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Married couples.. spending time together

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

It’s intriguing to me to how much time do couples actually spend together particularly if they play separately... obviously it’s hard in a normal marriage to find time for each other so as a guy that does like to spend time with wives.. do others here feel that it’s a necessary distraction... sex with others is obviously better than watching tv together anyway .. opinions welcomed.. thanks

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By *wingsnroundabouts82Couple
over a year ago

Fucksville

We spend as much time together as possible he's not only My husband but my soul mate, lover and most importantly best friend x we have an amazing sex life even after 22 years and fab has just added another aspect to it x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We spend as much time together as possible he's not only My husband but my soul mate, lover and most importantly best friend x we have an amazing sex life even after 22 years and fab has just added another aspect to it x "

This 100% x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We spend as much time together as possible he's not only My husband but my soul mate, lover and most importantly best friend x we have an amazing sex life even after 22 years and fab has just added another aspect to it x "

I’m certainly not suggesting otherwise.. just curious how couples who play separately find time to spend together

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

We don't play separately but on average we spend 90% of our waking hours together. We don't work though. When we did work it was obviously much less but going out to meet couples and single men was a way of enjoying ourselves and getting some fun time together.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We spend as much time together as possible he's not only My husband but my soul mate, lover and most importantly best friend x we have an amazing sex life even after 22 years and fab has just added another aspect to it x "

Same as.

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By *etro1940sCouple
over a year ago

Kingston upon Thames


"We spend as much time together as possible he's not only My husband but my soul mate, lover and most importantly best friend x we have an amazing sex life even after 22 years and fab has just added another aspect to it x "
only difference is that it is 14 years for us ... otherwise in complete alignment with the post. x Anne & George

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I would also say that if you struggle to find quality time together and prioritise meeting other people you might need to reassess. I mean in general not the people on this thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We spend as much time together as possible he's not only My husband but my soul mate, lover and most importantly best friend x we have an amazing sex life even after 22 years and fab has just added another aspect to it x "

37 years together and exactly what they said

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By *luebellRacerCouple
over a year ago

Shropshire

Every evening, or if he's on nights we make the most of childfree daytime

Most evenings yeah it's TV time, others we'll videocall friends, we do forum to cams nights on here, or we'll put music on and looks at random youtube vidoes .

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Every evening, or if he's on nights we make the most of childfree daytime

Most evenings yeah it's TV time, others we'll videocall friends, we do forum to cams nights on here, or we'll put music on and looks at random youtube vidoes . "

That’s cool...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We spend as much time together as possible he's not only My husband but my soul mate, lover and most importantly best friend x we have an amazing sex life even after 22 years and fab has just added another aspect to it x

Same as."

I can feel the love from here...

Lol it’s nice to hear though

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By *hesblokeMan
over a year ago

Derbyshire village

We're the best of mates, and can spend time together doing the same or different things. We have some similar passions, some different, and just enjoy being together.

Work and kids means that we don't get as much time as we'd like, but that's life.

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By *wingsnroundabouts82Couple
over a year ago

Fucksville


"We spend as much time together as possible he's not only My husband but my soul mate, lover and most importantly best friend x we have an amazing sex life even after 22 years and fab has just added another aspect to it x

I’m certainly not suggesting otherwise.. just curious how couples who play separately find time to spend together "

Oops sorry op x must have misunderstood the question

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By *elleRoseCouple
over a year ago

Malvern


"We spend as much time together as possible he's not only My husband but my soul mate, lover and most importantly best friend x we have an amazing sex life even after 22 years and fab has just added another aspect to it x "

This spot on !

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We spend as much time together as possible he's not only My husband but my soul mate, lover and most importantly best friend x we have an amazing sex life even after 22 years and fab has just added another aspect to it x

I’m certainly not suggesting otherwise.. just curious how couples who play separately find time to spend together

Oops sorry op x must have misunderstood the question "

Quiet alright Swings... I’ve read a few couples that play separately and some that have boyfriends or girlfriends and just wondered how do they spend time with their other halves as well as busy lives... always thought it’s hard enough for vanilla couples...

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"It’s intriguing to me to how much time do couples actually spend together particularly if they play separately... obviously it’s hard in a normal marriage to find time for each other so as a guy that does like to spend time with wives.. do others here feel that it’s a necessary distraction... sex with others is obviously better than watching tv together anyway .. opinions welcomed.. thanks "

Ask your wife.

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

Open relationship sex is supposed to be an enrichment to the couples sexual life, if its taking over or any of them start preferring to spend time with the play partners than the life partner then serious conversations need to be had

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By *kyblue1878Couple
over a year ago

Southport


"We spend as much time together as possible he's not only My husband but my soul mate, lover and most importantly best friend x we have an amazing sex life even after 22 years and fab has just added another aspect to it x

I’m certainly not suggesting otherwise.. just curious how couples who play separately find time to spend together "

Couples playing separately are probably a tiny statistic. Most couples are MORE together than many vanilla couples as it takes a special togetherness to share your sexlife with others without jealousy. Again most couples will be on a swinging site to meet other couples. Playing in a threesome will be done together and as initially suggested, it will only be a minority that go and play separately.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Open relationship sex is supposed to be an enrichment to the couples sexual life, if its taking over or any of them start preferring to spend time with the play partners than the life partner then serious conversations need to be had "

I suppose that’s what I’m getting at.. when does or does it happen that one of the couple feels I’m missing the other.. that surely before the extra fun of playing away that they must have spent more time together and that with introducing another to have fun with, if you play separately, means less time spent together... but of course that can be a good thing too.. just would need a readjustment within the relationship

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We spend as much time together as possible he's not only My husband but my soul mate, lover and most importantly best friend x we have an amazing sex life even after 22 years and fab has just added another aspect to it x

I’m certainly not suggesting otherwise.. just curious how couples who play separately find time to spend together

Couples playing separately are probably a tiny statistic. Most couples are MORE together than many vanilla couples as it takes a special togetherness to share your sexlife with others without jealousy. Again most couples will be on a swinging site to meet other couples. Playing in a threesome will be done together and as initially suggested, it will only be a minority that go and play separately."

