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How often do couples go looking for single guys?

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By *jkuk72 OP   Man
over a year ago

London & Herts

Or is it always (or 99% of the time) the other way round?

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By *incsladyandscotsmanCouple
over a year ago

North fife

All the time. However we have our favourites. We acknowledge it is hard for single guys to meet us. Life is tough!

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By *isAdventure69Woman
over a year ago

Hampshire

Every 3rd Wednesday of the month , in a leap year .

On the non leap years it's on Market day only .

Hope that helps

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By *ap d agde coupleCouple
over a year ago

Broadstairs

We look for single guys from time to time, we usually check out the Guys with verifications

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By *orth_hantscplCouple
over a year ago

camberley

We pretty much always do the looking tbh, we can think of a couple of times where guys have messaged us first and we’ve met but normally it’s us don’t the looking when we know we’ll be free.

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By *horehouseprincessWoman
over a year ago

small town near Munich


"All the time. However we have our favourites. We acknowledge it is hard for single guys to meet us. Life is tough! "

Pretty much this. There is just so many single guys, we cant meet them all as much as we'd like to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some weekends,not all weekends,just some

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford

We almost never go looking - have far more single guys message us than we could possibly hope to meet so we get to be choosy. Occasionally Char will throw a wink at someone she's see on a local update or somewhere, but in general we only look for couples and single females.

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By *jkuk72 OP   Man
over a year ago

London & Herts

It's indeed a buyers market

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Or is it always (or 99% of the time) the other way round?"

Every couple will be different but for us the answer is never as they tend to come to us.

T

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

24/7

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By *aughtycp1Couple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

We like single guys but of a certain type. I (Mrs N) like younger guys and smart x

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By *jkuk72 OP   Man
over a year ago

London & Herts


"24/7 "

You must be one of a kind

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By *etro1940sCouple
over a year ago

Kingston upon Thames

All the time I say ... it is an essential feature of our club attendance ... other couples are lovely; but there is an energy and erotic appeal to single men playing with me (very often in a group scene). x Anne

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria


"Or is it always (or 99% of the time) the other way round?"

Never look but have run to a few .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How often do couples go looking for anything ? Do they need to? Just a thought.

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By *urchoicenowCouple
over a year ago

Ashford

We occasionally look at them but don't message or wink as from our experience, more often than not, you then get bombarded with messages back.

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

Every time we go to a club, otherwise not at all.

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By *ffanotdykeCouple
over a year ago

Telford

The biggest problem is getting single guys to turn up.

Most can talk the talk but very few can walk the walk.

We could write a book (a big book!) with all the excuses we have had.

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By *jkuk72 OP   Man
over a year ago

London & Herts


"The biggest problem is getting single guys to turn up.

Most can talk the talk but very few can walk the walk.

We could write a book (a big book!) with all the excuses we have had. "

Sad to hear this. Fail to understand why people do that. That said, I had a couple of situations where a couple agreed to meet up and then cancelled at the last minute for no apparent reason.

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By *anKevCouple
over a year ago

Tunbridge wells


"Every time we go to a club, otherwise not at all. "

same for us

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

For us, virtually never. We looked once amongst people we already know.

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By *r SensualMan
over a year ago

London

I’ve found most of the time (not all the time) when it’s couples seeking single men it’s usually the male half who approaches you with an interest of seeing you with their partner

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

We look sometimes but the search usually reveals men we've either spoken to and mutually decided we're not compatible or we're already in conversation with.

If we do approach a guy and I'll admit it's very rare we do it together.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve found most of the time (not all the time) when it’s couples seeking single men it’s usually the male half who approaches you with an interest of seeing you with their partner "

Very true I recently had a local “couple” contact me and after an brief exchange of messages it became very obvious that it was the only the male half who gets off on the thought of his partner with other men . Sad !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve found most of the time (not all the time) when it’s couples seeking single men it’s usually the male half who approaches you with an interest of seeing you with their partner

Very true I recently had a local “couple” contact me and after an brief exchange of messages it became very obvious that it was the only the male half who gets off on the thought of his partner with other men . Sad !"

