FabSwingers.com forum: Couples seeking reliable Male

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Are they any out there looking?

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

"Are they any out there looking? "

Well of course they are, that's a daft question. But YOU aren't necessarily that male. Men really seem to like presuming they immediately become desirable because they fit one single tick box, ignoring so many others.

And of course, we've spoken to so many guys who promise they are reliable and immediately prove to be anything but.

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

Mind you though, if you were closer, we'd have been in touch by now, to see how flexible that "straight" status actually is...

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By *havennaturistsCouple
over a year ago

Banff

We gave up looking for 'reliable' males a long time ago. Been swinging for 40 odd years, so learned some things!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Are they any out there looking?

And of course, we've spoken to so many guys who promise they are reliable and immediately prove to be anything but."

Apologies, posting such a short thread made that sound like a rant. I’ll elaborate in a new post

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So as my initial post sounded like a adolescent rant I’ll elaborate.

Are couples looking for a reliable Male, what’s important to you as the couple, main things you look for, what makes a good first message for you personally etc

I have been fortunate in the past and covid obviously hasn’t helped but I haven’t changed my profile and all of a sudden I cannot even get replies.

Was just wondering if I need a profile over haul

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By *ensual 2Couple
over a year ago

Blackpool

A good (reliable) local man is hard to find ...

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By *Ci LutherMan
over a year ago

Cumalot

Some of us genuine respectful and polite guys get a bad rep because of other guys actions

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By *alty surpriseMan
over a year ago

Uttoxeter

Does anyone require a genuine, reliable man around derby/staffs?.. I read the comments about people being let down etc.. And I think.. What's wrong the the men!!!

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By *moothGrooveWoman
over a year ago

Durham

To be honest, the sheer volume of text in your profile is off putting. I took one glance and thought 'I'm not ready all of that'. I like a detailed and thorough profile, but yours is akin to War & Peace. I'm not quite sure why you have pasted in your verifications either? Maybe just leave them in the verification section.

Over all, maybe a few more 'vanilla' pics, condense the text, and you should be good. You're a decent sounding, good look guy

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

"So as my initial post sounded like a adolescent rant I’ll elaborate.

Are couples looking for a reliable Male, what’s important to you as the couple, main things you look for, what makes a good first message for you personally etc

I have been fortunate in the past and covid obviously hasn’t helped but I haven’t changed my profile and all of a sudden I cannot even get replies.

Was just wondering if I need a profile over haul "

Relatively speaking your profile is excellent. I would change your username though as I certainly presumed you were 58 before looking deeper.

For us as a bullet list

- a body like yours

- a profile like yours

- a location not like yours

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Some of us genuine respectful and polite guys get a bad rep because of other guys actions"

Totally agree with that

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So as my initial post sounded like a adolescent rant I’ll elaborate.

Are couples looking for a reliable Male, what’s important to you as the couple, main things you look for, what makes a good first message for you personally etc

I have been fortunate in the past and covid obviously hasn’t helped but I haven’t changed my profile and all of a sudden I cannot even get replies.

Was just wondering if I need a profile over haul

Relatively speaking your profile is excellent. I would change your username though as I certainly presumed you were 58 before looking deeper.

For us as a bullet list

- a body like yours

- a profile like yours

- a location not like yours"

Ok great feed back thank you

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By *lym4realCouple
over a year ago

plymouth

A good reliable male or even a good reliable local male or a really single reliable male or even male who is actually what he says he is ?? we along with some our friends have just about basically given up on that one as well !! and you'd think they'd have sussed it out now but the learning curve of a very very very very dead thing and 99.5% keep on doing/trying the same thing over and over and over and over again ..but expecting different results ! our last bit of fun we had with a "Single" male was great and mrs4 really really enjoyed it and so did mr4 ...till we saw him with his partner and kids ( and the look on his face was priceless though) and if he'd just been honest about that bit ..he might have been still been playing hide the willy with mrs4 ?? as he did say and was quite specific he was "Single" ......

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

" A good reliable male or even a good reliable local male or a really single reliable male or even male who is actually what he says he is ?? we along with some our friends have just about basically given up on that one as well !! and you'd think they'd have sussed it out now but the learning curve of a very very very very dead thing and 99.5% keep on doing/trying the same thing over and over and over and over again ..but expecting different results ! our last bit of fun we had with a "Single" male was great and mrs4 really really enjoyed it and so did mr4 ...till we saw him with his partner and kids ( and the look on his face was priceless though) and if he'd just been honest about that bit ..he might have been still been playing hide the willy with mrs4 ?? as he did say and was quite specific he was "Single" ......

