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By *arte_Blanche_NE OP   Couple
over a year ago

Northern

What’s the deal with people when you say no to someone and they come back with “your loss”? Really don’t get this at all as it just solidifies the no in the first place.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

they are just pissed off at being turned down. Just ignore it and move on.

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By *arte_Blanche_NE OP   Couple
over a year ago

Northern


"they are just pissed off at being turned down. Just ignore it and move on. "

We generally do but had quite a bit of this recently x

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

It's best not to reply with a "no", there's too many stories of abusive messages. If not interested, it's best not to reply. No reply is a polite "not interested" .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What’s the deal with people when you say no to someone and they come back with “your loss”? Really don’t get this at all as it just solidifies the no in the first place.

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I would do the same rejection no one likes it’s human nature

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why anyone settles for anything less than full enthusiasm is beyond me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No one likes rejection but you can be graceful about it. Can’t everyones cup of tea. I get rejected its that persons prerogative i just move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No one likes rejection but you can be graceful about it. Can’t everyones cup of tea. I get rejected its that persons prerogative i just move on. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some struggle with rejection is all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No one likes rejection but you can be graceful about it. Can’t everyones cup of tea. I get rejected its that persons prerogative i just move on. "
i admire your attitude

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No one likes rejection but you can be graceful about it. Can’t everyones cup of tea. I get rejected its that persons prerogative i just move on. i admire your attitude "
and that’s not sarcasm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"they are just pissed off at being turned down. Just ignore it and move on.

We generally do but had quite a bit of this recently x"

We have found a lot more of this recently

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By *ull_circleWoman
over a year ago

Brighton

I get alot of men calling me out for being rude for not replying, but I feel that not replying is a gentler way of showing disinterest than having to say 'no'!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

post lock down frustration?

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

So many ugly stories at the moment. Abuse, stalking, cat-fishing. I know people who have left the site over the last six months because of it. The latest lockdown has brought the worst out in people.

What happened to keeping a dignified silence? Maybe I’m old school. No one likes rejection. If you are on any type of dating site, you’ve got to accept it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

‘Man-child’ problem - the technical word for this syndrome. Someone has to say the last word - could be the biggest reason for their actual state. But, whatever may be the reason, it’s uncool and worsens the image of a whole lot of us.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

I would just have a mental picture of me patting them on their head, smile to myself and then delete.

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By *irldnCouple
over a year ago

Brighton


"What’s the deal with people when you say no to someone and they come back with “your loss”? Really don’t get this at all as it just solidifies the no in the first place.

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People who cannot handle rejection shouldn’t be swinging. Been on this scene over 15yrs and know it is all about personal taste and attraction. We know we won’t be everyone’s cup of tea and never get offended.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would agree with this but pride does come into play dont people agree?

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By *irldnCouple
over a year ago

Brighton


"I get alot of men calling me out for being rude for not replying, but I feel that not replying is a gentler way of showing disinterest than having to say 'no'!"

Hey neighbour

[sits waiting for rejection )

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By *irldnCouple
over a year ago

Brighton


"So many ugly stories at the moment. Abuse, stalking, cat-fishing. I know people who have left the site over the last six months because of it. The latest lockdown has brought the worst out in people.

What happened to keeping a dignified silence? Maybe I’m old school. No one likes rejection. If you are on any type of dating site, you’ve got to accept it. "

What is “cat fishing”?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

dont ignore report and block the more idiots you block the less idiots to deal with another time ... people really do need to realize rejection is a big part of swinging more so than in normal everyday life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What is “cat fishing”?"

Cat fishing is using someone elses pictures to create a false profile to string someone along or lure them into meeting you. For example a lady using Cindi Crawfords pics to make a profile to get guys to meet her and when they arrive its not cindi crawford.

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

We've just been called 'dog cunts' by a guy for refusing to meet him tonight. Dickheads a plenty here. Rejection is best handled humbly, dismissed as quickly and moved on before the previous two mentions have even settled, op.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think when you get responses like that you instantly know you’ve made the right choice ... pathetic really in my opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We've just been called 'dog cunts' by a guy for refusing to meet him tonight. Dickheads a plenty here. Rejection is best handled humbly, dismissed as quickly and moved on before the previous two mentions have even settled, op. "

Definitely deserves to be reported

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By *lymDrewMan
over a year ago

plymouth


"I would agree with this but pride does come into play dont people agree?"

