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Finding, and dating a true ‘slut’

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By *heTallGuy81 OP   Man
over a year ago

london

I’m just opening this up for people’s comments, and firstly I do not and never use the term ‘slut’ as a term of abuse or as a pejorative term.

To me a true slut is merely a woman who takes her sexual pleasure on her own terms and without fear of judgment. With whoever and however many she pleases. Either together or one to one.

To me there is no greater assertion of independence and feminism than that.

I am absolutely NOT a cuck. Perhaps a stag, but I’m exclusively attracted to women who have sex with multiple men and by extension they’ll extend the same courtesy to me if I like.

Trouble is, even on a site like this, it seems extremely difficult to meet any. Imagine the conversation...

“What I’m really into darling, is watching multiple men have you to the limits of your sexual exhaustion, ejaculating into your mouth, then having you for myself for the rest of the evening while you still reek of sex”

It’s likely to be a short conversation, and even on here very few ladies are realistically open to this.

I’ve had a couple of exes in the past who were into it, but that’s two ladies in many years. One in particular I thought was my soul mate as we arranged afternoons of her being fucked while I watched, joined in and fucked her later in the evening after we’d gone out for dinner.

Question is, am I destined never to meet a likeminded soul?

Or indeed if any ladies are interested in speaking, let me know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m kind of with you on this one... hard to find

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

The base foundation in fab is that it's tough for men to meet women. The greater the level of narrowing down those women to meet very stringent requirements, eg how we enjoy sex, specific activities and wanting a relationship too, the tougher it will be.

Getting the right partner for a relationship is tough, when each side is very self-aware of what they need, when their needs include quite refined tastes.

You may be better to really expand your social circle to include large numbers of the types of people who you may gel with. Some of them could be sexual partners too. With huge levels of engagement with others, some will naturally gravitate towards each other. Not all will start with the desire for a relationship but it could develop. I think only if you're in the real physical world with others will you get to foment the right conditions for things to be conducive to what you want, exploring many possibilities, in addition to online.

We don't always get everything that we want but we can have lots of satisfaction along the way, possibly with less frustration

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By *unkymale65Man
over a year ago

Worksop

I agree with you OP very hard to find but we keep trying

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By *onynickiCouple
over a year ago

Bournemouth

“What I’m really into darling, is watching multiple men have you to the limits of your sexual exhaustion, ejaculating into your mouth, then having you for myself for the rest of the evening while you still reek of sex”

I’m incredibly lucky to have Nicki as this above is exactly what she wants and we want.

The buzz for me is seeing her totally lost in the moment, totally in control and taking each man for her own sexual fulfilment and enjoyment.

The thought of the “reclaim “ sex afterwards with her still tasting of and covered in other man’s cum is a powerful aphrodisiac

Tony

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By *hite_peonyWoman
over a year ago

South East

Hard to find maybe but never say never

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By *elisandre300Woman
over a year ago

dontbefuckingnosey

I had this with an ex off here. We were together just under 2 years and it was absolutely amazing

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By *ltra72Man
over a year ago

edinburgh

If you find any let me know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not easy to find one

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By *llez WorldWoman
over a year ago

SE London

Sounds like perfection. I absolutely love the idea of a situation like this. Not for everyone indeed but there are plenty of women who are interested OP.. Don't give up hope

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By *ittlesub4uWoman
over a year ago

Manchester


"

“What I’m really into darling, is watching multiple men have you to the limits of your sexual exhaustion, ejaculating into your mouth, then having you for myself for the rest of the evening while you still reek of sex”

"

Some people on here are looking for messages like this, amongst other things that are beyond what a lot of people are into on this site.

