FabSwingers.com forum: Bye Bye Not Bi

By *irtySekrets OP Couple
over a year ago

Filthy Desires Upon Trent

Hello sexy Fabbers.

We love it when guys message saying they are Bi Curious and want to try it for the first time.

When we say Ok. But you will need to suck and wank hubby first without me being in the room, just for starters.

Funny how they never reply to that request or block us

Lol xxxxxx

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By *he Ring WraithMan
over a year ago

Bradford

This is an interesting one and is probably (like everything on fab) different for most people so I am not criticising your idea at all.

For me and I describe myself as bi-curious it is about the dynamic of threesomes (or more somes), teh one MMF threesome I had where the guy was a caged TV he was ordered by her to suck me as she rode my face, and i enjoyed it.

In those circumstances i would love to be made to suck and wank a man by a dominant lady especially if they were younger than me, but if the idea was MM play without her present i wouldn't be interested either.

But as i started this post with; everyone is different and if it works for you then enjoyxxx

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By *aggy dollsCouple
over a year ago

bradford

"Hello sexy Fabbers.

We love it when guys message saying they are Bi Curious and want to try it for the first time.

When we say Ok. But you will need to suck and wank hubby first without me being in the room, just for starters.

Funny how they never reply to that request or block us

Lol xxxxxx"

Easily the best way to whittle our the dreamers and chancers.

Mr H.

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By *ikilovesCCouple
over a year ago

village life, closest main town inverness

"Hello sexy Fabbers.

We love it when guys message saying they are Bi Curious and want to try it for the first time.

When we say Ok. But you will need to suck and wank hubby first without me being in the room, just for starters.

Funny how they never reply to that request or block us

Lol xxxxxx"

lol, kinda like an inanition ceremony really

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By *xxsomonMan
over a year ago

rugeley

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By *ikilovesCCouple
over a year ago

village life, closest main town inverness

"[Removed by poster at 15/05/21 15:29:27]"

Or..... Initiation even

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By *otsMan
over a year ago

Higham

Sounds ok to me

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By *irtySekrets OP Couple
over a year ago

Filthy Desires Upon Trent

"[Removed by poster at 15/05/21 15:29:27]

Or..... Initiation even

Yes. Most of them run for the hills

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

I have offered to meet guys for a social first before I invite them to my place. So the minute they think they’ll have to meet me in public, that’s when they make excuses.

I’m not interested in being someone’s ‘experiment’ and a true admirer has no issues meeting in a club or gay bar. So it’s an easy way to get rid of the dreamers and spend time with the genuine people on the site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Count me in!!

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By *irtySekrets OP Couple
over a year ago

Filthy Desires Upon Trent

"I have offered to meet guys for a social first before I invite them to my place. So the minute they think they’ll have to meet me in public, that’s when they make excuses.

Sounds the right thing to do. It’s the same as the ones who want to come over straight away.

Give me the best seeing to I’ve ever had in my life.

When I say ok. Hey go quiet and never hear from them again lol xx

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

Maybe they aren't looking for a single man, or think your profile is just a man looking for other men.

Has been known yoj know.

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By *escreetsexMan
over a year ago

cannock

"[Removed by poster at 15/05/21 15:29:27]

Or..... Initiation even

Yes. Most of them run for the hills

I think the attraction for some might be you watching them do it

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By *irtySekrets OP Couple
over a year ago

Filthy Desires Upon Trent

"[Removed by poster at 15/05/21 15:29:27]

Or..... Initiation even

Yes. Most of them run for the hills

I think the attraction for some might be you watching them do it"

Yes it is. But I wouldn’t be involved for 5 minutes just to prove they are not faking it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is a difficult one. I’ve used the same tactic to out the idiots when I had a couples profile with a fuck buddy. However, I’m not really into playing with guys alone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hello sexy Fabbers.

We love it when guys message saying they are Bi Curious and want to try it for the first time.

