FabSwingers.com forum: Blocking Zero Prospects

By *lacksausage OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham Airport

If you did this, would it be too extreme? If after a message or 2, it was clear either to one or both parties that it would never happen, is it OK to block?

Pros: avoids future unintentional "attempts", etc.

Is this a thing?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Course it is

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

We understand why people do it, but we don't as we want people to enjoy our pictures still even if we're not interested in them.

We only block if they're being a tosser!

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By *lacksausage OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham Airport

"Course it is

It is extreme??

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

How do you know after only a couple of messages?

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West

Yeah I do it all the time.

Purely because even if you say no and they are polite, they’ll be back in a week asking the same question lol! Not to be rude, but half the time because they forgot they spoken to you ha!

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By *lacksausage OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham Airport

"How do you know after only a couple of messages?"

OK, OK,.. After interacting,....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How do you know after only a couple of messages?"

Sometimes you just know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How do you know after only a couple of messages?

Sometimes you just know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes block

It's saves any future hassle.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Takes forever and updates page dies a death

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. I didn't do this in the beginning - when women first join they get swamped with messages. Those people still pop up in my inbox occasionally trying their luck. Once a dialogue is started they retain the ability to message you in future despite the filters.

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By *uzboxCouple
over a year ago

Northwich

People change, so if it was just a compatability thing we wouldn't block for that.

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By *oublesixesMan
over a year ago

Corby

"Yeah I do it all the time.

Purely because even if you say no and they are polite, they’ll be back in a week asking the same question lol! Not to be rude, but half the time because they forgot they spoken to you ha! "

I make private notes so I don't need to remember who I've contacted previously

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

My personal opinion.

The block button is there to help you use the site in the way that suits you best. If that means blocking after a couple not messages that's fine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah its good to block people you see little or no potential in or if that person has specifically said they don’t want to meet you. Some on here are in too much of a hurry to meet though, so could you be missing out by blocking just because they don't want to have sex with you after 3 messages. Swingers and roundabouts ay?!

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By *oneymitchMan
over a year ago

Huddersfield

Dont think ive ever had to block anyone, as single guys cant message me most my messages come from couples but never come across any that I felt I had to block, always polite even if i kindly reject

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As someone who is mainly here for a bit of a perv on people’s pics with the odd little chat here and there I’m perfectly fine with being blocked - each to their own!

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By *nked_kittenWoman
over a year ago

Ankh Morpork

I block without messages. If I see a status, picture or forum comment I don’t like I block. Sometimes it’s something in their profile that makes me think no.

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West

"Yeah I do it all the time.

Purely because even if you say no and they are polite, they’ll be back in a week asking the same question lol! Not to be rude, but half the time because they forgot they spoken to you ha!

I make private notes so I don't need to remember who I've contacted previously

Mine is mainly couples who like to think they are the exception to the very clear rule on my profile haha. Single men I rarely block, i enjoy their pics (hopefully the other way round too) even if we don’t want to meet x

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By *iss DevilWoman
over a year ago

Bedford

Yes, I do. I do it by some statuses, too, and sometimes (very rarely) by what they post on forums.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s not extreme. And especially if the people clearly aren’t what you thought. It just saves them either inadvertently messaging you again. Or hassling us

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By *J coupleCouple
over a year ago

stone

We only block those that have given us a bit of grief or looking for a certain type of kink.

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By *lacksausage OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham Airport

"I block without messages. If I see a status, picture or forum comment I don’t like I block. Sometimes it’s something in their profile that makes me think no.

Pre-emptive strike, more like?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah I do it all the time.

Purely because even if you say no and they are polite, they’ll be back in a week asking the same question lol! Not to be rude, but half the time because they forgot they spoken to you ha!

I make private notes so I don't need to remember who I've contacted previously

Pics certainly enjoyed here

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By *lixir of lifeMan
over a year ago

knob Creek

I do this ..

Mainly so they don’t show up on my searches ..

And I bother reading the profiles again..

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

Chesterfield

I wouldn’t do this, but then I’m not exactly on a mission. I’m quite happy to keep cheating to people socially.

And besides, you never know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah I do it all the time.

Purely because even if you say no and they are polite, they’ll be back in a week asking the same question lol! Not to be rude, but half the time because they forgot they spoken to you ha! "

this

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By *AABMan
over a year ago

Not far

I look at a profile and they specifically state that they are not interested in meeting anyone with my attributes, then I just block.

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By *uckslut and MCouple
over a year ago

Poole

We block for all sorts of reasons. Status's like 'hnh play'. Usernames like "will spilt you in half" and some replies on forums.

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By *hatterley64Couple
over a year ago

Hertford

"Yeah I do it all the time.

Purely because even if you say no and they are polite, they’ll be back in a week asking the same question lol! Not to be rude, but half the time because they forgot they spoken to you ha! "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We understand why people do it, but we don't as we want people to enjoy our pictures still even if we're not interested in them.

We only block if they're being a tosser!"

Does that include tossing off over your pics?

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By *S2004Man
over a year ago

Bromsgrove

I am happy to block if there is no chance of meeting etc. Eg if their profile indicates they only want bbc then I won’t message and waste their time but will also block so they don’t come up on my feed etc.

