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By *ubforfandcouple OP   Man
over a year ago

pontardawe

I am looking for a woman or couple to use me for their pleasure...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Male doms are rare too.

Most people who call themselves doms are not really. They are tops. A dom is always a top but a top isn't always a dom.

There are a lot of women who are tops too but they don't feel the need to publicise it.

Supply and demand says that you are less likely to find exactly what you are looking for. Being on the submissive side of the kneel can be very frustrating but you need to keep looking and not let the frustration get the better of you

I hope it works out for you OP.

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By *ubforfandcouple OP   Man
over a year ago

pontardawe


"Male doms are rare too.

Most people who call themselves doms are not really. They are tops. A dom is always a top but a top isn't always a dom.

There are a lot of women who are tops too but they don't feel the need to publicise it.

Supply and demand says that you are less likely to find exactly what you are looking for. Being on the submissive side of the kneel can be very frustrating but you need to keep looking and not let the frustration get the better of you

I hope it works out for you OP."

Thanks. Good luck and fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am looking for a woman or couple to use me for their pleasure... "

Good luck in your search

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By *harisajidanWoman
over a year ago

london

Well, last resort is just hiring one, no?

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By *ubforfandcouple OP   Man
over a year ago

pontardawe


"Well, last resort is just hiring one, no?"

It's not the same. I am looking for a regular.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are dedicated websites for this particular type of lifestyle you are looking to achieve

I would go to munches and clubs dedicated to bdsm

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By *ubforfandcouple OP   Man
over a year ago

pontardawe


"There are dedicated websites for this particular type of lifestyle you are looking to achieve

I would go to munches and clubs dedicated to bdsm "

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By *heonixRaven 777Woman
over a year ago

Guildford

What you seek is better sought on other sites that are dedicated for that particular style of kink.

They won’t be here necessarily to find a Dom/sub they are probably here to fulfil other aspects of their lives.

But they are here and I hope you find what you seek

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By *ubforfandcouple OP   Man
over a year ago

pontardawe


"What you seek is better sought on other sites that are dedicated for that particular style of kink.

They won’t be here necessarily to find a Dom/sub they are probably here to fulfil other aspects of their lives.

Thanks.

But they are here and I hope you find what you seek "

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By *harisajidanWoman
over a year ago

london


"Well, last resort is just hiring one, no?

It's not the same. I am looking for a regular."

Then regularly hire one?

*shrugs*

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By *ubforfandcouple OP   Man
over a year ago

pontardawe


"Well, last resort is just hiring one, no?

It's not the same. I am looking for a regular.

Then regularly hire one?

*shrugs*"

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By *ubmissive guyMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

I wouldnt say Femdoms are rare, just on a site like this, they choose to keep it quiet, or maybe use this site for more sexual meets.

There really arent any decent dedicated Femdom sites, the popular one isnt really made for meeting, just exchanging kinks. Think FAB if it was just the forums. Im not saying you wont find someone there, but youve got just as much chance on FB

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By *bbyBiTVTV/TS
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Domme TV in Newcastle here

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By *ubforfandcouple OP   Man
over a year ago

pontardawe


"Domme TV in Newcastle here"

Far....

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By *oudLoutishLoverWoman
over a year ago

Colchester

Dommes are people, with their own tastes.

A Domme isn't likely to want to meet a man purely because he’s submissive and wants what she likes to do. That’s where most subs confuse a Dominant woman with a Pro Domme, who is a professional, and doesn’t need to like and be interested in the sub, because she’s being paid!

(I think I'm using the terms correctly, but might be wrong!)

I’m a Dominant woman, but men approach me all the time, assuming I’ll want to Dominate them just because it’s their fantasy. We need to like and fancy a man in order to want to play with him.

It’s not a niche enough kink that women need to be grateful just to find a bloke who’s into it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dommes are people, with their own tastes.

A Domme isn't likely to want to meet a man purely because he’s submissive and wants what she likes to do. That’s where most subs confuse a Dominant woman with a Pro Domme, who is a professional, and doesn’t need to like and be interested in the sub, because she’s being paid!

(I think I'm using the terms correctly, but might be wrong!)

I’m a Dominant woman, but men approach me all the time, assuming I’ll want to Dominate them just because it’s their fantasy. We need to like and fancy a man in order to want to play with him.

It’s not a niche enough kink that women need to be grateful just to find a bloke who’s into it!"

This is it, it’s the same as anything else really. There’s such an abundance of men who enjoy being dominated and vice versa, it’s not solely a reason to match with someone, it’s only the very bare minimum. It has to be a much deeper connection really

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By *oudLoutishLoverWoman
over a year ago

Colchester


"Dommes are people, with their own tastes.

