FabSwingers.com forum: What’s the point in sending a apperception email?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just curious as to why people send a email complimenting you on your pics/profile, knowing they are not what you are looking for.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be nice ? X

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"Just curious as to why people send a email complimenting you on your pics/profile, knowing they are not what you are looking for.....

Hoping to get a response

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By *issysbee69Woman
over a year ago

Brandenburg

Im cool with talking to ppl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some will be hoping for a response but many like myself are simply being nice with no hidden agenda. You must know what it feels like to receive a compliment op.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

A simple fab would be sufficient......

I’m not a sharpest pencil in the box , but it just seems like a waste of time.....

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE

I rarely message where I am not in their preferences, but I never message with expectations.

Its nice to say complimentary things and I hope they are met with the good intent they are sent.

I hope to bolster or cheer people up. I don't care if they reply either.

Its not an altruism either, as it makes me feel better as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been known to send compliments on a particularly clever username or amusing profile pic even though we live miles apart or aren't what eachother is looking for. I don't expect a reply to those messages but have had some good conversations off the back of them too. Just being friendly.

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By *ockosaurusMan
over a year ago

Warwick

I sometimes message people to complement them, to ask a question (for example where they took a photo as it looks a lovely spot to visit) or to comment on their status (especially if they sound like they need cheering up or are looking for someone to talk to) .

There is no ulterior motive, and if they reply, I'll not drag the conversation towards meets our sex, as that wasn't the point of it.

If they want to go that way, that's fine but most of the time I wouldn't as it's not why I contacted them.

I just like chatting to like minded people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's nice to be nice

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By *ockosaurusMan
over a year ago

Warwick

"I sometimes message people to complement them, to ask a question (for example where they took a photo as it looks a lovely spot to visit) or to comment on their status (especially if they sound like they need cheering up or are looking for someone to talk to) .

There is no ulterior motive, and if they reply, I'll not drag the conversation towards meets our sex, as that wasn't the point of it.

If they want to go that way, that's fine but most of the time I wouldn't as it's not why I contacted them.

I just like chatting to like minded people."

Which is also why I don't filter anyone from messaging me, even if they aren't my type.

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

I would rather that than something rude or in text language.

I would just accept the compliment... if they get a bit much or push to meet, there's always the block option.

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By *antric ecstasyMan
over a year ago

Co Durham

"Just curious as to why people send a email complimenting you on your pics/profile, knowing they are not what you are looking for.....

Simply because something brings pleasure and it's lovely to have that acknowledged. It's a friendly social interaction and a sign of appreciation. No more, no less.

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By * AND R 777Couple
over a year ago

Teesside

We have had a few today(don't normally get them) but a complement or two is always nice

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By *incscarcoupleCouple
over a year ago

GRIMSBY

Someone could be having a shitty day and 1 nice comment could change that,

no harm in it we used to get a few like that when we had our pictures public D used to like hearing what people had to say about her lol x

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By *oetic licenceCouple
over a year ago

Darley Dale

I don't mind random messages. Always try to reply. Its nice. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't get it either. And I'm an up my arse bitch for not responding!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do it if I’ve got the time and really like someone’s profile or pics. They could be miles away or I might not be what they’re looking for, but show my gratitude for posting the pics etc.

9 times out of 10, I get a lovely thank you back too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't get it either. And I'm an up my arse bitch for not responding!!"

Yeah turns out they aren't lovely people complimenting to make someone feel nice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A simple fab would be sufficient......

I’m not a sharpest pencil in the box , but it just seems like a waste of time....."

Following that train of thought though, so many things in life are a waste of time.

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By *heonixRaven 777Woman
over a year ago

Guildford

I like to show people that I have appreciated their efforts so if it’s quirky profile or picture and it’s made me smile. Why not let the person know that. They could well be having a crappy day and it may just brighten their day up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think personally there are a lot of nice lady’s on hear chatting with few some are even helping me with some personal issues shall we say so stick at it lockdown be over soon or so we hope

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Occasionally I’ve read an outstanding profile or looked at some pics that are amazing.

When that’s happened I’ve sent a message to tell them.

There’s no agenda, I’m simply letting them know.

We’ve received the same type of messages and it’s a really nice thing to happen

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough

"Some will be hoping for a response but many like myself are simply being nice with no hidden agenda. You must know what it feels like to receive a compliment op."

Compliments when well intended are lovely. But if I get a “you are beautiful” message I don’t feel the same way. They don’t know if I’m beautiful or not. It’s a ruse to get a response. It’s kinda sad that it makes us hardened, but to hear it from people we love is just the best.

V x

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By *uckslut and MCouple
over a year ago

Poole

I fem have dropped randoms a complimemtry message and don't exspect anything back.

Do as to others as you'd exspect. If it put's a spring in someones step for a day, thats only a good thing?

The hardest part is accepting a compliment.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

Just in case they want to thank you with a blow job?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Take the compliment for what it is a compliment

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By *moothGrooveWoman
over a year ago

Durham

It's nice to be important, but it's more important to be nice

If a particularly well thought out profile which has obviously taken some effort catches my eye, I like to drop a little compliment as I know I like it when it happens to me x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To be nice ? X"

I agree

It’s nice to be nice and give someone a compliment !!

