FabSwingers.com forum: Regular meet or one off, what's better?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So we wondered if anyone else is looking for long term friendships rather than one off sex, we tend to think it gets better with time, what is everyone else's view, the excitement of one off sex or regular?

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By *aimeSmithTV/TS
over a year ago

Cliss

I prefer a regular. Someone clean, smooth, polite yet ever so assertive and kinky xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ideally a regular playmate but not happening so far

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I go into every meeting with the mindset it’s a one off... If it becomes more , I’m happy...

If it doesn’t, I’m fine with that also....

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By *revaunanceCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

We definetly prefer one off meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Regular, sex with that conection is explosive gets better and better.

one off sex without it is exciting yet short lived & empty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Both fill different needs.

My wife prefers one off meets but I like getting to really know people.

So the correct answer is what ever you yourself prefer

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

See we get both the thrill of a one off meet but have always been looking for regular just never found others in the same mindset

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By *rightonfranceMan
over a year ago

brighton - chalais france

Ideally a regular, the sex gets better every time I find.. first time can sometimes be a bit awkward..

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By *notherGentMan
over a year ago

doncaster

"Both fill different needs.

My wife prefers one off meets but I like getting to really know people.

So the correct answer is what ever you yourself prefer"

I think this sums it up well, it’s another personal preference I think

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

Ideally a regular playmate would be great, as you learn about each other the sex gets better.

A one off can be good if it's just for pure sex

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By *ands09Couple
over a year ago

West London

Why would you just restrict with one meet, if you enjoyed the play and playmates ?.. if the meet was shit, then no one would want to meet again isn’t ?

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By * F 2018Couple
over a year ago

shropshire

"I go into every meeting with the mindset it’s a one off... If it becomes more , I’m happy...

If it doesn’t, I’m fine with that also...."

Yeah I agree...

Nice to make friend along the way makes it more fun more laughs banter

BUT its also nice to have that one off when its something you want to cross off the ill try that once list lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I much prefer regular...the sex defo gets better...I also like overnights...no wham-bam...lots of men on here seem to want wham-bam it seems. Not for me though

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

A regular b ideal! But when found them that are perfect they spoil it and want so much more than I am ever willing offer! So looks like its gonna have to b one ofs now or stick with my toys x

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By *isAdventure69Woman
over a year ago

Hampshire

I love repeat meets , that's the ideal scenario for me

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By *rad670Man
over a year ago

South Lakes

Regular friend but irregular meets,not knowing when it will happen for the next time but already broken the ice and getting confident with each other more each time.

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

A regular would be so great and also it will get better and better

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I like both and have had more regular than 1 offs. They can satisfy different things and some people are perfect for 1 offs but you'd not get much from regular sex with them.

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By *superfuse663Man
over a year ago

manchester

If it's from lots of messaging and chat ect, regular would be preference.

But if it's just a quick exchange and meet, then one of are usually best.

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

Regular is our preference, we don’t really do wham bamb & much prefer overnights or even weekend stopovers.

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By *inky_CarpenterMan
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Regular! Without question, no contest at all.

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By *aughtycp1Couple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

I like regular. But occasionally new x

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

One-offs have their place, and we all know that buzz of meeting someone new, for that first time........but I feel like my name is just being ticked off a list. I much prefer repeat meets with likeminded people, which is how I have built up a nice circle of regular friends

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like regular and have . However be careful as sometimes feelings can get involved and that's a line that should never be crossed.

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By *riving_Home_For_MimiWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Definitely regular, I like to get to know someone as a friend.

Can't be doing with one offs these days.

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By *layful HarlequinMan
over a year ago

iver heath

regular for obvious reasons

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Regular adds to great chemistry and further to explore plus safer

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By *B69Woman
over a year ago

Wiltshire

Regular is much more fun

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By *ordofMarsMan
over a year ago

london

I am poly so probably prefer regular not necessarily frequent, I love the one off occasional at parties

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely regular but it's sometimes nice to have the odd 20 one offs lol

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By *ordofMarsMan
over a year ago

london

I am poly so probably prefer regular not necessarily frequent, I love the one off occasional at parties

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think regular is good,the more you get to know somebody,the better the connection,and that equals better sex.

However there's a very small risk that feelings could develop,and if one party is not for that,it can make things awkward.

At least with one off's you dont have that risk,and sometimes that's why it's better meeting a couple,as it will always only be no strings.

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By *layful HarlequinMan
over a year ago

iver heath

"Regular is much more fun"

Copy cate you !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But how can determine if someone will become a regular playmate?

I’ve had horrible first meets , that have turned into long term playmates and I’ve had in my mind great first meets that I never heard from again....

