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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Im at a point in life now where i want to meet someone and be happy but i really want to find a girl who will be happy to enjoy a open relationshil with same room swap and where we both go out seperatly for nsa sex and who i can watch other guys enjoy her. Question is do you think this is a realistic prospect? I dont want to waste my life and i dont really want a monogamy relationship but i dont like to lead on so i would bring it up within the first few weeks. The last and only time i was brave enough to bring it up i was dumped like a stone and mouthed off to high heaven but i only asked a question and didnt lie about it like many do.

Thoughts and experiences welcome.

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By *icassolifelikeMan
over a year ago

Luton

Have you ever thought of looking for the Holy Grail?

Best of luck OP!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im at a point in life now where i want to meet someone and be happy but i really want to find a girl who will be happy to enjoy a open relationshil with same room swap and where we both go out seperatly for nsa sex and who i can watch other guys enjoy her. Question is do you think this is a realistic prospect? I dont want to waste my life and i dont really want a monogamy relationship but i dont like to lead on so i would bring it up within the first few weeks. The last and only time i was brave enough to bring it up i was dumped like a stone and mouthed off to high heaven but i only asked a question and didnt lie about it like many do.

Thoughts and experiences welcome."

I'd say it's still a reality. Is swinging set in stone for you when it comes to a relationship tho?

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By *oncupiscence73Woman
over a year ago

South


"Im at a point in life now where i want to meet someone and be happy but i really want to find a girl who will be happy to enjoy a open relationshil with same room swap and where we both go out seperatly for nsa sex and who i can watch other guys enjoy her. Question is do you think this is a realistic prospect? I dont want to waste my life and i dont really want a monogamy relationship but i dont like to lead on so i would bring it up within the first few weeks. The last and only time i was brave enough to bring it up i was dumped like a stone and mouthed off to high heaven but i only asked a question and didnt lie about it like many do.

Thoughts and experiences welcome."

In an ideal world I’m looking for a swinging relationship but ideally not one where we play separately. Meet as a couple yeah sure etc etc etc. Not sure if it’s the holy grail or not but hey we keep looking.

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By *oxy lady40Woman
over a year ago

bridgwater

I suppose it could happen , if someone looking for the same good luck

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By *etWetWet453Couple
over a year ago

CAMBERLEY


"Im at a point in life now where i want to meet someone and be happy but i really want to find a girl who will be happy to enjoy a open relationshil with same room swap and where we both go out seperatly for nsa sex and who i can watch other guys enjoy her. Question is do you think this is a realistic prospect? I dont want to waste my life and i dont really want a monogamy relationship but i dont like to lead on so i would bring it up within the first few weeks. The last and only time i was brave enough to bring it up i was dumped like a stone and mouthed off to high heaven but i only asked a question and didnt lie about it like many do.

Thoughts and experiences welcome."

We met on another `fuck site` for what was meant to be a one night fuck date - here we are eight years later, living together in a fully grown up relationship. We know quite a few other long term couples who have met through this lifestyle. It`s not as unusual as a lot of people think. So yes, it is possible. Good luck.

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By *heonixRaven 777Woman
over a year ago

Guildford

No it’s not an unholy grail , monogamous relationships come in all different ways. What is or isn’t a monogamous relationship is really down to the people involved in that relationship.

Perhaps what you are seeking is more inline with a poly relationship and maybe you could look into poly munches to gain more information.

I hope you find what you seek

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By *rder66Man
over a year ago

Tatooine


"Im at a point in life now where i want to meet someone and be happy but i really want to find a girl who will be happy to enjoy a open relationshil with same room swap and where we both go out seperatly for nsa sex and who i can watch other guys enjoy her. Question is do you think this is a realistic prospect? I dont want to waste my life and i dont really want a monogamy relationship but i dont like to lead on so i would bring it up within the first few weeks. The last and only time i was brave enough to bring it up i was dumped like a stone and mouthed off to high heaven but i only asked a question and didnt lie about it like many do.

Thoughts and experiences welcome.

In an ideal world I’m looking for a swinging relationship but ideally not one where we play separately. Meet as a couple yeah sure etc etc etc. Not sure if it’s the holy grail or not but hey we keep looking. "
This, I think there are plenty of people who want a relationship but would like to experience sexual adventures as a couple. Just keep being honest with whom you approach about it.

At my age, it is a deal breaker but, I want someone to share all aspects of my life including the sexual aspect but,as a couple and not seperate.

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By *issysbee69Woman
over a year ago

Brandenburg

Im in a open marriage and I have a few friends who are fwb.

