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By *elightfulharmony OP   Woman
over a year ago

Cheshire

Something for the ladies!!

Im a single lady looking to pull up her big girl panties an attend a club event once aloud but not sure what to wear, I don’t want to over dress or should I say underdress as that’s far from me but still want to look sexy without revealing to much

I’m not looking to play straight away as I need to build my confidence, had a couple (prob 3 haha) visits to town house for the bdsm events but dressed very casual for the newbie nights but a bad experience happened and I stepped back. So ive returned looking more into the swinging side.

So what I’m asking really is any of you lovely ladies remember what you wore when you first started out that could recommend any websites or even suggestions at what would be considered ideal to wear to walk around in

Thanks in advance

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By *otwifeandcuckCouple
over a year ago

Blackpool

Just wear whatever your comfortable with.

Lingerie. Little black dress. Naked... Its up to you.

No means no. No matter what you're wearing..

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By *elightfulharmony OP   Woman
over a year ago

Cheshire


"Just wear whatever your comfortable with.

Lingerie. Little black dress. Naked... Its up to you.

No means no. No matter what you're wearing.. "

Ok thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wear whatever makes you feel sexy... last place I went to I wore a little black vintage dress and stockings.

I have worn pvc dresses in the past or just a skirt and tshirt .. ( was a casual place lol)

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By *uriousKinksterMan
over a year ago

Loughborough

Hiya! C (female half) here.

I also felt nervous about what to wear for events, we mostly go to party nights which are dress up (which I hate) otherwise, I generally dress like I'm going to a bar and haven't felt under or over dressed. Honestly everyone dresses differently and no one will judge you anyway.

LBD will always do the trick!

Where is it you're hoping to go? If you ever venture to somewhere like the Attic, then just pop me a message if you'd rather not arrive alone, or I'm always happy to make new friends

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By *obka3Couple
over a year ago

bournemouth

As a man I would always say that a shortish reasonably close fitting dress with hold ups is the sexiest look , it teases as to what is underneath, absolutely no need to walk round with everything on show

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By *elightfulharmony OP   Woman
over a year ago

Cheshire


"Wear whatever makes you feel sexy... last place I went to I wore a little black vintage dress and stockings.

I have worn pvc dresses in the past or just a skirt and tshirt .. ( was a casual place lol)

"

The only sexy things I own is what’s on my profile which one is way to small (which makes for good pics haha) and the other is more bedroom attire. Had a quick look online and had no clue at where to look, at least I can try little black dress now an see what jumps out at me

Thank you x

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By *elightfulharmony OP   Woman
over a year ago

Cheshire


"Hiya! C (female half) here.

I also felt nervous about what to wear for events, we mostly go to party nights which are dress up (which I hate) otherwise, I generally dress like I'm going to a bar and haven't felt under or over dressed. Honestly everyone dresses differently and no one will judge you anyway.

LBD will always do the trick!

Where is it you're hoping to go? If you ever venture to somewhere like the Attic, then just pop me a message if you'd rather not arrive alone, or I'm always happy to make new friends "

LBD sounds like it’s the way forward I think

I intended to return to Townhouse lst yr before all hell broke loose so I think there is going to be my first visit but looking to venture out to other place when safe Where is this Attic? That is very kind of you to offer if it’s not to far I may take you up on the offer any new friends I can make/get to know along the way would be nice to have thank you xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always bring outfit changes. There’s normally a locker or a safe space to store a small bag. This has been a lifesaver for me on many occasion. This way I know I can dress to how I feel the evenings going for me.

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By * and BCouple
over a year ago

Durham

We started our Journey in a club new years eve 2015/16. I Mrs F just put something sexy on as I would if I was going out into town, also putting some really nice underwear on just in case I got brave. I didn't get brave and we sat at the bar all night not daring to move. We had a few folk chat to us about the scene as we had not done or been anywhere ever in the swinging scene, it was all great, I felt sexy but never did reveal the nice lingerie I had on. We love the club scene now and always reveal my lingerie

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By *ethnmelvCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff


"Hiya! C (female half) here.

I also felt nervous about what to wear for events, we mostly go to party nights which are dress up (which I hate) otherwise, I generally dress like I'm going to a bar and haven't felt under or over dressed. Honestly everyone dresses differently and no one will judge you anyway.

LBD will always do the trick!

Where is it you're hoping to go? If you ever venture to somewhere like the Attic, then just pop me a message if you'd rather not arrive alone, or I'm always happy to make new friends

LBD sounds like it’s the way forward I think

I intended to return to Townhouse lst yr before all hell broke loose so I think there is going to be my first visit but looking to venture out to other place when safe Where is this Attic? That is very kind of you to offer if it’s not to far I may take you up on the offer any new friends I can make/get to know along the way would be nice to have thank you xx"

The important thing is to wear what you feel sexy in. LBD is always good, maybe taking something to change into if you want to start more gently. As others have said ‘no means no’! Say you are new when you go (Townhouse are very good), ask if they could introduce you to people - just to give you a breathing space and a friendly face should you feel overwhelmed. Clubs are great places & the vadt majority of people are fab

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By *elightfulharmony OP   Woman
over a year ago

Cheshire


"I always bring outfit changes. There’s normally a locker or a safe space to store a small bag. This has been a lifesaver for me on many occasion. This way I know I can dress to how I feel the evenings going for me. "

I best get shopping then haha thanks for reply xx

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By *exyMPCouple
over a year ago

SOUTHEND-ON-SEA


"Something for the ladies!!

