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By *heNYCSausage OP   Man
over a year ago

Everton

I’ve had a few messages recently asking me if I’m interested in DDLG.

Whilst I am genuinely a nice guy and always look after the person I’m with, even becoming protective over them (not in a jealous way haha). But due to having a young daughter, I feel awkward being called a daddy in the fab world.

Anyone else like this?

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By *ocksareoffMan
over a year ago

Out n About

Yeah it's not for me either chap

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

As I am old enough to be someones grandad, its definitely not for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Once knew a woman who was heavily into this. Im pretty open minded but it just didn't sit right with me at all.

Tried to play along but felt really queasy. Wont be trying it again either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope, can't be having it, plus I'm not really a roleplay sort of person anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not for me either I mostly use Sir ..... I think it’s more for younger people xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Isn't Schindler's List a brilliant film?

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By *ocksareoffMan
over a year ago

Out n About


"Not for me either I mostly use Sir ..... I think it’s more for younger people xxx"

"Sir" oh I like that

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

I can't call someone daddy with a straight face. I've tried, but I end up laughing.

Each to their own I guess!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

different strokes for different folks.

while i indulge in the DDlg lifestyle with my partner, and we both thoroughly enjoy it.. it isn't the be all and end all of our relationship, nor is it something either of us engage in with other people.

live and let live Px

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The trouble with DD/lg is that people don’t understand it, and just condemn it as gross or disgusting.

It’s about support, love and reassurance more than anything.

It’s also not necessarily about age play, or for younger people. On that other site, there are women in their 50’s/60s who are in a DD/lg dynamic.

It’s not for everyone, that’s for sure, but at least try and gain an understanding of it before you kink shame.

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By *moothshaftMan
over a year ago

Coventry

Being the age I am, I quite often get this, and I'm quite happily in two role play relationships with these younger women. They love it, and we always make each other cum.

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By *moothshaftMan
over a year ago

Coventry


"The trouble with DD/lg is that people don’t understand it, and just condemn it as gross or disgusting.

It’s about support, love and reassurance more than anything.

It’s also not necessarily about age play, or for younger people. On that other site, there are women in their 50’s/60s who are in a DD/lg dynamic.

It’s not for everyone, that’s for sure, but at least try and gain an understanding of it before you kink shame. "

This. Well said. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The trouble with DD/lg is that people don’t understand it, and just condemn it as gross or disgusting.

It’s about support, love and reassurance more than anything.

It’s also not necessarily about age play, or for younger people. On that other site, there are women in their 50’s/60s who are in a DD/lg dynamic.

It’s not for everyone, that’s for sure, but at least try and gain an understanding of it before you kink shame. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The dynamic is reasonably appealing, but the label isn't. "Sir" feels more comfortable for me.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land


"The trouble with DD/lg is that people don’t understand it, and just condemn it as gross or disgusting.

It’s about support, love and reassurance more than anything.

It’s also not necessarily about age play, or for younger people. On that other site, there are women in their 50’s/60s who are in a DD/lg dynamic.

It’s not for everyone, that’s for sure, but at least try and gain an understanding of it before you kink shame. "

Stop being so sensible Fallen!!! I mean you can't possibly be little and be older than your DD. Because that isn't how it works is it

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By *ocksareoffMan
over a year ago

Out n About

I'm not shaming, far from it. Each to their own It's just not my cup of tea.

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

What's DDLG? Here I thought I was knowledgeable

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I prefer Sir and do use it.

I only have one dad..dont need another.

Good on those who like it but just to cringy for me.

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By *.L.0460.Woman
over a year ago

Bognor Regis


"What's DDLG? Here I thought I was knowledgeable "

Daddy dom/ little girl, I believe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The trouble with DD/lg is that people don’t understand it, and just condemn it as gross or disgusting.

It’s about support, love and reassurance more than anything.

It’s also not necessarily about age play, or for younger people. On that other site, there are women in their 50’s/60s who are in a DD/lg dynamic.

It’s not for everyone, that’s for sure, but at least try and gain an understanding of it before you kink shame.

Stop being so sensible Fallen!!! I mean you can't possibly be little and be older than your DD. Because that isn't how it works is it "

I know, sorry . How dare I

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

My fox tail butt plug doesn't make me a fox. Neither does being a little make me a child. It's the name of a dynamic that allows me to be at my most vulnerable whilst knowing I'm safe end of, how very terrible. Some people who identify as being in a DDlg don't even use the word daddy. It's an abbreviation to explain the basics of a couples dynamic that others in the community understand.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had to Google (I’m soooo naive!) - do multiple women really message fellas that?

Gawd, yeah OP, not for me, has shades of inappropriateness about it, even if all legal and consensual. Nah, not for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't get my head round the DDLG myself due to two different reasons.

One being that I'm a parent.

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss


"The trouble with DD/lg is that people don’t understand it, and just condemn it as gross or disgusting.

It’s about support, love and reassurance more than anything.

It’s also not necessarily about age play, or for younger people. On that other site, there are women in their 50’s/60s who are in a DD/lg dynamic.

It’s not for everyone, that’s for sure, but at least try and gain an understanding of it before you kink shame. "

This 100000%

Its actually a very interesting dynamic, I had outrage when I was uninformed about it, but I took the time to find out about it rather than kink shame.

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By *nlyfun3Woman
over a year ago

NEAR Berkhamsted,Herts

I don't have issue with the dynamic but the term daddy ot mummy for me just doesn't work as only people I call or am called are family members so doesn't sit well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The trouble with DD/lg is that people don’t understand it, and just condemn it as gross or disgusting.

It’s about support, love and reassurance more than anything.

It’s also not necessarily about age play, or for younger people. On that other site, there are women in their 50’s/60s who are in a DD/lg dynamic.

It’s not for everyone, that’s for sure, but at least try and gain an understanding of it before you kink shame.

This 100000%

Its actually a very interesting dynamic, I had outrage when I was uninformed about it, but I took the time to find out about it rather than kink shame."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve learnt something new today. I had not heard of DDLG before. This sounds interesting. I’d prefer the term Sir but if Daddy works for her, I wouldn’t stop her.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

It’s not for everyone but I have dabbled and enjoyed it.

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By *oby BestMan
over a year ago

the shires


"The trouble with DD/lg is that people don’t understand it, and just condemn it as gross or disgusting.

It’s about support, love and reassurance more than anything.

It’s also not necessarily about age play, or for younger people. On that other site, there are women in their 50’s/60s who are in a DD/lg dynamic.

It’s not for everyone, that’s for sure, but at least try and gain an understanding of it before you kink shame. "

Well said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People use 'baby' as an term for sexual partners, I don't see how it is different.

I really wish people would at least not comment if they don't understand a dynamic rather than judge. I love a bit of DD/lg play, it is simply affectionate domination. Each to their own.

I wonder whether all those 'queasy' about this can honestly say they haven't played the schoolgirl dress up....

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

I have been a Master to a slve, a Sir to a sub and a Daddy to a little. While they are all D/s type relationships, the different honourifics are important to the different dynamics and their associated head space.

We have a DDMD/lg dynamic with one person we meet occasionally.

It is a Caregiver dynamic where she is able to relax in a caring, nurturing and protective environment. We do creative things, watch movies, talk and hang out. Its not just some sexualised “role play”.

We appreciate it isn’t for everyone, with people tending to get hung up on the aspects of “age regression” and the terms “daddy” and “mummy”, but that is a small percentage of what the dynamic is about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The trouble with DD/lg is that people don’t understand it, and just condemn it as gross or disgusting.