When we say Ok. But you will need to suck and wank hubby first without me being in the room, just for starters.

Funny how they never reply to that request or block us

Lol xxxxxx"

I'd suck that dick with or without you in the room. Just putting it out there

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By *irtySekrets OP Couple
over a year ago

Filthy Desires Upon Trent

"Maybe they aren't looking for a single man, or think your profile is just a man looking for other men.

Has been known yoj know. "

Yes but if they came to the door and it was just the guy then fair enough.

However, we are genuine and would both be there.

The 5 minute thing would sort out the liars

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By *ockedandloaded91Man
over a year ago

Coventry

"Hello sexy Fabbers.

We love it when guys message saying they are Bi Curious and want to try it for the first time.

When we say Ok. But you will need to suck and wank hubby first without me being in the room, just for starters.

Funny how they never reply to that request or block us

Lol xxxxxx"

In fairness - I’m bi-curious, with a more explanatory term of ‘orally bi’. Now in your situation I also wouldn’t be comfortable in that way.

I can suck a good cock, and enjoy it….. BUT I join couples for threesomes to do exactly that - join a couple. I don’t want to be alone with a guy (or a women for that matter) as for be that then becomes a time of gay or straight play, when in fact I want bi play, and want to be with you both and us all having the fun together. So, I actually am bi-curious and don’t use it as a ploy, but I can understand why some wouldn’t want that.

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By *escreetsexMan
over a year ago

cannock

"[Removed by poster at 15/05/21 15:29:27]

Or..... Initiation even

Yes. Most of them run for the hills

I think the attraction for some might be you watching them do it

Yes it is. But I wouldn’t be involved for 5 minutes just to prove they are not faking it.

It would probably be ok if you showed them in,introduced them to your husband and closed the door as you left

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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Or..... Initiation even

Yes. Most of them run for the hills

I would be happy to have an initiation every time to get things going

Some bi curious guys are better off an fabguys where they can go at a slower pace with people looking for “oral only” meets or “wank meets”.

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By *os19Man
over a year ago

Edmonton

"Hello sexy Fabbers.

We love it when guys message saying they are Bi Curious and want to try it for the first time.

When we say Ok. But you will need to suck and wank hubby first without me being in the room, just for starters.

Funny how they never reply to that request or block us

Lol xxxxxx"
. I once received a message from a couple asking me if I would be interested in meeting them at their home as they wanted to share sucking me off. I told them I was straight and wished them good luck in their search.They messaged me back and called me a time waster even though they made the first contact.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Whilst it's your profile and of course your prerogative to run it how you like and I have suggested that exact tactic in the past to help out the guys that use bi as a means to get meets when they're only really interested in the female half of a couple, there is a dilemma there that I kind of understand from the guys perspective.

If he's curious and wanting to explore his bisexuality for the first time it's actually quite a daunting step to take and not necessarily one that all guys would be comfortable taking on their own one to one with another guy, so I can kind of understand why some may be put off by what you are suggesting OP - but at the same time understand your stance.

Ultimately though it's your profile and your rules and if someone is not comfortable with those then there are plenty of others around that would be.

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

I've sucked a few cocks in my time, and been sucked by guys. Certainly enjoyed it. But always as part of a threesome dynamic where everyone is having Equal opportunity fun. A strict scripted scene where I was expected to perform to somehow prove my bi credentials would put me right off.

It's all about natural flow of play. I might play with the man first, or not... Whatever comes naturally.

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By *irtySekrets OP Couple
over a year ago

Filthy Desires Upon Trent

"I've sucked a few cocks in my time, and been sucked by guys. Certainly enjoyed it. But always as part of a threesome dynamic where everyone is having Equal opportunity fun. A strict scripted scene where I was expected to perform to somehow prove my bi credentials would put me right off.