I think this is a very common occurrence

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By *r SensualMan
over a year ago

London


"I’ve found most of the time (not all the time) when it’s couples seeking single men it’s usually the male half who approaches you with an interest of seeing you with their partner

Very true I recently had a local “couple” contact me and after an brief exchange of messages it became very obvious that it was the only the male half who gets off on the thought of his partner with other men . Sad !

I think this is a very common occurrence "

It is, but it’s not the end of the world, I’ve had a two meets with couples (pre covid times of course) where it was the male who arranged everything. If he’s messaging from a couples account then it’s more likely to be genuine I find

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve found most of the time (not all the time) when it’s couples seeking single men it’s usually the male half who approaches you with an interest of seeing you with their partner

Very true I recently had a local “couple” contact me and after an brief exchange of messages it became very obvious that it was the only the male half who gets off on the thought of his partner with other men . Sad !

I think this is a very common occurrence

It is, but it’s not the end of the world, I’ve had a two meets with couples (pre covid times of course) where it was the male who arranged everything. If he’s messaging from a couples account then it’s more likely to be genuine I find "

It was from a couples account and included many pictures though not sure how much input the female half has.

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

How often? A lot.

Why? Because it's soooooo hard for us to find good guys we want to spend any time with, and want to spend time with us.

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By *he Knight is YoungMan
over a year ago

22 Acacia Ave, Preston-for now


"Every 3rd Wednesday of the month , in a leap year .

On the non leap years it's on Market day only .

Hope that helps "

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By *iscreet-is-paramountMan
over a year ago

travel around a lot.

It's a thing if the past.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if we want to meet a single guy, not that often but sometimes, we do the looking, and we tend to pick guys that have met others, or us, before, every guy we have met and its been their first meet, it hasnt gone well, we dont meet much, so dont want it to be a waste of time, far to many no shows from new guys, im sure women and couples do it too, but weve only ever had it from guys, so sorry, some idiots ruin it for the good guys who are looking for the first meet,problem is that there are so many single guys on here

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By * AND R 777Couple
over a year ago

Teesside

When the mood takes us , sometimes a lot and sometimes never, we do like to mix things up

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By *ausageNmashCouple
over a year ago

Andover

We don't go looking as they seem to find us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We will look if we want one.. Mr tends to lead on the messaging but Mrs has final say ...obviously...

Yes...Mr gets off watching Mrs and joining in but only if Mrs is having fun..otherwise it just does not click..

Currently lining one up as soon as restrictions are lifted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Or is it always (or 99% of the time) the other way round?"

We started with only meeting couples but now we mainly meet guys now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The biggest problem is getting single guys to turn up.

Most can talk the talk but very few can walk the walk.

We could write a book (a big book!) with all the excuses we have had.

Sad to hear this. Fail to understand why people do that. That said, I had a couple of situations where a couple agreed to meet up and then cancelled at the last minute for no apparent reason."

Had the same thing happen , one where I was on the train going to a meet and the couple cancelled, just had to get to the other end and stay in the hotel for the night, luckily it wasn’t all that far, but annoying all the same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never

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By *oneyBear100Couple
over a year ago

Gatwick area

We chose to look rather than accept messages, mainly because the amount of monosyllabic or dull intro messages means the few good ones get missed and deleted with the bulk delete.

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By *lym4realCouple
over a year ago

plymouth

Can't say we look for single males but have met a few and they tend to self regulate themselves ( dick pic ..inane message)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve found most of the time (not all the time) when it’s couples seeking single men it’s usually the male half who approaches you with an interest of seeing you with their partner

Very true I recently had a local “couple” contact me and after an brief exchange of messages it became very obvious that it was the only the male half who gets off on the thought of his partner with other men . Sad !"

I do the contact with single guys for us, partly because i'm the interested party and partly because I have the higher tolerance for dealing with the frankly terrible experience finding them can be. I'd probably look or at least keep an eye out more often than i do but it requires some steeling to face it! Finding good single men is the least hot part of fabbing, which is shame as we do enjoy the meets when they happen.

Tabitha X

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By *lacksausageMan
over a year ago

Birmingham Airport


"The biggest problem is getting single guys to turn up.

Most can talk the talk but very few can walk the walk.

