day I jump on to see if I got a message. Sadly it show deleted and click on the profile and I was blocked.

So it can feel like I was lead on to be setup for a lose.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Been on Fab a long time full stop and I've made multiple accounts over them years of being on Fab.

There's one thing that I can never understand? you start a conversation and it goes well and you get blocked?

Then you'll find someone that's very pretty and you think you can have a great time, with them.

For example: they block you even when you just say hi how is everything going??

All you get on here,

people that waste your time love to block you for no apparent reason and don't give you any explanation or Nothing.

What they think there god or a goddess, if that right why the hell you on fab?

Can you tell me your experiences about people wasting your time blocking you for no apparent reason.

I just want to know I'm not the only one this is happening to

OP i can understand your feeling and little frustration, i have gone through same senario and asked myself, what did I do wrong? Never get the subtle hint, just moved on.

Sorry to hear that mate.

I know what you mean indeed

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Always remember its better to be blocked earlier then for something to carry on thats not working out

That's a good way of looking at it.

But I just don't know why you just can say that in the message.

Example: hey it was nice talking with you but I can't see It working sorry for leading you on.

We have a cut n' paste that says "thanks but we're not looking for anyone right now, sorry, have a great day".

We don't get many messages (certainly not as much as a single woman or more experienced couple get), maybe 20 a day max.

I'd say 75% message again asking why, asking if they can meet us next week instead or whatever. Easily messaged back with a no thanks. Most don't reply again.

But if you're (and I know some do) getting hundreds of messages, this takes ages and can get quite draining.

As frustrating as it is, I don't blame anyone for not messaging back."

Indeed I told understand that

Some people out there I can't even take the hint.

Even if you do send a message back saying no thank you they will literally ask a million questions on it.

But I totally understand and it is draining

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When I get a message I look at the profile before I even open the message, if the profile doesn't interest me then I am unlikely to reply, if there is anything on the profile that really doesn't appeal to me I block.

In the past when I have responded to a message with a polite "no thanks" it has often resulted in either abuse or more messages asking why I'm not interested. So now I don't usually bother replying.

This .

We try to always reply.

Most of the time we ask them to read our profile.

The times we say sorry not interested then we get abuse like you are not as hot as you guys think you are.

We didn't say we were bye blocked.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I blocked and get blocked daily.. I blocked people so the cant see my pics, anyone too local and also the ones who constantly moan on there statuses about no genuine people on here.

If no face pic until a few messages exchange and I don’t find them attractive i say sorry not for me and block.

I can say 100% that men do that to me too!

Try not to let it get you down

Now that make sense.

You don't want someone you don't like having a pictures x

Oh yeah definitely.

I say everyone does it men women females transvestite.

Reading all this message shows me alot and thank you all.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Always remember its better to be blocked earlier then for something to carry on thats not working out

That's a good way of looking at it.

But I just don't know why you just can say that in the message.

Example: hey it was nice talking with you but I can't see It working sorry for leading you on.

If someone says no thank you they often get abuse. Or whining messages asking "why won't you meet meeeeeee??"

If they block it saves you wasting any more time on them.

A few messages doesn't guarantee a shag.

Lol yeah yeah you are right there

I'll see some messages like that when someone whining

But I can make it better for you I will change

Cool understand

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"When we receive a message saying "hi how is everything going??" (Your example) this starts the finger hovering over the Block button, however we would probably view your profile because you can't dismiss everyone because they send you a pointless message. First thing you see on your profile is an aggressive status and then a bio with nothing in it so BLOCKED! When I spotted the title of the thread I thought it was going to be about others not putting any effort in, maybe it should have been titled "as you sow so shall you reep"

Very interesting.

Would you tell me what would you like to see in your first message??

What is a good way to start the conversation and how to stand out?

What you have said is very interesting and could explain a lot

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Always remember its better to be blocked earlier then for something to carry on thats not working out

That's a good way of looking at it.

But I just don't know why you just can say that in the message.

Example: hey it was nice talking with you but I can't see It working sorry for leading you on.

Wow. “Sorry for leading you on”? Are you for real? Talking to a man does NOT equal leading him on! FFS"

Is it understand what you're saying and I totally agree with it.

Yeah not only talking about women I being talking man and tv.

It some of the earlier stuff I put up I should have put more detail into it.

Yes it is a fucksake moment but it something i thought was only happening to me. Tbh

When I talk to other people on the sorry that I know as friends that are go drinking with they don't really have the problems that I do.

So reading all this message show me and it shocking and amazing what go on

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You should see Fab like being on a nightclub dancefloor.

You can break some shapes and impress but not every women will wanna dance with you and maybe even turn there back on you.

Just life and their choice.

Fabs a nightclub full of people and it's just like who wants to talk who was dance that I like that I like that I really do good way look at fab

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Been on Fab a long time full stop and I've made multiple accounts over them years of being on Fab.

There's one thing that I can never understand? you start a conversation and it goes well and you get blocked?

Then you'll find someone that's very pretty and you think you can have a great time, with them.

For example: they block you even when you just say hi how is everything going??

All you get on here,

people that waste your time love to block you for no apparent reason and don't give you any explanation or Nothing.

What they think there god or a goddess, if that right why the hell you on fab?

Can you tell me your experiences about people wasting your time blocking you for no apparent reason.

I just want to know I'm not the only one this is happening to

I'm not suggesting you've done exactly the same thing but just that you may have said something that raised some doubts.

But the good old saying said one person can ruin everything for other people.

That's quite shocking that guy did to you I understand way you block him.

Thank for tell that make me thing about my profile but I am shit at writing BIOS and stuff like that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Been on here to long to worry about now buddy"

Lol fair play there mate

Hope I can be the same

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

In the past when I have responded to a message with a polite "no thanks" it has often resulted in either abuse or more messages asking why I'm not interested. So now I don't usually bother replying.

I'm sorry to hear that I don't know why people give other people abuse.

You're on here to look for Fun and have a good time you're not here to be abused and are you not someone's punching bag if you say no thank.

That sucks

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

In the past when I have responded to a message with a polite "no thanks" it has often resulted in either abuse or more messages asking why I'm not interested. So now I don't usually bother replying.

This .

We try to always reply.

Most of the time we ask them to read our profile.

The times we say sorry not interested then we get abuse like you are not as hot as you guys think you are.

We didn't say we were bye blocked.

It's just unbelievable people say sorry you're not my type,they should understand respect your decision.

don't know why they should give you so much abuse

If you had any any abuse I'm sorry to hear this

it's just not fair

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you everyone for your messages

I have replied to everyone

I think all of you for all your experiences and it has opened my eyes a lot more.

It's really sad that you get abused for saying no thank you

it reader suck

I'll be all have a great day and I hope you all have a great weekend

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