Well I'm sure we'd all like to think we're irresistible, but we're not and no, pride shouldn't come into it if it turns you into an arsehole.

If someone has taken the time to reply and let you down gently, at least have the good grace to accept their decision and either thank them for taking the time to reply, or move on. Why make yourself look like an impetuous child in the process?

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By *arol321Woman
over a year ago

Poole


"I would agree with this but pride does come into play dont people agree?"

No ‘pride’ shouldn’t come into it.

No one has the right to expect that any other person is going to like them enough to have sex with them just because they want it.

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By *xploring_FunWoman
over a year ago

Coventry


"I would agree with this but pride does come into play dont people agree?"

Not at all.

Pride doesn’t make someone a dickhead. Being a dickhead does.

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By *enusandmarsCouple
over a year ago

Buryish

We told a couple that we'd changed our minds about meeting them (just for a social) as they were far more experienced than we are, and that we'd prefer to meet a less experienced couple. That didn't go down well at all and now they are going to tell all of Fab how we are just messers!

I'd prefer to be a messenger than someone who doesn't allow you to change your mind

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By *irldnCouple
over a year ago

Brighton


"What is “cat fishing”?

Cat fishing is using someone elses pictures to create a false profile to string someone along or lure them into meeting you. For example a lady using Cindi Crawfords pics to make a profile to get guys to meet her and when they arrive its not cindi crawford. "

Ah thanks

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

Get this on the couple profile all the time.

How can it be a loss when you didn’t value it in the first place?

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By *carletnsparksMan
over a year ago

halifax

Report, block and delete simples

Most of the time don't even respond to meet requests so don't get the abuse

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By *nliveneTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby


"Some struggle with rejection is all. "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would agree with this but pride does come into play dont people agree?"

Sorry but there is no room for pride on here. We all get rejected for one reason or another on here. No need for being nasty or sarcastic when turned down

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would agree with this but pride does come into play dont people agree?

Not at all.

Pride doesn’t make someone a dickhead. Being a dickhead does."

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By *uchislife66Man
over a year ago

Leeds


"We told a couple that we'd changed our minds about meeting them (just for a social) as they were far more experienced than we are, and that we'd prefer to meet a less experienced couple. That didn't go down well at all and now they are going to tell all of Fab how we are just messers!

I'd prefer to be a messenger than someone who doesn't allow you to change your mind "

What a super profile

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By *ffanotdykeCouple
over a year ago

Telford

Don't understand the rejection thing. The chances of you fancying everyone you pass in the street or who happens to support the same football team, is pretty remote so why are you expected to form an intimate relationship with someone who just happens to view the same website as you?

The name of the game is preference.

If someone does not instantly wish to have day long sex with you, shrug your shoulders and keep telling yourself its their loss not yours.

We have been on the really shitty end of someone who felt rejected and it was not nice but it did confirm our instincts were right.

G&A

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The long and short or it is this " they arent swingers like alot on here "

It would be a lot better site if they all just left , genuine swingers understand you cant be attractive to everyone ,so its " ok guys you have fun"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You’ve got to love em. Some even go so far as to try and insult you even saying how ugly you are yet they wanted to meet, then they block lol Good luck to them I have love for all. I do prefer to be told no or at least delete the message. I don’t see silence as a friendlier option it’s a little passive aggressive ish. Those who feel rejection only do so due to self rejection. X

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

Rejection stings.

"Your loss" is their way of saving face I guess.

I'd rather that than an arsey or abusive message, but I very very rarely get them either.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading


"We've just been called 'dog cunts' by a guy for refusing to meet him tonight. Dickheads a plenty here. Rejection is best handled humbly, dismissed as quickly and moved on before the previous two mentions have even settled, op. "

That would have had me piss myself laughing but i have a weird sense of humour.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The long and short or it is this " they arent swingers like alot on here "

It would be a lot better site if they all just left , genuine swingers understand you cant be attractive to everyone ,so its " ok guys you have fun"

"

Lol

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