A Domme isn't likely to want to meet a man purely because he’s submissive and wants what she likes to do. That’s where most subs confuse a Dominant woman with a Pro Domme, who is a professional, and doesn’t need to like and be interested in the sub, because she’s being paid!

(I think I'm using the terms correctly, but might be wrong!)

I’m a Dominant woman, but men approach me all the time, assuming I’ll want to Dominate them just because it’s their fantasy. We need to like and fancy a man in order to want to play with him.

It’s not a niche enough kink that women need to be grateful just to find a bloke who’s into it!

This is it, it’s the same as anything else really. There’s such an abundance of men who enjoy being dominated and vice versa, it’s not solely a reason to match with someone, it’s only the very bare minimum. It has to be a much deeper connection really "

Worded far better than my attempt!

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By *ubforfandcouple OP   Man
over a year ago

pontardawe


"Dommes are people, with their own tastes.

A Domme isn't likely to want to meet a man purely because he’s submissive and wants what she likes to do. That’s where most subs confuse a Dominant woman with a Pro Domme, who is a professional, and doesn’t need to like and be interested in the sub, because she’s being paid!

(I think I'm using the terms correctly, but might be wrong!)

I’m a Dominant woman, but men approach me all the time, assuming I’ll want to Dominate them just because it’s their fantasy. We need to like and fancy a man in order to want to play with him.

It’s not a niche enough kink that women need to be grateful just to find a bloke who’s into it!"

True... And a true sub will do what she asks, not his to do list.

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By *ubforfandcouple OP   Man
over a year ago

pontardawe


"Dommes are people, with their own tastes.

A Domme isn't likely to want to meet a man purely because he’s submissive and wants what she likes to do. That’s where most subs confuse a Dominant woman with a Pro Domme, who is a professional, and doesn’t need to like and be interested in the sub, because she’s being paid!

(I think I'm using the terms correctly, but might be wrong!)

I’m a Dominant woman, but men approach me all the time, assuming I’ll want to Dominate them just because it’s their fantasy. We need to like and fancy a man in order to want to play with him.

It’s not a niche enough kink that women need to be grateful just to find a bloke who’s into it!

This is it, it’s the same as anything else really. There’s such an abundance of men who enjoy being dominated and vice versa, it’s not solely a reason to match with someone, it’s only the very bare minimum. It has to be a much deeper connection really "

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By *ubforfandcouple OP   Man
over a year ago

pontardawe


"Dommes are people, with their own tastes.

A Domme isn't likely to want to meet a man purely because he’s submissive and wants what she likes to do. That’s where most subs confuse a Dominant woman with a Pro Domme, who is a professional, and doesn’t need to like and be interested in the sub, because she’s being paid!

(I think I'm using the terms correctly, but might be wrong!)

I’m a Dominant woman, but men approach me all the time, assuming I’ll want to Dominate them just because it’s their fantasy. We need to like and fancy a man in order to want to play with him.

It’s not a niche enough kink that women need to be grateful just to find a bloke who’s into it!

This is it, it’s the same as anything else really. There’s such an abundance of men who enjoy being dominated and vice versa, it’s not solely a reason to match with someone, it’s only the very bare minimum. It has to be a much deeper connection really

Worded far better than my attempt!"

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By *ubforfandcouple OP   Man
over a year ago

pontardawe

Where are the dominant woman....?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They are everywhere.

But they don't come just because you call.

That's not how the dynamic works

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By *heonixRaven 777Woman
over a year ago

Guildford


"Where are the dominant woman....?"

Best suited finding them another site

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By *heonixRaven 777Woman
over a year ago

Guildford


"They are everywhere.

But they don't come just because you call.

That's not how the dynamic works"

No they do not come when beckoned

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By *ubforfandcouple OP   Man
over a year ago

pontardawe


"Where are the dominant woman....?

Best suited finding them another site "

They are here too, I will wait, patiently.

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset


"Dommes are people, with their own tastes.

A Domme isn't likely to want to meet a man purely because he’s submissive and wants what she likes to do. That’s where most subs confuse a Dominant woman with a Pro Domme, who is a professional, and doesn’t need to like and be interested in the sub, because she’s being paid!

(I think I'm using the terms correctly, but might be wrong!)

I’m a Dominant woman, but men approach me all the time, assuming I’ll want to Dominate them just because it’s their fantasy. We need to like and fancy a man in order to want to play with him.

It’s not a niche enough kink that women need to be grateful just to find a bloke who’s into it!"

Exactly this!

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset


"Where are the dominant woman....?

Best suited finding them another site

They are here too, I will wait, patiently."

You'll be waiting a long time.

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By *ubforfandcouple OP   Man
over a year ago

pontardawe


"Where are the dominant woman....?