Im a single lady looking to pull up her big girl panties an attend a club event once aloud but not sure what to wear, I don’t want to over dress or should I say underdress as that’s far from me but still want to look sexy without revealing to much

I’m not looking to play straight away as I need to build my confidence, had a couple (prob 3 haha) visits to town house for the bdsm events but dressed very casual for the newbie nights but a bad experience happened and I stepped back. So ive returned looking more into the swinging side.

So what I’m asking really is any of you lovely ladies remember what you wore when you first started out that could recommend any websites or even suggestions at what would be considered ideal to wear to walk around in

Thanks in advance "

What about what you have on in your 14th august pic ? Not too revealing but still sexy xx

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By *elightfulharmony OP   Woman
over a year ago

Cheshire


"Hiya! C (female half) here.

I also felt nervous about what to wear for events, we mostly go to party nights which are dress up (which I hate) otherwise, I generally dress like I'm going to a bar and haven't felt under or over dressed. Honestly everyone dresses differently and no one will judge you anyway.

LBD will always do the trick!

Where is it you're hoping to go? If you ever venture to somewhere like the Attic, then just pop me a message if you'd rather not arrive alone, or I'm always happy to make new friends

LBD sounds like it’s the way forward I think

I intended to return to Townhouse lst yr before all hell broke loose so I think there is going to be my first visit but looking to venture out to other place when safe Where is this Attic? That is very kind of you to offer if it’s not to far I may take you up on the offer any new friends I can make/get to know along the way would be nice to have thank you xx

The important thing is to wear what you feel sexy in. LBD is always good, maybe taking something to change into if you want to start more gently. As others have said ‘no means no’! Say you are new when you go (Townhouse are very good), ask if they could introduce you to people - just to give you a breathing space and a friendly face should you feel overwhelmed. Clubs are great places & the vadt majority of people are fab "

Yeah they were very nice with my brief visits back in 2017 only made it to the hot tub or stayed routed to the bar haha but the people there were very friendly I actually went to that place in Manchester once amour I think it’s was called, again only made it to the hot tub hopefully this time round I make it past the hot tub xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hey OP,

I just wore a figure hugging dress, and sexy lingerie which I felt very comfortable and confident in x

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By *ikilovesCCouple
over a year ago

village life, closest main town inverness

Smart casual if you want to be able to blend in until you find your feet

Underneath, a bodystocking works well so when you want to get a bit more adventurous

you can shed some clothes without feeling naked and vulnerable

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By *elightfulharmony OP   Woman
over a year ago

Cheshire


"Something for the ladies!!

Im a single lady looking to pull up her big girl panties an attend a club event once aloud but not sure what to wear, I don’t want to over dress or should I say underdress as that’s far from me but still want to look sexy without revealing to much

I’m not looking to play straight away as I need to build my confidence, had a couple (prob 3 haha) visits to town house for the bdsm events but dressed very casual for the newbie nights but a bad experience happened and I stepped back. So ive returned looking more into the swinging side.

So what I’m asking really is any of you lovely ladies remember what you wore when you first started out that could recommend any websites or even suggestions at what would be considered ideal to wear to walk around in

Thanks in advance

What about what you have on in your 14th august pic ? Not too revealing but still sexy xx"

Its a bit to small for me put a bit of weight on since I bought it back in 2017 it makes for good pics as you can’t see the lumps and bumps in person lol I wouldn’t feel comfortable walking around in it though but yeah will have a look round for something similar lace is quite sexy thank you x

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By *elightfulharmony OP   Woman
over a year ago

Cheshire


"Hey OP,

I just wore a figure hugging dress, and sexy lingerie which I felt very comfortable and confident in x"

Hey hun,

Do you get your stuff online? X

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By *elightfulharmony OP   Woman
over a year ago

Cheshire


"Smart casual if you want to be able to blend in until you find your feet

Underneath, a bodystocking works well so when you want to get a bit more adventurous

you can shed some clothes without feeling naked and vulnerable

"

Ooo that’s a good idea I already have one of them an really like how they make me feel thank you xx

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By *uriousKinksterMan
over a year ago

Loughborough

The Attic is in Derby. The we wouldn't mind trying out Townhouse to be fair so you'll have to let us know when you're thinking of going

We are always up for trying new clubs, although not as easy at it used to be as we are now proud puppy parents so have to fund a dog sitter for overnight stays these days haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hey OP,

I just wore a figure hugging dress, and sexy lingerie which I felt very comfortable and confident in x

Hey hun,

Do you get your stuff online? X"

Mainly online, unless something jumps out at me whilst I'm having a mooch around in the shop's.

The dress I wore was just an average dress in my opinion, something I'd wear to the pub,(well I wouldn't now because it's clearly shrunk!! )

Heels, leather jacket, shows cleavage.. That kinda look.

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