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Winks are compliments.

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By *uy4swinging OP   Man
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

I don’t understand why many profiles scorn those you wink at them. Sure they must be flattered with a simple compliment.

What do others think?

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By *uzboxCouple
over a year ago

Northwich

Yes agreed but we don't respond to them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a simple way to express interest.

If I get a wink, I always follow up with a message. It's a fun way to interact

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By *orkshirej69Man
over a year ago

leeds

I guess it’s a preference I personally take them as a compliment but I get why women and couples don’t care for them.

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By *irty desireWoman
over a year ago

newcatle

I don’t bother looking at my winks, x

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Bexley

We ignore them because they always come from guys who haven't bothered to read our profile.

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By *ostonJoeMan
over a year ago

Boston

What a bunch of winkers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think a wink is a nice way of saying to someone "wow your hot". Doesn't necessarily mean anything else just a token of appreciation.

Everybody loves a good wink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We ignore them because they always come from guys who haven't bothered to read our profile."
same here plus can’t respond to the amount we get

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They don’t interest us. We don’t return them or wink other people. If you fancy us. Write a message. Don’t be lazy

J

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By *winfrozrMan
over a year ago

Carnoustie


"It's a simple way to express interest.

If I get a wink, I always follow up with a message. It's a fun way to interact"

Same. It’s a nice way to say thanks for taking the time to check my profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I suppose it depends on what side of the gender divide you're on, personally I'll take anything

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By *host63Man
over a year ago

Bedfont Feltham

If I ever get a bloody wink I woukd go into shock

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I ever get a bloody wink I woukd go into shock"

Well I was going to just to shock you, but my gender is blocked

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Bexley

Should add that we never wink people - we'd always send a proper message having first read their profile.

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By *ostonJoeMan
over a year ago

Boston

If I see an angry profile that complains about winkers, and usually lots of other things they dont like about Fab, I make a point of winking so they can get the satisfaction of blocking me as implied in their angry threat. I hope they get enormous gratification from carrying out their sentence, plus it saves me the hassle of reaching for the block button myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t mind a wink

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By *uy4swinging OP   Man
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

It doesn’t matter if people ignore a wink but what’s the point of blocking someone who winks at you. It is all too negative and angry when someone is being positive and complimentary. Let’s show a bit of positive respect where respect is due.

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By *scouple07Couple
over a year ago

louth, Ireland

Totally agree we like getting winks as it does show people are interested in us, we send them as a ice breaker to seeing we get a reaction

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By *J GeminiTV/TS
over a year ago

Northumberland

I use winks as first contact. If nothing comes of it then so be it,

Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer getting a message but winks are fine.... Then it's who makes the first move. I need to get my chess board out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I send mine as a compliment and to express my interest in that person.

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By *irty Flirty HarryMan
over a year ago

East Sussex

I love a good wink, can make my day.

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By *irty desireWoman
over a year ago

newcatle


"It doesn’t matter if people ignore a wink but what’s the point of blocking someone who winks at you. It is all too negative and angry when someone is being positive and complimentary. Let’s show a bit of positive respect where respect is due.

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I am not negative or angry, I just don’t use that feature. And if they are offended by that then they won’t like me in person

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By *rincess PhoenixWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

I don't check my winks if I'm honest! I get too many to bother

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Send them on Thursday cheer up day

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.


"If I see an angry profile that complains about winkers, and usually lots of other things they dont like about Fab, I make a point of winking so they can get the satisfaction of blocking me as implied in their angry threat. I hope they get enormous gratification from carrying out their sentence, plus it saves me the hassle of reaching for the block button myself. "

I may not respond to winks, but I do take it as a compliment. I don't understand why people get so het up about them

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By * AND R 777Couple
over a year ago

Teesside

We love a good wink

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By *ldfellaMan
over a year ago

holland on sea

I very rarely get a wink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t mind a wink, but I don’t check them so I’ll never know if you’ve done it or not.

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By *irty Flirty HarryMan
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I don’t mind a wink, but I don’t check them so I’ll never know if you’ve done it or not. "

Best check now x

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By *irty PrettyWoman
over a year ago

Cardiff


"It doesn’t matter if people ignore a wink but what’s the point of blocking someone who winks at you. It is all too negative and angry when someone is being positive and complimentary. Let’s show a bit of positive respect where respect is due.