Best suited finding them another site

They are here too, I will wait, patiently.

You'll be waiting a long time.

"

It will worth it. I do have some experience in the past an. It's not only that . The difficulty is first meet. It's a swing site. Should I say that I also speak Italian, french, I understand Spanish, speak a few words in German and Russian, that I went to university? It will help?

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset


"Where are the dominant woman....?

Best suited finding them another site

They are here too, I will wait, patiently.

You'll be waiting a long time.

It will worth it. I do have some experience in the past an. It's not only that . The difficulty is first meet. It's a swing site. Should I say that I also speak Italian, french, I understand Spanish, speak a few words in German and Russian, that I went to university? It will help?"

I wouldn't have thought so, unless they're multi lingual too.

You really need to put the effort in. I never go looking for a sub.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am sub Been trying for over two weeks to see if we can sort something out keep getting knocked back no one really

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By *ubforfandcouple OP   Man
over a year ago

pontardawe


"I am sub Been trying for over two weeks to see if we can sort something out keep getting knocked back no one really"

Hope dies last.

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By *harisajidanWoman
over a year ago

london


"Dommes are people, with their own tastes.

A Domme isn't likely to want to meet a man purely because he’s submissive and wants what she likes to do. That’s where most subs confuse a Dominant woman with a Pro Domme, who is a professional, and doesn’t need to like and be interested in the sub, because she’s being paid!

(I think I'm using the terms correctly, but might be wrong!)

I’m a Dominant woman, but men approach me all the time, assuming I’ll want to Dominate them just because it’s their fantasy. We need to like and fancy a man in order to want to play with him.

It’s not a niche enough kink that women need to be grateful just to find a bloke who’s into it!"

This.

Not to mention too many sub men are whiny and annoying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have been trying for years

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dommes are people, with their own tastes.

A Domme isn't likely to want to meet a man purely because he’s submissive and wants what she likes to do. That’s where most subs confuse a Dominant woman with a Pro Domme, who is a professional, and doesn’t need to like and be interested in the sub, because she’s being paid!

(I think I'm using the terms correctly, but might be wrong!)

I’m a Dominant woman, but men approach me all the time, assuming I’ll want to Dominate them just because it’s their fantasy. We need to like and fancy a man in order to want to play with him.

It’s not a niche enough kink that women need to be grateful just to find a bloke who’s into it!

This.

Not to mention too many sub men are whiny and annoying "

I find 'sub' men who have contacted me quite selfish. And just want me to do things to them. I am naturally a dominant woman but that doesn't mean any 'sub's man will do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

submissive and dominant can mean so many things most of which have zero to do with kink or bdsm ... its really down to the person looking and what they want ..not some pigeon hole

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By *ubforfandcouple OP   Man
over a year ago

pontardawe


"Dommes are people, with their own tastes.

A Domme isn't likely to want to meet a man purely because he’s submissive and wants what she likes to do. That’s where most subs confuse a Dominant woman with a Pro Domme, who is a professional, and doesn’t need to like and be interested in the sub, because she’s being paid!

(I think I'm using the terms correctly, but might be wrong!)

I’m a Dominant woman, but men approach me all the time, assuming I’ll want to Dominate them just because it’s their fantasy. We need to like and fancy a man in order to want to play with him.

It’s not a niche enough kink that women need to be grateful just to find a bloke who’s into it!

This.

Not to mention too many sub men are whiny and annoying

I find 'sub' men who have contacted me quite selfish. And just want me to do things to them. I am naturally a dominant woman but that doesn't mean any 'sub's man will do."

A sub should do what you like, your pleasure is his pleasure/ reward.

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By *nked_kittenWoman
over a year ago

Ankh Morpork

Most of the subs I’ve played with I’ve never really found sexually interesting so I wouldn’t look for them on a site like this. A sub guy is actually a turn off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dommes are people, with their own tastes.

A Domme isn't likely to want to meet a man purely because he’s submissive and wants what she likes to do. That’s where most subs confuse a Dominant woman with a Pro Domme, who is a professional, and doesn’t need to like and be interested in the sub, because she’s being paid!

(I think I'm using the terms correctly, but might be wrong!)

I’m a Dominant woman, but men approach me all the time, assuming I’ll want to Dominate them just because it’s their fantasy. We need to like and fancy a man in order to want to play with him.

It’s not a niche enough kink that women need to be grateful just to find a bloke who’s into it!

This.

Not to mention too many sub men are whiny and annoying

I find 'sub' men who have contacted me quite selfish. And just want me to do things to them. I am naturally a dominant woman but that doesn't mean any 'sub's man will do."

More fool them, mutal agreed and beneficial kinks and boundaries are essential.

