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How do you respond to a wink?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

With a wink it’s a great way to say hello, but do people just wink back and then wait for a message or message them straight away? X

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By * AND R 777Couple
over a year ago

Teesside

We tend to message when we get the time or remember lol, if we are interested

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By *ananas57Couple
over a year ago

lake ariel

Some I just wink back but if your profile peaked my interest I'll message you

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By *en_Dover79Man
over a year ago

Oswaldtwistle

depends who sends it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"With a wink it’s a great way to say hello, but do people just wink back and then wait for a message or message them straight away? X"

Send me a wink and you might find out

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

If we were interested we would wink back. Sometimes they follow up with a message sometimes not, maybe there's a few accidental winks get sent! (We've done it ourselves a couple of times )

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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago

Dublin and London

It tends to be wink, wink, message in my experience..

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By *oxy lady40Woman
over a year ago

bridgwater

I don’t take any notice of them , usually delete

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By *uzboxCouple
over a year ago

Northwich

Always delete but sometimes check the profile first. Can't see the point in interacting until we can plan a meeting.

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By *rder66Man
over a year ago

Tatooine

I wink back, a wink to may just might mean they have nticed me, I wink back to say I have noticed them back and then if they want, they can message.

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By *ubmissive guyMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

I dont check them that often and usually, see them weeks or even months later

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By *iberty RedWoman
over a year ago

Cheltenham

Never look at them or delete them, if someone is genuinely interested in me I'd hope they'd take the time to message me

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West


"With a wink it’s a great way to say hello, but do people just wink back and then wait for a message or message them straight away? X"

I wink to guys but don’t even check my own. All about the messages lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If we send a wink and get winked back ,then we'll send a message

Thats doesnt go for guys though ,in there case we'll ignore the wink because it goes to show they havent read the profile

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By *lirty and funMan
over a year ago

Redditch

Always wink back and say thanks for the wink.

Just nice to be polite. X

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By *oneymitchMan
over a year ago

Huddersfield

I wink back if it peaks my interest or to gauge there intentions, if its love at first sight well then they get a thank you msg and intro lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's a wink?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes message with a thank you but why?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same here always wink back if I like the profile and maybe send a message

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By *rder66Man
over a year ago

Tatooine


"If we send a wink and get winked back ,then we'll send a message

Thats doesnt go for guys though ,in there case we'll ignore the wink because it goes to show they havent read the profile

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So if you wink at a guy and they wink back, you wouldn't send them a message because they haven't read your profile.

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By *nusualpairCouple
over a year ago

Preston

We tend to wink back and look forward to a message (sometimes we also message)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer winks to unsolicited messages and it says so on my profile, I check their profile out (as I do if someone messages). If I would like to chat with them I wink back ... simple really, and much better than messages/essays/complaining about messages etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also I rarely send first messages but will send a wink if I'm interested in chatting then it's up to the other person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Usually ignore if their profile does not seek what I offer

Sometimes message and ignore if no reply

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By *riving_Home_For_MimiWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Delete them all.

If you're interested, send a msg.

If you can't send me a msg, that means you don't fit my criteria.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually reply with a thank you at least.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Winks - personally as noone ever sends them i see it as a great way to stand out.

A message can easily get lost.

If someone were to reply back with a wink I would relook over the profile and start a conversation.

I don't think there is a right or wrong way to replying to a wink, if you're not interested, do nothing, if you are, message or wink back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wink back. Sometimes i message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I respond to a wink with a message if they have piqued my interest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some I just wink back but if your profile peaked my interest I'll message you "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If the profile is of interest to us, we wink back. We would then wait to see if they message.

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By *andyMinx_tvTV/TS
over a year ago

Leeds


"I don’t take any notice of them , usually delete "

This, pretty much. Although I do state on my profile they are likely to be ignored (which makes me wonder if they have read my profile if they do Wink). I never send them either, so no hypocrisy

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By *ulfilthmentMan
over a year ago

Just around the corner

Usually with a polite thank you on the rare occasions I get one.

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By *adetMan
over a year ago

South of Ipswich

I usually wink back. Then it's up to them if they want to say hi

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By *umalotagainMan
over a year ago

a town called malice

If I wink at someone and they wink back then I know they have shown some interest so I would message

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

If they wink first, we wink back, letting them message us. As they started it, the onus is on them to message.

If we wink first, then they should message us as we've already said we're interested. So the onus is on them to message.

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By * F 2018Couple
over a year ago

shropshire


"With a wink it’s a great way to say hello, but do people just wink back and then wait for a message or message them straight away? X"

Wink back or send a message depends

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

We bulk delete them but do respond to messages and this is stated in our profile.