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I had to block a man recently because every single week like clockwork, for months and months, he sent me a wink and a friend request. He never messaged me or interacted in any other way, just a weekly wink and FR. What’s complimentary or positive about that? Why should I show respect (presumably you mean by not blocking him) for that? It’s not a compliment to act like you’re entitled to someone’s private photos when you can’t even be bothered to say hello to that person, and to do it week after week for months on end is more like harassment in my eyes.

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By *icky and MandyCouple
over a year ago

Bournemouth

Don’t mind a wink, or a fab ,even a tribute

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never once even looked at the who winked at me bit... Seems like a pretty pointless part of the site to me

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By *ausageNmashCouple
over a year ago

Andover

We dont respond to them from single guys as we get so many and don't respond to uninvited friends requests. Just the way it is I'm afraid

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we sometimes wink to show interest without being to pushy, we often follow it by a message tho, but it opens up a diolog, and if the other person is interestd then wink back, we think its a good first move

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By *ostonJoeMan
over a year ago

Boston

There is a clear distinction between indifference to winks and objection to them. I can understand if someone gets a lot of winks they are a bothersome distraction.

Sometimes you can receive a wink that goes back and forth but nothing ever comes of it. Wink tennis. Surely if you wink someone and they wink back the owness is on you to message and say thanks for the wink?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same to be honest

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By *uy4swinging OP   Man
over a year ago

Gloucestershire


"It doesn’t matter if people ignore a wink but what’s the point of blocking someone who winks at you. It is all too negative and angry when someone is being positive and complimentary. Let’s show a bit of positive respect where respect is due.

I had to block a man recently because every single week like clockwork, for months and months, he sent me a wink and a friend request. He never messaged me or interacted in any other way, just a weekly wink and FR. What’s complimentary or positive about that? Why should I show respect (presumably you mean by not blocking him) for that? It’s not a compliment to act like you’re entitled to someone’s private photos when you can’t even be bothered to say hello to that person, and to do it week after week for months on end is more like harassment in my eyes."

Of course if people become a nuisance then block them.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

We look at them and see if any are of interest to us.

We tend to wink people if we haven’t got time to drop a message and hotlist them. We’ll send a message when we have time.

Winks are a good opener to show interest....if we wink we are saying we like what we see, if we get a wink back, we’ll send a message.

It’s another tool to use...

K

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By *uy4swinging OP   Man
over a year ago

Gloucestershire


"we sometimes wink to show interest without being to pushy, we often follow it by a message tho, but it opens up a diolog, and if the other person is interestd then wink back, we think its a good first move"

That’s the way to play it.

I sometimes wink at someone who is too far to meet but wanted them to know I liked them!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be nice to get a wink or 2

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By *oxy lady40Woman
over a year ago

bridgwater

Get to many messages to deal with, so winks are rarely looked at

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By *lacksausageMan
over a year ago

Birmingham Airport

It's a simple matter of supply, demand and frigging airs.

If you didn't get one for 16 weeks straight, you'd appreciate the next one (regardless of where it came from).

Sometimes you see a profile and honestly, you can't help but send a wink. 50 winks or more à day, would be daunting, granted; but I don't think à wink or winks should be so bad as to cause offence or cause one to hiss in a fit!

As others have said, it is a quick and easy way of showing appreciation or saying hi. Whether the recepient is impressed or not is irrelevant. If one is impressed, you just engage and proceed. If not impressed, carry on, ignore and do your thing.

Women control access to sex.

Men control access to relationships and mariage. That is why the imbalance exists in the world of sex/ swinging.

When you step into the world of matchmakers, the boot is on the other foot. The "winks" are from the girls.

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By *XXDREAMMan
over a year ago

sudbury

I wink erm partly because there is so many time waters on here, if I’m nessaging someone I’ll aim that message at them instead of a cookie cutter copy and paste type reply, but I’ll wink first and as said in my profile, if they wink back I’m happy to sit and message them straight back

But you can waste so much time otherwise

Quick wink to show interest in the profile wink back if you like mine Kinda deal maybe I’m just lazy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We like to wink to show an early interest. We also like to receive winks. If both parties send and receive then we tend to follow up with a message. We find this tends to work.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't check my winks if I'm honest! I get too many to bother "

Show off

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By *lasphemouscoupleCouple
over a year ago

Cambridgeshire

To us winks show you're interested, it's a good way to invite someone to have a look at your profile, mutual winks usually lead to messages so we like it.

