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By *laytimes18 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Poole

Why are guys/couples ashamed of advertising the male is Bi? Why are you ashamed to admit you’re Bi but it’s ok and accepted that the Mrs is Bi!!!

If you’re Bi they don’t be ashamed and put you’re straight to increase your chances of having fun!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a v bi curious guy wud love to meet a bi couple

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By *hesexpistolsCouple
over a year ago

Kent

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

Because there is an astonishing amount of male homophobia here.

"no guys who had had bi experiences"

Urgh. We try and push guys to be honest but ffs, they prejudice against them, but not their wives, is disgusting.

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By *hesexpistolsCouple
over a year ago

Kent

Not us we’d rather not miss out on the fun x

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham


"I'm a v bi curious guy wud love to meet a bi couple "

Not with spelling like that...

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham


"Not us we’d rather not miss out on the fun x"

Ooh I'm thinking of exactly that cock piercing, how's it working out?

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By *utterflyandArtificeCouple
over a year ago

Trowbridge

No double standards or bi hiding here xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because there is an astonishing amount of male homophobia here.

"no guys who had had bi experiences"

Urgh. We try and push guys to be honest but ffs, they prejudice against them, but not their wives, is disgusting. "

It’s sad but very very true. It’s celebrated for women but for us guys it is still frowned upon by many. The abuse I have received in the past woukd blow your mind

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By *ndrew90210Man
over a year ago

North West

It’s so difficult to find a genuine bi couple on here who are looking for ultimate kink x

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham


"It’s so difficult to find a genuine bi couple on here who are looking for ultimate kink x"

ULTIMATE KINK!!!

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By *hesexpistolsCouple
over a year ago

Kent


"Not us we’d rather not miss out on the fun x

Ooh I'm thinking of exactly that cock piercing, how's it working out? "

It’s working fine now but I’m telling you, that is it. Never again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The homophobia is disgusting but I wouldn't wanna play with a homophobic couple anyway so it just saves the trouble

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By *lirty_dirtyCouple
over a year ago

Lingfield

Openly bi in the profile but I totally understand why single guys won't disclose their sexuality. It's a shame that here, in what should be the most Liberal of places that degree of prejudice still exists.

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By *ndymanchester1Man
over a year ago

salford

I’m not sure it is as bad as it used to be say 5 years ago. Can’t say I’ve been definitely turned down rudely due to being bi as I used to few years ago. What I have noticed though is the number or couple who advertise bi females straight male who turn out to have in no uncertain way a bi male. Very nice surprise, but can’t understand why a couple would hide males bi side. Not decrying their choice I didn’t change my status for good while, but eventually had to be true to myself and others, can’t say it’s done me any harm, but attitudes are improving

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By *reemyspiritawakenmysoulWoman
over a year ago

coventry


"I’m not sure it is as bad as it used to be say 5 years ago. Can’t say I’ve been definitely turned down rudely due to being bi as I used to few years ago. What I have noticed though is the number or couple who advertise bi females straight male who turn out to have in no uncertain way a bi male. Very nice surprise, but can’t understand why a couple would hide males bi side. Not decrying their choice I didn’t change my status for good while, but eventually had to be true to myself and others, can’t say it’s done me any harm, but attitudes are improving "
refreshing read Ty for sharing x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m listed as bi.... was down as straight but didn’t feel right.... what’s the point on missing out on all the fun... if a couple doesn’t wanna play chat with a bi-guy..... their loss.....I’ll prefer the open minded relaxed guys and girls anyway.....

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By *ounty durham bbw coupleCouple
over a year ago

darlington

If you go to clubs you can see why unless it's a bi night a lot of people don't even try hide their disgust when 2 guys start playing plus a lot of people have no bi guys on profile because they assume all gay men don't use condoms

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By *eeboCouple
over a year ago

basingstoke

I think it is an interesting point we are unusual in that I (the male half) is the one that is Bi-curious and my wife doesn't have that side to her. Also when putting down Bi or Bi-curious for a guy it doesn't tell the whole story so I guess as well as the reasons already stated some are reluctant due to not wanting to over commit. I for example enjoy oral both ways but especially giving but kissing a guy doesn't appeal and full sex is not something I have done so just saying im Bi-curious/sexual feels like it doesn't really tell anyone really what my preferences are!

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By *ydrewMan
over a year ago

forest

I recently got slagged off and blocked for having bi on profile. Funny thing was I didn't even start the conversation

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By *aggy dollsCouple
over a year ago

bradford


"Because there is an astonishing amount of male homophobia here.

"no guys who had had bi experiences"

Urgh. We try and push guys to be honest but ffs, they prejudice against them, but not their wives, is disgusting. "

Well said, being a bi male is still rather taboo apparently even in a sexually open comunity like this. I'm rapidly becoming more and more heterophobic.

Mr H.

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By *ndymanchester1Man
over a year ago

salford


"I think it is an interesting point we are unusual in that I (the male half) is the one that is Bi-curious and my wife doesn't have that side to her. Also when putting down Bi or Bi-curious for a guy it doesn't tell the whole story so I guess as well as the reasons already stated some are reluctant due to not wanting to over commit. I for example enjoy oral both ways but especially giving but kissing a guy doesn't appeal and full sex is not something I have done so just saying im Bi-curious/sexual feels like it doesn't really tell anyone really what my preferences are! "

But surely all the intimate details would come out in the discussion/ chat before any meet. All the sexuality is stating is openness to being bi. Bi or bi- curious provides little more indication, rest will be discovered after first contact

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have seen a few profiles, with "no disgusting bi guys". Doubt you will ever see the same said about bi women. Funny how they think a woman sucking cock is ok, but a guy doing it isn't

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By *ndymanchester1Man
over a year ago

salford


"Because there is an astonishing amount of male homophobia here.

"no guys who had had bi experiences"

Urgh. We try and push guys to be honest but ffs, they prejudice against them, but not their wives, is disgusting.

Well said, being a bi male is still rather taboo apparently even in a sexually open comunity like this. I'm rapidly becoming more and more heterophobic.

Mr H."

Heterophobic, made me laugh, might have to nick it

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By *ntman83Man
over a year ago

Walsall

I'm listed as bi curious as I haven't had any bi experiences yet. My profile also states the that I would like to try a bi experience with a couple.

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By * New YorkieMan
over a year ago

Leeds


"Because there is an astonishing amount of male homophobia here.

"no guys who had had bi experiences"

Urgh. We try and push guys to be honest but ffs, they prejudice against them, but not their wives, is disgusting. "

This is true. I to have not taken any abuse over years, but have had conversations stopped quickly because of the "Bi-Curious" label I changed to 4 years ago. I love, love women 150% and thats my preference, but I also like to dabble orally with guys I connect with, so much so I wish I started this journey sooner. Mostly this has been bi couples and bi partys tbh. I find more an more "Straight Males"of a couple turn out to be very curious during the actual meet. In the end, we are who we are. I do like the option to enjoy both the male 'orally' and female form during a meet or party. So whether you are straight, gay or somewhere in between, respect is respect. Be polite..

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By *zlakMan
over a year ago

Norwich

It says bi on my profile and i would never hide that! You are what you are it doesn't mean you can't play straight!

I just prefer meeting bi couples.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because there is an astonishing amount of male homophobia here.

