FabSwingers.com forum: Negative attitude towards asians?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi, I've been on fab for a while now and it seems like whenever I send someone a message and we talk as soon as they find out I'm of asian decent they stop replying or just flat out say they aren't interested which ok that's fair but the amount of times it's happened is quite alarming.

I feel like my profile tells alot about what I want from here and you can tell from my pic I'm not white lol. I'm always respectful, read profiles before messaging and just seems to get negative responses.

Really don't understand why I haven't been having any luck. Is it just a stigma around Asians in general on here?

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By *uitednbooted2Man
over a year ago

Berkshire

In fab you have to accept people have sexual preferences and often are aiming to fulfill fantasies. A common one is ladies who want BBC. It’s nothing personal to the rest of us it’s just there right to express a sexual preference on here. If being Asian isn’t in there tick box don’t take it personally because it isn’t. Just move on because there are plenty of people who do love Asians . Myself included, but the female variety of course

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Haha that's fair, I always read profiles for that reason and don't bother with messaging anyone who says they don't like Asians but still seem to get the short end of the stick regardless ??.

Appreciate the insight though.

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By *rooperRedMan
over a year ago

Littlehampton

It's just Fab being Fab... Unless Swedes are discriminated against as well.

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By *uitednbooted2Man
over a year ago

Berkshire

"Haha that's fair, I always read profiles for that reason and don't bother with messaging anyone who says they don't like Asians but still seem to get the short end of the stick regardless ??.

Appreciate the insight though."

Ok I understand. But behaving like a victim on this site won’t get you anywhere

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

You're doing well to get multiple replies to your messages leading to conversations, lots of men don't get any.

Remain glass half full and persevere, you might find someone eventually.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Haha that's fair, I always read profiles for that reason and don't bother with messaging anyone who says they don't like Asians but still seem to get the short end of the stick regardless ??.

Appreciate the insight though.

Ok I understand. But behaving like a victim on this site won’t get you anywhere "

Not playing victim just genuinely asking if there was something I was missing. Figured a second opinion might shed some light hence the post.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You're doing well to get multiple replies to your messages leading to conversations, lots of men don't get any.

Remain glass half full and persevere, you might find someone eventually.

Lol that's fair I figured it was just an isolated thing didn't realise it happens others too.

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

"You're doing well to get multiple replies to your messages leading to conversations, lots of men don't get any.

Remain glass half full and persevere, you might find someone eventually.

Lol that's fair I figured it was just an isolated thing didn't realise it happens others too. "

It's tough and 15 months of covid hasn't helped, I think the trick is to treat fab as being it is what it is.

If it starts to get you down take a break, it's meant to be fun

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s a very sensitive world these days, over sensitive in my opinion, it’s nothing more than you not fitting the preferences of the people you begin your conversation with, maybe it’s the conversation or other things not clicking that are putting them off, do you always read the profiles as some actually politely mention this as something they aren’t looking for !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe just don't mention that you're of Asian descent, then you'll see if it's actually the Asian thing or not.

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By *willfindyouWoman
over a year ago

Not looking to meet new peeps.

Met 1 years back never again !. it was all about him and his needs. NEVER again. x Seems women are on this earth for them. gimme uk or Irish men any day. just my opinion x ps. love N Ireland and UK accent

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It’s a very sensitive world these days, over sensitive in my opinion, it’s nothing more than you not fitting the preferences of the people you begin your conversation with, maybe it’s the conversation or other things not clicking that are putting them off, do you always read the profiles as some actually politely mention this as something they aren’t looking for !

What would be the point of reading profiles if I just ignored that? I purposely avoid any profile which states they don't like or aren't looking for Asians as I said earlier.

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By *uffnsmovCouple
over a year ago

Leeds/Wakefield

There is a negative view of Asian single guys especially. We have had encounters with Asian couples who were lovely and charming, but on 2 occasions in clubs Asian guys have very nearly felt Vickys left uppercut. After that she has instigated a blanket ban. So maybe the stigma is warranted.

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By *ungBlackTopMan
over a year ago

salford

OP don't stress about it as most on here you don't want to meet trust me on that one.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

If one is not someone's thing there is nothing one can do about it

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

I know an Asian Lady that won’t meet Asian men either. She’s had her fill of them. Once bitten twice shy. Or something like that.

Just saying.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Met 1 years back never again !. it was all about him and his needs. NEVER again. x Seems women are on this earth for them. gimme uk or Irish men any day. just my opinion x ps. love N Ireland and UK accent

That sucks but saying never again is quite extreme no? Everyone is different and painting people with the same brush just because of how your experience with one person seems strange to me. Everyone is different and unique regardless of ethnicity, religious beliefs or background.

It's like me saying I met a Someone who was racist therefore anyone associated with that person or from the same race or backgrounds is also racist. Selfish people belong to all walks of life lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What would be the point of reading profiles if I just ignored that? I purposely avoid any profile which states they don't like or aren't looking for Asians as I said earlier."

Well they’d be no point obviously, I was just asking a question as your created a thread looking for others to comment on and try to help you understand what’s happening, maybe it’s just simply the way you come across that they don’t like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Doesn't that kind of attitude cross both cultures and genders though?

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By *ardiffCoupleNJCouple
over a year ago

Pontypridd/Rhyfelin

"There is a negative view of Asian single guys especially. We have had encounters with Asian couples who were lovely and charming, but on 2 occasions in clubs Asian guys have very nearly felt Vickys left uppercut. After that she has instigated a blanket ban. So maybe the stigma is warranted."

While our experience wasn't the same, we've met Asian guys who've basically said they would happily play, but they wouldn't dream of allowing an Asian girlfriend / wife play.

This rather put us off...

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By *lixir of lifeMan
over a year ago

knob Creek

Judge a whole race on one meet ??

Jeeez

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

While our experience wasn't the same, we've met Asian guys who've basically said they would happily play, but they wouldn't dream of allowing an Asian girlfriend / wife play.

This rather put us off... "

Wooh. That's a super sweeping judgement on Asian guys .

We may digress but a lot of white folks in swinging communities are not long term married or commited cpls. They just happened to meet someone in their later life and then to spice things up ,started swinging.

They are nice people but I am just pointing it out here.

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

Of course you can have preferences but just to let you know that you can have UK Asians and Irish Asians as well.

Nationality doesn't relate to skin colour or ethnic back ground

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Judge a whole race on one meet ??

Jeeez

Unfortunately I feel like this is the reason for alot of it. I have had negative responses about me being Asian, I just didn't mention it. I wanted to see what peoples thoughts were on the matter and get a broader perspective.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Judge a whole race on one meet ??

Jeeez

I can understand that there has to be an attraction between people to play with but I can definitely say this that a lot of racist stuff has been painted as " preference" here.

Very convenient.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It will have nothing to do that you are Asian!

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By *eparrain1Man
over a year ago

Stone

Judge a whole race on one meet ??

Jeeez

I can understand that there has to be an attraction between people to play with but I can definitely say this that a lot of racist stuff has been painted as " preference" here.

Very convenient.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just putting it out there, I'd meet an Asian but I wouldn't meet a white guy

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By *willfindyouWoman
over a year ago

Not looking to meet new peeps.