There are a few reasons why we decided to go open and honesty it was the best way for us.

One reason is his medical issues..

But the reason in the beginning was because we both had been married before and I was in a relationship where I was accused of cheating and I could have plenty but I was in a nun type of position where he was more involved with porn and watching it and when he wasn't watching porn he was stalking me at my job making sure that I wasn't cheating and he literally made me not even want him or anything with sex. But hubby (now) was cheating on and even though he was good enough for her and she wanted the guy with the drugs more.

So we decided to open marriage and honest and he knows whats going on and I have included him and he has my ok with his friends but he doesn't and at the moment he is having problems with the physical part.

But I think that its better to be up front and honest and even play together instead of lying cheating and hurting others and being caught would be the worst thing. But I know that people are not going to be ok with it all but you could ask them and see what they have in mind and be open minded and honest.

But good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Im at a point in life now where i want to meet someone and be happy but i really want to find a girl who will be happy to enjoy a open relationshil with same room swap and where we both go out seperatly for nsa sex and who i can watch other guys enjoy her. Question is do you think this is a realistic prospect? I dont want to waste my life and i dont really want a monogamy relationship but i dont like to lead on so i would bring it up within the first few weeks. The last and only time i was brave enough to bring it up i was dumped like a stone and mouthed off to high heaven but i only asked a question and didnt lie about it like many do.

Thoughts and experiences welcome.

I'd say it's still a reality. Is swinging set in stone for you when it comes to a relationship tho?"

Ideally yes as i want to us to enjoy sex with others and enjoy seeing her with other guys but because everyone is so judgemental its really hard to bring the subject up. I may have to settle for a relationship without unfortunatly as most wont even entertain the idea. Been single over 4 years so i dont get many chances of a girlfriend and if i meet someone and bring it up and they are horrified i could face another 4 years or more as a single and times moveing on so i will really have to judge the situation next time/if i get a girlfriend as to if i bring the subject up or not.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Im at a point in life now where i want to meet someone and be happy but i really want to find a girl who will be happy to enjoy a open relationshil with same room swap and where we both go out seperatly for nsa sex and who i can watch other guys enjoy her. Question is do you think this is a realistic prospect? I dont want to waste my life and i dont really want a monogamy relationship but i dont like to lead on so i would bring it up within the first few weeks. The last and only time i was brave enough to bring it up i was dumped like a stone and mouthed off to high heaven but i only asked a question and didnt lie about it like many do.

Thoughts and experiences welcome.

In an ideal world I’m looking for a swinging relationship but ideally not one where we play separately. Meet as a couple yeah sure etc etc etc. Not sure if it’s the holy grail or not but hey we keep looking. This, I think there are plenty of people who want a relationship but would like to experience sexual adventures as a couple. Just keep being honest with whom you approach about it.

At my age, it is a deal breaker but, I want someone to share all aspects of my life including the sexual aspect but,as a couple and not seperate."

To point out i want us to be a couple in every aspect of our relationship but i want to share her in the sexual aspect and let her enjoy sex alone as well as us together.

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By *etWetWet453Couple
over a year ago

CAMBERLEY


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At my age, it is a deal breaker but, I want someone to share all aspects of my life including the sexual aspect but,as a couple and not seperate."

Why do you say it is a deal breaker at your age? It wasn`t until I was 60 that I found my Goddess. Now 68 and still going strong. My father was shagging until he was 85, and then only stopped because he snuffed it. Hope it runs in the genes - the shagging that is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I havn't read your profile so you may have already done this but i would explain on it what you are looking for, that could help.

I wasn't looking for anything other than nsa sex but i met a guy while swinging and we are still together over 10 years later. X

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I havn't read your profile so you may have already done this but i would explain on it what you are looking for, that could help.

I wasn't looking for anything other than nsa sex but i met a guy while swinging and we are still together over 10 years later. X"

Yes i have mentioned as well as regular NSA im looking for relationship too so that the NSA meets know that when we meet thats all it will be unless they have specifically told me otherwise

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think there are plenty looking for exactly the same thing here. However, the pull/ excitement of meeting others often means they don't allow things to develop with just one and then its difficult to build a relationship.

