FabSwingers.com forum: Profile advice from the BDSM/Kink community here

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

As the message reads, any criticism from the Kink community here as that's what I'm aiming for with my profile.

thanks!

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By *aggy dollsCouple
over a year ago

bradford

Your profile reads rather well, maybe remove the bit about being a man United fan though

only joking.

Try to get some tasteful pics that really show you off (not a load of cock pics though).

Hope this helps

Mr H.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Your profile reads rather well, maybe remove the bit about being a man United fan though

only joking.

Try to get some tasteful pics that really show you off (not a load of cock pics though).

Hope this helps

Mr H."

Thanks! I did add a face pic so maybe that'll help lol

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

The Fetish community and especially women within it, will not be interested in your football club or gaming pastime.

There’s plenty of guys on here looking to be a Dom and find a submissive woman. She however will want to know your experience in the fetish world, have you read the books, how advanced are you with your rope work, been to clubs or member of the know website for the Fetish community.

You don’t display any fetishised pictures either, in all honesty your profile reads as an amateur wanting to try to be a Dom rather than an experienced guy looking for his next sub.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The Fetish community and especially women within it, will not be interested in your football club or gaming pastime.

You don’t display any fetishised pictures either, in all honesty your profile reads as an amateur wanting to try to be a Dom rather than an experienced guy looking for his next sub. "

I don't display any kinky pictures because I'm no longer with a sub and I delete pics/vids after I end a dynamic out of respect.

I get what your saying about the experience being better listed but I disagree with the point about my interests. I feel that's a big part of my life so want to make sure anyone who gets with me knows it beforehand.

Appreciate the insight.

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By *ittykat94Woman
over a year ago

Gatwick

I mostly agree with StephTV67 above, it does feel more like you enjoy kink rather than looking for a sub. Although think it's okay to have your hobbies in if you like!

Maybe expand on what you're looking for, 'online stuff' is broad, do you just want to chat, swap pics, video call etc.

Again, worth adding what your experience is, if you're trying loads out for the first time or something you're well versed in. Not necessarily a deal breaker for most people, but good to know!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I mostly agree with StephTV67 above, it does feel more like you enjoy kink rather than looking for a sub. Although think it's okay to have your hobbies in if you like!

Maybe expand on what you're looking for, 'online stuff' is broad, do you just want to chat, swap pics, video call etc.

Again, worth adding what your experience is, if you're trying loads out for the first time or something you're well versed in. Not necessarily a deal breaker for most people, but good to know! "
thanks for the input, i will make some changes today and hopefully it will give people a better idea of my experience. Not been well last few days hence the late response.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You seem more passionate about gaming and football than you do about your kink.

If you were approaching a woman in a fetish club would you start that conversation with you have a ps5 and love utd?

You're profile is your elevator pitch. You need to catch people's attention not give them reasons to check out.

My wife tolerates my fandom because she found me attractive first and then the baggage came after.

If I were you I would put that you are a gamer and love football at the end of profile. Leave out the utd part. Don't give people a reason to check out.

The name Dominus is a bit of a red flag. It sets up an expectation. The person with that title has gravitas and great experience. It's the sort of name that inexperienced guys pick on their first profile on a fetish website to help them compensate.

The most important part is your kinks. What do you like and why? How into the lifestyle are you? What's your biggest turn on ? How committed are you? What can a woman expect from being your sub? Remember this is a swing site. Are you monogamous or poly or open?

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

"The Fetish community and especially women within it, will not be interested in your football club"

One of the funniest things I've ever seen in a sex club was a bloke loitering around in the changing rooms at a kink event, desperately trying to start a conversation about The Match™ with anyone who came in to use the lockers.

As someone with zero interest in the sports industry who is trapped in a society *obsessed* with football, it felt wonderful to see the boot on the other foot for once.

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By *lansmanMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

"The Fetish community and especially women within it, will not be interested in your football club

As someone with zero interest in the sports industry who is trapped in a society *obsessed* with football, it felt wonderful to see the boot on the other foot for once."

I share that feeling too.

But back to the OP .. if you are serious about the fetish scene , and its vast , maybe fab isn't the place. I can't name other websites but FET should give you a clue.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I'd want to know if you were sexually attractive to me but I can't, with your limited photos.

I'm not sure that you sell yourself that well, as I didn't find much that stood you out from the many other single men here.

A 1/3 of your profile probably could have been said as 'not meeting until restrictions permit, so online engagement until then', or in even fewer words. As this is the 1st part of your profile, it's a tedious, statement of current life to try to read, when you could potentially be captivating their interest more instead.

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