Bullock Relgion has no part in this get over yourself. I said what I felt. x

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By *renzMan
over a year ago

Between Chichester and Havant

Is it because you're Asian?

Or is it because you are amongst thousands of other men all looking for the same thing?

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

There have been a fee threads on here about how some Asian males act, sadly this is a case of the few ruining it for the majority.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just putting it out there, I'd meet an Asian but I wouldn't meet a white guy

From someone who has "Straight" on their profile - LMFAO

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I imagine some do have a negative view. An awful lot more probably couldn’t give two hoots about it. We don’t have an issue with anyone’s race or line of decent.

It’s not exclusive to fab either. Just people have preferences. Don’t sweat the small stuff. Don’t get bitter and take fab for what it is. All we care about is having a connection with people and that they aren’t a dick. Male. Female. Or couple.

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By *inranWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

So I'm really kink focused and I put a load of people off because of that and I'm a white, single woman.

People just have preferences that's all.

In terms of pushing or demanding nature of Asian guys I've met some lovely Asian guys both socially and for play and I only meet submissive guys so that's certainly not true.

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By *lackssbbwukWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham

I’m not surprised by this thread. I have wondered how Asian men get on on here before now. I’ve seen some shocking statuses mentioning Asian people and EDL narratives in particular. There’s preferences, interests etc and there’s plain old racism - both exist on here and I’ve noticed it mostly towards Asian men. Best to avoid and block when you come across them. I get full on racist messages every now and again. It’s depressing but I report, block and try my best to avoid such people. Hope you have better luck in future. I haven’t looked at your profile tbh but maybe make it clear in your tag line to avoid the ghosting and unpleasantness

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just putting it out there, I'd meet an Asian but I wouldn't meet a white guy

From someone who has "Straight" on their profile - LMFAO

Read it again, maybe twice more...

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By *incsladyandscotsmanCouple
over a year ago

North fife

We have absolutely no problem with any race.... We are on fab to find things that tick our boxes. Asian men do not tick a box. It's nothing personal or racist...we know what we want.

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

This is just disgusting. You met ONE person and decided that his entire race were all the same? Good grief, how abhorrent.

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By *winkleFairyCouple
over a year ago

I think there are some very misguided opinions about the way “Asian men” treat women, particularly white women. Obviously there are some Asian males where this is true, but that applies across all ethnicities.

Sadly it’s just a fact of Fab. Just concentrate on those who you do match up with!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Haha that's fair, I always read profiles for that reason and don't bother with messaging anyone who says they don't like Asians but still seem to get the short end of the stick regardless ??.

Appreciate the insight though."

I just read your profile and your interests and what you are looking for would only attract a small percentage of women on Fab. Also you should write a little more about yourself and what you can offer rather than 90% of it being what you want.

Also not being able to accommodate limits things further.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

While our experience wasn't the same, we've met Asian guys who've basically said they would happily play, but they wouldn't dream of allowing an Asian girlfriend / wife play.

This rather put us off... "

We have experience this with Asian males in clubs. I'm sorry but if they feel there Mrs is to good for swinging then we are to good for them. Now I realise this doesn't apply to all Asians by a long shot.

Some observations

The above attitudes occurred in older single (out alone) Asian men that we have spoken to or overheard chatting and drinking in swinging clubs.

Certain groups of Asians potentially have culturally baised views of women that at best don't exactly mix with the swinging lifestyle.

We have also witnessed some unpleasant behaviour from a small group of older (40+) Asian males that led to them having to leave a club. Once asked to leave the really revealed thier true colours and what they thought of women in clubs e.g. free prostitutes and worse said.

Now on the flip side we have met younger Asians in thier 20s who behaved like true gentleman and very respectful so is it different views across the generations? Does been Asian UK born and only knowing a western way of life mean a more accepting view point to sexually liberated women?

I don't know I'm just thinking out loud and probably have upset a PC line somewhere.

We have also met an Asian couple who were both lovely people, just wonderful human biengs.

We will still meet Asians and don't let the above experiences stop that. However the above are our very real experiences to date so we can see why some people decide not to meet Asians.

I hope that honest answer isn't taken the wrong way.

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By *yn drwgMan
over a year ago

Camarthen

I've had sorry don't meet ginger's I just reply thanks for honest reply and move on.

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By *r serendipityMan
over a year ago

cornwall

I hate to say it but I find it's the same for me.i am half chinese and half English and the conversation is all good untill they find out I am part asian......I don't think anyone in cornwall wants to play with a mixed race guy( I say that tongue in cheek

but seriously I have noticed this trend.....

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By *vor HardonnMan
over a year ago

somewhere on the edge of SW Dartmoor

Far from it. I'd love to have sex with an Asian woman. Always been a fantasy

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By *DW1983Man
over a year ago

Blackpool, Aberdeen, Leeds, Sheffield

I can only speak from what I've seen in clubs, which as others have said doesn't reflect a whole nation. I haven't seen many Chinese men there, but rather other 'Asian' men. They are in the minority, but a large number of them have seemed not to have a great attitude from what I've observed, either sticking to their small group, watching but not talking to people, or approaching it as if its a strip club.

Its clearly only a minority, but unfortunately the combination of it being the majority of a small number of people gives everyone a bad reputation.

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By *r serendipityMan
over a year ago

cornwall

I think there is a differance in perception and attraction between male and female Asian persons....the fact that your a male and would love to have sex with a Asian female is from what I have seen relatively common....I think the point is about Asian men although that prob was not made clear enough.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" Is it just a stigma around Asians in general on here?"

Yes.

Use the forum search function to find multiple threads on this subject.

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

"Is it just a stigma around Asians in general on here?"

Fab is racist as fuck, I'm afraid. I've never been on another forum as bad for it.

I hate that the world is like this. I'm sorry.

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

"I've had sorry don't meet ginger's I just reply thanks for honest reply and move on."

Wow, another post I really hope is meant to be a joke...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being half Asian myself i wouldn't go with a Asian man but that's preference

I have been with middle Eastern though

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By *zn marriedMan
over a year ago

GLASGOW

Most people don't like to meet asain men as most are very disrespectful tbh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Most people don't like to meet asain men as most are very disrespectful tbh"

True

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By *uzboxCouple
over a year ago

Northwich

If like you say your pic reveals your ethnicity but you get blocked after a few messages, then what makes you think it's because you are Asian? Maybe its something about you in the conversation they don't like but you don't except that so it's easier to play the race card?

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By *oodyshere2011Man
over a year ago

Midlands

There could be a lot of reasons why and if you ask most the males on this site I bet we all have a reason we think we get ignored but in fairness I have the attitude of just leave it if that happens, fab can be a very harsh place in general though so I understand you questioning things.

Just be you and keep smiling!!

Some of the reply’s here though are shocking in my opinion

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

"Most people don't like to meet asain men as most are very disrespectful tbh

True "

No, racist.

Putting "tbh" at the end doesn't change that.

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By *UCKER56Man
over a year ago

Walsall

I have mostly Asian neighbours, living in Walsall, and my friend is black. Have no got a racist bone in my body socially or professionally , but my SEXUAL preference is for white cocks, not hairy, and I don't like beards , prefer men who are shaved everywhere.. so for that reason I would block any men who are Asian, black, or mixed race. My SEXUAL choice not a racial comment!!!!