It’s about support, love and reassurance more than anything.

It’s also not necessarily about age play, or for younger people. On that other site, there are women in their 50’s/60s who are in a DD/lg dynamic.

It’s not for everyone, that’s for sure, but at least try and gain an understanding of it before you kink shame. "

Well said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have been a Master to a slve, a Sir to a sub and a Daddy to a little. While they are all D/s type relationships, the different honourifics are important to the different dynamics and their associated head space.

We have a DDMD/lg dynamic with one person we meet occasionally.

It is a Caregiver dynamic where she is able to relax in a caring, nurturing and protective environment. We do creative things, watch movies, talk and hang out. Its not just some sexualised “role play”.

We appreciate it isn’t for everyone, with people tending to get hung up on the aspects of “age regression” and the terms “daddy” and “mummy”, but that is a small percentage of what the dynamic is about."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not my bag regardless of

'context '

There are other words you can use for nurturing and caring for someone.

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By *ersey GirlCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

I see it as a respect thing in a dominant/submissive relationship. I call Sam Sir. You don't have to be younger to call someone daddy. It's all in the mind. If you don't have that kind of mindset it won't be for you. For those it works for it just does

R

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People use 'baby' as an term for sexual partners, I don't see how it is different.

I really wish people would at least not comment if they don't understand a dynamic rather than judge. I love a bit of DD/lg play, it is simply affectionate domination. Each to their own.

I wonder whether all those 'queasy' about this can honestly say they haven't played the schoolgirl dress up...."

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By *oItForYorkshireCouple
over a year ago

Yorkshire

I (fem) LOVE it, well when I say love it it’s mainly the audible aspect but it’s only something I would do with a very trusted partner or a man that knew about it and was comfortable with it. I wouldn’t do it with a one night stand

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's not my bag regardless of

'context '

There are other words you can use for nurturing and caring for someone.

"

No one is saying it has to be your bag. As another poster said, if it works, it works.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The trouble with DD/lg is that people don’t understand it, and just condemn it as gross or disgusting.

It’s about support, love and reassurance more than anything.

It’s also not necessarily about age play, or for younger people. On that other site, there are women in their 50’s/60s who are in a DD/lg dynamic.

It’s not for everyone, that’s for sure, but at least try and gain an understanding of it before you kink shame. "

Excellent response.

We often read how ooen minded fabbers are supposed to be but the reality is many don't take the time to educate themselves or try to understand beton their own experiences.

Sadly your last two words categorise many when it comes to new things.

Trying to learn and understand others is what should be setting us apart or we just end up with a similar mindset like many vanillas who think fabbing is for unstable people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's not my bag regardless of

'context '

There are other words you can use for nurturing and caring for someone.

No one is saying it has to be your bag. As another poster said, if it works, it works. "

And I was commenting on the thread - just because my opinion differs from yours it doesn't make it less valid.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds


"People use 'baby' as an term for sexual partners, I don't see how it is different.

I really wish people would at least not comment if they don't understand a dynamic rather than judge. I love a bit of DD/lg play, it is simply affectionate domination. Each to their own.

I wonder whether all those 'queasy' about this can honestly say they haven't played the schoolgirl dress up...."

I've never done the schoolgirl dress up!

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By *areasRockinghorsepooWoman
over a year ago

my happy place

How many women melt when getting called a good girl during a sexual act?

How many men like a woman dressed as a slutty school girl?

Unless you have tried it i really dont think its fair to judge. Thats not aimed at anyone specific. But an open mind is so much more attractive than a judging one. Be kind. ?

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

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The good thing about threads like this is that you get the opportunity to understand what some people enjoy about the dynamic. It isn’t for everyone, it isn’t for me, but clearly it appeals to a lot of people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can't call someone daddy with a straight face. I've tried, but I end up laughing.

Each to their own I guess!"

Me too mummy...lol

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By *areasRockinghorsepooWoman
over a year ago

my happy place


"The good thing about threads like this is that you get the opportunity to understand what some people enjoy about the dynamic. It isn’t for everyone, it isn’t for me, but clearly it appeals to a lot of people. "

This is what i like about this site the diversity. I have seen videos and pics of people being called a cum slut and whore. Not for me at all but its interesting to see what others are into.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thanks for the description and explanation of the dynamics. It’s fascinating and I daresay I’d try it if the opportunity came along.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

DD/MD/lg/lb and its various combinations are becoming more frequently referred to as CG/l relationships (Caregiver/little). I suspect this is in part due to the rise of gender fluidity and sexual identities which no longer conform to the two sexes (boy/girl), as well as in some instances a desire to move away from the family based titles.

This may lead to an uptake in the use of other non familial titles, outside what people already do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only had the dynamic explained to me recently, before that I didn't have a clue and I'll admit I thought it was all the things that generally it isn't.

I think the dynamic itself is actually quite lovely and if it works for people then that's great. I personally couldn't ever refer to a guy as "daddy", I had a dad once, he's now dead. There's no way I could get my head round that one.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Nope, can't be having it, plus I'm not really a roleplay sort of person anyway."
nor am I. You get me, not me acting.

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By *entlemanrogueMan
over a year ago

Glasgow


"I’ve had a few messages recently asking me if I’m interested in DDLG.

Whilst I am genuinely a nice guy and always look after the person I’m with, even becoming protective over them (not in a jealous way haha). But due to having a young daughter, I feel awkward being called a daddy in the fab world.

Anyone else like this? "

I thought i would have an issue with being called Daddy, but i rather enjoy it, I don"t play with people who age regress though.

Daddy/babygirl for me are just pet names, or a show or respect and authority.

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By *entlemanrogueMan
over a year ago

Glasgow


"The trouble with DD/lg is that people don’t understand it, and just condemn it as gross or disgusting.

It’s about support, love and reassurance more than anything.

It’s also not necessarily about age play, or for younger people. On that other site, there are women in their 50’s/60s who are in a DD/lg dynamic.

It’s not for everyone, that’s for sure, but at least try and gain an understanding of it before you kink shame. "

The OP did not kink shame, simply saying it made them feel awkward and DD/lg wasn't for him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The trouble with DD/lg is that people don’t understand it, and just condemn it as gross or disgusting.

It’s about support, love and reassurance more than anything.

It’s also not necessarily about age play, or for younger people. On that other site, there are women in their 50’s/60s who are in a DD/lg dynamic.

It’s not for everyone, that’s for sure, but at least try and gain an understanding of it before you kink shame.

The OP did not kink shame, simply saying it made them feel awkward and DD/lg wasn't for him."

If wasn’t aimed at the op, it’s a subject that comes up quite often, and it is kink shamed, a lot.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It seems the names are a stumbling block for some people. That is as it is in any walk of life. To each his own.

For me, the appeal is the dynamic based on what I’ve seen described here. It’s fascinating and has me intrigued.

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By *entlemanrogueMan
over a year ago

Glasgow


"The trouble with DD/lg is that people don’t understand it, and just condemn it as gross or disgusting.

It’s about support, love and reassurance more than anything.

It’s also not necessarily about age play, or for younger people. On that other site, there are women in their 50’s/60s who are in a DD/lg dynamic.

It’s not for everyone, that’s for sure, but at least try and gain an understanding of it before you kink shame.

The OP did not kink shame, simply saying it made them feel awkward and DD/lg wasn't for him.

If wasn’t aimed at the op, it’s a subject that comes up quite often, and it is kink shamed, a lot. "

My apologies, the way i read your post and because it did not have a quote, it seemed like it was aimed at the OP.