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By *aughtycp1Couple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

If its a good profile to our liking i wink back

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By *oppet22TV/TS
over a year ago

huddersfield

Wink back if interested

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

I look at their profile and if i like what i see i will wink back. The winker then usually messages back.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A wink! i dance around deliriously thinking its my birthday and Xmas rolled into one then forget to wink back

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By *eventysixCouple
over a year ago

glossop

With a wink back

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
Forum Mod
over a year ago

My Own Little World

I never look at winks, I find them lazy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wink me and find out

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Bexley


"With a wink it’s a great way to say hello, but do people just wink back and then wait for a message or message them straight away? X"

99% of winks we get come from guys who clearly haven't read our profile so we just ignore them.

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By *lixir of lifeMan
over a year ago

knob Creek

I don’t!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We will wink back if we find them interesting and if they want they can message us after that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wink back occasionally, think I’ve winked first twice in over 10 years, usually check profile and ignore

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By *mokes n MirrorsCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth and Newcastle (sometimes)

We would rather have a wink as first contact than a crap message. If we like the look of the winkers profile we'll wink back and then it's up to them to construct a message that will start the ball rolling. If we wink first and get a wink back then we will send the first message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I send a wink if I feel the profile is something I’m looking for

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By *ockosaurusMan
over a year ago

Warwick

I like being winked, and I'm always up for receiving more as it puts a smile on my face.

They usually grab my attention and drives me to take a look at their profile to see if I like it without them needing to write that first awkward message. If I like what I see and read, I'll wink back and / or follow up with a message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I rarely look at them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Look at their profile and see if I’m interested.

If so, a message is sent

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i dont i just mass delete

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By *lenn FairlightMan
over a year ago

East Kent

By taking a look at the profile and winking back or messaging if there is something I like and I think there might be a connection of some kind.

I don't think that winks are necessarily lazy. Only if it's blatantly obvious that the sender hasn't bothered to read the writing and the compatibility chances are zero.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll send a wink to get someone's attention, wouldn't message though unless I got some kind of acknowledgement, ie like a wink back or a fab on one of my pics.With winks received I have a look at the profile.

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By *rad670Man
over a year ago

South Lakes

I wink to attract someones attention I like and without sending what could be a wasted/deleted message, if they then wink back I send a message. If on the rare occasions I receive a wink I always wink back if I like the profile or at least send a short polite message even if the person is not for me. Manners cost nothing and us men don't get so many winks and messages so it's easy to respond.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I ask people in my profile to message instead. No one reads clearly. I sometimes wink back to couples and women, guys get deleted xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to send a wink as a sign of interest when short on time. I’ll respond to any response that comes from it with a message and introduction

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By *ustfun009Man
over a year ago

oxford

Im all winked out...no one responds to them ;(

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did a thread on winks and fabbed pictures recived a picture fab off lady fabbed her back that’s it end of story if lady’s want a chat hear I am if not

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By *ricoupleCouple
over a year ago

London

We wink back if interested and depending on time, their profile and pictures may message first or wait for them to message

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By *edHeelsCplCouple
over a year ago

Kenilworth

We wink back in interesting.

Some you just want to run and hide from

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I pay no heed to them at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on the winker... or is that winkee?

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

I change my address and all my personal details and bin my laptop.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"With a wink it’s a great way to say hello, but do people just wink back and then wait for a message or message them straight away? X"

Anytime I’m lucky enough to get a wink I’d always message back to say thanks for the wink to initiate a conversation...

Think maybe lady’s expect it more from the guys.. if I just winked back it maybe perceived as I’m too lazy ... so I message ... it’s nice manners I think... I hate receiving a wink and then nothing.. not even a response to a mail

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I pay no heed to them at all. "

That’s cause ye get a gush load...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I receive a wink, very rare, I message with a thanks and that breaks the ice

If I wink it shows an interest not laziness and if I get a return wink the case above stands but if I get a message, rare again, then go from there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some couples are quite precious about winks. They hate them, won’t have anything to do with them. We feel they’re a ice-breaker and will usually reciprocate at the very least if we’re interested x

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By *razzyhorseMan
over a year ago

cambridge

How you respond probably depends on how many you receive. If you get loads they mean nothing but if you hardly ever recieve one, like most of us on here, i assume that a reply with a message or at very least a reciprocated wink is the norm

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

I get all surprised and say wow.

And then I wink back. Then most probably a message

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By *ostguy321Man
over a year ago

Bucks

Wink back to show interest or message to say thanks. I think winks are pretty good ice breakers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends.... usually wink back or just drop a message, depends who it’s from really.