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

I fancy Asian men to look at, unfortunately their attitudes towards women has offended me in the past. I grew up in South London amongst a wide range of cultures. I have seen Asian men in the past both Pakistani and Indian, my experience and that of other friends was negative in the end. I know women that have been treated appallingly by them. I hope my experience is a generational one.

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

"My SEXUAL choice not a racial comment!!!! "

I tend to believe it is, but generally it's highly indirect and not something that should be framed as you negatively.

I think though that, outside of the human delights who do overtly say "NO ASHUNS" it's not about OP being Asian, which is, of course, a huge variety of appearances, but those people being likely to have attributes they don't find attractive.

I've only ever had experiences with other white people but I know there are plenty of other guys of different colours who I'd be happy to play with. But not many. Very few around here, but that's (I hope) from individually assessing them as people, against the image I have of attractiveness. This image is definitely biased towards typically white, western features due to the society I grew up in, but that's when I feel comfortable that it's absolutely not "COS ASHUN", despite the very significant overlap between those labels and their appearance.

OP appears to have a very large, thick beard, which would absolutely be a blocker for us. Obviously though it's in the photo, so if that's a reason for others they should already know that...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My SEXUAL choice not a racial comment!!!!

I tend to believe it is, but generally it's highly indirect and not something that should be framed as you negatively.

OP appears to have a very large, thick beard, which would absolutely be a blocker for us. Obviously though it's in the photo, so if that's a reason for others they should already know that... "

Lol I have white skin I'm half Asian I don't want a white dick does that make me racist

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

"My SEXUAL choice not a racial comment!!!!

I tend to believe it is, but generally it's highly indirect and not something that should be framed as you negatively.

OP appears to have a very large, thick beard, which would absolutely be a blocker for us. Obviously though it's in the photo, so if that's a reason for others they should already know that...

Lol I have white skin I'm half Asian I don't want a white dick does that make me racist "

It seems we're clearly thinking at different levels of you think that's a relevant response to what I said.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anyways your body your decisions above anything ! Don't let anyone tell you your racist for not wanting to have sex with them looool

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For us it's just personal preference, with no more thought or agenda than any other choice, though we can occasionally be swayed, it just depends on the person.

But we have spoken to others who won't meet men of Asian decent because they feel that there's an imbalance.

They felt that the attitude seemed to be that Asian men thought it was OK to be unfaithful and fuck Caucasian women, but that they wont share 'their wonen' and that the historical/cultural balance was such that Asian women are mostly subjugated and too afraid to freely express their sexual desires. So they were basically saying that if you won't share yours, we're not sharing ours, which in truth isn't unfair, though has never been an issue for us.

We get approached by a LOT of Asian men, but very few are couples and we've yet to hear from an Asian lady...just saying it as its been for us.

So I guess that may be part of the challenge you're facing...happy fabbing op x

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By *ulgehunterMan
over a year ago

yorkshire

Maybe the people say they don't want Asian men ,either just want an Asian man or maybe they think most Asians are married by 24 and anyone over that probably is cheating on their wife's without their knowledge

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By *ffanotdykeCouple
over a year ago

Telford

Surely the whole thing comes down to preference. We as a couple do not find non europeans physically attractive.

As casual sex is driven by physical attraction, this preference governs all our choices.

Please dont try and impose inclusiveness on us.

It is purely personal choice and luckily the UK still has freedom of choice

G&A

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally would love to meet a lady of the Asian persuasion.

Not found one yet.

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By *en_Dover79Man
over a year ago

Oswaldtwistle

"I personally would love to meet a lady of the Asian persuasion.

Not found one yet. "

Played with an Asian girl in a club she was amazing.. was just before lockdown.. hope she comes back again when clubs open

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well perhaps it's because you are a Man United supporter lol!

I mean it may not be because you're "Asian". Could be because you don't have many photos on your profile so people can't see what you look like.

I don't subscribe to the view that not wanting to meet an Asian or black is racist... Its just a matter of taste. I don't like meeting fat people for sex. But I don't discriminate against them in regular life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I personally would love to meet a lady of the Asian persuasion.

Not found one yet.

Played with an Asian girl in a club she was amazing.. was just before lockdown.. hope she comes back again when clubs open"

Haha yea rub it in why don't you, do you have her number?

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

"Well perhaps it's because you are a Man United supporter lol!

I mean it may not be because you're "Asian". Could be because you don't have many photos on your profile so people can't see what you look like.

If you'd grown up in a society which promoted overweight as "route 1" sexy, the pinnacle of beauty and desirability, you'd probably have a different view though, right?

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By *S2004Man
over a year ago

Bromsgrove

"There have been a fee threads on here about how some Asian males act, sadly this is a case of the few ruining it for the majority."

Very much this, the same concept applies to all preferences and filters, there may well be exceptions but in the case of many women and couples they have numerous single men to chose from so understandably stick to the percentage call.

I am often a year outside of someone’s age range and maybe if they messaged me we would get in etc but it is just easier and understandable to draw in that line in the sand despite possibly missing out on a potential meet rather than wade through lots of unsuitable messages.x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think there is 48 different countries where people identify as Asian so it seems odd that most people rule out Asian based upon the reputation of some men mainly indian/Pakistani and there preety creepy reputation with English women when for all we know you might originate from Singapore so look nothing like an Indian.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anyone can find stigma if they look for it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tbh my mrs has a bit of a thing for arabic, pakistani looking men when she wants to play sub.

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By *inranWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"My SEXUAL choice not a racial comment!!!!

I tend to believe it is, but generally it's highly indirect and not something that should be framed as you negatively.

OP appears to have a very large, thick beard, which would absolutely be a blocker for us. Obviously though it's in the photo, so if that's a reason for others they should already know that... "

I think this beautiful covers the different between rasist and preference.

As soon as you start drawing conclusions of behaviour based on appearance.

You are allowed to prefer things aesthetically but if you are calling out people on behavior then you need to base that on their behaviour not a whole category of people's.

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

Pssst! Everyone! I don't know if you know this, but "preferences" can be racist!

Ugh.

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

"Pssst! Everyone! I don't know if you know this, but "preferences" can be racist!

Ugh. "

Let's have a heated debate!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know an Asian Lady that won’t meet Asian men either. She’s had her fill of them. Once bitten twice shy. Or something like that.

Just saying. "

From experience, a lot our very controlling of their partners and women in general. But we have also met some absolute gentlemen too, so it’s by I means a general or universal thing. It’s pretty much a cultural left over that has not been overcome yet and is unfortunately very real for some. The decent more modern thinking guys are going to suffer from the behaviour of others unfortunately. At least any folks will judge people on how they find them and not in general perceptions, so just stick with it. Nearly everyone finds it hard to connect on here due numbers and the often unacceptable behaviour of others.

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By *hetalkingstoveMan
over a year ago

London

"Pssst! Everyone! I don't know if you know this, but "preferences" can be racist!

Ugh. "

No no, don't you know 'preference' is a magic word that absolves people of any negative attitude they have towards others!

