FabSwingers.com forum: To message or not?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I've noticed that there are a few women and couples who keep appearing on my "looked at me" list whenever I post a new pic or vid. Iheir profiles say they're not looking for single guys, so I'm not sure I should message. I know people get pissed off when they get messages from people who don't match their profile and I don't want to be "one of those guys". I tried winking a couple of them as a compromise but never heard back. I know lots of people don't even look at winks though. So what's the etiquette in this situation?

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By *C7995XCouple
over a year ago

London

So sometimes we look at profiles together and one of us will go “nah not feeling that” even if the other one might be. Or maybe sitting on the fence. As a couple inviting someone in to our intimate moments is a big thing and not something we do with out a lot of questioning and research. So for us if we were doing that and then we received a msg from u it MAY discourage us... but that might not be the case for all.

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By *irty PrettyWoman
over a year ago

Cardiff

If it says in their “looking for” section “not looking for single guys”, it means their single male filter is on and you won’t be able to message them anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You are probably on their hotlist, they are probably lushing on your cock but won't message.

I'd wait for messages though

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

Some people are just bloody nosey! No harm in a wink. Nothing to lose!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've noticed that there are a few women and couples who keep appearing on my "looked at me" list whenever I post a new pic or vid. Iheir profiles say they're not looking for single guys, so I'm not sure I should message. I know people get pissed off when they get messages from people who don't match their profile and I don't want to be "one of those guys". I tried winking a couple of them as a compromise but never heard back. I know lots of people don't even look at winks though. So what's the etiquette in this situation?"

I feel your pain over this so recently I have been sending a polite messages some have replied and some my messages are still waiting to be read. Even though they have looked at me again and again.

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By *carletnsparksMan
over a year ago

halifax

Send a message saying you noticed them repeatedly looking at your profile and ask if they would like to chat.

If you don't like the attention from them then the block button is your friend

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By *evilandTheBeastCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough and Bedford

We think that, if they were interested, they would have messaged or at least winked at you. No need to message them.

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By *ickdasterdly51Man
over a year ago

Lingfield

I had this the other day. A couple looked at me three times in five days so I messaged them saying how hot their photos were, nothing more. Got blocked. Fuck'em (although I obviously won't be), plenty more fish in the sea. So take my advice, message them, if they are interested it could turn out to be something wonderful, if they aren't it's no loss and look elsewhere.

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By *acDreamyMan
over a year ago

Wirral

If they keep looking they may be toying with the idea of messaging you!

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By *ice guy 77Man
over a year ago

ashford

I get the same , keep looking at me, but never contact me,oh well

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for all the advice. Decided to message one couple. No reply yet, just another viewing of my profile! At least I didn’t get blocked and will leave the ball in their court.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had nearly 200 views today.I guess that's just out of curiosity as I'm quite new.Only 11 messages though.

It's probably people just looking at your pics and reading your profile to see if your for them or not.

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