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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi, it's difficult question.

How others couple like to do first date .

1: like to meet for drinks (social)

Or

2: stright to action???

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Chat x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Chat x"

Means social is good, some of the people here so aggressive, most of them are FB..

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"Chat x

Means social is good, some of the people here so aggressive, most of them are FB.."

FB?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Chat x

Means social is good, some of the people here so aggressive, most of them are FB..

FB?"

Fuck buddy.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Yes well its always good to chat first x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always social only first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Both

First a couple drinks and than down to action

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Always social only first."

Wish you are in London, love to meet you for social as Wie can't stright jump in action.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Meet for a drink, if it's all going well and everyone agrees we get down to the reason we are here.... SEX

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By *irmingham_Sissy_MaidTV/TS
over a year ago

sutton Coldfield

I like to chat on here quite a bit first but when it comes to a meet I want to get straight into the action lol. I would happily have a social meet first but wouldn’t want to mix that meet up with some action. For me it’s odd to chat to someone all nice who 5 mins later will be calling me names and spanking me hard whilst tied up lol.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Meet for a drink, if it's all going well and everyone agrees we get down to the reason we are here.... SEX"

True, we usually host for social at ours, in public place too much noise

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By *ee And MikeCouple
over a year ago

Cannock

Always a social to get to know people as friends first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi, it's difficult question.

How others couple like to do first date .

1: like to meet for drinks (social)

Or

2: stright to action???"

I like a social, it adds to the sexual tension as well as making me feel more comfortable around people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Meet for a drink, if it's all going well and everyone agrees we get down to the reason we are here.... SEX"

This... It will always start as a no obligation social. If we click great, we can do something about it... if not we can just go our own way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It would be a social first x

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By *umblefunMan
over a year ago

London/ South West (Devon, Somerset).


"Meet for a drink, if it's all going well and everyone agrees we get down to the reason we are here.... SEX"

This....

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By *umblefunMan
over a year ago

London/ South West (Devon, Somerset).


"Meet for a drink, if it's all going well and everyone agrees we get down to the reason we are here.... SEX"

This....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Meet for a drink, if it's all going well and everyone agrees we get down to the reason we are here.... SEX

True, we usually host for social at ours, in public place too much noise"

We have a lovely circle of fab

and vanilla friends, I've got fb for socials, this is a sex site, that's what I'm looking for, pre drinks to make sure they are who they say they are, then away we go

Claire

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By *J coupleCouple
over a year ago

stone

We like to socialise first. Having a drink somewhere gives you time to flirt which gets the mood going. We can plan to carry on the flirting and more intimate socialising in the bedroom though. We couldn’t meet at a location for the first time and jump straight in.

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By *asycouple1971Couple
over a year ago

midlands

Chat at ours or theirs for about an hour then play

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By *xfordshireCoupleMFCouple
over a year ago

Nr. Oxford

We almost always meet for a social only first.

We then look to organise a meet for another evening if we all get along.

We’ll only change this if the guy already has a hotel room booked nearby. Then we might consider meeting him in the bar for a drink and to see how things go. If there’s a connection we’ll go upstairs.

This way there’s no expectation to play, and no pressure to do anything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I e been talking to a very nice couple for a few days now, and it will be a social meet and see what happens after that

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By *oveAndBangCouple
over a year ago

where the mood takes us

Social part is very important for us. We rather skip or reduce online chat to meet people to know who we're dealing with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Social part is very important for us. We rather skip or reduce online chat to meet people to know who we're dealing with."

When and where I’m on my way lol

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By *rMrsBrightsideCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle

We always do a social first with both couples and men. It would be rare for us to play on the same date, it's usually arranged for another time. The only issue we have with couples is that it can be difficult to arrange times when we are all free so we are coming around more to the idea of socials and play on the same day if it all goes well.

Kx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have a chat then sex xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Have a chat then sex xx"

Sound like fun, we always prefer to host for social at our place as public place is too noisy.

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By *lasphemousGirlWoman
over a year ago

Cambs

Social first, everytime. No pressure from anyone just see if you click and then go from there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would always be social interaction first for us both, play comes after when everyone is comfortable.

Can be after or on a separate day and as we love going to parties and clubs as it kind of rolls everything into one night.

To be honest we prefer meet and to talk to people face to face. We have found online chat can be a bit hard work.

Also unfortunately you have to be so careful with so meny people hiding behind a profile that doesn't represent who they actually are! though this is a separate conversation that can go all day

We need to see a picture of who we are meeting and have met them before jumping into bed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i prefer a drink first

but i'm single

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By *urious_Female89Woman
over a year ago

great yarmouth

Prefer a no expectations social first, no pressure. Although if I'm meeting someone who I share an amazing chemistry with then taking it slow may not last too long.. its all about what feels natural on the meet

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By *isAdventure69Woman
over a year ago

Hampshire

Social first . I have made very few exceptions over the years ...and would I do so again ? probably not .

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By *uliaChrisCouple
over a year ago

westerham

We love having a chat and a flirt, but we're not here to date people, we don't need to know about their Auntie Norma's sciatica.