It must be true, it gets rolled out constantly in every single one of these threads.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's the fact hes a man utd support for me ( come on Liverpool)

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

"Pssst! Everyone! I don't know if you know this, but "preferences" can be racist!

Ugh.

Let's have a heated debate!"

Why bother? The racists have won here. I'm surprised people don't just put "NO BLACKS NO DOGS NO IRISH" on their profiles.

I *hate* all this. Hot people are hot, whatever their ethnic background. Dismissing whole tranches of the human population because of some ingrained prejudice is just *ludicrous* to me.

And no – before anyone tries this – racist is *not* a sexual orientation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's some hot looking Asian women about

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

"Pssst! Everyone! I don't know if you know this, but "preferences" can be racist!

Ugh.

No no, don't you know 'preference' is a magic word that absolves people of any negative attitude they have towards others!

It must be true, it gets rolled out constantly in every single one of these threads. "

Doesn't it just? It's like a racist version of Leeloo in The Fifth Element honking "MULTIPASS!" at everything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it because you're Asian?

Or is it because you are amongst thousands of other men all looking for the same thing? "

Completely agree!! Unless you have had a specific reply stating “sorry we’re not interested because your Asian” then I’m sorry I think your the one who has made up the fact that their not interested because your Asian not them.

There’s thousands of single guys on here, everyone has their own preferences/fantasies and requirements and I’m sure there are thousands of white and black guys getting no responses as well.

Just one of them things.. get over it and move on

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

"Unless you have had a specific reply stating “sorry we’re not interested because your Asian” then I’m sorry I think your the one who has made up the fact that their not interested because your Asian not them."

Wow! So racism only exists when the racists who are doing racist things explicitly state that they are doing those racist things because they are racist.

Right.

And anyone who notices racists doing racist things without explictly stating they're doing racist things because they're racists is "making it up".

Right.

Wow.

Ugh.

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

Wow! So racism only exists when the racists who are doing racist things explicitly state that they are doing those racist things because they are racist.

Right.

And anyone who notices racists doing racist things without explictly stating they're doing racist things because they're racists is "making it up".

Right.

Wow.

Ugh. "

No no, hang about there. I hope it's pretty clear we are very much on the same side here, but you have to allow these subtleties. You have to acknowledge that reasons aren't clear alll the time. Just because one version of truths for the scenario is racist doesn't mean other more acceptable ones don't exist at the same time.

Tbh I thought that message was very reasonable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it because you're Asian?

Or is it because you are amongst thousands of other men all looking for the same thing?

There’s thousands of single guys on here, everyone has their own preferences/fantasies and requirements and I’m sure there are thousands of white and black guys getting no responses as well.

Just one of them things.. get over it and move on

.Well said.

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By *oveAndBangCouple
over a year ago

where the mood takes us

"Pssst! Everyone! I don't know if you know this, but "preferences" can be racist!

Ugh. "

What? So if someone's body preferences are big boobs does it mean that this person body shames every woman with smaller ones? Same with ladies who prefer taller guys. Are they body shame shorter guys? It's all about mutual respect. If someone says that You're not his/her cup of tea it doesn't mean that person trying to disrespect You

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By *winkleFairyCouple
over a year ago

Wow! So racism only exists when the racists who are doing racist things explicitly state that they are doing those racist things because they are racist.

Right.

And anyone who notices racists doing racist things without explictly stating they're doing racist things because they're racists is "making it up".

Right.

Wow.

Ugh. "

But it is very possible that the OP is getting no response / polite no thank yous because of a whole variety of other reasons - whilst I do agree with what you are saying in a more generalised sense, in the world of casual sex and swinging politely refusing someone who belongs to a different ethnicity does not automatically equal racist.

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By *olfy and SheepCouple
over a year ago

Lanark

I find a personal preference for a colour of skin or what not to just be that. A preference. With obvious exceptions because no-one truly knows what they like until they see something new that counter the old tasts.

But I find people who just put "no whites" or "not blacks/asians" in their profiles to just be overtly racist and block them pre-emptively.

The fact these people feel the need to advertise this on the meat market is akin to just saying "no black, no irish, no dogs".

It's not something I think is a virtue in advertising on your profile. If you can't handle the notion that men will message you who aren't your type, maybe you should re-think how you see your own self-importance on the site and in life in general.

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

"Pssst! Everyone! I don't know if you know this, but "preferences" can be racist!

Ugh.

"Tall" and "big boobed" aren't ethnicities, though.

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By *bwlookingforfunWoman
over a year ago

crawley

How me choosing who I want to fuck with is racist?

Bad experience which repeated way too many times kind of shaped my preference.

I don't find Indian guys attractive. Same as some guys don't find fat girls attractive. Am I offended? No.

that's fab, it's about attraction.

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

Wow! So racism only exists when the racists who are doing racist things explicitly state that they are doing those racist things because they are racist.

Right.

And anyone who notices racists doing racist things without explicitly stating they're doing racist things because they're racists is "making it up".

Right.

Wow.

Ugh.

Correct. Turning someone of a certain ethnicity down isn't in itself racist. But then nobody is claiming it is.

However, turning someone down *because* they are of a certain ethnicity by definition *is* racist.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi a lot of us don't like to put that we only want Caucasian men. I have nothing against any race but I'm just not sexual attracted.. N I got lots of racist hate when I did racial preference on profile..

We all have a choice in who we like sexually

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow! So racism only exists when the racists who are doing racist things explicitly state that they are doing those racist things because they are racist.

Right.

And anyone who notices racists doing racist things without explicitly stating they're doing racist things because they're racists is "making it up".

Right.

Wow.

Ugh.

Correct. Turning someone of a certain ethnicity down isn't in itself racist. But then nobody is claiming it is.

However, turning someone down *because* they are of a certain ethnicity by definition *is* racist. "

agree...and hurtful and unnecessary... often the real problem is misogyny and there’s plenty of that to go around the whole world over...another thread no doubt but ffs being kind and respectful isn’t too much to ask

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By *acky RacersCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

"Hi a lot of us don't like to put that we only want Caucasian men. I have nothing against any race but I'm just not sexual attracted.. N I got lots of racist hate when I did racial preference on profile..

We all have a choice in who we like sexually

Could not agree more. Your tastes and preferences when it comes to sex are not equal opportunities employers.

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

We all have a choice in who we like sexually

Could not agree more. Your tastes and preferences when it comes to sex are not equal opportunities employers."

Who's position do you think you're disagreeing with? No one is saying anything against this.

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By *rummie_jamaicanMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

Wow! So racism only exists when the racists who are doing racist things explicitly state that they are doing those racist things because they are racist.

Right.

And anyone who notices racists doing racist things without explicitly stating they're doing racist things because they're racists is "making it up".

Right.

Wow.

Ugh.

Correct. Turning someone of a certain ethnicity down isn't in itself racist. But then nobody is claiming it is.

However, turning someone down *because* they are of a certain ethnicity by definition *is* racist. "

This is pure fuckery!

Racism is about power. It's about actions/structures/attitude that impinges on one's pursuit of happiness and their ability to fully exercise their rights.