Shocker!!!!! Sorry to hear that. I got told I’ve something to hide as I had a hidden profile for a while!!!! Some are so judgemental on here

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By *lym4realCouple
over a year ago

plymouth

Well we live in "Plymouth" and although most class it as a "City" it just a rather large spread out "Town" at best and so the so called "Scene" and the people in it are "Small" in number so doesn't take very long for the "Cheaters/Players/Attached" males to get found out ?? and yet they persist and we personally don't have any problem with it not our cup of tea but their "Life/Morals"...and it is truly depressing how many get caught out and then of course all hell breaks loose/out and we have said ..it is a small place so rather not have the hassle

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

" Well we live in "Plymouth" and although most class it as a "City" it just a rather large spread out "Town" at best and so the so called "Scene" and the people in it are "Small" in number so doesn't take very long for the "Cheaters/Players/Attached" males to get found out ?? and yet they persist and we personally don't have any problem with it not our cup of tea but their "Life/Morals"...and it is truly depressing how many get caught out and then of course all hell breaks loose/out and we have said ..it is a small place so rather not have the hassle

I know Plymouth. I had an ex who’s parents lived in Plymtree so I spent a lot of time in Devon so I can imagine.

It’s sad really as the site is full of men like that now and it takes away the fun.

It’s so frustrating as a Male though who is genuine. It’s almost like you have to pass some sort of test before starting to chat generally. Having said this I can totally understand why it has become that way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What is a reliable male ? Lol

They don't exist

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By *alty surpriseMan
over a year ago

Uttoxeter

"What is a reliable male ? Lol

They don't exist "
you've just met the wrong ones..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What is a reliable male ? Lol

They don't exist "

Not even sexiest....you’re right. Damn us

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What is a reliable male ? Lol

They don't exist "

There are a few of us!

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By *ausageNmashCouple
over a year ago

Andover

Yes but our friends list is full for now

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By *lym4realCouple
over a year ago

plymouth

Yep it is a shame that the many do spoil it for the few "Reliable" ones left on here and we do like living in Plymouth as it has some great places to do pictures !! and we don't ask for the moon or a full bio or even every single detail of a males life just some respect...manners..social skills and of course honesty !..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We're a couple that has invited single men into our bed before.

I think being genuine is just a part of it.

Looks do come into it but so does someone that fully understands how to play with a couple and every couples needs would be slightly different i guess, we look for someone that doesn't just want to turn up have a grope and empty his sack.

We like to think we try to involve all three when we play as we all want the same result and for us that's a feeling that we've all had a great time and we're all very satisfied.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

" Yep it is a shame that the many do spoil it for the few "Reliable" ones left on here and we do like living in Plymouth as it has some great places to do pictures !! and we don't ask for the moon or a full bio or even every single detail of a males life just some respect...manners..social skills and of course honesty !..

Exactly, it’s not too much to ask is it

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We're a couple that has invited single men into our bed before.

I think being genuine is just a part of it.

We like to think we try to involve all three when we play as we all want the same result and for us that's a feeling that we've all had a great time and we're all very satisfied. "

And this right here is exactly how it should be. Well said.

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By *lym4realCouple
over a year ago

plymouth

Mrs4 calls it either Ferry sex or calls them Panda's and not her cup of tea at all and she's rather take her time getting to know people and then....it's something we BOTH enjoy doing but so many males just have the attitude that either she's on here so ?? or that because she likes to play with other males that makes mr4 less of male and so ?? then their so called " Macho" side comes out which then riles up Mrs4 and then it all ends up in them being thrown out ...we do explain all this to them but ...desperation seems to kick in and they'd just about agree to anything including the earth being flat just to get a "Sniff" ....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

" Mrs4 calls it either Ferry sex or calls them Panda's and not her cup of tea at all and she's rather take her time getting to know people and then....it's something we BOTH enjoy doing but so many males just have the attitude that either she's on here so ?? or that because she likes to play with other males that makes mr4 less of male and so ?? then their so called " Macho" side comes out which then riles up Mrs4 and then it all ends up in them being thrown out ...we do explain all this to them but ...desperation seems to kick in and they'd just about agree to anything including the earth being flat just to get a "Sniff" ....

That’s awful

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By *lym4realCouple
over a year ago

plymouth

We know a few nice males so not all bad but we don't "Play" with them just enjoy getting together and we do invite others along ( Mini Social) and having a laugh mainly and some of their stories are eye opening as well !! some damn funny some scary so not always the "Males" fault as some of us "Couples" can be just as bad or even worse !!!! and as long as everyone is on the same page and just not saying they are there shouldn't be any problems ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What is a reliable male ? Lol

They don't exist you've just met the wrong ones.. "

Probably the good ones miles away lol

In last three years ,we had over 25 no shows from single guys including socials.

Single guys are humans and they also have meet anxiety, they get nervous we know that . So the entire theory of reliable male is a farce I believe.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks to everyone who’s posted so far. It’s been a good read

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By *lym4realCouple
over a year ago

plymouth

We gave up meeting males for that very same reason ...the no shows...lame excuses and we all get nervous that's part and parcel of it !! and also the fun side of it but way to many on both sides feel pressured to over promise as we've said before we keep it very simple...agree to meet ...meet...and also you actually want to meet and you have more than enough free time to do so as we've had to way to many hurried ..looking at the clock/phone meets to last us a lifetime !!!

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