It is true, I have seen a lot of people pull faces and makes shitty jokes about DD/lg. Which is a shame everyone i know who is in, or enjoys this dynamic seem like lovely people, just misunderstood.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The trouble with DD/lg is that people don’t understand it, and just condemn it as gross or disgusting.

It’s about support, love and reassurance more than anything.

It’s also not necessarily about age play, or for younger people. On that other site, there are women in their 50’s/60s who are in a DD/lg dynamic.

It’s not for everyone, that’s for sure, but at least try and gain an understanding of it before you kink shame.

The OP did not kink shame, simply saying it made them feel awkward and DD/lg wasn't for him.

If wasn’t aimed at the op, it’s a subject that comes up quite often, and it is kink shamed, a lot.

My apologies, the way i read your post and because it did not have a quote, it seemed like it was aimed at the OP.

It is true, I have seen a lot of people pull faces and makes shitty jokes about DD/lg. Which is a shame everyone i know who is in, or enjoys this dynamic seem like lovely people, just misunderstood.

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No problem

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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago

stockport


"I’ve had a few messages recently asking me if I’m interested in DDLG.

Whilst I am genuinely a nice guy and always look after the person I’m with, even becoming protective over them (not in a jealous way haha). But due to having a young daughter, I feel awkward being called a daddy in the fab world.

Anyone else like this? "

You make me call you daddy

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By *heNYCSausage OP   Man
over a year ago

Everton

I have just had time to read the replies (kids have been here all day lol) so I just wanted to clarify that I wasn’t kink shaming, I was genuinely seeing if there was an alternative that I could get my head around without being put off cause my daughter calls me daddy lol

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By *heNYCSausage OP   Man
over a year ago

Everton


"I’ve had a few messages recently asking me if I’m interested in DDLG.

Whilst I am genuinely a nice guy and always look after the person I’m with, even becoming protective over them (not in a jealous way haha). But due to having a young daughter, I feel awkward being called a daddy in the fab world.

Anyone else like this?

You make me call you daddy "

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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago

stockport


"I’ve had a few messages recently asking me if I’m interested in DDLG.

Whilst I am genuinely a nice guy and always look after the person I’m with, even becoming protective over them (not in a jealous way haha). But due to having a young daughter, I feel awkward being called a daddy in the fab world.

Anyone else like this?

You make me call you daddy

"

Papa sausage??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Papa sausage?? "

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By *heNYCSausage OP   Man
over a year ago

Everton


"I’ve had a few messages recently asking me if I’m interested in DDLG.

Whilst I am genuinely a nice guy and always look after the person I’m with, even becoming protective over them (not in a jealous way haha). But due to having a young daughter, I feel awkward being called a daddy in the fab world.

Anyone else like this?

You make me call you daddy

Papa sausage?? "

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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago

stockport


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Papa sausage??

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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago

stockport


"I’ve had a few messages recently asking me if I’m interested in DDLG.

Whilst I am genuinely a nice guy and always look after the person I’m with, even becoming protective over them (not in a jealous way haha). But due to having a young daughter, I feel awkward being called a daddy in the fab world.

Anyone else like this?

You make me call you daddy

Papa sausage??

"

Stop rolling your eyes at me daddio

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have just had time to read the replies (kids have been here all day lol) so I just wanted to clarify that I wasn’t kink shaming, I was genuinely seeing if there was an alternative that I could get my head around without being put off cause my daughter calls me daddy lol"

Why would you want to do something that makes you feel uncomfortable?

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By *heNYCSausage OP   Man
over a year ago

Everton


"I have just had time to read the replies (kids have been here all day lol) so I just wanted to clarify that I wasn’t kink shaming, I was genuinely seeing if there was an alternative that I could get my head around without being put off cause my daughter calls me daddy lol

Why would you want to do something that makes you feel uncomfortable?

"

I’m open minded. So whilst calling me daddy is a no go (and daddio is a no Lexi) I was looking for possible alternatives that I could try and see how it goes.

If I don’t like it, I won’t do it.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land


"I have just had time to read the replies (kids have been here all day lol) so I just wanted to clarify that I wasn’t kink shaming, I was genuinely seeing if there was an alternative that I could get my head around without being put off cause my daughter calls me daddy lol

Why would you want to do something that makes you feel uncomfortable?

I’m open minded. So whilst calling me daddy is a no go (and daddio is a no Lexi) I was looking for possible alternatives that I could try and see how it goes.

If I don’t like it, I won’t do it. "

Don't get bogged down with labels is my advice. It's the same as any pet name you'd give your other half they occur naturally over time.

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over a year ago

Total turn off here too

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales


"I have just had time to read the replies (kids have been here all day lol) so I just wanted to clarify that I wasn’t kink shaming, I was genuinely seeing if there was an alternative that I could get my head around without being put off cause my daughter calls me daddy lol

Why would you want to do something that makes you feel uncomfortable?

I’m open minded. So whilst calling me daddy is a no go (and daddio is a no Lexi) I was looking for possible alternatives that I could try and see how it goes.

If I don’t like it, I won’t do it. "

How about Papi? That’s a term of endearment.

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss


"I have just had time to read the replies (kids have been here all day lol) so I just wanted to clarify that I wasn’t kink shaming, I was genuinely seeing if there was an alternative that I could get my head around without being put off cause my daughter calls me daddy lol

Why would you want to do something that makes you feel uncomfortable?

I’m open minded. So whilst calling me daddy is a no go (and daddio is a no Lexi) I was looking for possible alternatives that I could try and see how it goes.

If I don’t like it, I won’t do it. "

Some use King and Princess as endearment names, that's it with this dynamic you can tailor it to however you wish

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Honestly it's so lovely to see this thread be mostly positive without the usual hateful comments. I have a DDlg dynamic with one of my partners. It's not for everyone but it makes us happy.

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

I’m yer Daddy

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By *edeWoman
over a year ago

the abyss

I can understand. Being submissive a lot of guys automatically think I want them to be my 'Daddy' which isn't what I want at all. I have an actual Dad and he is absolutely fricking amazing - so for a guy to pretend would just be weird for me.

But on the other hand I can see the appeal of it so as long as it makes them happy

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By *isAdventure69Woman
over a year ago

Hampshire

Try being addressed as "mummy" in an initial contact

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By *heNYCSausage OP   Man
over a year ago

Everton


"Try being addressed as "mummy" in an initial contact "

Mid find that very weird if someone called me mummy lol

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss


"Try being addressed as "mummy" in an initial contact "

I'd feel the same if someone addressed me as a cum slut in an initial contact, we all have words we take to different places, thats the great diversity of fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This

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By *isAdventure69Woman
over a year ago

Hampshire


"Try being addressed as "mummy" in an initial contact

I'd feel the same if someone addressed me as a cum slut in an initial contact, we all have words we take to different places, thats the great diversity of fab "

I wouldn't best pleased by that either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's separating the reality of the word to the fantasy meaning. You either can separate or you can't.

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

I’ll never call you Daddy sausage

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By *entlemanrogueMan
over a year ago

Glasgow


"I have just had time to read the replies (kids have been here all day lol) so I just wanted to clarify that I wasn’t kink shaming, I was genuinely seeing if there was an alternative that I could get my head around without being put off cause my daughter calls me daddy lol

Why would you want to do something that makes you feel uncomfortable?

I’m open minded. So whilst calling me daddy is a no go (and daddio is a no Lexi) I was looking for possible alternatives that I could try and see how it goes.

If I don’t like it, I won’t do it.