If a woman of whatever race doesn't want to fuck me because I am black, how the fuck does that impinge on my pursuit of happiness or the exercise of my rights? Unless you want to argue that I am entitled. Are people who date exclusively outside their race being racist against race?

This kind of fuckery must stop. Seriously, this kind of thinking, however well meaning, does nothing but devalue the term racism. If everything is racism then nothing is and the word will lose its meaning.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow! So racism only exists when the racists who are doing racist things explicitly state that they are doing those racist things because they are racist.

Right.

And anyone who notices racists doing racist things without explicitly stating they're doing racist things because they're racists is "making it up".

Right.

Wow.

Ugh.

Correct. Turning someone of a certain ethnicity down isn't in itself racist. But then nobody is claiming it is.

However, turning someone down *because* they are of a certain ethnicity by definition *is* racist.

This is pure fuckery!

Racism is about power. It's about actions/structures/attitude that impinges on one's pursuit of happiness and their ability to fully exercise their rights.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

While our experience wasn't the same, we've met Asian guys who've basically said they would happily play, but they wouldn't dream of allowing an Asian girlfriend / wife play.

This rather put us off... "

Those asain guys who u met are no good I wouldn't meet them again am British born Pakistani and am looking forward my wife getting into swinging she is slowly coming round to the idea x

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By *oveAndBangCouple
over a year ago

where the mood takes us

Wow! So racism only exists when the racists who are doing racist things explicitly state that they are doing those racist things because they are racist.

Right.

And anyone who notices racists doing racist things without explicitly stating they're doing racist things because they're racists is "making it up".

Right.

Wow.

Ugh.

Correct. Turning someone of a certain ethnicity down isn't in itself racist. But then nobody is claiming it is.

However, turning someone down *because* they are of a certain ethnicity by definition *is* racist.

This is pure fuckery!

Racism is about power. It's about actions/structures/attitude that impinges on one's pursuit of happiness and their ability to fully exercise their rights.

Well said

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By *winkleFairyCouple
over a year ago

Wow! So racism only exists when the racists who are doing racist things explicitly state that they are doing those racist things because they are racist.

Right.

And anyone who notices racists doing racist things without explicitly stating they're doing racist things because they're racists is "making it up".

Right.

Wow.

Ugh.

Correct. Turning someone of a certain ethnicity down isn't in itself racist. But then nobody is claiming it is.

However, turning someone down *because* they are of a certain ethnicity by definition *is* racist.

This is pure fuckery!

Racism is about power. It's about actions/structures/attitude that impinges on one's pursuit of happiness and their ability to fully exercise their rights.

100%

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In fab you have to accept people have sexual preferences and often are aiming to fulfill fantasies. A common one is ladies who want BBC. It’s nothing personal to the rest of us it’s just there right to express a sexual preference on here. If being Asian isn’t in there tick box don’t take it personally because it isn’t. Just move on because there are plenty of people who do love Asians . Myself included, but the female variety of course

Yes there definitely are preferences, and also people might be shaped by past negative experiences. For example I almost exclusively dated dark middle Eastern types in my 20s,and now switched to almost exclusively very white fair skinned.

I had some negative experiences with men of certain backgrounds, so now I avoid them entirely, because I realised it's more of a cultural thing than a one off and I'd rather not take the risk.

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By *r serendipityMan
over a year ago

cornwall

Perhaps your right,perhaps it's because they genuinely don't like me as a person.

But I am trying to look at this objectively.

And my honest opinion is that it's got something to do with my race.....its not the easy way out I am afraid.its my objective opinion as a reply to the gentlemen first posting on this thread......

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By *r serendipityMan
over a year ago

cornwall

I generaly avoid the forums on fab as I find it can be quite a brutal place.but I felt I had something to contribute to this thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From my point of veiw I prefer ASAINS as long as they are young nice beard hairy chest far more handsome in many cases then white males

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Wow! So racism only exists when the racists who are doing racist things explicitly state that they are doing those racist things because they are racist.

Right.

And anyone who notices racists doing racist things without explicitly stating they're doing racist things because they're racists is "making it up".

Right.

Wow.

Ugh.

Correct. Turning someone of a certain ethnicity down isn't in itself racist. But then nobody is claiming it is.

However, turning someone down *because* they are of a certain ethnicity by definition *is* racist.

This is pure fuckery!

Racism is about power. It's about actions/structures/attitude that impinges on one's pursuit of happiness and their ability to fully exercise their rights.

100%

Think it would help if an understanding of racism is viewed from memetics not generics.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Wow! So racism only exists when the racists who are doing racist things explicitly state that they are doing those racist things because they are racist.

Right.

And anyone who notices racists doing racist things without explicitly stating they're doing racist things because they're racists is "making it up".

Right.

Wow.

Ugh.

Correct. Turning someone of a certain ethnicity down isn't in itself racist. But then nobody is claiming it is.

However, turning someone down *because* they are of a certain ethnicity by definition *is* racist.

This is pure fuckery!

Racism is about power. It's about actions/structures/attitude that impinges on one's pursuit of happiness and their ability to fully exercise their rights.

100%

Think it would help if an understanding of racism is viewed from memetics not generics."
genetics ..... so going to have change the auto connection on my phone.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Wow! So racism only exists when the racists who are doing racist things explicitly state that they are doing those racist things because they are racist.

Right.

And anyone who notices racists doing racist things without explicitly stating they're doing racist things because they're racists is "making it up".

Right.

Wow.

Ugh.

Correct. Turning someone of a certain ethnicity down isn't in itself racist. But then nobody is claiming it is.

However, turning someone down *because* they are of a certain ethnicity by definition *is* racist.

This is pure fuckery!

Racism is about power. It's about actions/structures/attitude that impinges on one's pursuit of happiness and their ability to fully exercise their rights.

100%

Think it would help if an understanding of racism is viewed from memetics not generics. genetics ..... so going to have change the auto connection on my phone."

Correction

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow! So racism only exists when the racists who are doing racist things explicitly state that they are doing those racist things because they are racist.

Right.

And anyone who notices racists doing racist things without explicitly stating they're doing racist things because they're racists is "making it up".

Right.

Wow.

Ugh.

Correct. Turning someone of a certain ethnicity down isn't in itself racist. But then nobody is claiming it is.

However, turning someone down *because* they are of a certain ethnicity by definition *is* racist.

This is pure fuckery!

Racism is about power. It's about actions/structures/attitude that impinges on one's pursuit of happiness and their ability to fully exercise their rights.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow! So racism only exists when the racists who are doing racist things explicitly state that they are doing those racist things because they are racist.

Right.

And anyone who notices racists doing racist things without explicitly stating they're doing racist things because they're racists is "making it up".

Right.

Wow.

Ugh.

Correct. Turning someone of a certain ethnicity down isn't in itself racist. But then nobody is claiming it is.

However, turning someone down *because* they are of a certain ethnicity by definition *is* racist.

This is pure fuckery!

Racism is about power. It's about actions/structures/attitude that impinges on one's pursuit of happiness and their ability to fully exercise their rights.

Racism is not about power, thats some bulllshit modern idenity politics definition, as under that definition a Black person cant be racist towards a White person because of some perceived power imbalance.

