FabSwingers.com forum: Rate my message

By *histler OP Man
over a year ago

Guildford

A variation on a commonly seen thread... would love feedback on one of my recent messages... no profile details are shared in this message but for context it was to a bi curious couple yet to have their first mmf - fire away!!

Looks like exciting times for you guys!

How long have you been thinking about a 3some?

Having had a few more, I can tell you it’s a good decision. You’re going to have some fun (hopefully). I’d love to chat to you about this.

A bit about me... I’ve been on here for a while now, I’ve had a few (not loads) of meets with couples both bi curious and straight. I’ve only had two bi curious meets which were touching only which I’m comfortable with.

For me it’s about making sure everyone is comfortable and happy with the situation. And just to have a bit of fun!

Here’s a couple of pics. Would love to see what you guys look like too if you’re up for sharing.

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By *uliaChrisCouple
over a year ago

westerham

"A variation on a commonly seen thread... would love feedback on one of my recent messages... no profile details are shared in this message but for context it was to a bi curious couple yet to have their first mmf - fire away!!

Looks like exciting times for you guys!

How long have you been thinking about a 3some?

Having had a few more, I can tell you it’s a good decision. You’re going to have some fun (hopefully). I’d love to chat to you about this.

For me it’s about making sure everyone is comfortable and happy with the situation. And just to have a bit of fun!

Here’s a couple of pics. Would love to see what you guys look like too if you’re up for sharing.

First message? Spelling is on point good

Dunno, it's fine, end of the day its probably your pics that either cause chemistry or they dont.

I'd say its probably a bit long as an opener? I'd think of cutting the length down but being much more specific about something on their profile to catch their eye.

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By *histler OP Man
over a year ago

Guildford

First message? Spelling is on point good

Dunno, it's fine, end of the day its probably your pics that either cause chemistry or they dont.

I'd say its probably a bit long as an opener? I'd think of cutting the length down but being much more specific about something on their profile to catch their eye. "

Thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Compared to the messages we get as a first message I’d rate it 8/10.

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By *histler OP Man
over a year ago

Guildford

"Compared to the messages we get as a first message I’d rate it 8/10.

That’s good to hear - must e my face then

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By *iliciousCouple
over a year ago

Sussex/Surrey

Sounds good to us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looks like exciting times for you guys!

How long have you been thinking about a 3some?

Having had a few more, I can tell you it’s a good decision. You’re going to have some fun (hopefully). I’d love to chat to you about this.

For me it’s about making sure everyone is comfortable and happy with the situation. And just to have a bit of fun!

Here’s a couple of pics. Would love to see what you guys look like too if you’re up for sharing.

Did u get a reply or not!!! if so its a great message... if not its a shit message, simples

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By *histler OP Man
over a year ago

Guildford

Did u get a reply or not!!! if so its a great message... if not its a shit message, simples

Haha, no reply

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By *lassyandkinkyCouple
over a year ago

West Yorkshire

It would be too lengthy for us.....

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did u get a reply or not!!! if so its a great message... if not its a shit message, simples

Haha, no reply "

There's your answer op, just send a dic pic next time

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By *phrodite_AdonisCouple
over a year ago

Probably a bit long but polite. I’d save some of the experience detail for later messages

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By *histler OP Man
over a year ago

Guildford

"It would be too lengthy for us.....

Good luck. "

That’s what she said... (couldn’t resist!)

Thanks though, good to know!

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By *histler OP Man
over a year ago

Guildford

"Probably a bit long but polite. I’d save some of the experience detail for later messages "

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By *histler OP Man
over a year ago

Guildford

Did u get a reply or not!!! if so its a great message... if not its a shit message, simples

Haha, no reply

There's your answer op, just send a dic pic next time "

Yeah that always works...

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

Feedback on a message seems a little petty, but as an introduction, you shoudl really be wanting to get their interest to direct them to your profile, rather than repeat it. the "CV" should be on your profile, not in the message.

But when we get messages as good as that, we're certainly interested in finding out more.

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By *histler OP Man
over a year ago

Guildford

"Feedback on a message seems a little petty, but as an introduction, you shoudl really be wanting to get their interest to direct them to your profile, rather than repeat it. the "CV" should be on your profile, not in the message.

But when we get messages as good as that, we're certainly interested in finding out more."

I wouldn’t say petty... no point in sending anything if I’m writing terrible messages. Just interested that’s all.

But thanks for the feedback!

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

Seems okay - but you don’t really say why you contacted them...what did you like?

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

It's a nice message but a bit ott for an opening message. You perhaps should of directed them to your profile and then left it for them to contact you if they liked what they saw/read.

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By *histler OP Man
over a year ago

Guildford

"It's a nice message but a bit ott for an opening message. You perhaps should of directed them to your profile and then left it for them to contact you if they liked what they saw/read. "

Thanks - always unsure if too short a message comes across as lazy

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By *histler OP Man
over a year ago

Guildford

"It's a nice message but a bit ott for an opening message. You perhaps should of directed them to your profile and then left it for them to contact you if they liked what they saw/read. "

Thanks!

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By *Ci LutherMan
over a year ago

Cumalot

Sounds sincere, but this s is just my opinion and you have the right to tell me otherwise... my opening message doesn’t mention past experiences of any sex related .. I tend to compliment as offer the opportunity if they would be interested in chatting with a respectful polite guy... sex talk can develop

Just me - good luck buddy

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By *LUKCouple
over a year ago

Loughborough

Looks good here.

But then again we're probably not in the best place to judge what constitutes a good first message as 99% of the ones we get are a variation of "Hey, how you doing?"

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By *Ci LutherMan
over a year ago

Cumalot

"Looks good here.

But then again we're probably not in the best place to judge what constitutes a good first message as 99% of the ones we get are a variation of "Hey, how you doing?""

Or fancy a fuck now ? Some guys have no clue

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By *histler OP Man
over a year ago

Guildford

"Looks good here.

But then again we're probably not in the best place to judge what constitutes a good first message as 99% of the ones we get are a variation of "Hey, how you doing?""

Insane given how good your profile is!

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By *histler OP Man
over a year ago

Guildford

"Looks good here.

But then again we're probably not in the best place to judge what constitutes a good first message as 99% of the ones we get are a variation of "Hey, how you doing?"

Or fancy a fuck now ? Some guys have no clue"

Unfortunately both seem to end in the same result

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

"Sounds sincere, but this s is just my opinion and you have the right to tell me otherwise... my opening message doesn’t mention past experiences of any sex related .. I tend to compliment as offer the opportunity if they would be interested in chatting with a respectful polite guy... sex talk can develop

Just me - good luck buddy "

Sex talk in a first message is cringe!

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By *Ci LutherMan
over a year ago

Cumalot

Just me - good luck buddy

Sex talk in a first message is cringe! "

There you have it....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

to me the message is a little odd the persons receiving the message know why they are here and know what they want ..they dont need someone to repeat that in there first message ?? so id avoid it almost has a bit of im smug about it ?? thats my opinion anyway

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

"Looks good here.

But then again we're probably not in the best place to judge what constitutes a good first message as 99% of the ones we get are a variation of "Hey, how you doing?""

Variation as in without the punctuation...

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By *oolkoupleCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire

I'd echo leaving our your past experiences - focus on why you're interested in them rather than what you've done previously.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For us a reply (or lack of) is not only based on the original message but the senders profile and pics....

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By *histler OP Man
over a year ago

Guildford

Thanks all!

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