"no guys who had had bi experiences"

Urgh. We try and push guys to be honest but ffs, they prejudice against them, but not their wives, is disgusting.

This is true. I to have not taken any abuse over years, but have had conversations stopped quickly because of the "Bi-Curious" label I changed to 4 years ago. I love, love women 150% and thats my preference, but I also like to dabble orally with guys I connect with, so much so I wish I started this journey sooner. Mostly this has been bi couples and bi partys tbh. I find more an more "Straight Males"of a couple turn out to be very curious during the actual meet. In the end, we are who we are. I do like the option to enjoy both the male 'orally' and female form during a meet or party. So whether you are straight, gay or somewhere in between, respect is respect. Be polite.. "

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By *eeboCouple
over a year ago

basingstoke


"I think it is an interesting point we are unusual in that I (the male half) is the one that is Bi-curious and my wife doesn't have that side to her. Also when putting down Bi or Bi-curious for a guy it doesn't tell the whole story so I guess as well as the reasons already stated some are reluctant due to not wanting to over commit. I for example enjoy oral both ways but especially giving but kissing a guy doesn't appeal and full sex is not something I have done so just saying im Bi-curious/sexual feels like it doesn't really tell anyone really what my preferences are!

But surely all the intimate details would come out in the discussion/ chat before any meet. All the sexuality is stating is openness to being bi. Bi or bi- curious provides little more indication, rest will be discovered after first contact "

I agree which is why I do have Bi-curious on my profile just so its out there! Also it is surprising the amount of guys with straight on there profile who say they are open to oral or have done it and enjoyed it!

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By *aggy dollsCouple
over a year ago

bradford


"Because there is an astonishing amount of male homophobia here.

"no guys who had had bi experiences"

Urgh. We try and push guys to be honest but ffs, they prejudice against them, but not their wives, is disgusting.

Well said, being a bi male is still rather taboo apparently even in a sexually open comunity like this. I'm rapidly becoming more and more heterophobic.

Mr H.

Heterophobic, made me laugh, might have to nick it "

You can't its trademarked, but if you give me 20 rubles and your bank details you can purchase usage rights.

Mr H.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some of the most anti bi shouty profiles have veris from straight guys who I know for fact are actually bi.

If you’re so intent on avoiding bi men and shout about it; people will lie to you! . .

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By *renzMan
over a year ago

Between Chichester and Havant

There have been many threads similar to this over the years.

I've come to the conclusion that, for whatever reason, men cannot admit to themselves, let alone others that they are bi.

With couples you would think it easier, something you would have thought would have been discussed over a long time between themselves.

It does seem as if there is still a stigma among a few with bi men.

But there are plenty of profiles, couples, I don't look at single male profiles, that do state the male is bi, probably more than there used to be.

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By *aulp4alsMan
over a year ago

Warrington

Openly b-curious here. I have played with guys TV’s but prefer bisexual couples. Call me greedy if you like but that’s my preference. I have only to receive a real cock so I can put bisexual

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's single guys as well. I get loads of "straight" guys message me. In denial or plainly lying

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By * New YorkieMan
over a year ago

Leeds


"I think it is an interesting point we are unusual in that I (the male half) is the one that is Bi-curious and my wife doesn't have that side to her. Also when putting down Bi or Bi-curious for a guy it doesn't tell the whole story so I guess as well as the reasons already stated some are reluctant due to not wanting to over commit. I for example enjoy oral both ways but especially giving but kissing a guy doesn't appeal and full sex is not something I have done so just saying im Bi-curious/sexual feels like it doesn't really tell anyone really what my preferences are!

But surely all the intimate details would come out in the discussion/ chat before any meet. All the sexuality is stating is openness to being bi. Bi or bi- curious provides little more indication, rest will be discovered after first contact

I agree which is why I do have Bi-curious on my profile just so its out there! Also it is surprising the amount of guys with straight on there profile who say they are open to oral or have done it and enjoyed it! "

This is true too. I am getting good at reading profile verifications and interests to be able too read between the lines of Curious or bi guys lerking in Straight couples and singles profile.. lol There are alot out there..

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By *ewBurtonMan
over a year ago

Derby

Bi MMF fun is the best xx.

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By *rKinksMan
over a year ago

Alton

Decided when I made my new profile to embrace my bi side.

Yep defiantly had a few nice conversation with couples and women end cause "just read your profile your bi"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why are guys/couples ashamed of advertising the male is Bi? Why are you ashamed to admit you’re Bi but it’s ok and accepted that the Mrs is Bi!!!

If you’re Bi they don’t be ashamed and put you’re straight to increase your chances of having fun!!!"

Because the stigma women put on bi guys here, If they like guys they're no use etc

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By *ut4fun6969Man
over a year ago

Folkestone

Honest from the outset my profile says bi. But I’m a go with the flow kind of guy if the situation is that way then I will play if it’s not then straight it is.if someone doesn’t want to meet for sake of two letters then I’m ok with that. It’s two letters not me talk to me don’t dismiss me just that I might suck a cock now and again

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By *aturasqCouple
over a year ago

Hertfordshire

I don't fancy guys but love sucking cock not sure what that makes me "bi-something"?

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By *renzMan
over a year ago

Between Chichester and Havant


"I don't fancy guys but love sucking cock not sure what that makes me "bi-something"?"

Orally bi?

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By *ancpl05Couple
over a year ago

Bridgend

Completely agree..... so many guys message and say their profile says straight and use excuses such as their job for not saying bi ...... makes no sense to us ???

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire


"Some of the most anti bi shouty profiles have veris from straight guys who I know for fact are actually bi.

If you’re so intent on avoiding bi men and shout about it; people will lie to you! . . "

This one guy regularly messages me trying to get a meet, but I’m not keen on meeting straight guys, so I turn him down each time. However I looked at his verifications (all women and couples) and a few didn’t want to meet bi guys, but have met and had fun with him.

So if you’re meeting anyone on this site it’s no guarantee that they’ll definitely be what they claim they are on their profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm genuinely bi, but as a top. But even so, as a single guy trying to get a meet, even with a bi couple is soooo difficult for us genuine folk, with so many ghosters! There are a few of u genuine guys in here!!

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By *obbo2022Man
over a year ago

near bishop


"Why are guys/couples ashamed of advertising the male is Bi? Why are you ashamed to admit you’re Bi but it’s ok and accepted that the Mrs is Bi!!!

If you’re Bi they don’t be ashamed and put you’re straight to increase your chances of having fun!!!"

I’m bi and proud be openly bi since I was 16,

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By *ymrocruMan
over a year ago

penygroes

I'm bi. Happy to be bi. Don't care what others think. Bi and a panty lover.

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By *ay992020Man
over a year ago

Telford

I'm bi always wanted be in mmf fun never been a bottom tho

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By *mokes n MirrorsCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth and Newcastle (sometimes)

If the profile sexuality box doesn't state some type of bi (the actual profile can then flesh out how bi) then we're not interested from the get go. If you can't be honest with yourself you're even less likely to be honest with us.

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By *oastal1968Man
over a year ago

London


"Why are guys/couples ashamed of advertising the male is Bi? Why are you ashamed to admit you’re Bi but it’s ok and accepted that the Mrs is Bi!!!

If you’re Bi they don’t be ashamed and put you’re straight to increase your chances of having fun!!!"

Absolutely!