Racism is prejudice on the basis of their membership of a particular racial or ethnic group. Nothing more nothing less

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

While no one has said it's racist, other threads I have seen and messages I've received from turning an Asian or black man down have called me a racist of course I argued till my fingers were sore but they weren't having it.

I don't think it's got anything to do with racism it is preference which we are all entitled to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We all have a choice in who we like sexually

Could not agree more. Your tastes and preferences when it comes to sex are not equal opportunities employers."

Shameore don't think like that

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By *winkleFairyCouple
over a year ago

Wow! So racism only exists when the racists who are doing racist things explicitly state that they are doing those racist things because they are racist.

Right.

And anyone who notices racists doing racist things without explicitly stating they're doing racist things because they're racists is "making it up".

Right.

Wow.

Ugh.

Correct. Turning someone of a certain ethnicity down isn't in itself racist. But then nobody is claiming it is.

However, turning someone down *because* they are of a certain ethnicity by definition *is* racist.

This is pure fuckery!

Racism is about power. It's about actions/structures/attitude that impinges on one's pursuit of happiness and their ability to fully exercise their rights.

Racism is prejudice on the basis of their membership of a particular racial or ethnic group. Nothing more nothing less"

It’s always great when a white person tells a black person their perception of racism is wrong

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By *rummie_jamaicanMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

"Perhaps your right,perhaps it's because they genuinely don't like me as a person.

But I am trying to look at this objectively.

And my honest opinion is that it's got something to do with my race.....its not the easy way out I am afraid.its my objective opinion as a reply to the gentlemen first posting on this thread......

What is an objective opinion?

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By *ands09Couple
over a year ago

West London

Oh god ..not another “ you don’t fuck me because I am Asian “ thread and typical response “ all Asian men are rude, don’t respect women “.. blah blah ..

Sex is always about preference, just like food. If I don’t want to eat meat it’s my fuckin choice - you can’t ask me why I don’t like meat and just because I don’t eat meat it doesn’t mean meat doesn’t taste good or eating vegetarian food makes you super intelligent or super hot...

Life is always about freedom of choice

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By *rummie_jamaicanMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

Wow! So racism only exists when the racists who are doing racist things explicitly state that they are doing those racist things because they are racist.

Right.

And anyone who notices racists doing racist things without explicitly stating they're doing racist things because they're racists is "making it up".

Right.

Wow.

Ugh.

Correct. Turning someone of a certain ethnicity down isn't in itself racist. But then nobody is claiming it is.

However, turning someone down *because* they are of a certain ethnicity by definition *is* racist.

This is pure fuckery!

Racism is about power. It's about actions/structures/attitude that impinges on one's pursuit of happiness and their ability to fully exercise their rights.

Racism is prejudice on the basis of their membership of a particular racial or ethnic group. Nothing more nothing less"

I advise you to look up the mean8of the suffix "ism".

Of course black people can be racist. I have been in positions of power over people of other races with the ability to abuse their rights

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By *ritishAsianMan
over a year ago

Leeds

"Oh god ..not another “ you don’t fuck me because I am Asian “ thread and typical response “ all Asian men are rude, don’t respect women “.. blah blah ..

Life is always about freedom of choice

I certainly agree as people have their preferences hence my username ‘BritishAsian’ as i have had far too many chat and then go dead when they find out i am Asian.

I have still had a few members message me but then they will turn sour by hurling abuse when nothing was said.

It can be extremely difficult but hey ho, keep your heads up as there are people put there who will meet Asian men once they have spoken for a bit.

Its the handful of Asian men who have fucked it up for the rest of us

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By *r serendipityMan
over a year ago

cornwall

A objective opinion is my opinion based on what is actualy happening and not based on a emotive perception......I am trying to be being objective not emotive in my post.

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By *r serendipityMan
over a year ago

cornwall

Then let's not let others have a free speech with what is on there mind.yes it's your choice....the same as its his choice to view his opinion.just don't read it then if the subject matter fucks you off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im asian (female) myself, purely here out of curiousity. I agree it's just someone's tastes and preferences. For every one that isnt interested in you Op, there will be many who are fine about it. Everyone has their likes etc

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By *ap d agde coupleCouple
over a year ago

Broadstairs

We love shagging Thais gGod they are sooo Hot

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By *eparrain1Man
over a year ago

Stone

Judge a whole race on one meet ??

Jeeez

I can understand that there has to be an attraction between people to play with but I can definitely say this that a lot of racist stuff has been painted as " preference" here.

Very convenient.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Judge a whole race on one meet ??

Jeeez

I can understand that there has to be an attraction between people to play with but I can definitely say this that a lot of racist stuff has been painted as " preference" here.

Very convenient.

Or a lot of preference is painted as racist.

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

Judge a whole race on one meet ??

Jeeez

I can understand that there has to be an attraction between people to play with but I can definitely say this that a lot of racist stuff has been painted as " preference" here.

Very convenient.

Or a lot of preference is painted as racist.

"
yes, because there's racist views behind them. It's not painting when it's true.

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By *r serendipityMan
over a year ago

cornwall

Judge a whole race on one meet ??

Jeeez

I can understand that there has to be an attraction between people to play with but I can definitely say this that a lot of racist stuff has been painted as " preference" here.

Very convenient.

Or a lot of preference is painted as racist.

yes, because there's racist views behind them. It's not painting when it's true. "

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By *esi_maverickMan
over a year ago

Solihull

These kind of posts are getting boring now guys, accept it we're not everyone's cup of tea.

It's down to Preferences everyone has them.

Accept it and move on.

It's down to personality and attraction.

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

"These kind of posts are getting boring now guys, accept it we're not everyone's cup of tea.

It's down to Preferences everyone has them.

Accept it and move on.

It's down to personality and attraction.

Well done for being the hundredth person to utterly miss the point, maybe that's why you think it's boring. "preference" is a meaningless word here, stop thinking it's the end of anything.

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By *esi_maverickMan
over a year ago

Solihull

"These kind of posts are getting boring now guys, accept it we're not everyone's cup of tea.

It's down to Preferences everyone has them.

Accept it and move on.

It's down to personality and attraction.

Well done for being the hundredth person to utterly miss the point, maybe that's why you think it's boring. "preference" is a meaningless word here, stop thinking it's the end of anything."

So tell me are you in to meeting Asian guys then

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

"These kind of posts are getting boring now guys, accept it we're not everyone's cup of tea.

It's down to Preferences everyone has them.

Accept it and move on.

It's down to personality and attraction.

Well done for being the hundredth person to utterly miss the point, maybe that's why you think it's boring. "preference" is a meaningless word here, stop thinking it's the end of anything.

So tell me are you in to meeting Asian guys then "

If you read the conversation you'd know. I'm short, specific ones, absolutely.

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By *esi_maverickMan
over a year ago

Solihull

"These kind of posts are getting boring now guys, accept it we're not everyone's cup of tea.

It's down to Preferences everyone has them.

Accept it and move on.

It's down to personality and attraction.

Well done for being the hundredth person to utterly miss the point, maybe that's why you think it's boring. "preference" is a meaningless word here, stop thinking it's the end of anything.