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By *ornucopiaMan
over a year ago

Bexley


"I never look at winks, I find them lazy. "

You appear to be missing the point of winks.

Surely the great thing about winks is that they save women from being bombarded with unnecessary messages (as frequent threads mention).

Hopefully, a returned wink shows interest which could lead to a wanted message rather than an unwanted one.

Far from being lazy, some winks come from considerate men who are thinking about your time.

The problem comes from people who wink profusely and indiscriminately and thus devalue the efficiency of the wink facility.

I'm sure that admin have thought the process through and presumably have not concluded that the wink procedure is unworkable, as we still have it in place.

and, guys, have a word with yourselves and don't wink or message people without a sensible reason.

Fancying someone unrealistic and out of range is not a sensible reason.

For blokes besotted with other guys' cocks, maybe the site needs a 'Wank' button!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have only followed up on one wink. The guy had a good profile so I messaged him. The conversation flowed effortlessly so I fucked him

We are still good friends to this day

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough

I click on them, only to find they have hidden there profile.

Did these people enjoy playing Knock-and-run?

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By *carletnsparksMan
over a year ago

halifax

To me winks are pointless, if you like someone send a message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"With a wink it’s a great way to say hello, but do people just wink back and then wait for a message or message them straight away? X"

I’m so pleased you asked this..... I wonder all the time.... is a wink I’m interested? Or is it a lazy hello.... are you supposed to reply to a wink with a wink back or do you message? What happens when you’ve both winked.... there’s no winks left..... do you then message.....

I think no to winks and let’s just chat haha..... I don’t see there point to be honest xxxc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't take any notice of winks unless I am participating in a game such as a forum winking thread.

Her x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I delete them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always say thank you and see how it goes from there

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By *isycMan
over a year ago

inverure

With a thank you xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I very rarely look at winks.. I may wink back the odd time but never a message.. I know it can be hard to break the ice, and I don't expect a spelling binding message but a simple hello is better than a wink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fabbed pictures in forum chat have never winked at any lady’s do have few lovely lady’s who I chat to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I send a wink, if on the profile it doesn't say anything about don't look at them/deleted and such.

I find it a way to gauge interest. If I get one back then ill message. Thou I tend to read profiles 1st before winking. Its rare that I send a wink, let alone a message as I know ladies and couples generally get inundated with them.

Even after I get a return wink and send a message its rare that I get a reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I ignore winks they get deleted just used by ppl too lazy to message

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

I just let them build up. I have got nearly three thousand.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's nice to get a wink or two. I take it the person sending is usually a bit shy and struggling to find what to say. If I like their profile or find them attractive I'll often message back to break the ice. I don't receive loads though. If I did I guess I'd be deleting them also. Difficult subject!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just let them build up. I have got nearly three thousand. "

I’m doing the same I’ve got nearly ....... 3

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll send you one Jack pot.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'll send you one Jack pot. "

Gutted I blocked men now and my unblock button is broken, thank you though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Haha its all good. Think I might need to do the same. Get far too many offers from guys on here!

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By *iss pleasuringWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere near

I just dekete the lot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"With a wink it’s a great way to say hello, but do people just wink back and then wait for a message or message them straight away? X"

I just delete....

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By *ecky and justCouple
over a year ago

Godalming

We wink back if we’re interested.

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By *bhs72Man
over a year ago

witham

I’m polite and message a thank you for the wink.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"With a wink it’s a great way to say hello, but do people just wink back and then wait for a message or message them straight away? X"

If interested we reply with a wink and then wait for a message should one be incoming.

If we are not interested then we just delete said wink and get on with our day.

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By *incsladyandscotsmanCouple
over a year ago

North fife

Ah, if we wink and we get a wink back we then message. If someone winks us and we wink them, I feel its on them to message..... Or are we wrong?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ah, if we wink and we get a wink back we then message. If someone winks us and we wink them, I feel its on them to message..... Or are we wrong? "

Definitely how I do it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ah, if we wink and we get a wink back we then message. If someone winks us and we wink them, I feel its on them to message..... Or are we wrong?

Definitely how I do it? "

I completely agree to

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By *orthampton jamesMan
over a year ago

Northampton

If I'm winked I reply with a polite message and see how things go, if I wink and get no response i leave them alone

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By *inkyfilthymindMan
over a year ago

Heathrow / Berks


"With a wink it’s a great way to say hello, but do people just wink back and then wait for a message or message them straight away? X"

I respond with a message if the profile matches. Otherwise, I ignore/delete

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I get no response from a wink I send them a message and say something was in my eye and it wasn’t a wink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If we liked the profile then wink back , if we have time for chat then we will also message them.