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

We've had meets from winks, we'll always check their profile out if they've winked.

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Bexley


"It doesn’t matter if people ignore a wink but what’s the point of blocking someone who winks at you. It is all too negative and angry when someone is being positive and complimentary. Let’s show a bit of positive respect where respect is due.

I am not negative or angry, I just don’t use that feature. And if they are offended by that then they won’t like me in person "

Quite. Not sure where the 'anger' comes into it. We don't send winks and our profile states that we don't wish to receive them yet we still do every day. Why would we bother to respond to people who either haven't read our profile first or just ignore what it states?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They are a compliment. But they are usually sent by ppl my profile states I'm not looking for

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By *asques and boxersCouple
over a year ago

Ashford and dept16

We check the senders profile some we send a thank you and some of those ask if they are interested. Others we do not reply to as they don't meet our criteria or clearly not read our profile. We don't see an issue with winks think we are all here to obtain contact with same minded peeps. Thank you for posting OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love a wink

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By *riving_Home_For_MimiWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

I'd rather someone just send a msg.

I delete all winks.

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By *athan 123Man
over a year ago

rochdale oldham border

I like to receive a wink but only if the person has interest in me I wink if I’m interested in them so it’s a start of a conversation for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To us winks show you're interested, it's a good way to invite someone to have a look at your profile, mutual winks usually lead to messages so we like it. "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

nope winks are mass deleted every day i get enough messages per day to deal with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just never check them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lot of the time I get winks from people who obviously haven’t read my profile. So it comes across as a bit of a lazy way to reach out. Minimal effort.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I Will always reply to a wink it’s only manners.

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By *ostguy321Man
over a year ago

Bucks

Happy to get them, it shows interest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Difficult to please some on here. I'm made up when I get a wink

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By *eeowlsMan
over a year ago

sheffield

I sometime send them but rarely receive them!! I don’t mind receiving them as long as they fit my preferences x

Like others say it’s a small gesture to see if people wink back and it’s breaking the ice a little and saying I like your pics profile etc,

I send winks if I’m in the profile owners age group preferences etc and only message when I’m in those groups too!! As 99% of the time you spend time being friendly with a small introductory message and send a cpl of pics but then they rarely get read or u don’t get a reply the message just gets deleted x

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By *xXAnonCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

When we wink at someone on here it means we have had a look through there pics and like what we see x

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Bexley


"Difficult to please some on here. I'm made up when I get a wink"

It's easy if you read their profiles first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do look but only to see who winking most I delete but can be friends checking and a little flirt, do feel if like enough read profile and send nice message

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

I use a wink as saying I like your profile.

I think of it as a time saver. It saves me time writing a message, it saves them time reading and deleting said message.

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By *hesblokeMan
over a year ago

Derbyshire village

We view it as "I like what you've done with the place".

Don't reply to them all, to be honest, but feel that someone who isn't what we're interested in winks, that's a compliment.

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By *lacksausageMan
over a year ago

Birmingham Airport

The nerve of winking when you are CLEARLY not what I am looking for! Fellas, am I the only one who can smell this horse dung? The outright disrespect, arrogance and rudeness of some! Most of you can't even accommodate.

Well I'm sorry. You are right. I got it wrong for a minute or two. Sitting on a vag makes you Lord of the rings. Yeah.

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By *rder66Man
over a year ago

Tatooine

I never got any in the past so I don't even look now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I much prefer winks to unsolicited messages (& says so on my profile)! I check out the winker's profile, same as before opening a message, and if I like what I see I wink back ... indicating an interest in communicating with them!

If I like a profile I happily send a wink and if they wink back, I'll then message them! It's easy and works very well ...

Find it odd that so many moan about the amount or the content of their messages but won't use a much simpler and quicker option!

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

I never remember to check for winks until a thread like this appears. I never send them either.

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

A wink is a nice introduction and a sign of appreciation

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By *heNYCSausageMan
over a year ago

Everton

Just had a today’s first wink of the day as I read this post! Fate?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We like winks! If we like the profile of the sender we’ll either wink back or message. It opens up the channels of communication with the right people

Mrs

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By *ockosaurusMan
over a year ago

Warwick

I like getting a wink.

