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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We're considering arranging a social in our local area.

Is it simply a matter of hiring a pub function room or does the venue need to be swinger friendly?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends who you are aiming the social at. If it's newbies, then maybe a pub etc as there is no perceived pressure to take part in anything (well, maybe.... Lol!), but if it's 'experienced' swingers then more likely to be swinger-friendly or just go for a club straight off.

When we started out, we would have gone for the pub/function room idea, but have heard a few horror stories about unsuspecting newbies being persuaded to 'come back to our place' and ending up well out of their depth. One couple we know were nearly put off the whole scene due to this.

However, now we would be much more interested in socials at a proper club as it will be taking place under 'club rules' so, for us, provides a certain level of safety.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends on what you want to happen; if you just want people to come and have a drink and a chat, then a bar is probably fine, if you want people to be able to play then you might need to hire somewhere where there is privacy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The social we went to off another site was good. We started off in a large vanilla bar but because some of the oldies were introducing everyone that was ok.

We kind of all stayed in a group.

Then moved on to a vanilla club where everyone kind of got lost( it was on 3 floors )We had all booked into a Jury's inn which was massive down the rd so we could all play if we wanted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are organising our second social at the moment and have attended many in the Scotland area.

As they are 'Socials', then to us, any venue should be OK as long as you make sure you tell those attending to be discrete. Some of the socials we have been to, the bar staff have known it was a room of swingers within 10 mins, as one of guests took great pleasure in telling them.

So, its probably better, especially as the organiser not to arrange one too close to home, just in case.

Things we look for in a venue is:

*Private entrance where possible (as then the smokers amongst the group will use that and any shananingans outside wont be in view of the other patrons.

*Own toilets - again, so anyone talking in there about the site, each others usernames etc cant be over heard

*Close to hotels of decent value, either walking or a short taxi ride. The social we did In Glasgow was in walking distance of about 10 hotels, so plenty of choice (although most head for the Premier Inn, lol). If you have a social in the middle of now-where, people will have to get expensive taxi's or not drink.

Playing at a social will lose the bars licence, or at least hold them in a dim view next time their licence is up for renewal.

We mail our venue details to people attending two or three days before the event. Any sooner, there is more a risk of people telling non attendee's where the venue is. In the mail, we make it clear that there is to be no playing and to be discrete on telling the bar staff what the event is.

Make it clear what you are offering in your first post advertising it and clear what you expect of the attendee's, in relation to payment etc if any.

We use paypal to collect money. We have seen socials in the past where its been free to attend so people have backed out without telling the organiser which makes it hard to give the venue numbers. What we have seen done recently is people asking for £5 deposit, which they get back when they turn up.

Good luck xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks, all. Lots of things to think about there.

It'd be a purely social event as there are no clubs in Leicester anymore. Just somewhere for everyone to get together, chat and swap phone numbers really.

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