We could write a book (a big book!) with all the excuses we have had. "

I've heard this before but I think there's more to it than meets the eye.

Generally I don't think people (male/fem/any) will get on here to waste their time and that of others. On the reverse, folks naturally do not like disappointing others and that is why women esp have been accused of being "ignorant" or rude if they do not respond. The reality is they may be busy or not interested or have found better! There is always a better choice around the corner.

The same reasons females "let others down" gently or otherwise do hold for single guys too. It is in human nature to not want to disappoint or offend but life happens. Single guys can write books too.

This is not a bash but rather a view from across the fence. It's just easier to say nothing than to say no. We roll with it.

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By *lym4realCouple
over a year ago

plymouth

MR4 reads and replies to all the messages on here as from past experiences mrs4 now steadfastly refuses to do so as a mere sniff of a fem on the keyboard and it all starts getting rather silly and despite whatever we put in our profile indicating we have 100% no interest in a wank cam or seeing a huge load dumped or can they come around or can she meet up alone ?? or what colour her underwear is or has she any on ? and could they buy/sniff them ?? can she watch as they wank over her pictures ?? BUT he keeps her informed and then the final decision is ALWAYS her's and it's a joint thing but mr4 does tend to think he's got the $$$$$$$ end of the stick and he can't honestly remember even being that desperate or even wanting to speak to a female like it ?? even in his "Prime"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hopefully just once, but we are after a regular longterm buddy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The biggest problem is getting single guys to turn up.

Most can talk the talk but very few can walk the walk.

We could write a book (a big book!) with all the excuses we have had.

I've heard this before but I think there's more to it than meets the eye.

Generally I don't think people (male/fem/any) will get on here to waste their time and that of others. On the reverse, folks naturally do not like disappointing others and that is why women esp have been accused of being "ignorant" or rude if they do not respond. The reality is they may be busy or not interested or have found better! There is always a better choice around the corner.

The same reasons females "let others down" gently or otherwise do hold for single guys too. It is in human nature to not want to disappoint or offend but life happens. Single guys can write books too.

This is not a bash but rather a view from across the fence. It's just easier to say nothing than to say no. We roll with it. "

I haven't seen it put like that before.

I'd hope that any profile that had gone as far as organising a meet would show up. Likewise after a degree of contact, saying no is better than ghosting someone. Ignoring communication is fine if there hasn't been any so far.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" MR4 reads and replies to all the messages on here as from past experiences mrs4 now steadfastly refuses to do so as a mere sniff of a fem on the keyboard and it all starts getting rather silly and despite whatever we put in our profile indicating we have 100% no interest in a wank cam or seeing a huge load dumped or can they come around or can she meet up alone ?? or what colour her underwear is or has she any on ? and could they buy/sniff them ?? can she watch as they wank over her pictures ?? BUT he keeps her informed and then the final decision is ALWAYS her's and it's a joint thing but mr4 does tend to think he's got the $$$$$$$ end of the stick and he can't honestly remember even being that desperate or even wanting to speak to a female like it ?? even in his "Prime" "

This is a great point! It's disappointing how many guys on here treat the intro contact like dating. They find it hard to have a conversation with both partners and can't help themselves when it comes to throwing cheesy compliments at T! Despite our extremely clear communication style, we still get loads of guys who can't resist another wink or message when we've specifically told them we'll review their profile and emails together and be in touch.

The same process has found reliable, respectful, experienced guys who understand the dynamic.

Same as anything, those who make more effort and pay attention get better results!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel like couples do look for guys, there are just so many more single guys on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Every other harvest moon

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By *ack n FoxyCouple
over a year ago

Notts/Derby border

Don’t need to look particularly as we get bombarded with messages, friend invites and winks from single guys. I (Foxy) manage our profile and most messages are instant delete either cos they clearly didn’t read our profile or because I can’t be bothered to respond to one liners. We get so many I only really respond to messages of guys who seem interesting and are my type

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

We normally only take the no Males filter off when we're going to a club to see who also may be going. So that's not been for a while......Bloody hell clubs, hurry up

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By *jkuk72 OP   Man
over a year ago

London & Herts


"Don’t need to look particularly as we get bombarded with messages, friend invites and winks from single guys. I (Foxy) manage our profile and most messages are instant delete either cos they clearly didn’t read our profile or because I can’t be bothered to respond to one liners. We get so many I only really respond to messages of guys who seem interesting and are my type "

Seems like the right approach, at least as far as I am concerned

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Out with the covid restrictions all the time.