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By *ixen-XWoman
over a year ago

Unicornville Utopia And Lovin It X

Here I am ... I'm a vixen hotwife and yes I love having lots of fit young studs whilst hubby watches ....sometimes just one other times 3 or 4 ... took me a while to get used to the idea that that's what hubby enjoys more than anything but now I'm on board I love it and I love how it turns him on ...I love being dirty filthy nawty and demanding numerous cocks like I can't get enough .... we are out there just gotta look in the right places

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Like you say you had exes into it, it’s a pattern/preference so you will find them, or they will trust you and explore it when you float the idea but you don’t need to go looking for them with those type of lines.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I reckon it's probably easier for a guy to just focus on finding a woman to have sex with him first before aiming so high

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally hear you OP, I've chatted to and explored this scenario with many men who say they want a similar arrangement with me as you describe but when it comes down to it it seems like pure fantasy for them in the moment rather than the relationship they actually want or they don't seem prepared to treat me as a proper girlfriend which entirely misses the point, only within the holding container of a loving relationship with such a special guy could I possibly take and enjoy that much cock! Without the reclaim experience and pride that my man has for me being such a slut, it wouldn't be the same. I do alright on my own that being said lol but I too crave the shared experience.

Hold out for what you want OP, there are plenty of us queen bees out there just waiting for a man like you. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m optimistic

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By *harisajidanWoman
over a year ago

london


"I’m just opening this up for people’s comments, and firstly I do not and never use the term ‘slut’ as a term of abuse or as a pejorative term.

To me a true slut is merely a woman who takes her sexual pleasure on her own terms and without fear of judgment. With whoever and however many she pleases. Either together or one to one.

To me there is no greater assertion of independence and feminism than that.

I am absolutely NOT a cuck. Perhaps a stag, but I’m exclusively attracted to women who have sex with multiple men and by extension they’ll extend the same courtesy to me if I like.

Trouble is, even on a site like this, it seems extremely difficult to meet any. Imagine the conversation...

“What I’m really into darling, is watching multiple men have you to the limits of your sexual exhaustion, ejaculating into your mouth, then having you for myself for the rest of the evening while you still reek of sex”

It’s likely to be a short conversation, and even on here very few ladies are realistically open to this.

I’ve had a couple of exes in the past who were into it, but that’s two ladies in many years. One in particular I thought was my soul mate as we arranged afternoons of her being fucked while I watched, joined in and fucked her later in the evening after we’d gone out for dinner.

Question is, am I destined never to meet a likeminded soul?

Or indeed if any ladies are interested in speaking, let me know"

The dream!

Love to find a BF or Husband into this; so romantic

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By *rs RavensongWoman
over a year ago

Cheltenham, Gloucestershire

I'm lucky enough to be married to a man who absolutely loves it when I behave like this, he can't wait to have his way with me, after other men have finished enjoying me. It's the most liberating feeling, being able to openly express and enjoy your sexuality, and be loved for it.

Don't give up hope OP, you may yet have that conversation with the perfect woman for you.

V x

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By *ecretescapeCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire

This is my DREAM!!!!

I want this type of relationship.I won't be settling for anything less.

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By *ono100Man
over a year ago

liverpool

I have fwb and love exploring her fantasy’s, for filling shared desires , loved watching her with a bbc ,and meeting up with other guys for shared pleasure ,

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By *asycouple777Couple
over a year ago

bristol

This is how I see my slutwife

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By *heTallGuy81 OP   Man
over a year ago

london

What a beautiful and sweet response.

Thank you gorgeous xxx

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By *heTallGuy81 OP   Man
over a year ago

london


"I'm lucky enough to be married to a man who absolutely loves it when I behave like this, he can't wait to have his way with me, after other men have finished enjoying me. It's the most liberating feeling, being able to openly express and enjoy your sexuality, and be loved for it.

Don't give up hope OP, you may yet have that conversation with the perfect woman for you.

V x "

Thank you xxx

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By *heTallGuy81 OP   Man
over a year ago

london


"Totally hear you OP, I've chatted to and explored this scenario with many men who say they want a similar arrangement with me as you describe but when it comes down to it it seems like pure fantasy for them in the moment rather than the relationship they actually want or they don't seem prepared to treat me as a proper girlfriend which entirely misses the point, only within the holding container of a loving relationship with such a special guy could I possibly take and enjoy that much cock! Without the reclaim experience and pride that my man has for me being such a slut, it wouldn't be the same. I do alright on my own that being said lol but I too crave the shared experience.

Hold out for what you want OP, there are plenty of us queen bees out there just waiting for a man like you. X"

I meant to reply to you as per above.