Bi bottom here if any couples are seeking a bi guy

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

It is definitely a double standard of fab.

I'm totally straight, but still get couples messaging assuming I'm bi as this seems to be the belief that most women are bi here.

My partner is bi curious, in that he likes some sucking with men, if it feels right etc, but he is honest about it and we have it on our couple profile.

Some men do hide it as they think it will reduce their chance of meets.

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By *m3232Man
over a year ago

maidenhead

A bi MMF is the best fun.

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By *entlemenpipMan
over a year ago

not far

I'm a bi male and see alot of profiles state they are not interested in bi guys but have no problem or infact are primarily looking for bi females

It's a wonderful double standard

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By *manaWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"Because there is an astonishing amount of male homophobia here.

"no guys who had had bi experiences"

Urgh. We try and push guys to be honest but ffs, they prejudice against them, but not their wives, is disgusting. "

Sadly true.

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By *rumcouple2013Couple
over a year ago

Tamworth

I am bi curious. Not ashamed to hide it.

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By *raditionalManMan
over a year ago

Walkden. Manchester

I’m bi, this lifestyle turned my head but I don’t put I’m bi on here for several reasons. It’s my business, no I don’t claim to be fab straight but I don’t use the website to meet men either so it saves on the unnecessary messages. Although I probably get as much messages anyway so can’t win. I choose to meet who I like just like everyone else, I don’t get what people hang up is about it. Either way single men can’t win whatever they do because couples feel they’re entitled.

I also have a couples profile too, she got me in this bi pickle she loves it so I see both sides. Let people do what they want, never done me any harm.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m bi, this lifestyle turned my head but I don’t put I’m bi on here for several reasons. It’s my business, no I don’t claim to be fab straight but I don’t use the website to meet men either so it saves on the unnecessary messages. Although I probably get as much messages anyway so can’t win. I choose to meet who I like just like everyone else, I don’t get what people hang up is about it. Either way single men can’t win whatever they do because couples feel they’re entitled.

I also have a couples profile too, she got me in this bi pickle she loves it so I see both sides. Let people do what they want, never done me any harm. "

Everyone is entitled to a choice. Our choice would be to not consider a guy who says he is straight on his profile, but claims he is bi in his message.

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By *raditionalManMan
over a year ago

Walkden. Manchester


"I’m bi, this lifestyle turned my head but I don’t put I’m bi on here for several reasons. It’s my business, no I don’t claim to be fab straight but I don’t use the website to meet men either so it saves on the unnecessary messages. Although I probably get as much messages anyway so can’t win. I choose to meet who I like just like everyone else, I don’t get what people hang up is about it. Either way single men can’t win whatever they do because couples feel they’re entitled.

I also have a couples profile too, she got me in this bi pickle she loves it so I see both sides. Let people do what they want, never done me any harm.

Everyone is entitled to a choice. Our choice would be to not consider a guy who says he is straight on his profile, but claims he is bi in his message."

Exactly my stance, we all have a choice who we meet and converse to and it’s done me no harm discussing me being bi when exchanging messages. I’m bi on out couples profile becuase we meet bi men and women but I keep mine straight to avoid the unwanted messages becuase I’m not looking to meet single bi men like I said it works for me so I carry on

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By *idsBiGuyMan
over a year ago

Tamworth

Generalising here, but there are two main reasons.

1) Not everyone is out to everyone, and that’s entirely fair enough. It’s no one’s place to out anyone and if someone isn’t ready to be open about it that’s fair enough.

2) The second reason is far from benign. You can call it a double standard if you must, but I prefer to call it what it is - homophobia. Ironically, this scene has a very long way to go when it comes to equality and acceptance. There are far too many profiles on here that state intolerant shit such as “no disgusting bi guys, bi women are ok”, and “no one that likes fucking trannies” (seriously, leave your slurs at the fucking door or better yet, leave).

I’ve also experienced this kind of discriminatory behaviour in a well known swingers’ club (whose identity will remain anonymous), who have made it perfectly clear that they themselves aren’t a fan of bisexual encounters between males whilst the same between girls is perfectly fine.

There’s a profound lesson that some of the gentlemen on here (as well as far and wide) can learn: If you’re that threatened that bisexual men won’t be able to control themselves around you and that your boundaries will be ignored, maybe take a minute to think about how your actions may make some women feel.

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By *aggy dollsCouple
over a year ago

bradford


"Generalising here, but there are two main reasons.

1) Not everyone is out to everyone, and that’s entirely fair enough. It’s no one’s place to out anyone and if someone isn’t ready to be open about it that’s fair enough.

2) The second reason is far from benign. You can call it a double standard if you must, but I prefer to call it what it is - homophobia. Ironically, this scene has a very long way to go when it comes to equality and acceptance. There are far too many profiles on here that state intolerant shit such as “no disgusting bi guys, bi women are ok”, and “no one that likes fucking trannies” (seriously, leave your slurs at the fucking door or better yet, leave).

I’ve also experienced this kind of discriminatory behaviour in a well known swingers’ club (whose identity will remain anonymous), who have made it perfectly clear that they themselves aren’t a fan of bisexual encounters between males whilst the same between girls is perfectly fine.

There’s a profound lesson that some of the gentlemen on here (as well as far and wide) can learn: If you’re that threatened that bisexual men won’t be able to control themselves around you and that your boundaries will be ignored, maybe take a minute to think about how your actions may make some women feel. "

Well said that man!

Mr H.

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace


"Generalising here, but there are two main reasons.

1) Not everyone is out to everyone, and that’s entirely fair enough. It’s no one’s place to out anyone and if someone isn’t ready to be open about it that’s fair enough.

2) The second reason is far from benign. You can call it a double standard if you must, but I prefer to call it what it is - homophobia. Ironically, this scene has a very long way to go when it comes to equality and acceptance. There are far too many profiles on here that state intolerant shit such as “no disgusting bi guys, bi women are ok”, and “no one that likes fucking trannies” (seriously, leave your slurs at the fucking door or better yet, leave).

I’ve also experienced this kind of discriminatory behaviour in a well known swingers’ club (whose identity will remain anonymous), who have made it perfectly clear that they themselves aren’t a fan of bisexual encounters between males whilst the same between girls is perfectly fine.

There’s a profound lesson that some of the gentlemen on here (as well as far and wide) can learn: If you’re that threatened that bisexual men won’t be able to control themselves around you and that your boundaries will be ignored, maybe take a minute to think about how your actions may make some women feel. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Generalising here, but there are two main reasons.

1) Not everyone is out to everyone, and that’s entirely fair enough. It’s no one’s place to out anyone and if someone isn’t ready to be open about it that’s fair enough.

2) The second reason is far from benign. You can call it a double standard if you must, but I prefer to call it what it is - homophobia. Ironically, this scene has a very long way to go when it comes to equality and acceptance. There are far too many profiles on here that state intolerant shit such as “no disgusting bi guys, bi women are ok”, and “no one that likes fucking trannies” (seriously, leave your slurs at the fucking door or better yet, leave).

I’ve also experienced this kind of discriminatory behaviour in a well known swingers’ club (whose identity will remain anonymous), who have made it perfectly clear that they themselves aren’t a fan of bisexual encounters between males whilst the same between girls is perfectly fine.