I have decided to give up looking and be satisfied with my 6 wives and just have sundays off..well they need a break

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im at a point in life now where i want to meet someone and be happy but i really want to find a girl who will be happy to enjoy a open relationshil with same room swap and where we both go out seperatly for nsa sex and who i can watch other guys enjoy her. Question is do you think this is a realistic prospect? I dont want to waste my life and i dont really want a monogamy relationship but i dont like to lead on so i would bring it up within the first few weeks. The last and only time i was brave enough to bring it up i was dumped like a stone and mouthed off to high heaven but i only asked a question and didnt lie about it like many do.

Thoughts and experiences welcome.

I'd say it's still a reality. Is swinging set in stone for you when it comes to a relationship tho?

Ideally yes as i want to us to enjoy sex with others and enjoy seeing her with other guys but because everyone is so judgemental its really hard to bring the subject up. I may have to settle for a relationship without unfortunatly as most wont even entertain the idea. Been single over 4 years so i dont get many chances of a girlfriend and if i meet someone and bring it up and they are horrified i could face another 4 years or more as a single and times moveing on so i will really have to judge the situation next time/if i get a girlfriend as to if i bring the subject up or not."

Life is full of compromises. It's something that all us singles have to do i guess when finding a life partner. Good luck tho dude. Fab will help those abit more than the other sites I'd guess.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i would think that its alot easier for a woman to find a relationship on here due to the sheer number of men but the other way around well you'll have to be very lucky .. i have seen guys at clubs get into relationships but guess thats easier as its face to face...

you guys know how hard it is for you swinging just think how hard it would be to find a relationship..

best of luck op

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"i would think that its alot easier for a woman to find a relationship on here due to the sheer number of men but the other way around well you'll have to be very lucky .. i have seen guys at clubs get into relationships but guess thats easier as its face to face...

you guys know how hard it is for you swinging just think how hard it would be to find a relationship..

best of luck op "

Many thanks. Even tho i am a single guy i hate the fact that sites aew flooded with single guys as it spoils it for us genuine ones. I really do think websites should do something about the ratios to make them more even or even maybe tip the balance and have more single women as genuine single guys really do need a better chance at a level playing field.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i would think that its alot easier for a woman to find a relationship on here due to the sheer number of men but the other way around well you'll have to be very lucky .. i have seen guys at clubs get into relationships but guess thats easier as its face to face...

you guys know how hard it is for you swinging just think how hard it would be to find a relationship..

best of luck op

Many thanks. Even tho i am a single guy i hate the fact that sites aew flooded with single guys as it spoils it for us genuine ones. I really do think websites should do something about the ratios to make them more even or even maybe tip the balance and have more single women as genuine single guys really do need a better chance at a level playing field."

sorry but disagree about other guys ruining it for the good guys ..they ruin it for themselves guys need to stop blaming others and sort there own stuff out nobody but yourself can ruin it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i would think that its alot easier for a woman to find a relationship on here due to the sheer number of men but the other way around well you'll have to be very lucky .. i have seen guys at clubs get into relationships but guess thats easier as its face to face...

you guys know how hard it is for you swinging just think how hard it would be to find a relationship..

best of luck op

Many thanks. Even tho i am a single guy i hate the fact that sites aew flooded with single guys as it spoils it for us genuine ones. I really do think websites should do something about the ratios to make them more even or even maybe tip the balance and have more single women as genuine single guys really do need a better chance at a level playing field."

You can't blame us single guys. It's a site for all..

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish


"Im at a point in life now where i want to meet someone and be happy but i really want to find a girl who will be happy to enjoy a open relationshil with same room swap and where we both go out seperatly for nsa sex and who i can watch other guys enjoy her. Question is do you think this is a realistic prospect? I dont want to waste my life and i dont really want a monogamy relationship but i dont like to lead on so i would bring it up within the first few weeks. The last and only time i was brave enough to bring it up i was dumped like a stone and mouthed off to high heaven but i only asked a question and didnt lie about it like many do.

Thoughts and experiences welcome."

Kind of the same as I would like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Things happen when you least expect.

Don't try to hard or look as much.

Saves the pain.

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By *xhibitionisticvoyeurMan
over a year ago

Wrexham


"I really do think websites should do something about the ratios to make them more even or even maybe tip the balance and have more single women as genuine single guys really do need a better chance at a level playing field."

How? The only way i can see is to stop single men coming on to the site. Unless you propose somehow forcing single women onto the site...

As to the OP, I'd say you're better off trying to build a relationship with a swinger than trying to turn a partner into a swinger.

What will be will be don't try to force it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I really do think websites should do something about the ratios to make them more even or even maybe tip the balance and have more single women as genuine single guys really do need a better chance at a level playing field.