It gets my attention and gets me looking at their profile. If I like what I see, I wink back and send a message.

It seems more efficient for both parties than them writing a well thought out message, that I then read, then look at their profile and 'then' decide I'm not interested.

Why waste everyone's time when a simple wink registers interest.

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By *asilyled1Man
over a year ago

ogmore valley


"To us winks show you're interested, it's a good way to invite someone to have a look at your profile, mutual winks usually lead to messages so we like it. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I stopped sending winks a long time ago and don't even look at ones received as didn't know how respond... Is it just a compliment or let's chat?..

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By *ustustwo.1965Couple
over a year ago

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"I don’t understand why many profiles scorn those you wink at them. Sure they must be flattered with a simple compliment.

What do others think? "

We don't like them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t mind them ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Totally agree we like getting winks as it does show people are interested in us, we send them as a ice breaker to seeing we get a reaction "

This

If we send a wink its to show we appreciate what we see and if we get a wink back then send a message. Likewise if we get a wink and we like what we see we wink back. It’s kind of like an ice-breaking filter for us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We look at them and see if any are of interest to us.

We tend to wink people if we haven’t got time to drop a message and hotlist them. We’ll send a message when we have time.

Winks are a good opener to show interest....if we wink we are saying we like what we see, if we get a wink back, we’ll send a message.

It’s another tool to use...

K"

Same for us. We check out the profiles of ones who wink. If we see simular interests and they are nice and grounded people we message them rather than wink back as we are then showing we liked what we saw.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wink at my self in mirror no response so yeah better with a message lol

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By *ochdale lad2019Man
over a year ago

Rochdale

I like to use the wink, no it doesn't mean I want meet now or anything like that it's more for that i found something attractive and send as a compliment or I'd like to get to know you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t understand why many profiles scorn those you wink at them. Sure they must be flattered with a simple compliment.

What do others think? "

I don't use them because I know others have an unusual strong aversion to them... without perhaps getting they're a harmless ice breaker, a precursor to actual messaging.

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By *ickyxxx69Man
over a year ago

Bedford

I like to give a wink to show I interest if you get one back 8ts mutual and easier to chat. I always respond back to one

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By *exy4youxxWoman
over a year ago

Pontefract


"It doesn’t matter if people ignore a wink but what’s the point of blocking someone who winks at you. It is all too negative and angry when someone is being positive and complimentary. Let’s show a bit of positive respect where respect is due.

I had to block a man recently because every single week like clockwork, for months and months, he sent me a wink and a friend request. He never messaged me or interacted in any other way, just a weekly wink and FR. What’s complimentary or positive about that? Why should I show respect (presumably you mean by not blocking him) for that? It’s not a compliment to act like you’re entitled to someone’s private photos when you can’t even be bothered to say hello to that person, and to do it week after week for months on end is more like harassment in my eyes."

Don't delete the friends request or wink and they can't send them again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think a wink is nice way to pay a compliment without sending a message. It doesn’t waste anyone’s time reading the message and getting frustrated if the sender doesn’t match the want on recipients profile. The for me simply says “looking good” if I ever get one and any solo fab is simply saying “nice picture”. Nothing more

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By *ovelaughliveCouple
over a year ago

Oldham

Beats going on and on about what you're looking for in a meet and sending some poor person/people your swinging life story for them to just open it, at least a wink shows interest and then you can chat away to people who might actually want to know more! Well thats the way we look at them anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No problem with winks. Unless you wink back and they just send a message saying "thanks for the wink".

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By *ovelaughliveCouple
over a year ago

Oldham


"No problem with winks. Unless you wink back and they just send a message saying "thanks for the wink". "

Yes thats very true there is that!

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By *ubyRonCouple
over a year ago

Lancashire

We wink back if we like and then wait patiently for a message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rather wank than wink but winks can be good ice breakers

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By *ickyxxx69Man
over a year ago

Bedford


"Rather wank than wink but winks can be good ice breakers "

A wink is only one letter from a wank

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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago

Dublin and London


"We wink back if we like and then wait patiently for a message "
Me too.