There’s a profound lesson that some of the gentlemen on here (as well as far and wide) can learn: If you’re that threatened that bisexual men won’t be able to control themselves around you and that your boundaries will be ignored, maybe take a minute to think about how your actions may make some women feel. "

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE


"Because there is an astonishing amount of male homophobia here.

"no guys who had had bi experiences"

Urgh. We try and push guys to be honest but ffs, they prejudice against them, but not their wives, is disgusting. "

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By *aughtyloversCouple
over a year ago

Hull

Our perspective... if a guy has bi on his profile.

In general men are far more promiscuous than women and are far more likely to have unsafe sex. Men on men sex is far riskier also.

There are lots of men meeting men and also couples.

We know this is not the case for all bi men but it must put a lot of people off.

This is just a thought on our part.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Our perspective... if a guy has bi on his profile.

In general men are far more promiscuous than women and are far more likely to have unsafe sex. Men on men sex is far riskier also.

There are lots of men meeting men and also couples.

We know this is not the case for all bi men but it must put a lot of people off.

This is just a thought on our part. "

Second time I’ve seen this disgusting sweeping generalisation today. Do you think men are stupid? Do you think safe sex isn’t priority. Education folks. But hey don’t mind all the women in here who are advertising in their photos of bareback sex and cream pies. Homophobia right there in your statement. Men having sex with men means aids. Just say that’s what you think. I wish there was an angry face emoji. It’s 2021 not 1987

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By *manaWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"Generalising here, but there are two main reasons.

1) Not everyone is out to everyone, and that’s entirely fair enough. It’s no one’s place to out anyone and if someone isn’t ready to be open about it that’s fair enough.

2) The second reason is far from benign. You can call it a double standard if you must, but I prefer to call it what it is - homophobia. Ironically, this scene has a very long way to go when it comes to equality and acceptance. There are far too many profiles on here that state intolerant shit such as “no disgusting bi guys, bi women are ok”, and “no one that likes fucking trannies” (seriously, leave your slurs at the fucking door or better yet, leave).

I’ve also experienced this kind of discriminatory behaviour in a well known swingers’ club (whose identity will remain anonymous), who have made it perfectly clear that they themselves aren’t a fan of bisexual encounters between males whilst the same between girls is perfectly fine.

There’s a profound lesson that some of the gentlemen on here (as well as far and wide) can learn: If you’re that threatened that bisexual men won’t be able to control themselves around you and that your boundaries will be ignored, maybe take a minute to think about how your actions may make some women feel. "

Well said!! Xx

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By *aggy dollsCouple
over a year ago

bradford


"Our perspective... if a guy has bi on his profile.

In general men are far more promiscuous than women and are far more likely to have unsafe sex. Men on men sex is far riskier also.

There are lots of men meeting men and also couples.

We know this is not the case for all bi men but it must put a lot of people off.

This is just a thought on our part.

Second time I’ve seen this disgusting sweeping generalisation today. Do you think men are stupid? Do you think safe sex isn’t priority. Education folks. But hey don’t mind all the women in here who are advertising in their photos of bareback sex and cream pies. Homophobia right there in your statement. Men having sex with men means aids. Just say that’s what you think. I wish there was an angry face emoji. It’s 2021 not 1987"

Can I say "THIS" ^ loud enough?

Mr H.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I put that I'm bisexual on my profile because no matter how fabulous they think they are I don't want to encourage anyone to contact me who is homophobic. Unfortunately there's a lot of ignorance about, such as the myths on here that men are more "promiscuous", more likely to have unsafe sex, the sex is more risky etc. But we bis aren't there to teach others. Even today, the B seems to be the most stigmatised category in LGBTQ+.

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"Our perspective... if a guy has bi on his profile.

In general men are far more promiscuous than women and are far more likely to have unsafe sex. Men on men sex is far riskier also.

There are lots of men meeting men and also couples.

We know this is not the case for all bi men but it must put a lot of people off.

This is just a thought on our part. "

I’m sorry to say but that’s absolute rubbish.

Bi guys are on the higher risk group of people, right next to sexually promiscuous people, aka swingers.

If you consider anal sex to be riskier, I’m assuming that you don’t meet people who have anal as an interest and carefully screen your meets for that as well?

Basically what you’ve written is an awful lot of stereotypical tropes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Our perspective... if a guy has bi on his profile.

In general men are far more promiscuous than women and are far more likely to have unsafe sex. Men on men sex is far riskier also.

There are lots of men meeting men and also couples.

We know this is not the case for all bi men but it must put a lot of people off.

This is just a thought on our part.

I’m sorry to say but that’s absolute rubbish.

Bi guys are on the higher risk group of people, right next to sexually promiscuous people, aka swingers.

If you consider anal sex to be riskier, I’m assuming that you don’t meet people who have anal as an interest and carefully screen your meets for that as well?

Basically what you’ve written is an awful lot of stereotypical tropes"

Your response was a little less emotive than mine... shocking stereotyping

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Our perspective... if a guy has bi on his profile.

In general men are far more promiscuous than women and are far more likely to have unsafe sex. Men on men sex is far riskier also.

There are lots of men meeting men and also couples.

We know this is not the case for all bi men but it must put a lot of people off.

This is just a thought on our part. "

And you as a single woman have never done bb sex then

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By *riendly BiMan
over a year ago

h


"Our perspective... if a guy has bi on his profile.

In general men are far more promiscuous than women and are far more likely to have unsafe sex. Men on men sex is far riskier also.

There are lots of men meeting men and also couples.

We know this is not the case for all bi men but it must put a lot of people off.

This is just a thought on our part.

And you as a single woman have never done bb sex then "

I think everyone at some point has had unprotected sex. I always insist on condoms if it’s with a man or woman.

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By *idsBiGuyMan
over a year ago

Tamworth


"Our perspective... if a guy has bi on his profile.

In general men are far more promiscuous than women and are far more likely to have unsafe sex. Men on men sex is far riskier also.

There are lots of men meeting men and also couples.

We know this is not the case for all bi men but it must put a lot of people off.

This is just a thought on our part. "

By all means, exercise your freedom of speech. On that note, I will exercise mine by calling you out on your incorrect assumptions and your homophobia.

Whilst I don’t want to legitimise your “argument” by stooping as low to debate it, I feel it would be remiss of me to not correct your incorrect assertions.

Men are not “more promiscuous”. That’s nonsense. Back up your claim with some evidence. This is a swingers site for crying out loud so get off your high horse and remember that this narrative is harmful to women as well.

Stating that men are more likely to have “unsafe” sex is also nonsense. First there’s no such thing as “safe” sex. It’s “safer” sex. Second, unless you start using (or do use) barrier form protection for everything including oral, you are just as likely to pick up chlamydia, gonorrhoea or syphilis as you are from penetrative sex. Third, us queer men have had HIV lessons rammed down our throats since we were teens. Why do you think so many of us are hella careful, get tested at least quarterly and take PReP? Fourth, women like bareback too, you know.

Men on men sex isn’t more risky, that’s wrong. Do you know what is? Anal sex. For the receptive partner. Something that incidentally is on your interests list. Or does that not count?

These sorts of assumptions are harmful to the scene and should be treated with the vitriol they deserve. I’m sick to the back teeth of the straights telling me all sorts of bullshit about my community as if they have some sort of moral fucking high ground. It’s complete nonsense like this that contributes to my almost chronic case of hetlag. Go educate yourselves and get out of the dark ages for christ sake.