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By *lacksausageMan
over a year ago

Birmingham Airport


"We don't go looking as they seem to find us"

Daaamn, with errrm à profile pic like that, I can locate you from space!

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By *acDreamyMan
over a year ago

Wirral

I get contacted by couples occasionally.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"I get contacted by couples occasionally. "

Me too.... I never contact couples there’s no point , they usually know what they want and initiate

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By *r SensualMan
over a year ago

London

Seems as if the general consensus amongst most couples on here is that they’d either prefer to find single guys themselves if interested in them, or have no little to no interest in speaking to or meeting them at all...

Happy to be corrected if I am wrong in making this assumption....

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

We rarely look for single guys, but when we do... it's easier to just see who we click with in a club.

Cal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Seems as if the general consensus amongst most couples on here is that they’d either prefer to find single guys themselves if interested in them, or have no little to no interest in speaking to or meeting them at all...

Happy to be corrected if I am wrong in making this assumption.... "

Lots of couples are fatigued from the constant barrage of poor quality communication from single guys. Sadly most of these profiles aren't as advertised and won't be much use to swinging couples! Unfortunately, this makes life harder for the genuine ones. I've been a single guy in the lifestyle on and off for 20yrs, so I've seen a big change from curious, experimental guys looking for genuine hedonism to the current crop flooded with tinder-lite males who think this is a brothel!

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By *onnoisseur100Man
over a year ago

Woking-ish


"All the time I say ... it is an essential feature of our club attendance ... other couples are lovely; but there is an energy and erotic appeal to single men playing with me (very often in a group scene). x Anne "

....and which club and when?......lol

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By *r SensualMan
over a year ago

London


"Seems as if the general consensus amongst most couples on here is that they’d either prefer to find single guys themselves if interested in them, or have no little to no interest in speaking to or meeting them at all...

Happy to be corrected if I am wrong in making this assumption....

Lots of couples are fatigued from the constant barrage of poor quality communication from single guys. Sadly most of these profiles aren't as advertised and won't be much use to swinging couples! Unfortunately, this makes life harder for the genuine ones. I've been a single guy in the lifestyle on and off for 20yrs, so I've seen a big change from curious, experimental guys looking for genuine hedonism to the current crop flooded with tinder-lite males who think this is a brothel! "

I get that totally, I’ve seen messages women and couples have received and seen the way some single guys would behave at parties.... I very rarely rely on messages these days to be honest. Roll on the days when parties start and clubs open again, cannot wait to get out there, meet some new people and visit some new venues. Find it much better to interact with people in person

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By *ateniteCouple
over a year ago

Youghal

Quite regular, and covid restrictions have allowed us to build up a "portfolio" for future meets. Spoilt for choice.

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By *hoenix CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northallerton

We searching for a guy that is compatible for us. Orally bi, non smoker, laid back, no beard, not married, not pushy, 30s or 40s. This is our unicorn haha.

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By *lym4realCouple
over a year ago

plymouth

It can be very frustrating and seems to us or rather mr4 that most single males will just about say anything to get a "Meet" and then expect to change mrs4 stated preference or preferences ?? and reason we used to arrange to meet in a pub as when 99.5% didn't even bother showing up or another lame excuse we could still carry on regardless and have our very own night out ?? and once even managed to "Pull" a very willing younger male ( after yet another no show) and a fun night was had by all !! and it's total lack of respect from most and being based in reality would help things a lot ! .

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By *he Knight is YoungMan
over a year ago

22 Acacia Ave, Preston-for now


" It can be very frustrating and seems to us or rather mr4 that most single males will just about say anything to get a "Meet" and then expect to change mrs4 stated preference or preferences ?? and reason we used to arrange to meet in a pub as when 99.5% didn't even bother showing up or another lame excuse we could still carry on regardless and have our very own night out ?? and once even managed to "Pull" a very willing younger male ( after yet another no show) and a fun night was had by all !! and it's total lack of respect from most and being based in reality would help things a lot ! .

