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Couples who invite a third person.....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

...into your play, what's the most important thing about them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

- Size of cock

- how attractive they are to L(and L to them)

- how they behave

- how good they are in bed

In that order - if you are ugly and act like an arsehole but your cock is big enough then you may get a pass

So if the cock isn't there then at least two of the others need to be for us to consider meeting

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"- Size of cock

- how attractive they are to L(and L to them)

- how they behave

- how good they are in bed

In that order - if you are ugly and act like an arsehole but your cock is big enough then you may get a pass

So if the cock isn't there then at least two of the others need to be for us to consider meeting "

A brilliantly honest answer! Sometimes you just need the big pink key to get lucky

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

That I find him attractive, that we both like him, that he "gets it".

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

That a connection is there with both of you.

That they understand the dynamics.

They are comfortable.

K

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"That a connection is there with both of you.

That they understand the dynamics.

They are comfortable.

K"

Nice to see a couple of those points raised. Understanding a couples dynamic and being comfortable in their company are massive indicators to whether a meet will work for me.

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By *phrodite_AdonisCouple
over a year ago

~~

They’re respectful, listen and are easy on the eye. That’s what we offer in return.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"They’re respectful, listen and are easy on the eye. That’s what we offer in return. "

Well 'two out of three ain't bad' and I only hit the small branches falling out of the ugly tree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The 'how they behave' is partially the do they 'get it', but we also play with those that don't sometimes so it's a catch all!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That I find him attractive, that we both like him, that he "gets it". "

This!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We both need to be attracted to someone firstly and for them not to be a dick. Men or ladies

J

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By *ugarbearCouple
over a year ago

Tredegar

they must be clean and friendly

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By *J coupleCouple
over a year ago

stone

Must be a nice person who is clean and good fun.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We both need to be attracted to someone firstly and for them not to be a dick. Men or ladies

J "

Ah, the old 'don't be a dick'! It's harder than you'd expect isn't it?!

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By *iamond coupleCouple
over a year ago

leeds

That we all get on and want the same thing

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By *aughtycp1Couple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

I like my male friends to be

Physically attractive to me,

Polite, Not pushy, Intelligent enough to hold a conversation,

Not a chav (that is a big turn off), oh and not forgetting a nice big willy x

Mrs N

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

An attraction between the 3 of us, friendly and someone we're comfortable with

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By *ustyshowoffCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus

For us it’s more about personality and connection, without those nothing works

Jxx

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By *ostguy321Man
over a year ago

Bucks

Sounds sensible to me, and it is always good to have standards

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

Respect for us both.

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By *ecky and justCouple
over a year ago

Godalming


"Respect for us both.

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This.. This is important, they'll be joining us as a couple, no matter their sex. They must respect that we are a couple inviting them into our relationship..

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I like my male friends to be

Physically attractive to me,

Polite, Not pushy, Intelligent enough to hold a conversation,

Not a chav (that is a big turn off), oh and not forgetting a nice big willy x

Mrs N

"

That seems an entirely reasonable shopping list

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Respect for us both.

This.. This is important, they'll be joining us as a couple, no matter their sex. They must respect that we are a couple inviting them into our relationship.."

Important point when T and I are looking for a 3rd, and really hard at the moment. This is why we're looking for people with experience playing with 'swingers', the tinder crowd just don't get the chemistry

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By *kyblue1878Couple
over a year ago

Southport

We both find HER attractive and she's real.

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry


"That I find him attractive, that we both like him, that he "gets it". "

Agreed, same here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"- Size of cock

- how attractive they are to L(and L to them)

- how they behave

- how good they are in bed

In that order - if you are ugly and act like an arsehole but your cock is big enough then you may get a pass

So if the cock isn't there then at least two of the others need to be for us to consider meeting "

If they’re awful in bed, but had a massive cock, would you still have them hypothetically? Obviously you can’t tell how they’d be in bed until you meet and even then it’s a little to do with compatibility

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"...into your play, what's the most important thing about them?"

A social meet first to see if they are a twat or not

Mrs need to see if she approves or not.

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By *icola2202Couple
over a year ago

Chatham

Still looking but for us it’s

Personality and making sure the conversation flows

Seeing if they interested in both of us

Making sure they are not just doing it for us as that wouldn’t be fair

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By *elshcouple18Couple
over a year ago

Cardiff

Trust.. looks not essential. Cock size not essential..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Must be like-minded, get us, get the dynamics and know what we want.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"...into your play, what's the most important thing about them?

A social meet first to see if they are a twat or not

Mrs need to see if she approves or not.

"

That should be on everyone's checklist before they walk into a meet:

Fresh breath- check

Smell gorgeous- check

Not being a twat- jury's out!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"- Size of cock

- how attractive they are to L(and L to them)

- how they behave

- how good they are in bed

In that order - if you are ugly and act like an arsehole but your cock is big enough then you may get a pass

So if the cock isn't there then at least two of the others need to be for us to consider meeting

If they’re awful in bed, but had a massive cock, would you still have them hypothetically? Obviously you can’t tell how they’d be in bed until you meet and even then it’s a little to do with compatibility"
if they turn out to be truly awful, you can always use them as a towel rail or coat hook while you carry on playing!

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By *lasphemouscoupleCouple
over a year ago

Cambridgeshire

That there is chemistry between us all x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"That there is chemistry between us all x "

I love that term when it comes to playmates, but it can be hard to explain.....

Sometimes it's not a specific quality or attribute, sometimes someone just feels.....fun!

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Bexley

We're not looking for a 'hung stallion' what matters most to us is that he's nice decent guy who is polite, easy to get along with and respectful.

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

That she finds us both attractive, that we both find her attractive, she’s friendly, open and honest, and that we share the same interests and we enjoy each other’s company out of the bedroom as well as in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Intelligence

Depth

Respect

Not arrogant or judgemental

Ability to be sensual and attentive

And helps if attractive and in shape

...and the elusive chemistry of course!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me (Mrs) it's been able to gel with the other(s)

We don't have a big demanding list, as long as we get along and understand each others boundaries I'm a happy bunny

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By *acDreamyMan
over a year ago

Wirral

Watching this thread with interest. X

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