How about Papi? That’s a term of endearment. "

^ It is a Yes from me

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By *heNYCSausage OP   Man
over a year ago

Everton


"I’ll never call you Daddy sausage "

Haha that’s cause you know what I’d do to you!

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

I think that a lot of people don’t really understand the dynamic that consider it to be a concern.

Misunderstanding and ignorance is fair enough but people shouldn’t make assumptions based on that lack of understanding.

Just as with any kink or dynamic that people don’t understand, it should be a simple case of ‘your kink isn’t my kink but that’s ok’ instead of making assumptions about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think that a lot of people don’t really understand the dynamic that consider it to be a concern.

Misunderstanding and ignorance is fair enough but people shouldn’t make assumptions based on that lack of understanding.

Just as with any kink or dynamic that people don’t understand, it should be a simple case of ‘your kink isn’t my kink but that’s ok’ instead of making assumptions about it"

Love that saying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can imagine that it feels awkward when you’re used to hearing ‘daddy’ from the mouth of your daughter.

I also get more and more such messages (I blame my greying hair) and although I have been in such a relationship and I’m open to it again, some make me uncomfortable. I don’t like being called daddy out cold.

For me it’s a natural evolution of a relationship: when two people develop feelings and find a reciprocal arrangement where caring, protecting, challenging, nurturing match the expected characteristics of a father figure.

Others may enjoy it as a role play only. In and out of character when they fancy. That’s not for me.

All that to say that we all have a different sensibility towards such a relationship. And any kind of relationship for that matter.

And on a side note, I never came across any DD who referred to his little as ‘daughter’. Little one, baby girl...many others, .but never daughter.

To me that confirms that the fantasy revolves around the characteristics of the father figure, not the genealogical link.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not for me either.. it’s one of my turn off.

Absolutely fine with calling someone Sir though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes Daddy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess it works for those that see a father/daddy as a nurturing caring figure as opposed to those that have suffered at the hands of their so called father/daddy.

So while some can understand the dynamic, know they'd need to seperate between reality and fantasy there is also cases where people can't go there because of what it might trigger in them etc.

At which point alternative names can be used so it's not a DD/lg.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It can work for me with the right man

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I guess it works for those that see a father/daddy as a nurturing caring figure as opposed to those that have suffered at the hands of their so called father/daddy.

So while some can understand the dynamic, know they'd need to seperate between reality and fantasy there is also cases where people can't go there because of what it might trigger in them etc.

At which point alternative names can be used so it's not a DD/lg. "

It can actually be a healing space, as a lot of kink can be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve had a few messages recently asking me if I’m interested in DDLG.

Whilst I am genuinely a nice guy and always look after the person I’m with, even becoming protective over them (not in a jealous way haha). But due to having a young daughter, I feel awkward being called a daddy in the fab world.

Anyone else like this? "

Wouldn't be for me either..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I guess it works for those that see a father/daddy as a nurturing caring figure as opposed to those that have suffered at the hands of their so called father/daddy.

So while some can understand the dynamic, know they'd need to seperate between reality and fantasy there is also cases where people can't go there because of what it might trigger in them etc.

At which point alternative names can be used so it's not a DD/lg.

It can actually be a healing space, as a lot of kink can be "

Now that might need explaining to me as I'm struggling to get my head round it being healing.

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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago

stockport


"I’ll never call you Daddy sausage "

It’s Papa sausage!

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester


"I’ll never call you Daddy sausage

It’s Papa sausage! "

Just no on every level

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By *edeWoman
over a year ago

the abyss


"I guess it works for those that see a father/daddy as a nurturing caring figure as opposed to those that have suffered at the hands of their so called father/daddy.

So while some can understand the dynamic, know they'd need to seperate between reality and fantasy there is also cases where people can't go there because of what it might trigger in them etc.

At which point alternative names can be used so it's not a DD/lg.

It can actually be a healing space, as a lot of kink can be

Now that might need explaining to me as I'm struggling to get my head round it being healing. "

Possibly in the sense that if they didn't have the caring nurturing father figure growing up having a DD would fill a void for them if it is something they have always craved?

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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago

stockport


"I’ll never call you Daddy sausage

It’s Papa sausage!

Just no on every level "

Hahahaha!!

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By *heNYCSausage OP   Man
over a year ago

Everton


"I’ll never call you Daddy sausage

It’s Papa sausage!

Just no on every level "

I second that x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I guess it works for those that see a father/daddy as a nurturing caring figure as opposed to those that have suffered at the hands of their so called father/daddy.

So while some can understand the dynamic, know they'd need to seperate between reality and fantasy there is also cases where people can't go there because of what it might trigger in them etc.

At which point alternative names can be used so it's not a DD/lg.

It can actually be a healing space, as a lot of kink can be

Now that might need explaining to me as I'm struggling to get my head round it being healing.

Possibly in the sense that if they didn't have the caring nurturing father figure growing up having a DD would fill a void for them if it is something they have always craved? "

OK I think I get that.

But what if they didn't crave it or have the void and had just accepted it as what it is?

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny


"I guess it works for those that see a father/daddy as a nurturing caring figure as opposed to those that have suffered at the hands of their so called father/daddy.

So while some can understand the dynamic, know they'd need to seperate between reality and fantasy there is also cases where people can't go there because of what it might trigger in them etc.

At which point alternative names can be used so it's not a DD/lg.

It can actually be a healing space, as a lot of kink can be

Now that might need explaining to me as I'm struggling to get my head round it being healing.

Possibly in the sense that if they didn't have the caring nurturing father figure growing up having a DD would fill a void for them if it is something they have always craved?

OK I think I get that.

But what if they didn't crave it or have the void and had just accepted it as what it is? "

Then it’s a type of D/s dynamic thats not for you.

If you aren’t a little, you are unlikely to want or need a DD. DD’s aren't a role play father figure, and being called Daddy during sex alone does not make you a DD.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"different strokes for different folks.

while i indulge in the DDlg lifestyle with my partner, and we both thoroughly enjoy it.. it isn't the be all and end all of our relationship, nor is it something either of us engage in with other people.

live and let live Px "

This... I get off on it, big time.. But its not the b all and end all.. Hubby has yet to complain

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The dynamic is reasonably appealing, but the label isn't. "Sir" feels more comfortable for me."

Exactly this. Ppl have the right to challenge the label that have been chosen to describe the dynamic.

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over a year ago


"The dynamic is reasonably appealing, but the label isn't. "Sir" feels more comfortable for me.

Exactly this. Ppl have the right to challenge the label that have been chosen to describe the dynamic. "

Daddy Dom, Dom, Sir, Master and the many others roles are not interchangeable. They are variations around a theme. ‘Sir’ suggests you lean more towards the formal aspect, you seek some form of protocol, more or less strict. DD/lg doesn’t have this formal, protocol aspect to it. They are not the same the same dynamic.

And why would you challenge the roles or dynamic people have chosen for themselves? If it doesn’t sit well with you, leave it, but let others enjoy their life the way they want.

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss


"I guess it works for those that see a father/daddy as a nurturing caring figure as opposed to those that have suffered at the hands of their so called father/daddy.

So while some can understand the dynamic, know they'd need to seperate between reality and fantasy there is also cases where people can't go there because of what it might trigger in them etc.

At which point alternative names can be used so it's not a DD/lg.

It can actually be a healing space, as a lot of kink can be

Now that might need explaining to me as I'm struggling to get my head round it being healing.

Possibly in the sense that if they didn't have the caring nurturing father figure growing up having a DD would fill a void for them if it is something they have always craved?

OK I think I get that.