I agree it’s not the majority that play separately but obviously some do... and it’s within this dynamic that I’m curious about..

I’m very sure your right that couples that play are in stronger relationships than vanilla also.. it takes an amazing amount of honesty and trust to be here together

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We spend as much time together as possible he's not only My husband but my soul mate, lover and most importantly best friend x we have an amazing sex life even after 22 years and fab has just added another aspect to it x

I’m certainly not suggesting otherwise.. just curious how couples who play separately find time to spend together

Couples playing separately are probably a tiny statistic. Most couples are MORE together than many vanilla couples as it takes a special togetherness to share your sexlife with others without jealousy. Again most couples will be on a swinging site to meet other couples. Playing in a threesome will be done together and as initially suggested, it will only be a minority that go and play separately."

There's a helluva lot of assumption in there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We spend as much time together as possible he's not only My husband but my soul mate, lover and most importantly best friend x we have an amazing sex life even after 22 years and fab has just added another aspect to it x

I’m certainly not suggesting otherwise.. just curious how couples who play separately find time to spend together

Couples playing separately are probably a tiny statistic. Most couples are MORE together than many vanilla couples as it takes a special togetherness to share your sexlife with others without jealousy. Again most couples will be on a swinging site to meet other couples. Playing in a threesome will be done together and as initially suggested, it will only be a minority that go and play separately."

My husband and I are here as 2 separate profiles. I would consider our marriage extremely happy and secure. I wouldn't change what we have together with any other couple. We have always put each first no matter what and trust each other implicitly. I have found here some couples don't actually fully trust their partner and jealousy does end up with them doubting each other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We spend as much time together as possible he's not only My husband but my soul mate, lover and most importantly best friend x we have an amazing sex life even after 22 years and fab has just added another aspect to it x

I’m certainly not suggesting otherwise.. just curious how couples who play separately find time to spend together

Couples playing separately are probably a tiny statistic. Most couples are MORE together than many vanilla couples as it takes a special togetherness to share your sexlife with others without jealousy. Again most couples will be on a swinging site to meet other couples. Playing in a threesome will be done together and as initially suggested, it will only be a minority that go and play separately.

There's a helluva lot of assumption in there "

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss


"Open relationship sex is supposed to be an enrichment to the couples sexual life, if its taking over or any of them start preferring to spend time with the play partners than the life partner then serious conversations need to be had

I suppose that’s what I’m getting at.. when does or does it happen that one of the couple feels I’m missing the other.. that surely before the extra fun of playing away that they must have spent more time together and that with introducing another to have fun with, if you play separately, means less time spent together... but of course that can be a good thing too.. just would need a readjustment within the relationship "

Lots of hot wives and hot husbands only play with others once a month, I don't know any that need to do it very frequently as the core relationship is what their focus is on. Frequent honest communication between both of them is the best way not to run into difficulties and if one says stop then they both stop and reassess what they want

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Open relationship sex is supposed to be an enrichment to the couples sexual life, if its taking over or any of them start preferring to spend time with the play partners than the life partner then serious conversations need to be had

I suppose that’s what I’m getting at.. when does or does it happen that one of the couple feels I’m missing the other.. that surely before the extra fun of playing away that they must have spent more time together and that with introducing another to have fun with, if you play separately, means less time spent together... but of course that can be a good thing too.. just would need a readjustment within the relationship

Lots of hot wives and hot husbands only play with others once a month, I don't know any that need to do it very frequently as the core relationship is what their focus is on. Frequent honest communication between both of them is the best way not to run into difficulties and if one says stop then they both stop and reassess what they want "

I know of a few that play as much as they can maybe 2 or 3 times a week... it’s these types that I’m curious about.. I know one guy that says he uses the the playtime that his wife has 3 times a week to catch up on Netflix or reading a book.. it’s not necessarily a bad thing just obviously it means spending less time with him or her..

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By *ogan WillowCouple
over a year ago

Leeds


"We spend as much time together as possible he's not only My husband but my soul mate, lover and most importantly best friend x we have an amazing sex life even after 22 years and fab has just added another aspect to it x "

The same for my wife and I, albeit for a little longer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've been together for 17yrs and this is just an added supplement to our sex life a little bit of excitement it doesn't take over our lives nor does it take priority over our own relationship the Mrs does play on her own but it's always with a view to adding excitement between us if that makes sense xx

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By *reestylingWoman
over a year ago

West Yorkshire


"It’s intriguing to me to how much time do couples actually spend together particularly if they play separately... obviously it’s hard in a normal marriage to find time for each other so as a guy that does like to spend time with wives.. do others here feel that it’s a necessary distraction... sex with others is obviously better than watching tv together anyway .. opinions welcomed.. thanks "

Nearly 40 years and spend most of the time together, including playing most days of the week. However, most of our play does not have the intensity of a meet with a lover. We are completely comfortable with separate meets and feel no threat. Hubby recognises that there are men out there that can take me to another level. We just make time for each other and separate play.

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