How? The only way i can see is to stop single men coming on to the site. Unless you propose somehow forcing single women onto the site...

As to the OP, I'd say you're better off trying to build a relationship with a swinger than trying to turn a partner into a swinger.

What will be will be don't try to force it.

"

yet most swingers never ever did swinging before meeting or getting married ... im glad that me n hubs met the vanilla way it never stopped us swinging for 25++ years and we got together because we liked and loved each other not because of swinging

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By *isstinseltoesWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I met my other half here almost 5.5 years ago

We weren't looking for more, but it does happen op

Be open about what you're seeking and you never know

Good luck.

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By *incsladyandscotsmanCouple
over a year ago

North fife

L and I meet, she introduced me to this lifestyle. Never been happier! We have such an open no secrets relationship, it's almost like paradise... Where is the sick bucket!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Im at a point in life now where i want to meet someone and be happy but i really want to find a girl who will be happy to enjoy a open relationshil with same room swap and where we both go out seperatly for nsa sex and who i can watch other guys enjoy her. Question is do you think this is a realistic prospect? I dont want to waste my life and i dont really want a monogamy relationship but i dont like to lead on so i would bring it up within the first few weeks. The last and only time i was brave enough to bring it up i was dumped like a stone and mouthed off to high heaven but i only asked a question and didnt lie about it like many do.

Thoughts and experiences welcome.

Kind of the same as I would like."

Glad someone is. Feel free to chat privatly about this if you like x

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By *irty PrettyWoman
over a year ago

Cardiff


"I really do think websites should do something about the ratios to make them more even or even maybe tip the balance and have more single women as genuine single guys really do need a better chance at a level playing field.

How? The only way i can see is to stop single men coming on to the site. Unless you propose somehow forcing single women onto the site...

"

It cracks me up when guys say stuff like that, they don’t seem to understand you could have 100 women to 1 man and that man still might get rejected by all 100. You can’t force anyone to fancy you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you use dating apps to meet people and if so you obviously state on there that your looking for non manogamous/poly. If not then I think the answer to your question is... Realistically.. No

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By *etWetWet453Couple
over a year ago

CAMBERLEY

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By *etWetWet453Couple
over a year ago

CAMBERLEY


"I really do think websites should do something about the ratios to make them more even or even maybe tip the balance and have more single women as genuine single guys really do need a better chance at a level playing field.

How? The only way i can see is to stop single men coming on to the site. Unless you propose somehow forcing single women onto the site...

As to the OP, I'd say you're better off trying to build a relationship with a swinger than trying to turn a partner into a swinger.

What will be will be don't try to force it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I havn't read your profile so you may have already done this but i would explain on it what you are looking for, that could help.

I wasn't looking for anything other than nsa sex but i met a guy while swinging and we are still together over 10 years later. X

Yes i have mentioned as well as regular NSA im looking for relationship too so that the NSA meets know that when we meet thats all it will be unless they have specifically told me otherwise "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i would think that its alot easier for a woman to find a relationship on here due to the sheer number of men but the other way around well you'll have to be very lucky .. i have seen guys at clubs get into relationships but guess thats easier as its face to face...

you guys know how hard it is for you swinging just think how hard it would be to find a relationship..

best of luck op

Many thanks. Even tho i am a single guy i hate the fact that sites aew flooded with single guys as it spoils it for us genuine ones. I really do think websites should do something about the ratios to make them more even or even maybe tip the balance and have more single women as genuine single guys really do need a better chance at a level playing field.

sorry but disagree about other guys ruining it for the good guys ..they ruin it for themselves guys need to stop blaming others and sort there own stuff out nobody but yourself can ruin it "

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By *andyladMan
over a year ago

Hereorthere

It could happen, just need to stay open about what you are after. Me personally I'd be happier in a swinging relationship myself. All about expectations I guess

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By *allguynowMan
over a year ago

durham

I'd love to meet a female naturist who also likes to soft swing. Even the naturist part is a difficult subject to bring up with the soft swing a definite no no. Yet how come when I go on beaches at home or abroad there are plenty of women enjoying the sun naked. Especially abroad. Plus over the years when I have been lucky to find an adventurous female they actually love naturism and soft swing. More need to open their minds to new experiences. I have found the more intelligent ones with a career tend to be much more adventurous.

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By *incsladyandscotsmanCouple
over a year ago

North fife


"L and I meet, she introduced me to this lifestyle. Never been happier! We have such an open no secrets relationship, it's almost like paradise... Where is the sick bucket! "

Awww i just need you to put a ring on it now x

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