So tell me are you in to meeting Asian guys then

If you read the conversation you'd know. I'm short, specific ones, absolutely. "

You have me blocked

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By *irtylittletramp100TV/TS
over a year ago

Notts

blocked tvs too... how rude lol

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

"These kind of posts are getting boring now guys, accept it we're not everyone's cup of tea.

It's down to Preferences everyone has them.

Accept it and move on.

It's down to personality and attraction.

Well done for being the hundredth person to utterly miss the point, maybe that's why you think it's boring. "preference" is a meaningless word here, stop thinking it's the end of anything.

So tell me are you in to meeting Asian guys then

If you read the conversation you'd know. I'm short, specific ones, absolutely.

You have me blocked "

Yep. You can still read what I've said here though.

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By *esi_maverickMan
over a year ago

Solihull

"These kind of posts are getting boring now guys, accept it we're not everyone's cup of tea.

It's down to Preferences everyone has them.

Accept it and move on.

It's down to personality and attraction.

Well done for being the hundredth person to utterly miss the point, maybe that's why you think it's boring. "preference" is a meaningless word here, stop thinking it's the end of anything.

So tell me are you in to meeting Asian guys then

If you read the conversation you'd know. I'm short, specific ones, absolutely.

You have me blocked

Yep. You can still read what I've said here though. "

Don't worry about it..

Each to their own happy fabbing to ya'll xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's just Fab being Fab... Unless Swedes are discriminated against as well."

And the Welshman

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a Vietnamese take away tonight I'm 100% pro asian males now was proper nice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This topic has been discussed way too many times in the forum. There is no single answer to this question.

Some people don't meet Asians just by preference. They don't find Asians visually appealing to them. No argument against this. It's their body, their rights.

Some people don't meet Asians because they have had some bad experience with Asian single men in the past. One could come up with the argument that "one bad experience doesn't mean it is always a trend" or "you are being racist by creating a stereotype based on few incidents". But the bottom line is that life is short and women get plenty of requests than you can imagine. So they have to do some blanket filtering. Someone who had a bad experience with Asian themselves or have heard stories from others tend to take the easy way out of just filtering out Asians. Again, cannot blame them. It's their bodies, their rights.

It's like the racial profiling and thorough security checks that happens in airports during immigration. It's unfortunate but inevitable because some assholes have managed to make it bad for the rest.

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By *lassyandkinkyCouple
over a year ago

West Yorkshire

"Hi, I've been on fab for a while now and it seems like whenever I send someone a message and we talk as soon as they find out I'm of asian decent they stop replying or just flat out say they aren't interested which ok that's fair but the amount of times it's happened is quite alarming.

Really don't understand why I haven't been having any luck. Is it just a stigma around Asians in general on here?"

Are you certain it’s because you are Asian OP and not something you have said in a message. I

I know Asian men get a bad reputation on here and people have preferences. We have encountered issues in clubs with Asian men and we have also had issues in clubs with white men too, we just deal with anyone causing issues no matter what culture they are.

Good luck OP and don’t let this get you down.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"These kind of posts are getting boring now guys, accept it we're not everyone's cup of tea.

It's down to Preferences everyone has them.

Accept it and move on.

It's down to personality and attraction.

Well done for being the hundredth person to utterly miss the point, maybe that's why you think it's boring. "preference" is a meaningless word here, stop thinking it's the end of anything."

For someone that doesn't like to be criticised, you throw a lot of criticism around.

Sharing an opinion is one thing, trying to beat people down with political correctness is another.

In all honesty, a lot of your posts have a strong element of narcissism in them.

You're really doing yourself no favours here.

I'm actually trying to be polite and not too critical, as I'm aware you're not strong enough for a finger pointed your way, only your finger pointed at others.

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By *acky RacersCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

We all have a choice in who we like sexually

Could not agree more. Your tastes and preferences when it comes to sex are not equal opportunities employers.

Who's position do you think you're disagreeing with? No one is saying anything against this. "

So when I opened a sentence with "Could not agree more" I don't see that I am disagreeing with anyone...the clue was in the fact that I said... "could not agree more"...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Haha that's fair, I always read profiles for that reason and don't bother with messaging anyone who says they don't like Asians but still seem to get the short end of the stick regardless ??.

Appreciate the insight though.

Ok I understand. But behaving like a victim on this site won’t get you anywhere

Not playing victim just genuinely asking if there was something I was missing. Figured a second opinion might shed some light hence the post."
. Yes, your missing the point that you are a single male

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lot of people on here don’t want to meet us because Abby is a TV.

Do we get offended or upset? No of course not. They just aren’t attracted sexually or otherwise to a TV.

We understand and accept it and concentrate on those that are.

You can’t appeal to everyone but you will appeal to some.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow! So racism only exists when the racists who are doing racist things explicitly state that they are doing those racist things because they are racist.

Right.

And anyone who notices racists doing racist things without explicitly stating they're doing racist things because they're racists is "making it up".

Right.

Wow.

Ugh.

Correct. Turning someone of a certain ethnicity down isn't in itself racist. But then nobody is claiming it is.

However, turning someone down *because* they are of a certain ethnicity by definition *is* racist.

This is pure fuckery!

Racism is about power. It's about actions/structures/attitude that impinges on one's pursuit of happiness and their ability to fully exercise their rights.

Racism is prejudice on the basis of their membership of a particular racial or ethnic group. Nothing more nothing less

It’s always great when a white person tells a black person their perception of racism is wrong"

It's part of the problem white knighting white folk thinking they understand and have a better authority on racism to the point where they are actually telling a black person that their experience and understanding of racism is flat out wrong!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A lot of people on here don’t want to meet us because Abby is a TV.

Do we get offended or upset? No of course not. They just aren’t attracted sexually or otherwise to a TV.

We understand and accept it and concentrate on those that are.

You can’t appeal to everyone but you will appeal to some.

Bbc, TV, Bi are all part of preferences of playing but not Asians ..it's different perspective.

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By *lay 4 uMan
over a year ago

bolton

What you want from here . answered your own question there as to why people don't want to know. It's a all about sharing the experience and not what you want .

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By *ardiffCoupleNJCouple
over a year ago

Pontypridd/Rhyfelin

"Pssst! Everyone! I don't know if you know this, but "preferences" can be racist!

Ugh.

No no, don't you know 'preference' is a magic word that absolves people of any negative attitude they have towards others!

It must be true, it gets rolled out constantly in every single one of these threads. "

The fact is, we all have a 'type' that we think we are looking for, be you male or female.

The wonderful thing is, now and again, someone walks past, or you talk to somebody and you go "wow" before realising they don't fit your normal preference.

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By *ublinGirl92Woman
over a year ago

Hell

Yeah of course there is. Just look at some of the replies here. Judging an entire race of of the behaviour of one or two and sweeping generalisations. It can be preference but preferences can be racist and at the very least racially biased.

But people don't like to admit that. You're not really meant to question that sort of thing here.

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By *ormalcple73Couple
over a year ago

plymouth

I personally would love to try an Asian man

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By *BW SnowbunnyWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere over the Rainbow

I was told by an Asian man in a club that white women are there for them to use and abuse

But a lot of Arabic and travelling men are the same. Myself and friends just find that Asian men in general are sex pests at parties/clubs. It’s a case of ‘I’ve paid my entry and I’m entitled to fuck’. Obviously that’s not the case when going to a club and shouldn’t have that attitude.