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"Our perspective... if a guy has bi on his profile.

In general men are far more promiscuous than women and are far more likely to have unsafe sex. Men on men sex is far riskier also.

There are lots of men meeting men and also couples.

We know this is not the case for all bi men but it must put a lot of people off.

This is just a thought on our part.

By all means, exercise your freedom of speech. On that note, I will exercise mine by calling you out on your incorrect assumptions and your homophobia.

Whilst I don’t want to legitimise your “argument” by stooping as low to debate it, I feel it would be remiss of me to not correct your incorrect assertions.

Men are not “more promiscuous”. That’s nonsense. Back up your claim with some evidence. This is a swingers site for crying out loud so get off your high horse and remember that this narrative is harmful to women as well.

Stating that men are more likely to have “unsafe” sex is also nonsense. First there’s no such thing as “safe” sex. It’s “safer” sex. Second, unless you start using (or do use) barrier form protection for everything including oral, you are just as likely to pick up chlamydia, gonorrhoea or syphilis as you are from penetrative sex. Third, us queer men have had HIV lessons rammed down our throats since we were teens. Why do you think so many of us are hella careful, get tested at least quarterly and take PReP? Fourth, women like bareback too, you know.

Men on men sex isn’t more risky, that’s wrong. Do you know what is? Anal sex. For the receptive partner. Something that incidentally is on your interests list. Or does that not count?

These sorts of assumptions are harmful to the scene and should be treated with the vitriol they deserve. I’m sick to the back teeth of the straights telling me all sorts of bullshit about my community as if they have some sort of moral fucking high ground. It’s complete nonsense like this that contributes to my almost chronic case of hetlag. Go educate yourselves and get out of the dark ages for christ sake. "

There needs to be an applause emoji here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Our perspective... if a guy has bi on his profile.

In general men are far more promiscuous than women and are far more likely to have unsafe sex. Men on men sex is far riskier also.

There are lots of men meeting men and also couples.

We know this is not the case for all bi men but it must put a lot of people off.

This is just a thought on our part.

By all means, exercise your freedom of speech. On that note, I will exercise mine by calling you out on your incorrect assumptions and your homophobia.

Whilst I don’t want to legitimise your “argument” by stooping as low to debate it, I feel it would be remiss of me to not correct your incorrect assertions.

Men are not “more promiscuous”. That’s nonsense. Back up your claim with some evidence. This is a swingers site for crying out loud so get off your high horse and remember that this narrative is harmful to women as well.

Stating that men are more likely to have “unsafe” sex is also nonsense. First there’s no such thing as “safe” sex. It’s “safer” sex. Second, unless you start using (or do use) barrier form protection for everything including oral, you are just as likely to pick up chlamydia, gonorrhoea or syphilis as you are from penetrative sex. Third, us queer men have had HIV lessons rammed down our throats since we were teens. Why do you think so many of us are hella careful, get tested at least quarterly and take PReP? Fourth, women like bareback too, you know.

Men on men sex isn’t more risky, that’s wrong. Do you know what is? Anal sex. For the receptive partner. Something that incidentally is on your interests list. Or does that not count?

These sorts of assumptions are harmful to the scene and should be treated with the vitriol they deserve. I’m sick to the back teeth of the straights telling me all sorts of bullshit about my community as if they have some sort of moral fucking high ground. It’s complete nonsense like this that contributes to my almost chronic case of hetlag. Go educate yourselves and get out of the dark ages for christ sake.

There needs to be an applause emoji here.

"

I think between us we have educated the uneducated. Well done fellas.. fucking homophobes

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By *idsBiGuyMan
over a year ago

Tamworth


"

I think between us we have educated the uneducated. Well done fellas.. fucking homophobes"

Whilst it’d be nice to think so, unfortunately you cannot educate an unwilling recipient so judgement on that front must be reserved

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"

I think between us we have educated the uneducated. Well done fellas.. fucking homophobes

Whilst it’d be nice to think so, unfortunately you cannot educate an unwilling recipient so judgement on that front must be reserved "

I agree. The stigma surrounding bi men is deep and based in a lot of things, phobia and misinformation are just two of them.

I’ve found that it often hides in the clothes of ‘preference’ and many consider those to be sacrosanct

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By *idsBiGuyMan
over a year ago

Tamworth

Beware the wolf in sheep’s clothing.

Ignorance can be forgiven. Wilful ignorance however is a different beast.

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By *ain and sortedMan
over a year ago

Old Harlow Essex

Bi and happy yo explore, not frightened of anyone's sexualoty. Let the fun begin

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By *aggy dollsCouple
over a year ago

bradford


"Our perspective... if a guy has bi on his profile.

In general men are far more promiscuous than women and are far more likely to have unsafe sex. Men on men sex is far riskier also.

There are lots of men meeting men and also couples.

We know this is not the case for all bi men but it must put a lot of people off.

This is just a thought on our part.

By all means, exercise your freedom of speech. On that note, I will exercise mine by calling you out on your incorrect assumptions and your homophobia.

Whilst I don’t want to legitimise your “argument” by stooping as low to debate it, I feel it would be remiss of me to not correct your incorrect assertions.

Men are not “more promiscuous”. That’s nonsense. Back up your claim with some evidence. This is a swingers site for crying out loud so get off your high horse and remember that this narrative is harmful to women as well.

Stating that men are more likely to have “unsafe” sex is also nonsense. First there’s no such thing as “safe” sex. It’s “safer” sex. Second, unless you start using (or do use) barrier form protection for everything including oral, you are just as likely to pick up chlamydia, gonorrhoea or syphilis as you are from penetrative sex. Third, us queer men have had HIV lessons rammed down our throats since we were teens. Why do you think so many of us are hella careful, get tested at least quarterly and take PReP? Fourth, women like bareback too, you know.

Men on men sex isn’t more risky, that’s wrong. Do you know what is? Anal sex. For the receptive partner. Something that incidentally is on your interests list. Or does that not count?

These sorts of assumptions are harmful to the scene and should be treated with the vitriol they deserve. I’m sick to the back teeth of the straights telling me all sorts of bullshit about my community as if they have some sort of moral fucking high ground. It’s complete nonsense like this that contributes to my almost chronic case of hetlag. Go educate yourselves and get out of the dark ages for christ sake. "

I doff my cap to you sir, you are quite possibly the only single male on this site to nail anything this evening

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find it incredibly difficult to find women who are into bi men and even couples who are up for bi fun are like unicorns.

Wish there were some near me who wanted to play.

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By *idsBiGuyMan
over a year ago

Tamworth


"I doff my cap to you sir, you are quite possibly the only single male on this site to nail anything this evening "

Ahahahaha why thank you! I’m apparently here all evening!

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By *E_13Couple
over a year ago

Burton on trent


"Our perspective... if a guy has bi on his profile.

In general men are far more promiscuous than women and are far more likely to have unsafe sex. Men on men sex is far riskier also.

There are lots of men meeting men and also couples.

We know this is not the case for all bi men but it must put a lot of people off.

This is just a thought on our part.

By all means, exercise your freedom of speech. On that note, I will exercise mine by calling you out on your incorrect assumptions and your homophobia.

Whilst I don’t want to legitimise your “argument” by stooping as low to debate it, I feel it would be remiss of me to not correct your incorrect assertions.