It's nice to get a wink .

Not all winks mean interest, half of them we get is just as an appreciation for pics or whatever .

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By *xydadbodMan
over a year ago

Milton keynes

I wink when I come across a profile that has intrigued me but normally I trip over when I message as I talk a lot of waffle lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ll wink back if the profile is of interest to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its been such a long time - Ive forgotten how I respond

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

What's a wink?

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By *uriousMe2018Couple
over a year ago

Aldershot

We wink back if we feel there maybe potential, we message if the profile really speaks our interest

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By *J GeminiTV/TS
over a year ago

Northumberland

I wink if I like the look of someone. If they wink back, I'll take it as a good sign and then message them.

If they don't wink back I'll leave them alone,

Xx

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By *helroyCouple
over a year ago

Skegness

Always delete them

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By *odjamMan
over a year ago

woodford

I usually wink back if profile is of interest.

I will send thank you message if I think the profile hits all the buttons and there is a distinct chance of taking things further.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There looks to be an interesting gender divide, here!

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By *renzMan
over a year ago

Between Chichester and Havant

I would usually message back and thank them for the wink, maybe adding a relevant line or two.

Usually that's where it ends! Maybe I should just wink back.

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By *inkyfilthymindMan
over a year ago

Heathrow / Berks


"There looks to be an interesting gender divide, here! "

Ofcourse. Some of us get an interesting wink once a week, the other half probably gents once a min?

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

Last time I got a wink – three months ago – I sat down and very carefully wrote a thoughtful and personalised message that addressed and responded to everything in their profile.

They're local to me, we're a really good match, and they're really fucking hot, so I put a lot of time and effort into it. Multiple drafts before settling on a final form, multiple proofreads, live rehearsal, the lot. Then I screwed up my courage and hit send.

It went unread for so long that Fab disappeared it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually respond with a wink back, and then nothing happens...

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By *lorious hole bs16Man
over a year ago

Bristol

I view the profile and if interested respond with a thanks for the wink .

If I am not interested, I normally ignore and do nothing.

I find it a very useful tool..quick and effective.

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By *ent and bratCouple
over a year ago

here there everywhere

If we get a wink and we like the profile we wink back, its then on that person if they msg us. Likewise vice versa if we send the first wink.

Lot of couples wink at us, we wink back but that's then the end of it, maybe they were accidental

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

It would seem from the answers here that it would be useful for people to be able to turn off winks. That way winkers will only wink at those that want winks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It would seem from the answers here that it would be useful for people to be able to turn off winks. That way winkers will only wink at those that want winks. "

What a great suggestion

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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago

Sandwich

I have my message filters on most of the time so I only get winks when I turn them off. I would always check out the profile and if I like the look of that and think there’s potential I would wink or message back.

I also use winks as a way of registering interest in someone else’s profile, plus they can then message or wink back even when my filters are on.

Is it just me that thinks that some couples and females expect way too much from a potential sex partner? It’s not an interview for a job, it’s just registering an interest.

Maybe they are the ones that like the other person to do all the work during play too?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We send a wink as a "we are interested and like what we see" if they wink back then we message.

We appreciate not everybody looks at them though so sometimes, if we've noticed they haven't viewed our profile we send a polite message instead.

Her x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone winks who I'm interested in I'll message them. Nothing annoys me more than winks from people in say Scotland when I live in Wales.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

I don't

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By *xiled BikerMan
over a year ago

Beverley

I almost never get any, so when I do its celebration time!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If they wink first, we wink back, letting them message us. As they started it, the onus is on them to message.

If we wink first, then they should message us as we've already said we're interested. So the onus is on them to message.

I think that is the norm

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By *ornyPhuckerMan
over a year ago

Northamptonshire

I use a wink as an expression of interest, if I get one back I follow it up with a message, if the follow up message gets deleted without a reply they go on the block list....

Saves wasting time looking for playmates who are not interested....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just let them build up. I have got nearly three thousand. "
. How did you manage to count them

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By *agicroundabout3100Couple
over a year ago

Camberley

If we are interested in the profile we return the wink as an indication of our interest and then wait to see if the other party want to then engage in conversation.

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By *uminsiderMKMan
over a year ago

St Austell

If it's from a female or couple, I'll message to say 'Thanks', and usually ask what led them to my profile...

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By *ossman0168Man
over a year ago

Liverpool

If I wink someone and they take the time to wink back then out of courtesy I will always message them a thank you

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