It's all about natural flow of play. I might play with the man first, or not... Whatever comes naturally. "

We are not talking about not all playing together. We are just fed up with all the liars and chancers. X

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

"you will need to suck and wank hubby first without me being in the room"

Really sounds like being asked to perform to prove bi credentials.... which would put me off. I prefer play to flow naturally.

Men declining your scenario may not be due to them being fakes. Though I'm aware many are.

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By *iceButtSlimMan
over a year ago

somewhere

Like some others have said, when asked to play with just the guy in a message, that sounds alarm bells as a single guy behind a couple's profile.

You should hopefully be able to tell if a guy is genuinely bi from looking at his published verifications and the summary if they are open about it.

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By *irtySekrets OP Couple
over a year ago

Filthy Desires Upon Trent

"Like some others have said, when asked to play with just the guy in a message, that sounds alarm bells as a single guy behind a couple's profile.

You should hopefully be able to tell if a guy is genuinely bi from looking at his published verifications and the summary if they are open about it."

As I said. This scenario would be to sort out the ones just wanting to get in my panties x

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By *lowstick66Man
over a year ago

Lol, then he says oh she had to go out unexpectedly, but thanks for the bj

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By *ovelifelovefuntimesMan
over a year ago

Where ever I lay my hat

"Like some others have said, when asked to play with just the guy in a message, that sounds alarm bells as a single guy behind a couple's profile.

You should hopefully be able to tell if a guy is genuinely bi from looking at his published verifications and the summary if they are open about it.

As I said. This scenario would be to sort out the ones just wanting to get in my panties x"

I suspect a lot of bi curious guys are comfortable with bi play with couples as part of mmf but don't enjoy one on one play with another guy alone. That as I see it is the distinction between bi and bi-curious.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like you have been meeting the wrong bi-males!

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

"Like some others have said, when asked to play with just the guy in a message, that sounds alarm bells as a single guy behind a couple's profile.

You should hopefully be able to tell if a guy is genuinely bi from looking at his published verifications and the summary if they are open about it.

As I said. This scenario would be to sort out the ones just wanting to get in my panties x"

And as I and others have said, it will put off genuine bi/curious men for other reasons.

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By *ostonJoeMan
over a year ago

Boston

Bi curious means they don't know yet. It is a big deal to do it for the first time so there is no wonder they might back out. Whether meeting someone inexperienced by myself or as a couple I would not put any undue pressure or expectation on anyone to perform. Even if someone is experienced, they have the right to back out at any time with no explanation. Fab is full of chances and after a time not getting any clunge being straight they will give being curious a go.

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By *uckslut and MCouple
over a year ago

Poole

What if their a bi top curious?

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By *ikilovesCCouple
over a year ago

village life, closest main town inverness

"[Removed by poster at 15/05/21 15:29:27]

Or..... Initiation even

Yes. Most of them run for the hills

Thanks for the image,

now I've got Iron Maidens Run to the Hills stuck in my head

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By *hesexpistolsCouple
over a year ago

Kent

Difficult one. We don’t like being messed about either, but acknowledge that some guys might only like the big dynamics in the context of a threesome, and to be fair plenty of single guys pose as couples. We used to ask guys to start by sucking Rocco’s cock while S was watching, and that normally ed out the time wasters, but these days we prefer a social - it’s very easy from their body language to figure out what they’re interested in....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe they aren't looking for a single man, or think your profile is just a man looking for other men.

Has been known yoj know. "

That's the common final conclusion people reach when it's suggested male only to begin with.

Certainly One I'd consider.

In addition .........

If only Bi curious and still nervous, it may feel a little full on.

The thought of playing that way with a couple is very different to what seems to be subserviently pleasuring a lone guy.

Some good meets may well have been missed this way.

Unless I Misunderstand.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bi curious.... what would they be "faking" they are curious. I don't see the need for constant arrogance on here. I mean they are interested in exploring their sexuality and experiencing new things... and have contacted a couple to do it with because this is what they are looking for...and it's funny to try to force them to do some weird " you will suck my husbands cock first" initiation and you wonder why they don't message you again.