But what if they didn't crave it or have the void and had just accepted it as what it is? "

I've DM you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The dynamic is reasonably appealing, but the label isn't. "Sir" feels more comfortable for me.

Exactly this. Ppl have the right to challenge the label that have been chosen to describe the dynamic.

Daddy Dom, Dom, Sir, Master and the many others roles are not interchangeable. They are variations around a theme. ‘Sir’ suggests you lean more towards the formal aspect, you seek some form of protocol, more or less strict. DD/lg doesn’t have this formal, protocol aspect to it. They are not the same the same dynamic.

And why would you challenge the roles or dynamic people have chosen for themselves? If it doesn’t sit well with you, leave it, but let others enjoy their life the way they want.

"

Leave it ? So now because we do not agree with something we should just leave it ?

Plus if you read properly what I have written I don't challenge the dynamic but challenge the names used to describe it. The label is disturbing, not the dynamic.

You underlined it above yourself that daddy and little girl usually refers to the relationship a dad has with his daughter. So I am not sorry if that labelling disturbed me.

As you have the right to state your opinion about my opinion, I have the right to do so too, even if you are happy with it or not.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Try being addressed as "mummy" in an initial contact "
is your name Cleopatra?

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

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"Try being addressed as "mummy" in an initial contact "

That would be an unpleasant shudder and delete.

Presumptions should never be made with this. People have no idea what others have experienced and it could trigger something pretty unpleasant. Proceed with caution

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t understand it at all.

On the female side you’re imagining banging your Dad yeah?!

On the Male side (especially if you’re a father) you are imagining banging your child yes?!!

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By *eparrain1Man
over a year ago

Stone


"The trouble with DD/lg is that people don’t understand it, and just condemn it as gross or disgusting.

It’s about support, love and reassurance more than anything.

It’s also not necessarily about age play, or for younger people. On that other site, there are women in their 50’s/60s who are in a DD/lg dynamic.

It’s not for everyone, that’s for sure, but at least try and gain an understanding of it before you kink shame. "

Wise and knowledgeable as usual beautiful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Double Diamond Liquid Gold

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny


"I don’t understand it at all.

On the female side you’re imagining banging your Dad yeah?!

On the Male side (especially if you’re a father) you are imagining banging your child yes?!!

"

No. And thats why it is misunderstood.

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By *an4funMan
over a year ago

london


"The dynamic is reasonably appealing, but the label isn't. "Sir" feels more comfortable for me.

Exactly this. Ppl have the right to challenge the label that have been chosen to describe the dynamic.

Daddy Dom, Dom, Sir, Master and the many others roles are not interchangeable. They are variations around a theme. ‘Sir’ suggests you lean more towards the formal aspect, you seek some form of protocol, more or less strict. DD/lg doesn’t have this formal, protocol aspect to it. They are not the same the same dynamic.

And why would you challenge the roles or dynamic people have chosen for themselves? If it doesn’t sit well with you, leave it, but let others enjoy their life the way they want.

Leave it ? So now because we do not agree with something we should just leave it ?

Plus if you read properly what I have written I don't challenge the dynamic but challenge the names used to describe it. The label is disturbing, not the dynamic.

You underlined it above yourself that daddy and little girl usually refers to the relationship a dad has with his daughter. So I am not sorry if that labelling disturbed me.

As you have the right to state your opinion about my opinion, I have the right to do so too, even if you are happy with it or not. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The dynamic is reasonably appealing, but the label isn't. "Sir" feels more comfortable for me.

Exactly this. Ppl have the right to challenge the label that have been chosen to describe the dynamic.

Daddy Dom, Dom, Sir, Master and the many others roles are not interchangeable. They are variations around a theme. ‘Sir’ suggests you lean more towards the formal aspect, you seek some form of protocol, more or less strict. DD/lg doesn’t have this formal, protocol aspect to it. They are not the same the same dynamic.

And why would you challenge the roles or dynamic people have chosen for themselves? If it doesn’t sit well with you, leave it, but let others enjoy their life the way they want.

Leave it ? So now because we do not agree with something we should just leave it ?

Plus if you read properly what I have written I don't challenge the dynamic but challenge the names used to describe it. The label is disturbing, not the dynamic.

You underlined it above yourself that daddy and little girl usually refers to the relationship a dad has with his daughter. So I am not sorry if that labelling disturbed me.

As you have the right to state your opinion about my opinion, I have the right to do so too, even if you are happy with it or not. "

By ‘leave it’ I didn’t mean “leave the conversation, your opinion is not valid”, I meant: if such a dynamic doesn’t suit you, do not engage in it.

And I still don’t understand why you would challenge any aspect of somebody else’s relationship. As long as both parties consent to that relationship, are happy with it and it doesn’t harm anybody else, why would outside parties interfere and tell them you shouldn’t be doing this or that?

And in my earlier post I actually highlighted that the DD/lg dynamic shares SOME OF the characteristics you’d expect in a healthy father daughter relationship.

I haven’t say they are the same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have just had time to read the replies (kids have been here all day lol) so I just wanted to clarify that I wasn’t kink shaming, I was genuinely seeing if there was an alternative that I could get my head around without being put off cause my daughter calls me daddy lol

Why would you want to do something that makes you feel uncomfortable?

I’m open minded. So whilst calling me daddy is a no go (and daddio is a no Lexi) I was looking for possible alternatives that I could try and see how it goes.

If I don’t like it, I won’t do it.

Some use King and Princess as endearment names, that's it with this dynamic you can tailor it to however you wish"

That sounds better to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The dynamic is reasonably appealing, but the label isn't. "Sir" feels more comfortable for me.

Exactly this. Ppl have the right to challenge the label that have been chosen to describe the dynamic.

Daddy Dom, Dom, Sir, Master and the many others roles are not interchangeable. They are variations around a theme. ‘Sir’ suggests you lean more towards the formal aspect, you seek some form of protocol, more or less strict. DD/lg doesn’t have this formal, protocol aspect to it. They are not the same the same dynamic.

And why would you challenge the roles or dynamic people have chosen for themselves? If it doesn’t sit well with you, leave it, but let others enjoy their life the way they want.

Leave it ? So now because we do not agree with something we should just leave it ?

Plus if you read properly what I have written I don't challenge the dynamic but challenge the names used to describe it. The label is disturbing, not the dynamic.

You underlined it above yourself that daddy and little girl usually refers to the relationship a dad has with his daughter. So I am not sorry if that labelling disturbed me.

As you have the right to state your opinion about my opinion, I have the right to do so too, even if you are happy with it or not.

By ‘leave it’ I didn’t mean “leave the conversation, your opinion is not valid”, I meant: if such a dynamic doesn’t suit you, do not engage in it.

And I still don’t understand why you would challenge any aspect of somebody else’s relationship. As long as both parties consent to that relationship, are happy with it and it doesn’t harm anybody else, why would outside parties interfere and tell them you shouldn’t be doing this or that?

And in my earlier post I actually highlighted that the DD/lg dynamic shares SOME OF the characteristics you’d expect in a healthy father daughter relationship.

I haven’t say they are the same.

"

What characteristics?

The kind that only occur between father and daughter? Or the kind that would be in any other healthy relationship?

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land


"I don’t understand it at all.

On the female side you’re imagining banging your Dad yeah?!

On the Male side (especially if you’re a father) you are imagining banging your child yes?!!

"

So when I wear a tail butt plug it doesn't make me think I'm an animal. Much in the same way I doubt you're the kracken or a wolf

But to answer your question I don't imagine I'm fucking my father. When I'm fucking my partner surprise surprise I'm thinking of him, thought this would be obvious to be honest.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales


"I don’t understand it at all.