Absolutely no problem with their preference but it certainly saves unnecessary messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The block button is there for a reason... Or many... Use it as you see fit

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

If I send someone a message and I get a reply saying they are not interested, I then block. I don’t want to message them in error in the future.

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By *heekyredsoloWoman
over a year ago

bromborough

"Yeah I do it all the time.

Purely because even if you say no and they are polite, they’ll be back in a week asking the same question lol! Not to be rude, but half the time because they forgot they spoken to you ha! "

This

I just don’t reply and they just copy and paste the same message from before ha

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By *heekyredsoloWoman
over a year ago

bromborough

"If I send someone a message and I get a reply saying they are not interested, I then block. I don’t want to message them in error in the future. "

Love this

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Blocking is another way to filter through so you are able to keep those who interest you but also might at a later stage

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sure, why not? I tend to block those who delete my message without a response. Saves me seeing their pics pop up on my status feed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ive said before the block button is the best tool on fab... yes i pre block and i pre block for many reasons that suit me just as i use the site to suit me ...why worry what other think ?? i dont ..evey ones here for there own reasons if people block me i think thank you as that will save me time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Blocky block block. My motto.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Blocky block block. My motto. "

Oohh I wasn't blocked! Does that make me special?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Blocky block block. My motto.

Oohh I wasn't blocked! Does that make me special?

You’ve never been rude, had no personality, or flaked out of a meet with me so absolutely no need!

Obviously special too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Over 600 blocked.. you do what you want..you do what you need to..

It's only fab...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Over 600 blocked.. you do what you want..you do what you need to..

It's only fab..."

Ooft... now that’s harsh. Mind you, I don’t think I’ve even interacted with 600 on here since I started again. Ha

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

I often block based on status updates, things on profiles or comments made on the forums. I used to write private notes on profiles instead, but it was time consuming and usually the note was to say why I never want to meet the person, so it is easier just to block straight away. Now I try to make private notes about positive things instead.

I have blocked people after a few messages as well, when it's clear that we aren't compatible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Over 600 blocked.. you do what you want..you do what you need to..

It's only fab...

Ooft... now that’s harsh. Mind you, I don’t think I’ve even interacted with 600 on here since I started again. Ha"

Over 50% were abusive.. went up in lockdown. Got so bad at least 1 a day reported...one day 3 in an hr.

That's when I changed my profile to arsey

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Course it is

It is extreme?? "

No it's not extreme,saves wasting time x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I often block based on status updates, things on profiles or comments made on the forums. I used to write private notes on profiles instead, but it was time consuming and usually the note was to say why I never want to meet the person, so it is easier just to block straight away. Now I try to make private notes about positive things instead.

I have blocked people after a few messages as well, when it's clear that we aren't compatible.

Same, if I see someone post a status update looking for something or somebody I'm not then I block them (eg looking for BBC, older men etc). Clears up space on my status feed

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

I tend only to block when someone won't take the hint. Otherwise i just tell them that i don't see a connection sorry.

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By *ong_John2333Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

You are here to have fun and enjoy yourself, if that allows you to do that more and not waste your time then go for it

Just remember that it works both ways though

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By *he Ring WraithMan
over a year ago

Bradford

i do it all the time if i message someone and they are clearly not interested in me, it saves me messaging again in the future.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not a blocker (only if rude messaging). I think the trouble with blocking that right now I might not want to meet someone for a myriad of reasons ... but that doesn't mean that those reasons can't change and we could end up meeting in the future! Seems silly to cut them off ...

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Keep life simple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm not a blocker (only if rude messaging). I think the trouble with blocking that right now I might not want to meet someone for a myriad of reasons ... but that doesn't mean that those reasons can't change and we could end up meeting in the future! Seems silly to cut them off ... "

Not really... If someone doesn't respond to a message or deletes it then they have made it clear that they aren't interested in you full stop.

If they were interested in you but not looking to meet at the moment then they would still reply to your message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not really... If someone doesn't respond to a message or deletes it then they have made it clear that they aren't interested in you full stop.

If they were interested in you but not looking to meet at the moment then they would still reply to your message."

But lots don't reply or even look at messages simply because of shear numbers?

I just prefer not blocking because who knows what the future holds ... have no problems being blocked by anyone for whatever reasons, just I've never been a blocker!

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By *lacksausage OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham Airport

Not really... If someone doesn't respond to a message or deletes it then they have made it clear that they aren't interested in you full stop.

If they were interested in you but not looking to meet at the moment then they would still reply to your message."

I'd say that sounds logical and feels like commonsense but when that vag is involved, fairness and logic and commonsense seem to vanish. The chaser loses it, the owner doesn't give a toss coz it's demand and supply and the one who happens to be teamed up with the owner sometimes begins to grow wings having quickly forgotten that he used to be on the other side of the fence once upon a short time.

Just roll with it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

to me blocked means no thanks ...no reply means not now or over loaded with messages ...but if other want to get pissy then fine as they will just get blocked anyway no loss either way

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough

I definitely know after a couple of messages. I don’t block unless something has weirded me out. But I do sometimes add a note so to remind me of the interaction

But I don’t think blocking is extreme. It’s quick and easy.

V x

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