Not to mention the amount of grief guys get when they try to meet without their partner... I imagine many of those messaging you think it's your man trying it on.

Get real. Who's going to agree to that.

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By *ovelifelovefuntimesMan
over a year ago

Where ever I lay my hat

"Difficult one. We don’t like being messed about either, but acknowledge that some guys might only like the big dynamics in the context of a threesome, and to be fair plenty of single guys pose as couples. We used to ask guys to start by sucking Rocco’s cock while S was watching, and that normally ed out the time wasters, but these days we prefer a social - it’s very easy from their body language to figure out what they’re interested in...."

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By *irtySekrets OP Couple
over a year ago

Filthy Desires Upon Trent

Whatever you post on these Forums, somebody will feel insulted or offended.

We would never actually carry out what we originally posted as we are genuine honest and intelligent people.

We can suss out the fakers and liars before we even meet.

There are so many wasters on the Site now that it’s becoming quite boring. Once they have had a wank they disappear.

Dreamers, fantasists and dickheads are plentiful now on Fab.

Bring back the times when Swinging was naughty and underground. So many more genuine people.

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By *ovelifelovefuntimesMan
over a year ago

Where ever I lay my hat

"Whatever you post on these Forums, somebody will feel insulted or offended.

We would never actually carry out what we originally posted as we are genuine honest and intelligent people.

We can suss out the fakers and liars before we even meet.

There are so many wasters on the Site now that it’s becoming quite boring. Once they have had a wank they disappear.

Dreamers, fantasists and dickheads are plentiful now on Fab.

Bring back the times when Swinging was naughty and underground. So many more genuine people.

xx"

Still plenty of decent folks from my experience. Keep the faith!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Bi curious.... what would they be "faking" they are curious. I don't see the need for constant arrogance on here. I mean they are interested in exploring their sexuality and experiencing new things... and have contacted a couple to do it with because this is what they are looking for...and it's funny to try to force them to do some weird " you will suck my husbands cock first" initiation and you wonder why they don't message you again.

Not to mention the amount of grief guys get when they try to meet without their partner... I imagine many of those messaging you think it's your man trying it on.

Get real. Who's going to agree to that. "

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By *ikilovesCCouple
over a year ago

village life, closest main town inverness

"Whatever you post on these Forums, somebody will feel insulted or offended.

We would never actually carry out what we originally posted as we are genuine honest and intelligent people.

We can suss out the fakers and liars before we even meet.

There are so many wasters on the Site now that it’s becoming quite boring. Once they have had a wank they disappear.

Dreamers, fantasists and dickheads are plentiful now on Fab.

Bring back the times when Swinging was naughty and underground. So many more genuine people.

xx"

Well I took it as a tongue in cheek thread, the way it was intended

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

Naught and underground....I find the most genuine people are open about their lifestyle.

I think I agree with those who feel that a social is a better way of sussing out the fakes.

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By *irtySekrets OP Couple
over a year ago

Filthy Desires Upon Trent

"Whatever you post on these Forums, somebody will feel insulted or offended.

We would never actually carry out what we originally posted as we are genuine honest and intelligent people.

We can suss out the fakers and liars before we even meet.

There are so many wasters on the Site now that it’s becoming quite boring. Once they have had a wank they disappear.

Dreamers, fantasists and dickheads are plentiful now on Fab.

Bring back the times when Swinging was naughty and underground. So many more genuine people.

Well I took it as a tongue in cheek thread, the way it was intended

Good. As that’s the way it was intended lol.

The things that don’t surprise us on some of the replies to this post is that it doesn’t seem to matter what we want. But what the Single Male wants.

Just another example of entitlement that’s spoiling the scene x

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By *xfordshireCoupleMFCouple
over a year ago

Nr. Oxford

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When we say Ok. But you will need to suck and wank hubby first without me being in the room, just for starters.