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By *oudLoutishLoverWoman
over a year ago

Colchester

When it comes down to it, the only thing most subs want to ‘serve’ is their own need to feel submissive and used. So the Domme is essentially serving the sub, most of the time.

There’s a reason most Dommes turn out to be professionals. It’s hard work. It requires imagination, planning, equipment, expertise, and most of all, constant vigilance to ensure a sub’s safety and comfort. A sub gets to lose all sense of self and volition, follow orders, and be a vessel. The Domme has to mastermind the entire operation, plus aftercare, whilst also keeping alert and in character.

Ergo, most of us need to like/fancy/respect/love you a HELL of a lot in order to Dominate you.

Either hire a professional and tell Her exactly what you want, or, tell your partner about your desire to be submissive. Do it early enough in the relationship, and she might even fall in love with D/s as she falls in love with you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A sub should do what you like, your pleasure is his pleasure/ reward."

Kind of. There is a balance to be found.

Let's say Dominant A decides that she wants you to wear her collar. She likes the cut of your jib. She just wants you to clean her boots tho. That's all. She gets off on seeing you lick the dust of her favourite Nike Airs. You were kinda hoping she would fuck your brains out and make you clean up the cum that drips from her onto the floor.

You have found your dominant but it's unfulfilling. It doesn't mean you are not submissive. Nor does it mean she's not a dominant. You have just got the wrong dynamic. You got nothing from doing the thing she wants from you.

Now if you are a little foot subbie, cleaning her shoes might bring you close to ecstacy. It might be heaven.

Not every person with a dominant personality is a Dominant. And not every Dominant is looking for sex.

Like LLL said, doing a good scene requires a lot of preparation, concentration and aftercare. (Paraphraseing)

That effort isn't just thrown around.

Finding a dominant that matches your kink might be hard here (as was stated above by quite a few peoole)

Finding a switch might be easier but still hard.

My advice is still to go look at websites that cater for that aspect of kink. Go find yourself a munch or a club night and stop being passive. Go be part of the community you want to part of. Stay here by all means. Be part of this community too. But atm you are looking for a pin in a field of haystacks

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By *ubforfandcouple OP   Man
over a year ago

pontardawe


"A sub should do what you like, your pleasure is his pleasure/ reward.

Kind of. There is a balance to be found.

Let's say Dominant A decides that she wants you to wear her collar. She likes the cut of your jib. She just wants you to clean her boots tho. That's all. She gets off on seeing you lick the dust of her favourite Nike Airs. You were kinda hoping she would fuck your brains out and make you clean up the cum that drips from her onto the floor.

You have found your dominant but it's unfulfilling. It doesn't mean you are not submissive. Nor does it mean she's not a dominant. You have just got the wrong dynamic. You got nothing from doing the thing she wants from you.

Now if you are a little foot subbie, cleaning her shoes might bring you close to ecstacy. It might be heaven.

Not every person with a dominant personality is a Dominant. And not every Dominant is looking for sex.

Like LLL said, doing a good scene requires a lot of preparation, concentration and aftercare. (Paraphraseing)

That effort isn't just thrown around.

Finding a dominant that matches your kink might be hard here (as was stated above by quite a few peoole)

Finding a switch might be easier but still hard.

My advice is still to go look at websites that cater for that aspect of kink. Go find yourself a munch or a club night and stop being passive. Go be part of the community you want to part of. Stay here by all means. Be part of this community too. But atm you are looking for a pin in a field of haystacks

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By *nfin8yWoman
over a year ago

Newcastle-under-Lyme


"A sub should do what you like, your pleasure is his pleasure/ reward.

Kind of. There is a balance to be found.

Let's say Dominant A decides that she wants you to wear her collar. She likes the cut of your jib. She just wants you to clean her boots tho. That's all. She gets off on seeing you lick the dust of her favourite Nike Airs. You were kinda hoping she would fuck your brains out and make you clean up the cum that drips from her onto the floor.

You have found your dominant but it's unfulfilling. It doesn't mean you are not submissive. Nor does it mean she's not a dominant. You have just got the wrong dynamic. You got nothing from doing the thing she wants from you.

Now if you are a little foot subbie, cleaning her shoes might bring you close to ecstacy. It might be heaven.

Not every person with a dominant personality is a Dominant. And not every Dominant is looking for sex.

Like LLL said, doing a good scene requires a lot of preparation, concentration and aftercare. (Paraphraseing)

That effort isn't just thrown around.

Finding a dominant that matches your kink might be hard here (as was stated above by quite a few peoole)

Finding a switch might be easier but still hard.

My advice is still to go look at websites that cater for that aspect of kink. Go find yourself a munch or a club night and stop being passive. Go be part of the community you want to part of. Stay here by all means. Be part of this community too. But atm you are looking for a pin in a field of haystacks

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