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So true

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By *r SensualMan
over a year ago

London

Jeez.... these silly men really do mess things up for us genuine single men on this app, so much so I can see why a lot of you couples have or are losing hope *face palm*

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By *lym4realCouple
over a year ago

plymouth

We have met some truly great guys but it's seems that just because you get on with them doesn't always mean mrs4 will be throwing you around our bedroom??and then they get pushy/rude and start having a hissy fit and then accuse of us or even her of being various things and the steadfast refusal to actually believe she'll only "Play" if she's relaxed and feels comfortable to do so and us being a "Couple" it is a joint decision but it is her body so her rules in the end

All we ask for is some kind of social skills combined with manners and a very large dose of respect for both of us and especially her and most of all be who or what you say you are as just very insulting to us both and again especially her that you can think we won't or can't suss you out ?? and of course a complete waste of time as well ?? but as some have stated we do feel like "Unicorn" hunters as 99.5 % of the time you think "YES" only to have our hoped dashed on the rocks of reality or rather .."i've sent a few messages sooooo time for the fancy a f*** and here's me knob pic to seal the deal etc etc etc " gang !

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By *urvy N TeaseCouple
over a year ago

Stirling

We never look for single guys. If we want more cock we look for TV's. Get the best of both worlds then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

whenever C is in the mood and fits into daily life . I'm sure it's the same for many others.. what single guys have to remember

d

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By *tickler2000Man
over a year ago

St Agnes

I've had a few couples contact me which has resulted in some very pleasant time.

I tend not to message couples or females often.

I'd only be adding to the tsunami of messages I expect they already get.

No point pissing people off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Seems as if the general consensus amongst most couples on here is that they’d either prefer to find single guys themselves if interested in them, or have no little to no interest in speaking to or meeting them at all...

Happy to be corrected if I am wrong in making this assumption....

Lots of couples are fatigued from the constant barrage of poor quality communication from single guys. Sadly most of these profiles aren't as advertised and won't be much use to swinging couples! Unfortunately, this makes life harder for the genuine ones. I've been a single guy in the lifestyle on and off for 20yrs, so I've seen a big change from curious, experimental guys looking for genuine hedonism to the current crop flooded with tinder-lite males who think this is a brothel! "

this is so true

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By *revaunanceCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

We are always looking for single guys, although we seem to have more success when people contact us first.

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By *hocolateRodMan
over a year ago

London and over UK


"Or is it always (or 99% of the time) the other way round?"

The only time I get contacted by couples - it’s always picture hunter/fake profile...doh!

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By *histlerMan
over a year ago

Guildford


"We are always looking for single guys, although we seem to have more success when people contact us first."

Shame I’m out of your age range!

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By *ew2it.deCouple
over a year ago

Stoke on Trent

We do.

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By *phrodite_AdonisCouple
over a year ago

~~

We’re looking at the moment, but so far not found many that are our cup of tea. The search continues!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Or is it always (or 99% of the time) the other way round?

The only time I get contacted by couples - it’s always picture hunter/fake profile...doh!"

Oh yes

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By *ardiffCoupleNJCouple
over a year ago

Pontypridd/Rhyfelin

Of course we do. Works both ways.

Let's face it, most messages from guys asking how we are (again) go straight in the bin!

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By *en.....emMan
over a year ago

West mids

We do...hard to find genuine cool guys

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By *oneymitchMan
over a year ago

Huddersfield

Some look , I tend to get winked by many couple profiles then when I check out there profile its usually because they are specifically seeking bbc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My wife and I only look for single males who can accommodate

Iam not in the least bit interested in another woman.

I just love mine being used and joining in.

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By *rs BxxWoman
over a year ago

Chippenham, Wiltshire.

I am looking for single guys to meet me alone and as a couple. It's very difficult to find genuine guys at the moment, it seems to be you've replied to my messages so that must mean that you are up for a fuck. But I'll persist, they're there somewhere.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Or is it always (or 99% of the time) the other way round?"