That is absolutely the sweetest message. Thank you ever so much gorgeous xxx

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By *r and Mrs B xxCouple
over a year ago

Chippenham

Hubby enjoys to watch me enjoying myself, the more sexual satisfaction I get the happier he is. And the reclaim after the guys have left is the best, especially telling him what his "slut" has just done.

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By *inkyisfunukMan
over a year ago

Birmingham


"I’m just opening this up for people’s comments, and firstly I do not and never use the term ‘slut’ as a term of abuse or as a pejorative term.

To me a true slut is merely a woman who takes her sexual pleasure on her own terms and without fear of judgment. With whoever and however many she pleases. Either together or one to one.

To me there is no greater assertion of independence and feminism than that.

I am absolutely NOT a cuck. Perhaps a stag, but I’m exclusively attracted to women who have sex with multiple men and by extension they’ll extend the same courtesy to me if I like.

Trouble is, even on a site like this, it seems extremely difficult to meet any. Imagine the conversation...

“What I’m really into darling, is watching multiple men have you to the limits of your sexual exhaustion, ejaculating into your mouth, then having you for myself for the rest of the evening while you still reek of sex”

It’s likely to be a short conversation, and even on here very few ladies are realistically open to this.

I’ve had a couple of exes in the past who were into it, but that’s two ladies in many years. One in particular I thought was my soul mate as we arranged afternoons of her being fucked while I watched, joined in and fucked her later in the evening after we’d gone out for dinner.

Question is, am I destined never to meet a likeminded soul?

Or indeed if any ladies are interested in speaking, let me know"

This is very much what I'm looking for too. One day...

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By *bbott24Couple
over a year ago

Devizes

We find clubs are the best way to get multiple cocks, hope they will open soon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are looking forward to this, but we’ve been together for a year and a half (met on here) and it’s something we built on, it isn’t something we would have discussed when we were first together.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m just opening this up for people’s comments, and firstly I do not and never use the term ‘slut’ as a term of abuse or as a pejorative term.

To me a true slut is merely a woman who takes her sexual pleasure on her own terms and without fear of judgment. With whoever and however many she pleases. Either together or one to one.

To me there is no greater assertion of independence and feminism than that.

I am absolutely NOT a cuck. Perhaps a stag, but I’m exclusively attracted to women who have sex with multiple men and by extension they’ll extend the same courtesy to me if I like.

Trouble is, even on a site like this, it seems extremely difficult to meet any. Imagine the conversation...

“What I’m really into darling, is watching multiple men have you to the limits of your sexual exhaustion, ejaculating into your mouth, then having you for myself for the rest of the evening while you still reek of sex”

It’s likely to be a short conversation, and even on here very few ladies are realistically open to this.

I’ve had a couple of exes in the past who were into it, but that’s two ladies in many years. One in particular I thought was my soul mate as we arranged afternoons of her being fucked while I watched, joined in and fucked her later in the evening after we’d gone out for dinner.

Question is, am I destined never to meet a likeminded soul?

Or indeed if any ladies are interested in speaking, let me know"

Not sure about women, but plenty of tgirls into that sort of thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds lovely! But high maintenance. I'd need to get to know and trust someone a lot before I got to that point with them. So it's unlikely I'd ever express that's what I was after from the outset.

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By *atenaWoman
over a year ago

Hyde

There's so many couples on here that surely it's possible ?

I mean .... I bloody hope so since it sounds amazing and ideal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been very very lucky to have this experience with a previous partner

Would love to meet a girl looking for this but definitely not easy

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By * F 2018Couple
over a year ago

shropshire

One word I'm not comfortable with 'slut"

Fox xx

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By *olymalelincsMan
over a year ago

southend

Love this so much and used to enjoy it aswell with my ex, we were together for 8 years and it's what I am also looking for again

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By *O55VXNCouple
over a year ago

bristol


"I’m just opening this up for people’s comments, and firstly I do not and never use the term ‘slut’ as a term of abuse or as a pejorative term.

To me a true slut is merely a woman who takes her sexual pleasure on her own terms and without fear of judgment. With whoever and however many she pleases. Either together or one to one.

To me there is no greater assertion of independence and feminism than that.

I am absolutely NOT a cuck. Perhaps a stag, but I’m exclusively attracted to women who have sex with multiple men and by extension they’ll extend the same courtesy to me if I like.