It’s a refreshing change from hearing about the horrible stuff people get sent !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just curious as to why people send a email complimenting you on your pics/profile, knowing they are not what you are looking for.....

It's called paying a compliment with no ulterior motive...that's all...

I chat to peeps here and they know they're not my type... It's just an online platonic relationship and they know it will never go any further...but yet they're content to continue chatting which is nice... they're not just trying to get into my nicks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is no ulterior motive, and if they reply, I'll not drag the conversation towards meets our sex, as that wasn't the point of it.

If they want to go that way, that's fine but most of the time I wouldn't as it's not why I contacted them.

I just like chatting to like minded people.

Which is also why I don't filter anyone from messaging me, even if they aren't my type. "

We are the same. Sometimes it's just nice to chat. And, let's be honest, we all enjoy a compliment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some will be hoping for a response but many like myself are simply being nice with no hidden agenda. You must know what it feels like to receive a compliment op.

V x "

I completely get that, especially if that's all they say. I personally don't do it often, it has to be the whole profile that shines out for me. Not just pics. Unless it's a forum game of course.

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By *ornyJ3000Man
over a year ago

Near you

It’s a random act of kindness, of which there should be more. It’s the same reason I randomly sent out jelly babies to loads of people during the first lockdown. It gives me a warm fluffy feeling!

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By *all me FlikWoman
over a year ago

Galaxy Far Far Away

"Just curious as to why people send a email complimenting you on your pics/profile, knowing they are not what you are looking for.....

It's called paying a compliment with no ulterior motive...that's all...

Same here, its all part of being in the swinging lifestyle for me.

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By *heonixRaven 777Woman
over a year ago

Guildford

"It’s a random act of kindness, of which there should be more. It’s the same reason I randomly sent out jelly babies to loads of people during the first lockdown. It gives me a warm fluffy feeling!

Please can I request jelly tots next time you wanting a fluffy feeling

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

This is a interesting thread.....

I didn’t know random guys emailing....telling me I have a beautiful cock was a act of kindness....

Maybe I’ve lost the true ethos of swinging because I actually like to receive emails from people I’m compatible with that want to meet...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just curious as to why people send a email complimenting you on your pics/profile, knowing they are not what you are looking for.....

Mmm are you hoping for views/response

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By *histlerMan
over a year ago

Guildford

"Just curious as to why people send a email complimenting you on your pics/profile, knowing they are not what you are looking for.....

Because fundamentally people want to feel they have a chance.

Seeing the mail icon light up yellow gets you excited so people try their luck.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just curious as to why people send a email complimenting you on your pics/profile, knowing they are not what you are looking for.....

Mmm are you hoping for views/response

No , I actually come to the forums to discuss topics.... I’m in America so views on my profile are not my goal....

I’m looking for kinky sex

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough

"This is a interesting thread.....

I didn’t know random guys emailing....telling me I have a beautiful cock was a act of kindness....

Maybe I’ve lost the true ethos of swinging because I actually like to receive emails from people I’m compatible with that want to meet..."

Exactly. It’s not a random act of kindness. To say you liked my pictures or profile is a compliment because that’s on public view. To say something about me personally that isn’t known.... well that isn’t !!!

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By *artyanna16200TV/TS
over a year ago

leeds

Its called , c i v i l i t y, . women seem to manage it with ease, have you ever known a woman repeatedly waste her time?

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By *artyanna16200TV/TS
over a year ago

leeds

Thinking about how people intitiate contact, as a male , biologically speaking, males approach with compliments , some are an opening line , swiftly to he followed up with a request either for my location or my availabliity, women rarely initiate that approach and never with a follow up . They understand and discern quickly a ploy , from a compliment, because they ve been hearing it from a time before they understood how their bodies worked and how they were regarded in society . When i have had uninitiated spontaneous contact from a woman, its heen because of something i wrote which they felt and understood personally , and it made an emotional connection, a compliment isnt meant to be acted on , or have a reaction its freely given , with no desire to create anything other than a feeling of value , of worth , and because sometimes we cant give anything else , and wont ever have that person in our lives as lover or spouse , but we can offer our positive regard, which has meaning , and indicates our own shared sense of worth! It makes us feel good too, and the more you practise it , the better you feel, not only that , but you start to radiate something which people recognise and view positively , its a good habit and its rewarded by people recognising you. Some men have paid compliments on here , and quite quickly it becomes apparent that their lives are so complicated by maybe a dependant , frail or terminally ill partner, they cant accomodate or travel, they never have time, and probably feel guilty about their online fantasies unexplored, unfulfilled, and unconfessed! But a small , but profound comment , recognising humanity in the presentation of sexuality,free expression, and stirring an urge , is understated , by a simple compliment , Which is never time wasted,in my book at least

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By *xfordshireCoupleMFCouple
over a year ago

Nr. Oxford

We quite like getting messages from people complimenting our pictures. It’s nice to get a message longer than ‘How R U?’ sometimes.

It generally leads to a polite exchange of messages, some well wishing and then warm fuzzy feelings all round. As has been said it’s nice to be nice.

Not every message you get here is someone trying to get in your pants, and it doesn’t have to be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I send and receive compliment messages all the time with no hidden agenda... The world can be crap as it is and its nice to be nice... There are fabulous photos and fabulous people... Why not them know!!

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