We enjoy meeting single guys, as well as single women and couples, as you know OP

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By *ichaMan
over a year ago

Southampton


"if we want to meet a single guy, not that often but sometimes, we do the looking, and we tend to pick guys that have met others, or us, before, every guy we have met and its been their first meet, it hasnt gone well, we dont meet much, so dont want it to be a waste of time, far to many no shows from new guys, im sure women and couples do it too, but weve only ever had it from guys, so sorry, some idiots ruin it for the good guys who are looking for the first meet,problem is that there are so many single guys on here "

It is supply and demand, and yes the few do ruin it for the many of lovely genuine guys who would prefer not to be dismissed out of hand. I have met via fabs before now, and still maintain it was a fabulous experience, we actually went on to become good friends and lovers, and that was my first meet! All I would say is get to know the person, after all, one persons meat is another persons poison.

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By *lacksausageMan
over a year ago

Birmingham Airport

I have a beautiful solution to this conundrum: Let fab block all single male profiles from sending the first message. If single males can only reply once they've been messaged, all this hullabaloo will evaporate into thin air, fush!!

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"The biggest problem is getting single guys to turn up.

Most can talk the talk but very few can walk the walk.

We could write a book (a big book!) with all the excuses we have had.

I've heard this before but I think there's more to it than meets the eye.

Generally I don't think people (male/fem/any) will get on here to waste their time and that of others. On the reverse, folks naturally do not like disappointing others and that is why women esp have been accused of being "ignorant" or rude if they do not respond. The reality is they may be busy or not interested or have found better! There is always a better choice around the corner.

The same reasons females "let others down" gently or otherwise do hold for single guys too. It is in human nature to not want to disappoint or offend but life happens. Single guys can write books too.

This is not a bash but rather a view from across the fence. It's just easier to say nothing than to say no. We roll with it. "

I agree. I’ve met some lovely, genuine couples through Fab, and still chat with most of them. But many other couples have let me down last minute, with one excuse or another, and/or haven’t actually been couples at all. Yep, I’ve had that “Oh just to let you know mate, the wife’s not in tonight, it’ll be just me playing.....” WTF? Let’s not forget those ‘booty calls’ at 1 in the morning with “we’re staying in hotel X and my wife is keen for another cock, can you come round, fuck her then leave?” And don’t get me started on couples in clubs either! Far easier to find genuine, solo women, looking to meet for actual fun in my experience, and for the record; I have never failed to turn up for any arranged meet

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By *lacksausageMan
over a year ago

Birmingham Airport


"The biggest problem is getting single guys to turn up.

Most can talk the talk but very few can walk the walk.

We could write a book (a big book!) with all the excuses we have had.

I've heard this before but I think there's more to it than meets the eye.

Generally I don't think people (male/fem/any) will get on here to waste their time and that of others. On the reverse, folks naturally do not like disappointing others and that is why women esp have been accused of being "ignorant" or rude if they do not respond. The reality is they may be busy or not interested or have found better! There is always a better choice around the corner.

The same reasons females "let others down" gently or otherwise do hold for single guys too. It is in human nature to not want to disappoint or offend but life happens. Single guys can write books too.

This is not a bash but rather a view from across the fence. It's just easier to say nothing than to say no. We roll with it.

I agree. I’ve met some lovely, genuine couples through Fab, and still chat with most of them. But many other couples have let me down last minute, with one excuse or another, and/or haven’t actually been couples at all. Yep, I’ve had that “Oh just to let you know mate, the wife’s not in tonight, it’ll be just me playing.....” WTF? Let’s not forget those ‘booty calls’ at 1 in the morning with “we’re staying in hotel X and my wife is keen for another cock, can you come round, fuck her then leave?” And don’t get me started on couples in clubs either! Far easier to find genuine, solo women, looking to meet for actual fun in my experience, and for the record; I have never failed to turn up for any arranged meet "

Well well well, there goes a real man with balls! a couple more and this world will be put to rights

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By *xfordshireCoupleMFCouple
over a year ago

Nr. Oxford

We will hold our hands up and say we don’t really look. All our meets have come from the male contacting us first, whether that be a wink or message. I will occasionally wink if someone catches my eye but that’s about it.

Lily

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