FabSwingers.com forum: How do you let your neighbours know that 'you know'?

By *ohn Dangle OP Man
over a year ago

Thrapston

So...how do you let another couple, 2 doors down, know that you've seen them on fab?

We know them enough to say hello in the morning, but that's about it. They are roughly the same age as us.

Do you message them? Say "hello, what a FAB morning it is"? Just come straight out with it next time you meet?

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By *uckslut and MCouple
over a year ago

Poole

You don't you respect their privacy.

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By *ohn Dangle OP Man
over a year ago

Thrapston

"You don't you respect their privacy. "

But that might be a missed opportunity for both parties?

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By *stwoCouple
over a year ago

anywhere

Might not be their opinion.

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By *0FLHMan
over a year ago

Devon

I think I'd be mortified if someone very close recognised me and made it known,I have taken my face pic down because of that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never shit on your own doorstep.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"So...how do you let another couple, 2 doors down, know that you've seen them on fab?

We know them enough to say hello in the morning, but that's about it. They are roughly the same age as us.

Do you message them? Say "hello, what a FAB morning it is"? Just come straight out with it next time you meet?"

You could politely message saying who you are. I don't see any point in hinting. Are you prepared for awkwardness if they don't want to interact with you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldnt directly let them know but maybe you could put a status up relating to something happening near you say drinks in a local pub or an event that may be happening better still if anything relating to your street in the hope they see it , if you get blocked you know they are not interested and want their privacy kept if they respond its a conversation starter, also use the who's near they may use it as well and just send a wink it will show your close

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By *oxy lady40Woman
over a year ago

bridgwater

"So...how do you let another couple, 2 doors down, know that you've seen them on fab?

We know them enough to say hello in the morning, but that's about it. They are roughly the same age as us.

Do you message them? Say "hello, what a FAB morning it is"? Just come straight out with it next time you meet?"
I wouldn’t play that close to home

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By *izzy69Man
over a year ago

London

Why not message them on Fab and try making friends here. That's a nice way to ease into the trickier conversation of "we're neighbours"

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By *aughtycp1Couple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

We wouldn't mind at all if someone said hi as long as we were alone at the time away from others. At the end of the day everyone on fab is after the same thing. Nothing to be ashamed of x

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By *izzy69Man
over a year ago

London

"We wouldn't mind at all if someone said hi as long as we were alone at the time away from others. At the end of the day everyone on fab is after the same thing. Nothing to be ashamed of x"

Exactly this

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By *traight_no_iceMan
over a year ago

Stoke

Put some pampas grass on a vase. And plant some pampas grass outside your house.

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By *traight_no_iceMan
over a year ago

Stoke

on a vase, by the window

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

You don't let them know, you respect their privacy and block them.

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By *ewfie02Couple
over a year ago

Ayrshire

Invite them around for a barbecue and some drinks. Get a little naughty chat going

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

I myself would respect their wishes and privacy if they came forward then and only then because they might know as well about other people but wouldn't prefer to meet people so close

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why say anything? Would they appreciate you knowing? Probably not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to say this would be a little close to home for my liking and to be fair would block them to save any awkwardness later, if you did meet and it all went sour you still live two doors apart

That said there was a couple on here who knew their neighbour (who was also on here) very well, although they never played together to be fair, so they could talk about fab with no problems and they still do

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

Grow up stay clear...

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

A guy who lived near us messaged very politely to say he knew us (we'd attended the same organised social). He never made things awkward, we hope we didn't either and we'd chat whenever we saw each other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d leave it be, a mate always told me “never shit where you eat”, and whilst it’s in a total different context I would say the same here.

What if they want to keep their private life, private, and they have some dickhead from number ‘12’ messaging them ‘I know where you live’, not only will they feel violated, but will also cause neighbourhood issues. Especially if you are not what they are looking for.

There is literally 10,000s couples on here if not more, I’d leave them be and look elsewhere.

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By *izzy69Man
over a year ago

London

"A guy who lived near us messaged very politely to say he knew us (we'd attended the same organised social). He never made things awkward, we hope we didn't either and we'd chat whenever we saw each other. "

Aw. You really do live up to your name of "nice couple"

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By *arah_kieran_ukCouple
over a year ago

Greater London

We can’t be the only ones to double check how close the OP was to their location..... Ok so just us lol

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By *ands09Couple
over a year ago

West London

"So...how do you let another couple, 2 doors down, know that you've seen them on fab?

We know them enough to say hello in the morning, but that's about it. They are roughly the same age as us.

Do you message them? Say "hello, what a FAB morning it is"? Just come straight out with it next time you meet?"

First and foremost - does their profile says that they actively looking for single men ?.. second do you fit their requirement in terms of age, appearance and endowment ?.. finally if you think you fit the bill, then then why not try and make friends with the male and slowly hint that you on fab too

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

"So...how do you let another couple, 2 doors down, know that you've seen them on fab?

We know them enough to say hello in the morning, but that's about it. They are roughly the same age as us.

Do you message them? Say "hello, what a FAB morning it is"? Just come straight out with it next time you meet?"

Their is the alternative yes you could send a polite message without giving location and obviously ask if they have ever met or would consider meeting people who lived closer and if so how close would be to close this would give you a positive response and from this respecting each other views and also give you an answer whether to leave alone and block so each other could continue to enjoy and move forward

Hope this helps

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By *aimtoplease69Woman
over a year ago

Kent

"Never shit on your own doorstep."

too close to home

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By *ambertMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

Just be up front. Have had a few people that know me point it out on here. Makes everything so much more relaxed.

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By *anchestercreampieloversCouple
over a year ago

manchester

You (op) would probably be last person they would consider playing with, even if you were the absolutely perfect guy, that ticked every criteria that they set out, purely because of your location !!