My profile clearly states Black Only. Yet I get messages from Asian men saying they’ve got bbc (a term I don’t like) You only have to look and you see a brown cock with non-black pubic hair

. Way too many incidents over the years has put me off Asian men completely. That is my preference though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m not keen on cut cocks which means most black/Asian men. Am I racist. No I’m not

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By *essysteveCouple
over a year ago

ALICANTE AREA SPAIN

I wondered how long before the racist card was played ................ just accept that many do not wish to meet Asian guys for various reasons. No different than others who are not wanting to meet straight guys, bi guys, BBW's it is just choice and nothing to do with racism

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

"I wondered how long before the racist card was played ................ just accept that many do not wish to meet Asian guys for various reasons. No different than others who are not wanting to meet straight guys, bi guys, BBW's it is just choice and nothing to do with racism

"Various reasons" and NONE of them could possibly have anything to do with race?

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

"I’m not keen on cut cocks which means most black/Asian men. Am I racist. No I’m not"

Whatever the conversation, I think it is self evident that no individual can ever declare *themselves* free of and sort of negative prejudice.

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

"I was told by an Asian man in a club that white women are there for them to use and abuse

My profile clearly states Black Only. Yet I get messages from Asian men saying they’ve got bbc (a term I don’t like) You only have to look and you see a brown cock with non-black pubic hair

. Way too many incidents over the years has put me off Asian men completely. That is my preference though "

You have specific, private, lived experiences you base your preferences on. Perfect. If only everyone could be this honest.

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By *esi_maverickMan
over a year ago

Solihull

Does anyone find me attractive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah of course there is. Just look at some of the replies here. Judging an entire race of of the behaviour of one or two and sweeping generalisations. It can be preference but preferences can be racist and at the very least racially biased.

But people don't like to admit that. You're not really meant to question that sort of thing here. "

True. Preferences can be racially motivated. But this is one's body, not a place to fight for social justice. Pick your battles. Someone denies giving jobs because of racial discrimination? Fight that. But having sex? No one would want to be forced to change their tastes on this matter, no matter what the reason is.

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

But people don't like to admit that. You're not really meant to question that sort of thing here.

Not one person says they should. Be careful of strawman arguments.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But people don't like to admit that. You're not really meant to question that sort of thing here.

Not one person says they should. Be careful of strawman arguments. "

What exactly is the outcome you are expecting then?

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By *ornucopiaMan
over a year ago

Bexley

This thread is making me wonder about the concepts of 'preference' and 'prejudice'.

Where do they coincide?

Where do they differ?

Where do they overlap?

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By *ornucopiaMan
over a year ago

Bexley

To the guys who say that they want to meet an Asian woman but never seem to...

Is it just a fantasy? In which case it may well stay being one.

If you are serious, what is stopping you?

I have met women of all races and from a variety of countries and cultures simply by the time honoured way of making friends with them.

At work, in shops, by accident, walking by when you are cleaning the car, in swimming pools/sports centres, cafes...

The possibilities are endless before you start looking in clubs or swingers sites or even dating sites (which are the obvious resort).

Once you are attracted, things happen if you both want it to. Cultural rules don't have much sway where nature is concerned.

If you think that this is the the only place where you are going to find exotic sex, or any sex, something else must be wrong with your life!

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By *ams12345Man
over a year ago

london

Lol it’s the freshys that fuck it up for us, in real life I have no problem but on here it’s almost impossible, some of them can’t take no for a answer and others can get pushy/rude and not forgetting the rest of the competition that’s out there lol women get bombarded on here so yeah it’s quite hard to get picked out of a line of 10000

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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield

Really don't understand why I haven't been having any luck. Is it just a stigma around Asians in general on here?"

We would not meet you because you cannot accommodate not because you are Asian

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By *ahoney2121Man
over a year ago

MANCHESTER

Judge a whole race on one meet ??

Jeeez

Unfortunately people are flawed and closet racists. Having a bad experience does not give anyone the right to strike a whole race off as bad/same.

Its like going out for a meal and having a bad experience at an italian restaurant, i then stop having italian food and never eat anything Italian again. That is the mindset and logic being used in my opinion.

Dont lose any sleep over it, you dont want a meet with loons who think like that anyway.

You have good/bad people from all corners of the world, best way is to treat people on face value.

Look for people who will enrich your life and how you can add value to each others.

Tag, im out....

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By *en_Dover79Man
over a year ago

Oswaldtwistle

"I personally would love to meet a lady of the Asian persuasion.

Not found one yet.

Played with an Asian girl in a club she was amazing.. was just before lockdown.. hope she comes back again when clubs open

Haha yea rub it in why don't you, do you have her number? "

sadly not she wasnt even on fab... a guy brought her for a 1st time club experience

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By *aturasqCouple
over a year ago

Hertfordshire

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By *sylockeWoman
over a year ago

East Anglia

"Is it just a stigma around Asians in general on here?

Fab is racist as fuck, I'm afraid. I've never been on another forum as bad for it.

I hate that the world is like this. I'm sorry. "

Here, here!

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By *arakiss12TV/TS
over a year ago

Bedford

There's alot of baggage if you an Asian guy. Anything that hits the media or may be portrayed in films and TV tends formulate a few people's ideas.

Some don't need to be influenced as they know what people type turns them on and that's it. When they're ready to experience something different then you may get a shout.

I'm sure you have certain types that turn you on. So it works both ways.

There are probably just as many white guys who don't get noticed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I (f) would need 50 hands to count on my fingers how many times i have been harrassed or abused by asian men, this and this alone is why we avoid them, absoloutley nothing to do with racism, it has also happened many times in the street before joining fab. Its sad if it is happening to you if you are respectful etc, but i do think you should think of reasons like this before deciding where to point your finger

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Really don't understand why I haven't been having any luck. Is it just a stigma around Asians in general on here?"

thought the picture would of given it away.

We would not meets black or Asians as they do not turn us on.

Same as we do not prefer large women or hairy women/ men it’s just people’s personal choice.

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By *ames-77Man
over a year ago

milton keynes

I haven't seen any of this ? What's all that about then ? What's not to like about Asians.. Asian girls are amazing !

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By *zn marriedMan
over a year ago

GLASGOW

Not this again people have there preferences its a personal thing

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By *ames-77Man
over a year ago

milton keynes

"Not this again people have there preferences its a personal thing "

Exactly, the amount of times you see BBC only on here.. not racist it's preference

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By *yes146Man
over a year ago

London

It seems that some Asian men have not been well behaved and given a negative view to people. Sometimes understandable but not all are the same. However it is Fab, need to chill out and keep trying.

You got to respect peoples preferences and not take it personally.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do agree with the earlier poster who said it's harder for Asian men because of the stigma of them being judgemental/perpetrated by the media a lot of the time. Im Asian myself and here being nosey!

I completely appreciate im not everyone's cup of tea here but i think i would feel differently if male profiles actually said 'no asians' which they don't.

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