If we do a social its just a social, its not a prelude to anything else.

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By *ockosaurusMan
over a year ago

Warwick

Social first so we can ensure we actually get along.

However, there is no reason that that can't lead to sex if we both click and want it.

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

We’ve nearly always had a social first, and that’s definitely our preferred way to meet someone.

On one occasion though a woman we were meeting was delayed so asked if she could come straight to ours, and that was a fantastic night too so it can work out anyway.

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By *cottyl1983Man
over a year ago

Tyne and Wear

Chat for a while see if there is a connection then definitely a social before any play.

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By *atureandhornyCouple
over a year ago

Liverpool

Meet for a drink first then if either party doesn't feel comfortable or the guy's a tit then you can leave.

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By *ornycouple1176Couple
over a year ago

Norfolk

We like to have a chat here then arrange to meet in person for a social just to make sure everyone gets along. Tbh though if everyone’s gets along and things are getting hot then we would be happy to play

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By *onkeyandBonesCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

As a general rule, no pressure social first..... although we would consider more happening providing we have had a good connection in the build up

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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago

Dublin and London

Drink and a chat n flirt first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social first, drink chat then if we get on arrange something

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Always just a social first. Quick coffee and chat during the day, then arrange a meet in the future.

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By *exandthesuburbans83Couple
over a year ago

EASTBOURNE

Social for sure. It ensures you can make sure the people or person you are meeting matches up with how they chat on text and if there also is a physical and personality attraction. Drinks then bed!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My preference is action first, if I like you post orgasm let’s get a drink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Action first, can't be bothered with a socials. I'm not interviewing them for a date, I just want to fuck them not marry them..

Althou I do chat online for a while first, lots of pics exchanged, phone numbers and video calls first. If there is no connection and they don't tick all my boxes then I don't meet. X

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By *atureFem4FunWoman
over a year ago

Petts Wood

Always social first for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social first or at least have been chatting for a little while before hand.

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By *ony456Man
over a year ago

Leeds

Chat first. First it helps to see if your compatible and it can build the tension.

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By *onynickiCouple
over a year ago

Bournemouth

Straight to action !!

It’s a swinging site!!

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By *issmeteasemeCouple
over a year ago

nottinghamshire

Social few drinks flirting then if all agree play x

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By *uchislife66Man
over a year ago

Leeds


"Meet for a drink, if it's all going well and everyone agrees we get down to the reason we are here.... SEX

True, we usually host for social at ours, in public place too much noise

We have a lovely circle of fab

and vanilla friends, I've got fb for socials, this is a sex site, that's what I'm looking for, pre drinks to make sure they are who they say they are, then away we go

Claire "

I agree Claire

Ps you look lovely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Social first or at least have been chatting for a little while before hand. "

Exactly this ! Chat on hear and then social if feel comfortable with each other probably a coffee social first meet

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By *oxy lady40Woman
over a year ago

bridgwater

Straight in to action if there chemistry x

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By *educerMan
over a year ago

Brentwood

All depends on the situation and person/people. Have done both although I’m not here for pen pals nor drinking partners....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely couple of drinks maybe bit of chat then jump right in ha! We usually have been chatting for few dats/weeks prior... Im not big on the social side.

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By *ananas57Couple
over a year ago

lake ariel

I need a drink or two first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Drink and flirt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social

I like to see how the other person is, kind of breaks the tension and allows comfortability

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Bexley


"Hi, it's difficult question.

How others couple like to do first date .

1: like to meet for drinks (social)

Or

2: stright to action???"

We never play on first meeting and may have a couple more 'socials' before anything else happens. We like things to develop organically and it takes time to get a feel for someone as opposed to just fancying them and jumping into bed for a one off.

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By *etro1940sCouple
over a year ago

Kingston upon Thames

We flirt and chat at a club and then "get the party started". x Anne

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have a chat then sex xx"

This!

We're not fans of masses of social interaction before play. We'd rather chat to see if we're on the same page and then play. If we all get on then we're happy to socialise a bit before we start playing again!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Absolutely couple of drinks maybe bit of chat then jump right in ha! We usually have been chatting for few dats/weeks prior... Im not big on the social side. "

This!

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By *oppet22TV/TS
over a year ago

huddersfield

Drink then let things happen if they do

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By *renzMan
over a year ago

Between Chichester and Havant

Usually before I meet anyone, we have exchanged many messages, then arranged a social. If that goes ok then arrange a play meet.

Occasionally if time is limited then I have met for a social, with a view to playing the same evening, but this was discussed beforehand. Even more occasionally have I just met to play without a social first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Action first, can't be bothered with a socials. I'm not interviewing them for a date, I just want to fuck them not marry them..

Althou I do chat online for a while first, lots of pics exchanged, phone numbers and video calls first. If there is no connection and they don't tick all my boxes then I don't meet. X

"

Do the due diligence before meeting up and make sure they're who they say they are when they turn up. Last thing we want is to all be talking about work, kids, cars etc.