We have played with single guys and couples in the town we live in but wouldn’t consider anyone that lived on the same street !

what would happen if you don’t hit it off or if any problems arose ( from either side ?)

For most people, swinging is additional to their personal lives, why would you want the neighbours to know what your sexual preferences are !!

And just adding from the male half of the couple, I love watching E being pleasured by lots of guys but I would not be happy with a single male swinger living two doors down thinking he could just knock on when he’s horny lol

( that’s probably me being overly defensive, sorry

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By *heRazorsEdgeMan
over a year ago

Wales/ All over UK

"So...how do you let another couple, 2 doors down, know that you've seen them on fab?

We know them enough to say hello in the morning, but that's about it. They are roughly the same age as us.

Do you message them? Say "hello, what a FAB morning it is"? Just come straight out with it next time you meet?"

Essentially it would depend on a few aspects really.

A) Are you a fit in their age range and preferences? If not then take things no further.

B) If you pass the above, then how do you know it is them? If it’s because they have face pics in their public pics then they may be more open to contact... if it’s because you recognise them from tattoos or their house or something then things are trickier.

For B... if it’s face pics then message ON FAB ONLY with face pics of your own explaining who you are etc and leave them to decide.... if it’s from recognising something about them that others may not then I’d be tempted to not get in contact first, but if you do, ONLY ON FAB, do NOT mention you know them and include face pics so again they can decide if they want to go further.

No matter what, keep things polite and friendly and ONLY through here until they agree to anything offline

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By *tickler2000Man
over a year ago

St Agnes

If your missus is as shy as you say, and she does indeed know of Fab.

How will she cope with the knowledge the someone so close, and interacts with on a daily basis, knows of this?

I would not say anything.

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By *hesblokeMan
over a year ago

Derbyshire village

They must know that you're nearby. If they were wanting local playmates they'd probably have enquired already.

Short of putting a box of fab lollies on top of your recycling bin on bin day, I'd leave it.

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

Look at it this way. You know what they look like, where they live and that they're swingers with (presumably) identifiable photos on here. Thats a massive advantage you have over them. They know you on nodding terms.

We don't give out face pics, our address or meet anyone within ten miles to insulate ourselves from being outed as swingers or have to run into a meet in Tesco that went bad.

Personally, we'd either block them for the good of all concerned or at the very most, perve on them from afar but not make contact beyond being neighbourly in real life (which may lead to friendship and possibilities down the line)

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By *uliaChrisCouple
over a year ago

westerham

Could be amazing....

But far as I understand you are looking to get your partner into swinging for the first time? What's her view? Are you both interested in them?

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By *ittycenMan
over a year ago

south west

I recognised a girl on here when I joined a new gym. I pondered how to say hello, so I put a status update that was suitably vague, along the lines of “is it rude to introduce myself to someone from fab who I recognise in the gym?”

Within an hour or so, she messaged me saying “ha, thought that was you!”

It’s not gone anywhere other than a smile and wave, and I don’t think it will. I do check her out in her leggings, she knows I do and enjoys it! But I would never ever try and take her safe place from her - I would think this couple is probably the same. Put a vague update up, it might get their attention enough to either message you or block you. Either of which answers your question.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a few people that live nearby. We often talk about our fab antics. I am friends with singles and couples yet don't play with them all as we have no chemistry. I'm still friends with them.

It's fun when we talk about what we've been up to. Nice to chat with like minded people . Go for it OP What have you got to lose?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You don't you respect their privacy.

But that might be a missed opportunity for both parties?"

And if it goes wrong...could get very messy.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

You message them like any other profile on here, if you're what they are looking for.

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By *readsOfValhallaCouple
over a year ago

birmingham

Good chance they already know you're on here too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't get the pampas grass. Anyone tell me?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't block them, let them contact you if they would like to?

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By *J coupleCouple
over a year ago

stone

We’ve found one of our neighbours here on Fab. He was actually a customer of mine too. He messaged to say he thought we could be quite local. I replied to say we were VERY local. He asked how I knew, I replied with his first name. We chat on here but nothing more. He’s looking for different to us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You don't you respect their privacy. "

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I don't get the pampas grass. Anyone tell me?"

It's a commonly held belief that pampas grass in the garden means swingers live in the house. It isn't true of course

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't get the pampas grass. Anyone tell me?

It's a commonly held belief that pampas grass in the garden means swingers live in the house. It isn't true of course

Don't know whether to cut mine down or not now. Do I put up with the strange looks off neighbours and men knocking on my door only to say wrong number?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So...how do you let another couple, 2 doors down, know that you've seen them on fab?

We know them enough to say hello in the morning, but that's about it. They are roughly the same age as us.

Do you message them? Say "hello, what a FAB morning it is"? Just come straight out with it next time you meet?"

Nope. Just block them and keep that way.

We don't play with people within 3 miles radius.

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By *isstinseltoesWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I'd leave well alone tbh,

Could get a bit awks

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

Dangle your willy through the letter box. It'll either get sucked or chopped off.

In all seriousness, I'd not.

Could get messy or awkward and neither household needs that.

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

You say your wife is "shy" why would you try to embarrass another couple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nah, I’m secret squirrel with fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anybody know me feel free to message lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So basic common sense and respect should be screaming NOT to mention it.

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

I always thought, it was the done thing to block them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hang about outside their home eating a fab ice lolly commenting on how much you love fab. Then start up a conversation about drugs. When they mention any simply say 'I've just given you a 24 hour ban from contact with me'.

They'll know you're on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It can get weird if your neighbours know about you. I doubt it will end in sexy time and if you come across as creepy then that's a whole other handling

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