Trouble is, even on a site like this, it seems extremely difficult to meet any. Imagine the conversation...

“What I’m really into darling, is watching multiple men have you to the limits of your sexual exhaustion, ejaculating into your mouth, then having you for myself for the rest of the evening while you still reek of sex”

It’s likely to be a short conversation, and even on here very few ladies are realistically open to this.

I’ve had a couple of exes in the past who were into it, but that’s two ladies in many years. One in particular I thought was my soul mate as we arranged afternoons of her being fucked while I watched, joined in and fucked her later in the evening after we’d gone out for dinner.

Question is, am I destined never to meet a likeminded soul?

Or indeed if any ladies are interested in speaking, let me know"

We are out there for sure

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By *oam_ShrimpsCouple
over a year ago

Darleston

OP, you sure you haven't met us?

On reading your post I thought I was looking in the mirror hehehe

Bob had used Fab and been to clubs but couldn't find what you are looking for, so started vanilla 'dating' and met me. I'd given up on men knowing I couldn't be faithful if my life depended on it, but I liked him so we dated for a few weeks and neither of us mentioned swinging or other partners in all that time. After a few weeks, really liked Bob so decided to be straight with him and tell him I was ending it as I doubt I'd be faithful when he was away with work, imagine my surprise when he just said 'all good with me so long as you take a pic and send me it' and 2 days later he took me to my first club and the rest as they say is history

We are now married and he gets off on sharing me with others and then 'reclaiming' me afterwards, we wouldn't change it for a thing

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By *heTallGuy81 OP   Man
over a year ago

london


"OP, you sure you haven't met us?

On reading your post I thought I was looking in the mirror hehehe

Bob had used Fab and been to clubs but couldn't find what you are looking for, so started vanilla 'dating' and met me. I'd given up on men knowing I couldn't be faithful if my life depended on it, but I liked him so we dated for a few weeks and neither of us mentioned swinging or other partners in all that time. After a few weeks, really liked Bob so decided to be straight with him and tell him I was ending it as I doubt I'd be faithful when he was away with work, imagine my surprise when he just said 'all good with me so long as you take a pic and send me it' and 2 days later he took me to my first club and the rest as they say is history

We are now married and he gets off on sharing me with others and then 'reclaiming' me afterwards, we wouldn't change it for a thing "

Well you sound absolutely lovely x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are here, just a mi ority. I guess. We love it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

im a bi slut that meets wen i say i will mainly in my ass im slutty about like x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

timewasters so sad dont get yas never have

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The perfect relationship in my eyes..the reclaim must be fantastic

The search goes on

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By *ocoTemptationMan
over a year ago

london

I can totally relate to you OP. I think to have the love and loyalty of a true sl** is the ultimate compliment and I agree with everything you have said.

On the flip side I need to be with a woman who is at ease with me meeting couples by myself. I crave both dynamics and because they are both true to who I am hard as it may sometimes feel I can't settle for less.

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By *ocoTemptationMan
over a year ago

london


"OP, you sure you haven't met us?

On reading your post I thought I was looking in the mirror hehehe

Bob had used Fab and been to clubs but couldn't find what you are looking for, so started vanilla 'dating' and met me. I'd given up on men knowing I couldn't be faithful if my life depended on it, but I liked him so we dated for a few weeks and neither of us mentioned swinging or other partners in all that time. After a few weeks, really liked Bob so decided to be straight with him and tell him I was ending it as I doubt I'd be faithful when he was away with work, imagine my surprise when he just said 'all good with me so long as you take a pic and send me it' and 2 days later he took me to my first club and the rest as they say is history

We are now married and he gets off on sharing me with others and then 'reclaiming' me afterwards, we wouldn't change it for a thing "

Wow you have given me hope I find traditional dating apps so frustrating and rarely get to chat with women. In part because I am up front and my profile states that I am ethically non-monogamous.

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By * Plus ECouple
over a year ago

The South


"One word I'm not comfortable with 'slut"

Fox xx"

Context......

M's first message to me every day is "Good morning my lovely sexy slut"

In the "moment" I've been known to call myself a slut. It's mentioned on our profile.