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By *ihimbiherCouple
over a year ago

lightwater

Regular all the way

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

"So we wondered if anyone else is looking for long term friendships rather than one off sex, we tend to think it gets better with time, what is everyone else's view, the excitement of one off sex or regular? "

I have always preferred to not do too many repeat meets. I've made the odd exception but rarely

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By *unover40Couple
over a year ago

yeovil

Regular for us x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer Regular

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By *issnkWoman
over a year ago

Barnsley

I definite prefer a regular playmate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on the one off.

I've had nice one night stands with people that have worked out as we knew each other but random Fab one-offs have had a bit too much tension in the room, I've found. Satiating but not satisfying.

A regular fuck is ideal though.

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By *rNaughtyNickMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

Regular you can explore with each other find what makes each other tick over time and build a friendship together too x

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By *unover40Couple
over a year ago

yeovil

"Regular you can explore with each other find what makes each other tick over time and build a friendship together too x"

Exactly this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Prefer regular than a one off fling.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If (we) are going to meet anyone from Fab, it will hope be more than just a one off with a stranger and never see them again,hopefully.

I am more into some sort of connection )whatever that is) Than a quick sex craving fix, if that makes sense.

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By *ensualkinkMan
over a year ago

hotel or at yours

I like meeting regulars, the intimacy and more importantly the social and banter gets better.

But every regular starts with a one-off, social or otherwise

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like a couple of regulars I'm familiar with, the sex is usually better. And then one offs as well for the fun xx

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By *iberty RedWoman
over a year ago

Cheltenham

Definitely regular, trust builds & its more fun having sex with a good friend. You can learn what works (& what doesn't) & I like overnight stays too

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By *ensualkinkMan
over a year ago

hotel or at yours

"Definitely regular, trust builds & its more fun having sex with a good friend. You can learn what works (& what doesn't) & I like overnight stays too"

Sex with a good friend - love that description. It is more fun pushing each other’s boundaries when you know someone well too

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By *onny135Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

Regular, the fun of exploring each other and trying new things is amazing. One off are nice and fun, but I definately prefer regular.

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By *lackMetalMan
over a year ago

Centre

Definitely regular as it gets better with a connection. But to get to regular, you first have to meet and see if there is a connection or not. In the process, it becomes either a one-off or a regular. The experimentation to find out is part of the process.

Profiles asking for a regular thing when you don’t even know the person yet is like asking to walk before you can crawl.

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By *kblokenorthMan
over a year ago

Any

"Definitely regular, trust builds & its more fun having sex with a good friend. You can learn what works (& what doesn't) & I like overnight stays too"

Exactly this ^^

Love to anticipate the meet with a regular friend (when I can find one!!)

Excitement can always be introduced by adding others to the mix together with ones buddy now & then......

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By *m3232Man
over a year ago

maidenhead

Regular meets as you can build on the last one which for me leads to better sex.

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By *umalotagainMan
over a year ago

a town called malice

Remember every regular was a one off ( or at least a first) at some point, so you have to know what you want from the play, is the intention only to see them once or is the intention to make them a regular partner....... no point planning them to be a regular partner if they are shit and you don’t click in the way you both hoped

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

If I find someone I really like then I want to repeat it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I find someone I really like then I want to repeat it. "

A bit like finding a good cheese!

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By *aughtywifeandhimCouple
over a year ago

bedford

A bit of both for us as wife has found a couple of guys she really enjoys having fun with at club and feels safe going of alone to rooms with them ,would like to find a regular couple to have fun with instead of one off meets myself as I enjoy having the husband watching

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd take either atm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If we find cpls we click with then regular meets will be fine. If we decided to meet guys for 3somes or more on the future then it will be one offs as some guys can get pushy and want more.

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By *inBleuMan
over a year ago

Sunny Yorkshire

Did somebody say “regular sexploration pleeease”?

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By *s2walesCouple
over a year ago

Gwent...

Ideally regular meets as you get to know about each other but one offs are fine...

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By *oxy lady40Woman
over a year ago

bridgwater

Regular is certainly better , one offs at parties and clubs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Regular, sex with that conection is explosive gets better and better.

one off sex without it is exciting yet short lived & empty

Exactly this ^^^

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By *andy_tomMan
over a year ago

wolverhampton

Would prefer a regular friend with benefits.

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By *helroyCouple
over a year ago

Skegness

we like regular meets the sex gets better as we go on to get know what every one wants and likes

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By *entlecaressMan
over a year ago

Wakefield/ Beverley

Regular gets my vote as it builds the understanding of each others bodies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

depends what im in the mood for

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill

I like meeting new people but always with a view for something regular- which is why I spend a fair bit of time chatting to people before meeting them in person...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like the idea of someone regular, I imagine everyone would be more relaxed

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By *atureandhornyCouple
over a year ago

Liverpool

It's less stressful for her if we meet someone again she's more relaxed and comfortable knowing the guy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We like a bit of both, random one off meets are really horny, but we do enjoy regular meets with people we class as friends first and foremost. Theres definitely benefits to both situations

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By *all me FlikWoman
over a year ago

Galaxy Far Far Away

One offs at the club for me...looking forward to them opening again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Regular

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By *hoenix CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northallerton

Love one offs but moving forward regular exclusive is probably going to be our way.