We're definitely here to be naughty!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like to chat on here quite a bit first but when it comes to a meet I want to get straight into the action lol. I would happily have a social meet first but wouldn’t want to mix that meet up with some action. For me it’s odd to chat to someone all nice who 5 mins later will be calling me names and spanking me hard whilst tied up lol.

"

so true!

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By *hristopherd999Man
over a year ago

Brentwood

Chat first

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By *eventysixCouple
over a year ago

glossop

A brew social first

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By *uitednbooted2Man
over a year ago

Berkshire


"Action first, can't be bothered with a socials. I'm not interviewing them for a date, I just want to fuck them not marry them..

Althou I do chat online for a while first, lots of pics exchanged, phone numbers and video calls first. If there is no connection and they don't tick all my boxes then I don't meet. X

Do the due diligence before meeting up and make sure they're who they say they are when they turn up. Last thing we want is to all be talking about work, kids, cars etc.

We're definitely here to be naughty! "

Yes I will have talked at length with them before hand got to know them and possibly video called. I don’t go to meets unless I’m 100% sure we are on the same page. Hadn’t failed me recently and it’s straight into the fun

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

Relax, drinks, chat first

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By *ent and bratCouple
over a year ago

here there everywhere

Social first, like to exchange a lot of msgs before even agreeing to that. Cant think of anything worse then going to meet someone and not been attracted or finding out they are a bit of a dick (not the good kind) in person.

Happened to us before so now we just go about it our way, here for sex but never have enjoyed the wham bam see you later type of sex.

Brat x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Straight to action. Stranger sex is fucking hot, the less said the better lol. However I do like the social meets especially in clubs.

But the messages “you free now fancy some fun” get me instantly hard.

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By *uminsiderMKMan
over a year ago

St Austell

In 25+ years of 'playing', I can only recall four instances of meeting for a drink first - only one of which didn't then adjourn to their place...

....the vast majority of my meets have either been a brief chat and quickly onto the action, or getting straight to the action!

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By *rs BxxWoman
over a year ago

Chippenham, Wiltshire.

Straight in and play, fucking a stranger is so hot.

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By *omvampmMan
over a year ago

gillingham

Varied on this depends on all involved so I go with what makes all most comfy and respect that been around long enuf to get straight to it if that is what desired but respect and enjoy the social side to and getting to chat see how all get on and where it leads without the pressure or expectations

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Action first, can't be bothered with a socials. I'm not interviewing them for a date, I just want to fuck them not marry them..

Althou I do chat online for a while first, lots of pics exchanged, phone numbers and video calls first. If there is no connection and they don't tick all my boxes then I don't meet. X

Do the due diligence before meeting up and make sure they're who they say they are when they turn up. Last thing we want is to all be talking about work, kids, cars etc.

We're definitely here to be naughty! "

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

Normally it's a matter of a few drinks, a few laughs and hopefully the chemistry leads to the bedroom. But experience has taught us it doesn't always happen like that. Sometimes the chemistry, vibe and situation is just right and it just happens. Sometimes with complete strangers. If it works, it works and in this game always expect the unexpected.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Both, drinks then action if we all click

Her x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Normally it's a matter of a few drinks, a few laughs and hopefully the chemistry leads to the bedroom. But experience has taught us it doesn't always happen like that. Sometimes the chemistry, vibe and situation is just right and it just happens. Sometimes with complete strangers. If it works, it works and in this game always expect the unexpected."

That's a nice way of putting it. Sometimes the situation leads you in a direction and you go with it. Not always the same answer for the swinging question!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer a social if it's not in a club environment. That way there's no pressure or expectations. If it feels right and all parties are happy we can then play. I've turned down people before if there's no chemistry on a social. Despite all my veris I don't just shag anyone .. Lol

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I only do a social first meet, all my best meets have come from socials first.

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By *aughtycp1Couple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

I prefer straight into the action.

Mrs N x

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

Definitely meet for a drink and a chat and see what the chemistry is like. However, we admit to playing with people in a club (late on) without exchanging hardly any words

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We haven't done a social for so long.

We would probably do one with fab friends.

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By *loss aka Miss JonesWoman
over a year ago

south coast IOW

If I’m getting a boat off the island and having alcohol then I need to stay overnight anyway mor often than not so I prefer to chat lots on here first and then meet few drinks and action. I don’t mind getting a hotel if I can’t stay at yours but it can be expensive for boats and hotel just for a drink or two. If it’s just a social I’m better with a daytime coffee meet so that I can come home after and then arrange an overnight play session for another time. Parties are great as there’s always someone fun about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I will only do a social if there is potential for play if we hit it off.....

Meeting someone for coffee/drinks only feels like dating......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social always for a first meet x

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

Always a social first, and maybe several more times.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have yet to have a meet from here, however in the past I have had some amazing meets with people after a social or an organised large social

And when someone wants to meet me from here then it will be a social first

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By *iggles and BeardyCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

We simply goto clubs and see who we get on with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im one for socials, there has to be some chemistry in person shared over some food and drinks... which in return reaps the rewards if theres a spark

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By *ich_ChesterMan
over a year ago

Chester

Social first, few drinks and see how it goes.

If all goes well then let the fun begin

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