Men are not “more promiscuous”. That’s nonsense. Back up your claim with some evidence. This is a swingers site for crying out loud so get off your high horse and remember that this narrative is harmful to women as well.

Stating that men are more likely to have “unsafe” sex is also nonsense. First there’s no such thing as “safe” sex. It’s “safer” sex. Second, unless you start using (or do use) barrier form protection for everything including oral, you are just as likely to pick up chlamydia, gonorrhoea or syphilis as you are from penetrative sex. Third, us queer men have had HIV lessons rammed down our throats since we were teens. Why do you think so many of us are hella careful, get tested at least quarterly and take PReP? Fourth, women like bareback too, you know.

Men on men sex isn’t more risky, that’s wrong. Do you know what is? Anal sex. For the receptive partner. Something that incidentally is on your interests list. Or does that not count?

These sorts of assumptions are harmful to the scene and should be treated with the vitriol they deserve. I’m sick to the back teeth of the straights telling me all sorts of bullshit about my community as if they have some sort of moral fucking high ground. It’s complete nonsense like this that contributes to my almost chronic case of hetlag. Go educate yourselves and get out of the dark ages for christ sake. "

totally true.

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By *E_13Couple
over a year ago

Burton on trent

I think a lot of guys presume if the male is bi or curious he's going to try it on with straight men. So men maybe feel reluctant to put bi on their profile. Homophobia is still a thing, sadly.

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By *istressdandsubtCouple
over a year ago

caterham

We think bi people have all the best fun

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By *idsBiGuyMan
over a year ago

Tamworth


"We think bi people have all the best fun "

I mean, I’d be inclined to agree, but alas I’m biased

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By *erry bull1Man
over a year ago

doncaster

I’m bi and not the least bit ashamed of it , I get tested regular , unlike a lot of so called straight guys who gave multiple sex with others

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By *m3232Man
over a year ago

maidenhead


"We think bi people have all the best fun "

We definitely do.

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By *raditionalManMan
over a year ago

Walkden. Manchester

Who fancies a good old bonk when we can! Sod the haters, the outraged and those that think that their opinion is the only one allowed! In fact a massive bi orgy, always been the best parties I’ve been too..... my first as an imposter becuase I wasn’t even bi but I left said night a bi lad!

I don’t care what people think about my ‘straight’ profile that’s my choice for my reasons and its my loss if Tom, Dick or Heidi don’t understand why I don’t or judge becuase I haven’t. I have the choice of who I play with just like you do, I make no apologies for being picky either. I choose not to engage with the ‘if your profile says straight’ types. I go with the flow if I like something I like it if I don’t I don’t I’m more than comfortable saying no and discussing boundaries just like I am comfortable being told it’s not someone’s cup of tea!

Anyway if there’s a bi party going when the world opens count me (and her Indoors) in..... she’s enjoys watching me more than I do ha!

Txt bk xx

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By *rumcouple2013Couple
over a year ago

Tamworth

I Mr Brum class myself as bi curious as I am only bi oral. Not sure if I want to go further, but two years ago I was straight.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Plenty of us clearly state Bi on our profiles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If a woman performs orally on another woman , she is bi , same for guys .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t suck cock but like mine played and sucked and I love ducking ass

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are both bi and its on our profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Really couldn't give a toss about those who are homophobic, equally we are specific in saying that having straight on your profile won't get a response but it doesn't stop them messaging.

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By *urioustoswingMan
over a year ago

london

Well... I’m just confused by the men who say they’re bi and curious and then make out they don’t want anything to do with guys

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By *laytimenowMan
over a year ago

Essex

Some guys wanna play with both at the same time & not just with one .

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By *.nottsbloke..Man
over a year ago

the vale

If you cant honest about it on here of all places

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By *lasphemouscoupleCouple
over a year ago

Cambridgeshire

We're an openly bi couple x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We're an openly bi couple x"

Why not TV's then?

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By *pertureTV/TS
over a year ago

New Ferry, wirral in stockings and sussies

its mostly fear, scared they might enjoy it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"its mostly fear, scared they might enjoy it."

Or their Mrs is insecure

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By * New YorkieMan
over a year ago

Leeds


"I don't fancy guys but love sucking cock not sure what that makes me "bi-something"?"
This is me too. Love giving oral to both..

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By *lasphemouscoupleCouple
over a year ago

Cambridgeshire


"We're an openly bi couple x

Why not TV's then?"

Personal preference as with anything on here,

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham


"We're an openly bi couple x

Why not TV's then?

Personal preference as with anything on here, "

I think those words "personal preference" just miss every intelligent stopping off point. They shouldn't be seen to be the end of a conversation, they should be the start of one.

In the right context, you should feel able to dig into your "preferences" for analysis. There should be no inherent position that you're bigoted or such, but you should be able to acknowledge that every preference naturally comes from *somewhere*. There are always reasons they exist.

Most reasons tend to be deeply rooted in the society and culture you are a product of. That's not your "fault" and ultimately you are under no obligation to justify or change anything. You're allowed to not know, it's allowed to just be some inherent feeling. But there are always reasons for who you are and how you work.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We're an openly bi couple x

Why not TV's then?

Personal preference as with anything on here,

I think those words "personal preference" just miss every intelligent stopping off point. They shouldn't be seen to be the end of a conversation, they should be the start of one.

In the right context, you should feel able to dig into your "preferences" for analysis. There should be no inherent position that you're bigoted or such, but you should be able to acknowledge that every preference naturally comes from *somewhere*. There are always reasons they exist.

Most reasons tend to be deeply rooted in the society and culture you are a product of. That's not your "fault" and ultimately you are under no obligation to justify or change anything. You're allowed to not know, it's allowed to just be some inherent feeling. But there are always reasons for who you are and how you work. "

I find convincing tv's sexy. Have to be completely smoorh though to go with the feminine persona they are depicting. Although a hairy guy wearing knickers is a big no no for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We aren’t ashamed of it. We’ve loved the meets we’ve had with be guys over the years and play straight of that’s what people want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It was really difficult at first to come out as bi as tbh I hadn’t really done much other than topping other bi or Gays but now it seems normal that I should pit it down. Certainly happy to meet anyone and very relaxed about it with no drama

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By *hoot45Man
over a year ago

Ramsgate

Most meets I’ve had have been with bi and bi curious men, although some don’t say on their profile. It’s up to them how they want to describe themselves. Some guys get a kick out of being a ‘secret’ bi. If that’s what floats your boat that’s fine with me.

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By *lasphemouscoupleCouple
over a year ago

Cambridgeshire


"We're an openly bi couple x

Why not TV's then?

Personal preference as with anything on here,

I think those words "personal preference" just miss every intelligent stopping off point. They shouldn't be seen to be the end of a conversation, they should be the start of one.

In the right context, you should feel able to dig into your "preferences" for analysis. There should be no inherent position that you're bigoted or such, but you should be able to acknowledge that every preference naturally comes from *somewhere*. There are always reasons they exist.

Most reasons tend to be deeply rooted in the society and culture you are a product of. That's not your "fault" and ultimately you are under no obligation to justify or change anything. You're allowed to not know, it's allowed to just be some inherent feeling. But there are always reasons for who you are and how you work. "

Not sure why you think we haven't explored our preferences and who we are.. kind of patronising.. We're all here for different reasons, we have a couples profile and singles profiles each and experience things together and apart. Not sure why that seems to be an issue for some people.. we choose who we are attracted too surely on personal preference.. it is not unintelligent.. It's personal.