Lol xxxxxx"

That would end it for us too.

I’m happily Bi and have had plenty of fun on meets, but I don’t find guys attractive.

So whilst I’m happy to play with a nice hard cock, I wouldn’t be turned on enough to do it in that setting.

- John

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By *ovelifelovefuntimesMan
over a year ago

Where ever I lay my hat

I will be honest and say that's not how I read it. Thought the replies were really open and understanding. As in all Fab encounters communication is key for everyone to have a good time.

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By *ick-meMan
over a year ago

high peak

Love to suck and wank the male but would expect the fem to be at least in the room/watching

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By *erb51Man
over a year ago

Northants

For me I think the female being present, involved is what turns me on having a bi experience. Everybody's different I suppose

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

I know what I enjoy, I know how bi I am. I would still run a fecking mile from a couple trying to force me into shit like that as a test.

How utterly obnoxious.

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By *isexycouple5Couple
over a year ago

Looe

"Hello sexy Fabbers.

We love it when guys message saying they are Bi Curious and want to try it for the first time.

When we say Ok. But you will need to suck and wank hubby first without me being in the room, just for starters.

Funny how they never reply to that request or block us

Lol xxxxxx"

We're in!!

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By *rincess PhoenixWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

"Whatever you post on these Forums, somebody will feel insulted or offended.

We would never actually carry out what we originally posted as we are genuine honest and intelligent people.

We can suss out the fakers and liars before we even meet.

There are so many wasters on the Site now that it’s becoming quite boring. Once they have had a wank they disappear.

Dreamers, fantasists and dickheads are plentiful now on Fab.

Bring back the times when Swinging was naughty and underground. So many more genuine people.

xx"

It is tough sifting through the time wasters and weirdos to get to the diamonds but thankfully there are some diamonds out there

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By *rincess PhoenixWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

I say I'm bi curious because I genuinely want to experiment - I've been at parties where men and women were involved and have had mind blowing oral from other women but am very nervous about pleasuring another woman and 'doing it right' but can't resist sucking on a nice pair of boobs

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By *nnocentimesMan
over a year ago

over there by that tree

"Whatever you post on these Forums, somebody will feel insulted or offended.

We would never actually carry out what we originally posted as we are genuine honest and intelligent people.

We can suss out the fakers and liars before we even meet.

There are so many wasters on the Site now that it’s becoming quite boring. Once they have had a wank they disappear.

Dreamers, fantasists and dickheads are plentiful now on Fab.

Bring back the times when Swinging was naughty and underground. So many more genuine people.

It is tough sifting through the time wasters and weirdos to get to the diamonds but thankfully there are some diamonds out there "

A good friend of mine said it was like sifting for gold at a sewer outlet pipe - great analogy

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By *amantha TSWoman
over a year ago

Swindon

I used to say I was situationally bi, if the mood was right and things flowed then a cheeky lick or whatever was fine. However it seems a lot of couples on here are only interested in fully bi guys, and something like this "initiation" puts me right off.

If it works for anyone out there then that's your choice, but for me - I'm out!

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By *elvet_OrchidWoman
over a year ago

Banbury

"Love to suck and wank the male but would expect the fem to be at least in the room/watching "
listed as straight ???

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By *irtySekrets OP Couple
over a year ago

Filthy Desires Upon Trent

"Love to suck and wank the male but would expect the fem to be at least in the room/watching listed as straight ???"

Exactly the reason for this post

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hello sexy Fabbers.

We love it when guys message saying they are Bi Curious and want to try it for the first time.

When we say Ok. But you will need to suck and wank hubby first without me being in the room, just for starters.

Funny how they never reply to that request or block us

Lol xxxxxx"

Lol well done.

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By *azzzzzMan
over a year ago

Downham Market

Well- I have sucked his cock and it’s delicious!!

Xxx

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