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By *psidedown PineapplesCouple
over a year ago

Sussex

All winks welcome. We will at least perv at your profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love a wink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We use winks. Baffles us though when a couple wink us. So we wink back, but then instead of then messaging us they wink us again. Becomes a pointless exercise then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always nice to get a wink. Fun place to start.

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By *9Karm69Man
over a year ago

plymouth/chesterfield

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By *irldnCouple
over a year ago

Brighton

A wink is like a smile across the dancefloor, to get into another person’s pants you eventually have to go and speak to them.

So a message is necessary. It is flattering to get a wink (or pic fabbed) but we never respond. We wait for a nice message.

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By *irldnCouple
over a year ago

Brighton


"We use winks. Baffles us though when a couple wink us. So we wink back, but then instead of then messaging us they wink us again. Becomes a pointless exercise then "

LOL very true!

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By *arte_Blanche_NECouple
over a year ago

Northern


"I don’t understand why many profiles scorn those you wink at them. Sure they must be flattered with a simple compliment.

What do others think? "

I don’t think it’s so much scorn more like most don’t check them x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We like winks and give them back if interested.

Harmless flirting by us x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t understand why many profiles scorn those you wink at them. Sure they must be flattered with a simple compliment.

What do others think? "

Why do you think it's scorn? Is it maybe just disinterest?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t understand why many profiles scorn those you wink at them. Sure they must be flattered with a simple compliment.

What do others think?

I don’t think it’s so much scorn more like most don’t check them x"

I’d imagine you get quite a lot tbf

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By *ubmissiveman2uMan
over a year ago

Cheshire

Not sure, I have ever recieved a wink, certainly brigten my day if I recieved one...

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By *arte_Blanche_NECouple
over a year ago

Northern


"I don’t understand why many profiles scorn those you wink at them. Sure they must be flattered with a simple compliment.

What do others think?

I don’t think it’s so much scorn more like most don’t check them x

I’d imagine you get quite a lot tbf "

We don’t really get many if people read our profile x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We're happy to get a wink from people who have read our profile and are looking for similar things.

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By *nliveneTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby

I never wink but i always answer back with a msg when i received a wink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, I really don’t mind winks at all, like op says they’re just a little nod to say “ hey, I saw your profile, I like the look of it come and see mine to see if we have a mutual attraction”

What bugs me is when you get winked from blank or hidden profiles, like what on earth is the point of that ?

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By *ussieChrisMan
over a year ago

Walsall

I think winks are great, I don't always know what to say, and a message saying 'hey your hot and I like what you put in your bio' or something to that effect never gets you anywhere.

So I send a wink just to show interest, and if I get either a wink or a message back I know then there is some form or interest. Otherwise I just leave it.

I do send messages sometimes, but half the time (cause I'm one of about 300billion men on here) they either get ignored completely and the other half read and I'm left hanging.. Lol.

So it's as I said before, I use it as an I formal greeting and seeing if there is any interest.

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By *akjourneyMan
over a year ago

Weston

Like above I use them to express my initial interest as again fully aware females get bombarded with lots of messages.

It's true I am a winker !

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By *r and Mrs GravestoneCouple
over a year ago

Tinsel Town

We take the wink as a compliment, don’t return them, tbh didn’t know what the protocol was and haven’t winked back incase it was taken as we’re interested but may have a look at their pics and maybe fab 1 or 2 if they are a couple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love a wink or 2 ., can’t complain

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By *L RogueMan
over a year ago

London

Winks are harmless. I think some people get too worked up over receiving them. If it's from someone you would genuinely love to meet then what happens?

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By *otsMan
over a year ago

Higham

I like winks and yes I treat them as compliment

Sometimes I will follow them up

It doesn't do anyone any harm a good way to show and interest so why not.

Dunno what the issue is with some people.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

Nothing wrong with a wink, in fact I prefer them to a ‘fancy a fuk’ or ‘you meeting’ etc..messages I usually get.

If I’m interested in meeting that person, then I’ll either wink back or send a message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A wink is a lazy or prudish way to try and get someone to message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A wink is a lazy or prudish way to try and get someone to message.

"

Ahh ok chuckles ..

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By *rMrs84Couple
over a year ago

Doncaster

Winks are a swipe right on tinder. If someone winks at us who we fancy they get a message.