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham


" Not sure why you think we haven't explored our preferences and who we are.. kind of patronising.. We're all here for different reasons, we have a couples profile and singles profiles each and experience things together and apart. Not sure why that seems to be an issue for some people.. we choose who we are attracted too surely on personal preference.. it is not unintelligent.. It's personal. "

I'm not saying *you* haven't, but plenty of members here maintain there is no reason. It's "just our preferences". If you don't take that line, then great. I'm more open to investigating things here, but that's not necessary.

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By *cooby5555Man
over a year ago

galway

Bi here bottom tried topping but cant keep hard enough but no problem giving anal to women weird

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Bi here bottom tried topping but cant keep hard enough but no problem giving anal to women weird"

Not weird at all. You're top with women, bottom with men. Sexuality is a very diverse thing. It's great when you understand yours.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

fully bi male here, both of us love bi guy play when we meet, its such a turn on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Orally bi male here so much fun when being with bi couples

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By *rhugesMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

It's difficult for men. We try to get the widest audience we can. If we say we're bi it puts some couples off if we say we're straight it but some couples off.

Bi curious is the middle ground were it implies we're happy to be bi but not tried it and am happy to play straight as well

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By *inegarStrokesMan
over a year ago

Uxbridge

It’s a daily occurrence getting messages from straight guys wanting to ‘play’ and I don’t get it.

What makes them think I’ll even think twice when the first thing I see on their profile is straight?

What are we gonna play monopoly whilst having a beer?

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By *lldaybreakfastMan
over a year ago

leeds

Bi cd here always looking for nice bi meet with couples

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By *aggy dollsCouple
over a year ago

bradford


"It’s a daily occurrence getting messages from straight guys wanting to ‘play’ and I don’t get it.

What makes them think I’ll even think twice when the first thing I see on their profile is straight?

What are we gonna play monopoly whilst having a beer? "

Come on now theres enough kink shaming on this site dont start picking on monopoly it's a great game.

Mr H.

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By *inegarStrokesMan
over a year ago

Uxbridge

Haha

But I wanted to go to town not go to jail

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We only play bi if the male is bi but so called straight cpls will be reluctant to play straight with us. Sad

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve lost count of the number of contacts I’ve had from men who are only looking for women, or say no men. There are 50 shades of bi.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No double standards or bi hiding here xxx"

Sorry to go off topic, but that is one stunning bum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't fancy guys but love sucking cock not sure what that makes me "bi-something"?"

This is exactly me! There needs to be another option on the profile! Maybe open minded? I don’t know!

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By *inky_CarpenterMan
over a year ago

Portsmouth

If people are lying about their sexuality just to get laid, then they're probably more likely to lie about other things like testing, contraceptive practices, number of partners, relationship status etc....

I understand that some couples don't list it, so as to limit the number of messages they receive. But I expect a hint or mention in their bio at least....

Just to point out that Bi men, are no more promiscuous than str8 men. oral sex and Anal sex are no riskier in terms or transmission rates between two men and a man and a woman. And that because of targeted health campaigns, bi and gay men are often more educated about sexual health than hetro men.

And lastly individual sexuality is a spectrum and a journey, so be forgiving to people who are just starting to explore or unsure about how to label themselves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm orally bi, like someone mentioned here, i also don't fancy men but I love sucking cock, but I absolutely adore everything about women. I can't do anal with a man, but I can with a female. I'm not a kisser when it comes to men, but kissing a woman is essential. So i don't know what that makes me or if there's a word for, but I am who I am and wouldn't change it, especially just to get someone in bed. So if any of you couples are looking for an orally bi guy, hit me up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No shame for either of us, wouldn't be here if we had any doubts about our sexuality. Bi and proud.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just to add to this thread, just got a meet with a really hunky guy

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford

We'd always pick a bi guy over a straight guy....twice the fun

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford


"I don't fancy guys but love sucking cock not sure what that makes me "bi-something"?

This is exactly me! There needs to be another option on the profile! Maybe open minded? I don’t know! "

Odd.....tried to agree and say that I (Bry) am the same...."heteexible" but the site changes a the r-o-f-l to an emoji!

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By *entlemenpipMan
over a year ago

not far

It's a real mystery to me im openly bi and find it does turn some away

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By *aggy dollsCouple
over a year ago

bradford


"We'd always pick a bi guy over a straight guy....twice the fun "

My humble apologies but... ooft! what a gorgeous couple.

Mr H

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By *ot4funcoupleCouple
over a year ago

South Wales

No problem here fully bi

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By *op couple TelfordMan
over a year ago

Telford - Shropshire - Midlands

Bi I find is such a great feeling when you experience all that pleasure has to offer.

Fully Bi here and proud of who I am..??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know why

A lot of Women won't go with Bi guys on here

Just like a lot of "Straight" guys will go with men

then there is a lot of couples that won't go with a guy that isn't Bi

Also there is a lot of sad guys that are pretending to be a Couple

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By *aked2sumCouple
over a year ago

Coast

Why do people need labels ? Mayb they don’t want an influx of messages from bi and gay men

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By *exleybuffboyMan
over a year ago

sidcup and Spain

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because there is an astonishing amount of male homophobia here.

"no guys who had had bi experiences"

Urgh. We try and push guys to be honest but ffs, they prejudice against them, but not their wives, is disgusting.

It’s sad but very very true. It’s celebrated for women but for us guys it is still frowned upon by many. The abuse I have received in the past woukd blow your mind"

I get this all the time with couples and it’s particularly gallling when the female is listed as bi. Totally hypocritical !!!!!

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By *rumcouple2013Couple
over a year ago

Tamworth

I am bi curious. Enjoy oral with men and turns my good lady on loads to watch.

I clearly state I am bi curious and yes it does turn others away. A couple we have met many times when I was straight have no blocked us because I am bi curious.

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By *etwifeandhim69Couple
over a year ago

Darlington


"Because there is an astonishing amount of male homophobia here.

"no guys who had had bi experiences"

Urgh. We try and push guys to be honest but ffs, they prejudice against them, but not their wives, is disgusting.

It’s sad but very very true. It’s celebrated for women but for us guys it is still frowned upon by many. The abuse I have received in the past woukd blow your mind

I get this all the time with couples and it’s particularly gallling when the female is listed as bi. Totally hypocritical !!!!!"

So are you saying because my wife is bi we should automatically accept bi guys for meets because its hypocritical if we dont?

What are you guys smoking?

Not meeting bi guys does not make you homopbobic. Do you guys understand what you are saying? The fact someone does not want to have sex with you does not make any one a bigot, regardless of their reasons. Furthermore, making comparisons to bi women is completely nonsensical. A women might be bi but does not wish to meet a bi guy does not make them a bigot either.

I am not in any way shape or form justifying any sort of prejudice or abuse you may have received. That's wrong at every level and anyone doing that on this site should be permanently banned at every level but that still does not change how some people on this site paint the whole "not meeting bi guys picture".

It's not a predjudice to not want to meet bi guys / bi guy couples for sexual liaisons. I'm a 100% straight guy, my wifes the bi one. Yes I like seeing her with other women. What's it to anyone else?

Two guys doing anything do nothing for her and is never going to happen with me.