He/we never use it or intend it as a derogatory term.

E

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By *ot Wife BeckyCouple
over a year ago

Tortox

It seems that men have as much trouble finding a suitable lady as women do when looking for suitable men.

Becky is looking for someone that fits easily into our lifestyle. It's not easy and we've been looking for a long time....!

As the saying goes, you have to kiss a lot of frogs...

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By *drenaline rushMan
over a year ago

Burnley

Watching this with interest the dream scenario, the holy grail

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By *pices69Couple
over a year ago

Gravesend

it’ll happen when you least expect it, as it did for me/us.

good luck with your search.

ps. Great to see the reclaim aspect gets a mention, that’s my fav part!

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By *ocoTemptationMan
over a year ago

london


"it’ll happen when you least expect it, as it did for me/us.

good luck with your search.

ps. Great to see the reclaim aspect gets a mention, that’s my fav part!

"

Mmmmm I have fond memories of that. I'd slip my cock inside my partner, thrust slowly and get her to tell me what she's been up to.

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By *aughtycp1Couple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

I am definitely embracing being a slut wife. I had only had two lovers before I met hubby. Now he's cuckold and embraces the fact he is arrived to a hot slut wife x

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By *hocolateRodMan
over a year ago

London and over UK


"I can totally relate to you OP. I think to have the love and loyalty of a true sl** is the ultimate compliment and I agree with everything you have said.

On the flip side I need to be with a woman who is at ease with me meeting couples by myself. I crave both dynamics and because they are both true to who I am hard as it may sometimes feel I can't settle for less."

Agree with this!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

“What I’m really into darling, is watching multiple men have you to the limits of your sexual exhaustion, ejaculating into your mouth, then having you for myself for the rest of the evening while you still reek of sex”

I’m incredibly lucky to have Nicki as this above is exactly what she wants and we want.

The buzz for me is seeing her totally lost in the moment, totally in control and taking each man for her own sexual fulfilment and enjoyment.

The thought of the “reclaim “ sex afterwards with her still tasting of and covered in other man’s cum is a powerful aphrodisiac

Tony"

This post is pretty interesting! Did your situation start day one or did you work out what you wanted as you got to know and trust each other more?

When we met T had no experience of this world at all, and now she's a tried so much. BUT. We discovered those things after building trust and learning about each other. The chances that someone matches a shopping list of activities, and you actually like them is pretty low.

Maybe OP you'll either have to meet someone for the activity and then see if you like each other or meet someone you like and see if you both want to try the same things?

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

I'm my experience it's not difficult...it just takes patience and emotional maturity.

I've never dated or had sex with a monogamous woman. From my late teens to today as I slide towards middle age, I barely know anyone who isn't a slut, using the definition given by OP.

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By *heTallGuy81 OP   Man
over a year ago

london

Thank you everyone for your replies and responses.

Just being proactive and putting this out there. If any lady who identifies as a sex positive slut and who would be open to meeting socially to see if we click, please do message or indicate your desire to speak further.

I’d love to meet selected ladies who have the comfort in the fact that they are a slut and understand where I’m coming from here.

Equally, couples with ladies who seek to be entertained with their partner’s encouragement too. I love fulfilling the role of extra playmate x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thank you everyone for your replies and responses.

Just being proactive and putting this out there. If any lady who identifies as a sex positive slut and who would be open to meeting socially to see if we click, please do message or indicate your desire to speak further.

I’d love to meet selected ladies who have the comfort in the fact that they are a slut and understand where I’m coming from here.

Equally, couples with ladies who seek to be entertained with their partner’s encouragement too. I love fulfilling the role of extra playmate x"

Ah Ha!

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By *thleticgirthMan
over a year ago

wirral

Been trying for forever im the same as you.

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By *thleticgirthMan
over a year ago

wirral


"Here I am ... I'm a vixen hotwife and yes I love having lots of fit young studs whilst hubby watches ....sometimes just one other times 3 or 4 ... took me a while to get used to the idea that that's what hubby enjoys more than anything but now I'm on board I love it and I love how it turns him on ...I love being dirty filthy nawty and demanding numerous cocks like I can't get enough .... we are out there just gotta look in the right places "

Lucky lucky husband. I so want this x

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