On the female side you’re imagining banging your Dad yeah?!

On the Male side (especially if you’re a father) you are imagining banging your child yes?!!

"

No.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t understand it at all.

On the female side you’re imagining banging your Dad yeah?!

On the Male side (especially if you’re a father) you are imagining banging your child yes?!!

"

This has actually been a positive and informative thread for most, please don’t come on here and try to be deliberately inflammatory.

If it’s not for you, fair enough, but at least go and educate yourself first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The dynamic is reasonably appealing, but the label isn't. "Sir" feels more comfortable for me.

Exactly this. Ppl have the right to challenge the label that have been chosen to describe the dynamic.

Daddy Dom, Dom, Sir, Master and the many others roles are not interchangeable. They are variations around a theme. ‘Sir’ suggests you lean more towards the formal aspect, you seek some form of protocol, more or less strict. DD/lg doesn’t have this formal, protocol aspect to it. They are not the same the same dynamic.

And why would you challenge the roles or dynamic people have chosen for themselves? If it doesn’t sit well with you, leave it, but let others enjoy their life the way they want.

Leave it ? So now because we do not agree with something we should just leave it ?

Plus if you read properly what I have written I don't challenge the dynamic but challenge the names used to describe it. The label is disturbing, not the dynamic.

You underlined it above yourself that daddy and little girl usually refers to the relationship a dad has with his daughter. So I am not sorry if that labelling disturbed me.

As you have the right to state your opinion about my opinion, I have the right to do so too, even if you are happy with it or not.

By ‘leave it’ I didn’t mean “leave the conversation, your opinion is not valid”, I meant: if such a dynamic doesn’t suit you, do not engage in it.

And I still don’t understand why you would challenge any aspect of somebody else’s relationship. As long as both parties consent to that relationship, are happy with it and it doesn’t harm anybody else, why would outside parties interfere and tell them you shouldn’t be doing this or that?

And in my earlier post I actually highlighted that the DD/lg dynamic shares SOME OF the characteristics you’d expect in a healthy father daughter relationship.

I haven’t say they are the same.

"

I haven’t had a chance to experience this sort of dynamic in any of its guises but I can see what you mean about the title having subtle differences between them.

Seeing as there seems to be a general lack of understanding about the term Daddy in this dynamic, what do people think of the term ‘Sugar daddy,’ which seems to be more acceptable except for the idea that the man is supporting his little financially. I see that term being bandied about openly with much less vitriol it seems.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The dynamic is reasonably appealing, but the label isn't. "Sir" feels more comfortable for me.

Exactly this. Ppl have the right to challenge the label that have been chosen to describe the dynamic.

Daddy Dom, Dom, Sir, Master and the many others roles are not interchangeable. They are variations around a theme. ‘Sir’ suggests you lean more towards the formal aspect, you seek some form of protocol, more or less strict. DD/lg doesn’t have this formal, protocol aspect to it. They are not the same the same dynamic.

And why would you challenge the roles or dynamic people have chosen for themselves? If it doesn’t sit well with you, leave it, but let others enjoy their life the way they want.

Leave it ? So now because we do not agree with something we should just leave it ?

Plus if you read properly what I have written I don't challenge the dynamic but challenge the names used to describe it. The label is disturbing, not the dynamic.

You underlined it above yourself that daddy and little girl usually refers to the relationship a dad has with his daughter. So I am not sorry if that labelling disturbed me.

As you have the right to state your opinion about my opinion, I have the right to do so too, even if you are happy with it or not.

By ‘leave it’ I didn’t mean “leave the conversation, your opinion is not valid”, I meant: if such a dynamic doesn’t suit you, do not engage in it.

And I still don’t understand why you would challenge any aspect of somebody else’s relationship. As long as both parties consent to that relationship, are happy with it and it doesn’t harm anybody else, why would outside parties interfere and tell them you shouldn’t be doing this or that?

And in my earlier post I actually highlighted that the DD/lg dynamic shares SOME OF the characteristics you’d expect in a healthy father daughter relationship.

I haven’t say they are the same.

What characteristics?

The kind that only occur between father and daughter? Or the kind that would be in any other healthy relationship?"

I listed some of these characteristics in my earlier post, feel free to scroll up and read.

And I consider any consensual, happy and fulfilling relationship to be healthy. Even if it takes a form that I don’t fancy myself.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny


"I haven’t had a chance to experience this sort of dynamic in any of its guises but I can see what you mean about the title having subtle differences between them.

Seeing as there seems to be a general lack of understanding about the term Daddy in this dynamic, what do people think of the term ‘Sugar daddy,’ which seems to be more acceptable except for the idea that the man is supporting his little financially. I see that term being bandied about openly with much less vitriol it seems."

Sugar daddys and Daddy Don’s are not the same thing.

A sugar daddy relationship is typically transactional based, and while they may call you daddy thats about the only similarity.

The following is taken from a popular little website. Hopefully it will help provide an introduction into why a CG/l relationship is appealing to some.

“Much like a parent, a Caregiver-type (Mommy, Daddy, or other name-choice identifying as this type) should display the above qualities. Mommies should also be protective, and Daddies should also offer plenty of guidance so these roles are interchangeable, being categorized as Caregivers. They want to see their partner succeed in life and be happy. They want to be heavily involved in their lives and take extra time to care about even the smallest of troubles. They want to be the person to uplift them and cheer them on with their interests--even if it's just successfully coloring a difficult coloring page! They take pride in their partner and feel valuable when providing extra attention.

Caregivers:

Want to help their partner make decisions for their partner's own health and safety

Want to take care of some or all of their partner's basic needs

Want to help take some control over and lead aspects of their partner's life, day, or time together

Caregivers also:

Are comfortable in the leadership position

Are comfortable with self-sacrificing for the happiness, health, and benefit of their partner

Are happy to be a steady rock to lean on, trust, and turn to

Caregivers do not:

Want to hurt, abuse, or mistreat their partner

Force their partner into situations that make their partner unhappy, unsatisfied, hurt, or scared

Take away their partner's personal control completely without their partner desiring and consenting to such a lifestyle choice

Caregivers are:

Partners who listen to the needs of their partner and are well matched to little personalities

Adults who are comfortable with responsibilities and adult situations

People who are overly nurturing in nature (reflected through their natural personality)”

There are many resources online to help explain what it is. What it isn’t is any notion of illegal activity.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not something I'm able to wrap my head around and it does unsettle me.

When it comes to DDLG isn't roleplay a big part of it?

I've had a look into it but I could only read so much because the thought of role-playing a toddler or a young child and then being fucked by someone playing the role of my daddy made my stomach turn to be honest.

I understand it's not a crime between consenting adults, but it's something I can not open my mind to at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can imagine that it feels awkward when you’re used to hearing ‘daddy’ from the mouth of your daughter.

I also get more and more such messages (I blame my greying hair) and although I have been in such a relationship and I’m open to it again, some make me uncomfortable. I don’t like being called daddy out cold.

For me it’s a natural evolution of a relationship: when two people develop feelings and find a reciprocal arrangement where caring, protecting, challenging, nurturing match the expected characteristics of a father figure.

Others may enjoy it as a role play only. In and out of character when they fancy. That’s not for me.

All that to say that we all have a different sensibility towards such a relationship. And any kind of relationship for that matter.

And on a side note, I never came across any DD who referred to his little as ‘daughter’. Little one, baby girl...many others, .but never daughter.

To me that confirms that the fantasy revolves around the characteristics of the father figure, not the genealogical link. "

Like a friend could be a father figure but not literally a father?