You can all say "I'll play straight" all you want but we all know some guys get carried away. Obviously not all guys but if we dont know these guys and best not ever be in that situation.

Even the whole "theres an std stigma attached" doesnt work as fab knows we are a full swap couple who,s done enough parties and seperate solo meets in our time. We take every precaution possible.

So it raises the question, why meet any bi guys to begin with? We do this for our fun, and that fun revolves around certain criteria being met and being on the exact same wave length as those we meet.

I'll be the first to stand by the LGBTQ community but I want sit and be told we are hypocrites or prejudice just because we wont meet bi guys.

I appreciate these comments might be directed towards those who sent you abusive messages but weve spent years perusing on fab forums and the whole bi guy thing has come up frequently over the years and all to often, people who won't get bi guys are painted as the villains of the story "just because".

People can choose not to meet you for any reason they want. What they dont get to do is give you abuse for it. That's ultimetly all this should boil down to.

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By *nc31Man
over a year ago

uxbridge

I am bi but none of my friends or family know this, its horrible that it's more acceptable for women to come out but not males. I told my gf when we first went out, I had to be honest n 16 years later had lots of 3sums with bi guys n her. I couldn't be with someone who can't accept it, I lost lots of so called friends due to them being homophobes sad world

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By *rKinksMan
over a year ago

Alton

As everyone has said it's a horrible case of homophobia.

Also think sexism comes into it as well. Think the is a lot of pressure on straight women to play bi or it's even expected.

Typically thinking of women as indecisive (not saying bi women are)

Where's men have to men have to be manly and only fuck women. (Lets not mention the Spartans to them)

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By *rs-Naughty_Mr-CuddlesCouple
over a year ago

Nr coleford

Bi couple here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Couple with orally bi guy here ! x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm very happily bi and I don't care if people don't like it. Entirely their problem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm bi and happy with who I am. If people don't like it that's their issue not mine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are so many moving parts to one's sexuality that just can't be covered by two or three options on here. Yes I've sucked a cock or two (pause whilst you clutch your pearls in judgement) but that's as far as I want to go with another bloke to be honest.

If that makes me Bisexual in the eyes of the reader then so be it. Thing is I prefer to identify as straight. So sue me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm bi and happy with who I am. If people don't like it that's their issue not mine.

"

This

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By *rKinksMan
over a year ago

Alton


"There are so many moving parts to one's sexuality that just can't be covered by two or three options on here. Yes I've sucked a cock or two (pause whilst you clutch your pearls in judgement) but that's as far as I want to go with another bloke to be honest.

If that makes me Bisexual in the eyes of the reader then so be it. Thing is I prefer to identify as straight. So sue me "

This.

I describe myself as bi sexual heteromantic to people online but straight to people day to day

Cause id have sex with a ma but dont feel a romantic connection

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By *ot4funcoupleCouple
over a year ago

South Wales

Had far more fun since realising we are both bi x

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By *romit1Man
over a year ago

pontefract

Am bi curious and only played a couple of times do like to look at cocks though but not them all also not attracted to men think it must be a sexual thing

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By *rMrs84Couple
over a year ago

Doncaster

We’re not. Figure we’d rather have people want us for what we actually are.

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By *r mrs pCouple
over a year ago

taunton


"Why are guys/couples ashamed of advertising the male is Bi? Why are you ashamed to admit you’re Bi but it’s ok and accepted that the Mrs is Bi!!!

If you’re Bi they don’t be ashamed and put you’re straight to increase your chances of having fun!!!"

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By *ethRyanCouple
over a year ago

Preston

We're honest and would prefer if everyone comes could also be too!

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By *arkest_desire1Man
over a year ago

fleet

I think fab could do with changing its sexuality options. I have sucked a few cocks and had a couple guys fuck me, but I wouldn’t want to date a guy.

A real cock feels so much better than a strap on or dildo.

It’s a shame that single guys get branded poorly on here.

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By *ams12345Man
over a year ago

london

Still waiting to meet a naughty bi couple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fully bisexual, if you can’t be honest and true to yourself on here, well where can you

I love sucking cock

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very bi curious learning what it is all about only ever had things done to me but enjoying learning so not ashamed to hide it

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By *ub_n_wifeCouple
over a year ago

Spilsby

I think it’s really upsetting.

We went to a house party once and the question of who’s bi was asked, ladies hands up not a problem. Men’s turn, the host pushed his hands as close to the floor as possible, quite childishly. What guy would feel comfortable and accepted in that situation? My other half didn’t and I don’t blame him.

Added to to the fact that it’s something he’s only recently accepted and exploring.

There also seems to be more variables with bi guys. Tops, bottoms, kissing, no kissing. Ladies are all in lol, so it must feel a minefield to navigate for them without the added bias.

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By * New YorkieMan
over a year ago

Leeds


"I don't fancy guys but love sucking cock not sure what that makes me "bi-something"?"
Makes me wanna meet you two. lol

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By *ave1976XXXMan
over a year ago

newmarket

Openly bi

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By *adbod7519Man
over a year ago

Leeds

Some people see admitting being bi as being something to be ashamed of. Which is very sad. Homophobia plays a huge part.

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By *aggy dollsCouple
over a year ago

bradford


"I think it’s really upsetting.

We went to a house party once and the question of who’s bi was asked, ladies hands up not a problem. Men’s turn, the host pushed his hands as close to the floor as possible, quite childishly. What guy would feel comfortable and accepted in that situation? My other half didn’t and I don’t blame him.

Added to to the fact that it’s something he’s only recently accepted and exploring.

There also seems to be more variables with bi guys. Tops, bottoms, kissing, no kissing. Ladies are all in lol, so it must feel a minefield to navigate for them without the added bias."

That's out of order, there really is no need for such behaviour.

Mr H

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By *ovfuncoupleCouple
over a year ago

Coventry cv6

Never could understand bi-curious! You’re either bi or not!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never could understand bi-curious! You’re either bi or not! "

I agree

Bi-curious should only be for those who have never actually tried it.

Once you have then surely you know, if you liked it you're bi, if not then you're straight.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never could understand bi-curious! You’re either bi or not! "

Agreed - I understand some Don't know - but it nothing to be ashamed of

J xx Bisexual and proud

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By *KentMan
over a year ago

Canterbury

The amount of winks and messages I get from from guys who say straight on their profile...come on lads, much easier to find what you’re looking for it you’re open!

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By *ucianpoundCouple
over a year ago

Cap d’Agde, France


"Because there is an astonishing amount of male homophobia here.

"no guys who had had bi experiences"

Urgh. We try and push guys to be honest but ffs, they prejudice against them, but not their wives, is disgusting. "

Absolutely, but now living in France in a supposedly more macho society we find a lot more guys are open about their sexuality.

During the last 3-4 years virtually every couple we've played with have had a Bi guy at least.

As regards sex, attitudes seem a lot more relaxed here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love a bit of cock

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Couple with a proud bi male

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bi and proud

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By *aystay66Man
over a year ago

Manchester

Love a guy knelt in front off me sucking and rimming me so hot

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By *iliciousCouple
over a year ago

Sussex/Surrey


"Not us we’d rather not miss out on the fun x"

That’s a good way of putting it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Love a guy knelt in front off me sucking and rimming me so hot "

Sounds good to me.

G

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bi couple and proud

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