If we don’t we take he compliment snd move past them.

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By *lacksausageMan
over a year ago

Birmingham Airport


"Beats going on and on about what you're looking for in a meet and sending some poor person/people your swinging life story for them to just open it, at least a wink shows interest and then you can chat away to people who might actually want to know more! Well thats the way we look at them anyway "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Beats going on and on about what you're looking for in a meet and sending some poor person/people your swinging life story for them to just open it, at least a wink shows interest and then you can chat away to people who might actually want to know more! Well thats the way we look at them anyway

"

Why not just message then?

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By *orthampton jamesMan
over a year ago

Northampton


"Winks are a swipe right on tinder. If someone winks at us who we fancy they get a message.

If we don’t we take he compliment snd move past them. "
I'd wink you if I could

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By *lacksausageMan
over a year ago

Birmingham Airport

If you are God's gift to mankind and therefore think a wink is lazy and rude and crude, feel free to block and move on.

If you are a mere mortal, and your doodoo stinks like all of us, a wink is mere "hi, I see you. Do you see me like that too?" It's up up to you to either wink back or ignore just the same way you would ignore attention from someone you don't fancy.

I don't see what the brouhaha is all about!

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By *andycandy88Woman
over a year ago

Northolt

The way I see it there's no point scorning a feature that has been made for a reason.

Doesn't mean everyone has to like them but best to state that on your profile then its down to respect a person's wishes.

If they want you to not wink and message why ignore that and still wink then complain they haven't responded.

I don't mind them I just think its pointless winking at me if we're far apart but it's stated on my profile also. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only discovered who has winked you page about a week ago. Don't know if responding would amount to anything. Seems better to just message if you are interested.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish


"I don’t understand why many profiles scorn those you wink at them. Sure they must be flattered with a simple compliment.

What do others think? "

Yes they are compliments and appreciated.x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like them and treat them as a compliment and hope that those I wink at will think the same. I think it's a nice way to attempt a connection

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't mind winks at all.

They're a feature of this site and used correctly, can really pay off.

Example, One profile owner checks another, maybe they're just out of their age range, or not too sure if they for their criteria.

They wink.

Profile Two takes a look, likes what they see and winks back.

Profile One then types out a well thought out message, in response to the profile that caught their eye.

Done, no drama.

One of our best and most repeated meets began at them sending a wink.

I see it as a subtle way to catch their eye, without annoying them with a message.

Let's face it, there's a hell of a lot of hostility here considering the site is based around adult 'fun'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't always remember to look at winks though.

Or friends requests.

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By *ilkandhoneyxWoman
over a year ago

leicester

don’t have anything against them, i just find them pretty pointless. i don’t look at mine. if you’re interested then send a message. but i’m not bothered

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Bexley

If some people want to receive winks there's no problems sending them but why would anyone send a wink to a proile which clearly states they don't want them and why should the recipient bother to reply?

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.


"If you are God's gift to mankind and therefore think a wink is lazy and rude and crude, feel free to block and move on.

If you are a mere mortal, and your doodoo stinks like all of us, a wink is mere "hi, I see you. Do you see me like that too?" It's up up to you to either wink back or ignore just the same way you would ignore attention from someone you don't fancy.

I don't see what the brouhaha is all about! "

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By *inx666andThunderCouple
over a year ago

Macclesfield

Always try to wink back, it's nice and friendly it's not a difficult thing to do

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By *andycandy88Woman
over a year ago

Northolt

Guys I have winked at in the past didn't do anything think they may not know how to check loool

Did take me some time to discover it myself ha ha xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Always try to wink back, it's nice and friendly it's not a difficult thing to do"

Absolutely

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By *ucelleCouple
over a year ago

Bishops Stortford

Some on here are so up their own arse about what they will and will not accept, they are unlikely to get up anyone else’s ??

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By *irky_coupleCouple
over a year ago

kirky

For us personally its a catch 22. We aren't the most confident on here so wink to see of there's any interest. If we get a wink back then we will send a message. Problem we have is when there is no reciprocation, are they not interested,don't use it or just plain ignore winks? Do we then send a message and seem pushy or let sleeping dogs lie? We'd like to see the option where you can turn them off if you don't use/want them the same as you can turn off having your pics fabbed.

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