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"

And I consider any consensual, happy and fulfilling relationship to be healthy. Even if it takes a form that I don’t fancy myself."

This is the basis of respect.

If it’s not hurting anyone, is safe, sane and consenting then why does it matter?

Language is unwieldy, people attach connotations to words that others don’t. This is one of those.

Understanding is the basis of acceptance. Understanding the dynamic is important in this case.

The word ‘Daddy’ might hold connections for some that make it seems creepy but the actual dynamic is anything but.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pappa bear is better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's not something I'm able to wrap my head around and it does unsettle me.

When it comes to DDLG isn't roleplay a big part of it?

I've had a look into it but I could only read so much because the thought of role-playing a toddler or a young child and then being fucked by someone playing the role of my daddy made my stomach turn to be honest.

I understand it's not a crime between consenting adults, but it's something I can not open my mind to at all. "

And that’s ok, it’s not for you.

I will say though, a large proportion of littles do not age play, colour etc.

The dynamic can equally be about wanting someone reassuring, nurturing, calm, someone who gives you a sense of safety....

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"I haven’t had a chance to experience this sort of dynamic in any of its guises but I can see what you mean about the title having subtle differences between them.

Seeing as there seems to be a general lack of understanding about the term Daddy in this dynamic, what do people think of the term ‘Sugar daddy,’ which seems to be more acceptable except for the idea that the man is supporting his little financially. I see that term being bandied about openly with much less vitriol it seems.

Sugar daddys and Daddy Don’s are not the same thing.

A sugar daddy relationship is typically transactional based, and while they may call you daddy thats about the only similarity.

The following is taken from a popular little website. Hopefully it will help provide an introduction into why a CG/l relationship is appealing to some.

“Much like a parent, a Caregiver-type (Mommy, Daddy, or other name-choice identifying as this type) should display the above qualities. Mommies should also be protective, and Daddies should also offer plenty of guidance so these roles are interchangeable, being categorized as Caregivers. They want to see their partner succeed in life and be happy. They want to be heavily involved in their lives and take extra time to care about even the smallest of troubles. They want to be the person to uplift them and cheer them on with their interests--even if it's just successfully coloring a difficult coloring page! They take pride in their partner and feel valuable when providing extra attention.

Caregivers:

Want to help their partner make decisions for their partner's own health and safety

Want to take care of some or all of their partner's basic needs

Want to help take some control over and lead aspects of their partner's life, day, or time together

Caregivers also:

Are comfortable in the leadership position

Are comfortable with self-sacrificing for the happiness, health, and benefit of their partner

Are happy to be a steady rock to lean on, trust, and turn to

Caregivers do not:

Want to hurt, abuse, or mistreat their partner

Force their partner into situations that make their partner unhappy, unsatisfied, hurt, or scared

Take away their partner's personal control completely without their partner desiring and consenting to such a lifestyle choice

Caregivers are:

Partners who listen to the needs of their partner and are well matched to little personalities

Adults who are comfortable with responsibilities and adult situations

People who are overly nurturing in nature (reflected through their natural personality)”

There are many resources online to help explain what it is. What it isn’t is any notion of illegal activity.

"

This is a great post

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land


"It's not something I'm able to wrap my head around and it does unsettle me.

When it comes to DDLG isn't roleplay a big part of it?

I've had a look into it but I could only read so much because the thought of role-playing a toddler or a young child and then being fucked by someone playing the role of my daddy made my stomach turn to be honest.

I understand it's not a crime between consenting adults, but it's something I can not open my mind to at all. "

It isn't about role play for me but I can't speak for everyone. I also don't identify as being a toddler or small child. Though I know when you look at certain apps it appears as though I should have my hair in pigtails and some kind of romper suit.

For me it's a safe place to let me guard down, cuddle up in a blanket and suck my thumb if I so wish. It's about giving M the authority to tell me off and ground me and look after me when I become overly anxious. Being able to offload my anxiety on M allows me to then be a bad arse bitch in the rest of my life. Essentially it's a vent, it was our dynamic before we came accross the terminology.

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By *heNYCSausage OP   Man
over a year ago

Everton

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny


"It's not something I'm able to wrap my head around and it does unsettle me.

When it comes to DDLG isn't roleplay a big part of it?

I've had a look into it but I could only read so much because the thought of role-playing a toddler or a young child and then being fucked by someone playing the role of my daddy made my stomach turn to be honest.

I understand it's not a crime between consenting adults, but it's something I can not open my mind to at all. "

Its not role play at all. Its a relationship, that maybe 24*7 or only when the mood hits.

The DD or MD are not trying to pretend to be your actual mum or dad, its a fatherly/motherly role they assume.

Littles and mids can choose to age regress, but its not “mandatory” and they get to choose what age they want. Some littles have multple ages they regress too based on their current mood and feelings.

The age tends to be to set the scene for what they like, so stuffies, colouring, watching Disney, creative arts etc. It may also trigger into ABDL, but again thats not a given as that tends to be its own kink.

The age regression is rarely a consideration for the DD/MD/CG outside of thinking up specific activities.

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over a year ago


"I don’t understand it at all.

On the female side you’re imagining banging your Dad yeah?!

On the Male side (especially if you’re a father) you are imagining banging your child yes?!!

"

As I’ve said, I haven’t had any experience of this but I would NEVER think of it as being my daughter any more than I would think or someone I have tied up as being my sl*ve in reality. Thanks to those who have explained it in this thread, I understand what they mean about the nuances of the dynamic and I must say, it is very appealing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's not something I'm able to wrap my head around and it does unsettle me.

When it comes to DDLG isn't roleplay a big part of it?

I've had a look into it but I could only read so much because the thought of role-playing a toddler or a young child and then being fucked by someone playing the role of my daddy made my stomach turn to be honest.

I understand it's not a crime between consenting adults, but it's something I can not open my mind to at all.

Its not role play at all. Its a relationship, that maybe 24*7 or only when the mood hits.

The DD or MD are not trying to pretend to be your actual mum or dad, its a fatherly/motherly role they assume.

Littles and mids can choose to age regress, but its not “mandatory” and they get to choose what age they want. Some littles have multple ages they regress too based on their current mood and feelings.

The age tends to be to set the scene for what they like, so stuffies, colouring, watching Disney, creative arts etc. It may also trigger into ABDL, but again thats not a given as that tends to be its own kink.

The age regression is rarely a consideration for the DD/MD/CG outside of thinking up specific activities."

So no sexual contact when they are role playing being a child?

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By *ilverjagMan
over a year ago

swansea


"The trouble with DD/lg is that people don’t understand it, and just condemn it as gross or disgusting.

It’s about support, love and reassurance more than anything.

It’s also not necessarily about age play, or for younger people. On that other site, there are women in their 50’s/60s who are in a DD/lg dynamic.

It’s not for everyone, that’s for sure, but at least try and gain an understanding of it before you kink shame. "

You just hit the nail right on the head, in the only two role play scenarios I've played the daddy role, which was at their instigation, not mine, where the women weren't actually that young, support, security and emotional attachment to the older guy that they never experienced from a man, was as important to them as much the sexual craving. After being told the stories of their experiences in life, it was actually quite sad that they needed to find what they had missed out on not only as kids, but also in adult relationships. Maybe they needed counciling, but certainly not condemnation.

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By *heNYCSausage OP   Man
over a year ago

Everton


"I haven’t had a chance to experience this sort of dynamic in any of its guises but I can see what you mean about the title having subtle differences between them.