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By *inkylipsWoman
over a year ago

Debauchery

I prefer regular, for me there is something better with having sex with someone you are comfortable with and can experiment over time.

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By *host63Man
over a year ago

Bedfont Feltham

I woukdnt say no to a one off. But I prefer regular meetings.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would prefer regular but would like the thrill of a one off to tick off the list

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

It's nice when you play with the same person/people regular as you're more comfortable. It's also nice to have variety

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By *lym4realCouple
over a year ago

plymouth

Depends if everyone is happy with a one off ?? but it's ones who pretend/lie about wanting a long term thing that leads a funny taste..honesty ..we love it ..can be sexy as well..mr4 is a minger as he happily informs everyone just to save on gasp of shock and horror and utter surprise he managed to pull and keep mrs4 xxx

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By *entlecaressMan
over a year ago

Wakefield/ Beverley

"Love one offs but moving forward regular exclusive is probably going to be our way. "

Just the ticket

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By *edantic SheilaWoman
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

"Regular friend but irregular meets,not knowing when it will happen for the next time but already broken the ice and getting confident with each other more each time."
This!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Regular! Sex is better when you know each others bodies a little, but it's still new and exciting.

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By *Ci LutherMan
over a year ago

Cumalot

Is a mix not nice ... have a regular couple I enjoy.. but a hot and steamy one offs nice

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By *uke OzadeMan
over a year ago

Ho Chi Minge City

"Regular! Sex is better when you know each others bodies a little, but it's still new and exciting. "

Perfect!! When do we start?

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By *op2Couple
over a year ago

North west

We’d love a regular guy but keep getting messed about after a couple of meets x

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By *eparrain1Man
over a year ago

Stone

"I prefer regular, for me there is something better with having sex with someone you are comfortable with and can experiment over time. "

I tend to agree with you.

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By *.L.0460.Woman
over a year ago

Bognor Regis

When I first joined Fab, I restricted myself to one-offs & refused the possibility of repeat invites.

On hindsight, I think I was protecting myself from facing rejection.

Nowadays I'm a little more confident & rejection wouldn't hurt my feelings or my self esteem, so I would like to find someone regular. It's actually not that easy though!!

One day I'd like to find someone that I could have a bit of a connection with & enjoy a little company outside the bedroom as well as in it occasionally!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When I first joined Fab, I restricted myself to one-offs & refused the possibility of repeat invites.

On hindsight, I think I was protecting myself from facing rejection.

Nowadays I'm a little more confident & rejection wouldn't hurt my feelings or my self esteem, so I would like to find someone regular. It's actually not that easy though!!

One day I'd like to find someone that I could have a bit of a connection with & enjoy a little company outside the bedroom as well as in it occasionally!!

Me too

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By *nliveneTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby

Regular

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Regular Fwb, .. hot sexy fun ..which just gets better & better.

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By *asual_WandererWoman
over a year ago

A spot you want me

"Regular friend but irregular meets,not knowing when it will happen for the next time but already broken the ice and getting confident with each other more each time."

This

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Bexley

Long term only for us. No interest in one offs.

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By *arried West End CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

We’ve always wanted something regular. But it’s sadly been more one off meets for us x

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By *aby girl32Woman
over a year ago

Leigh lancs

I prefer sex with a regular guy, someone I can build a connection with. The sex is always better

I find one off meets always leave me feeling like Its a waste of time, I'm never satisfied.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Regular. I like to explore and experiment with one woman.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Regular. I want to have sex with my friends so I take the time to get to know people first.

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By *razzyhorseMan
over a year ago

cambridge

Regular. Someone I can trust, enjoy, explore and devote myself to entirely. It takes time to get to know someones desires & how to keep them satisfied.

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

I like to get to know people so regular. There’s more to life than just sex.

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By *rs-sensual-meWoman
over a year ago

gwynedd

Regular long term only for me. Wild times

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By *DW1983Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen, Leeds, Sheffield

A regular friend with benefits would be nice (applications on a postcard...) but I have to admit I do enjoy the thrill of meeting someone new at a club, which often tends to be a one-off or very occasional thing. I've always enjoyed the 'sex with strangers' side of one-offs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Regular

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By *etro1940sCouple
over a year ago

Kingston upon Thames

One offs have been great in both Madrid and Surrey ... but we have a regular Spanish "lover" for me ... that offers something else itself. It is all about different experiences on different nights. x Anne

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By *outhportcple1Couple
over a year ago

southport

We do both types of meets but do like long term meets as you get to know the people more both as sexual partners and friends

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By *ornado69Man
over a year ago

Princess Risborough

Regular is far more fun and relaxing. X

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

Regular meet, you can become more relaxed as you get to know them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A regular someone who has the same approach as myself however I’m not saying (safe) one offs won’t happen

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