Seeing as there seems to be a general lack of understanding about the term Daddy in this dynamic, what do people think of the term ‘Sugar daddy,’ which seems to be more acceptable except for the idea that the man is supporting his little financially. I see that term being bandied about openly with much less vitriol it seems.

Sugar daddys and Daddy Don’s are not the same thing.

A sugar daddy relationship is typically transactional based, and while they may call you daddy thats about the only similarity.

The following is taken from a popular little website. Hopefully it will help provide an introduction into why a CG/l relationship is appealing to some.

“Much like a parent, a Caregiver-type (Mommy, Daddy, or other name-choice identifying as this type) should display the above qualities. Mommies should also be protective, and Daddies should also offer plenty of guidance so these roles are interchangeable, being categorized as Caregivers. They want to see their partner succeed in life and be happy. They want to be heavily involved in their lives and take extra time to care about even the smallest of troubles. They want to be the person to uplift them and cheer them on with their interests--even if it's just successfully coloring a difficult coloring page! They take pride in their partner and feel valuable when providing extra attention.

Caregivers:

Want to help their partner make decisions for their partner's own health and safety

Want to take care of some or all of their partner's basic needs

Want to help take some control over and lead aspects of their partner's life, day, or time together

Caregivers also:

Are comfortable in the leadership position

Are comfortable with self-sacrificing for the happiness, health, and benefit of their partner

Are happy to be a steady rock to lean on, trust, and turn to

Caregivers do not:

Want to hurt, abuse, or mistreat their partner

Force their partner into situations that make their partner unhappy, unsatisfied, hurt, or scared

Take away their partner's personal control completely without their partner desiring and consenting to such a lifestyle choice

Caregivers are:

Partners who listen to the needs of their partner and are well matched to little personalities

Adults who are comfortable with responsibilities and adult situations

People who are overly nurturing in nature (reflected through their natural personality)”

There are many resources online to help explain what it is. What it isn’t is any notion of illegal activity.

"

Amazing help, thank you for making the picture clearer for me.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land


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Lol I saw that

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By *heNYCSausage OP   Man
over a year ago

Everton


"[Removed by poster at 08/04/21 08:58:29]

Lol I saw that "

I chickened out haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I haven’t had a chance to experience this sort of dynamic in any of its guises but I can see what you mean about the title having subtle differences between them.

Seeing as there seems to be a general lack of understanding about the term Daddy in this dynamic, what do people think of the term ‘Sugar daddy,’ which seems to be more acceptable except for the idea that the man is supporting his little financially. I see that term being bandied about openly with much less vitriol it seems.

Sugar daddys and Daddy Don’s are not the same thing.

A sugar daddy relationship is typically transactional based, and while they may call you daddy thats about the only similarity.

The following is taken from a popular little website. Hopefully it will help provide an introduction into why a CG/l relationship is appealing to some.

“Much like a parent, a Caregiver-type (Mommy, Daddy, or other name-choice identifying as this type) should display the above qualities. Mommies should also be protective, and Daddies should also offer plenty of guidance so these roles are interchangeable, being categorized as Caregivers. They want to see their partner succeed in life and be happy. They want to be heavily involved in their lives and take extra time to care about even the smallest of troubles. They want to be the person to uplift them and cheer them on with their interests--even if it's just successfully coloring a difficult coloring page! They take pride in their partner and feel valuable when providing extra attention.

Caregivers:

Want to help their partner make decisions for their partner's own health and safety

Want to take care of some or all of their partner's basic needs

Want to help take some control over and lead aspects of their partner's life, day, or time together

Caregivers also:

Are comfortable in the leadership position

Are comfortable with self-sacrificing for the happiness, health, and benefit of their partner

Are happy to be a steady rock to lean on, trust, and turn to

Caregivers do not:

Want to hurt, abuse, or mistreat their partner

Force their partner into situations that make their partner unhappy, unsatisfied, hurt, or scared

Take away their partner's personal control completely without their partner desiring and consenting to such a lifestyle choice

Caregivers are:

Partners who listen to the needs of their partner and are well matched to little personalities

Adults who are comfortable with responsibilities and adult situations

People who are overly nurturing in nature (reflected through their natural personality)”

There are many resources online to help explain what it is. What it isn’t is any notion of illegal activity.

"

Sorry, I didn’t mean to say that sugar daddy would be the same dynamic in the least. I meant the term seems to be much more acceptable where the woman is seen to be prostituting herself to a man for financial gain, which I contest is not always the case.

Thanks for highlighting and explaining this dynamic. It is such an eye opener.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land


"[Removed by poster at 08/04/21 08:58:29]

Lol I saw that

I chickened out haha"

Too late haha

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By *heNYCSausage OP   Man
over a year ago

Everton


"[Removed by poster at 08/04/21 08:58:29]

Lol I saw that

I chickened out haha

Too late haha "

Our little secret?

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)


"Honestly it's so lovely to see this thread be mostly positive without the usual hateful comments. I have a DDlg dynamic with one of my partners. It's not for everyone but it makes us happy. "

Unless you do combine it with regression, BDSM and/or sex and then there is a whole lot of shaming going on.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny


"So no sexual contact when they are role playing being a child?"

Again, use of the phrase role play can be misleading. Littles are not pretending to be an actual child, they are merely exhibiting traits and behaviours that are not considered typical adult behaviour.

Wether people choose to engage in sexual activity or not is entirely down to them, but in my experience DD/lg has been less sexually focused than my previous M/s or D/s dynamics, and when sex does occur their little age has no bearing on it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's not something I'm able to wrap my head around and it does unsettle me.

When it comes to DDLG isn't roleplay a big part of it?

I've had a look into it but I could only read so much because the thought of role-playing a toddler or a young child and then being fucked by someone playing the role of my daddy made my stomach turn to be honest.

I understand it's not a crime between consenting adults, but it's something I can not open my mind to at all.

Its not role play at all. Its a relationship, that maybe 24*7 or only when the mood hits.

The DD or MD are not trying to pretend to be your actual mum or dad, its a fatherly/motherly role they assume.

Littles and mids can choose to age regress, but its not “mandatory” and they get to choose what age they want. Some littles have multple ages they regress too based on their current mood and feelings.

The age tends to be to set the scene for what they like, so stuffies, colouring, watching Disney, creative arts etc. It may also trigger into ABDL, but again thats not a given as that tends to be its own kink.

The age regression is rarely a consideration for the DD/MD/CG outside of thinking up specific activities.

So no sexual contact when they are role playing being a child?"

I would presume that it is not about playing a ‘child’ in the sense of a real child. It is about the nurturing and protection an ‘adult’ offers. I will leave this to those who are more experienced than I but it certainly wouldn’t be that the woman is a ‘child.’ I cannot see a child being a sexual being any more than you can, yet the dynamic of nurturing and protecting appeals to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So no sexual contact when they are role playing being a child?

Again, use of the phrase role play can be misleading. Littles are not pretending to be an actual child, they are merely exhibiting traits and behaviours that are not considered typical adult behaviour.

Wether people choose to engage in sexual activity or not is entirely down to them, but in my experience DD/lg has been less sexually focused than my previous M/s or D/s dynamics, and when sex does occur their little age has no bearing on it."

Excellent explanation again. This is what I’m beginning to see. To be honest, I am not even thinking of the sexual aspect of this particular dynamic. I’m glad you’ve highlighted that point because I was beginning to wonder.

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over a year ago


"

And I consider any consensual, happy and fulfilling relationship to be healthy. Even if it takes a form that I don’t fancy myself.

This is the basis of respect.

If it’s not hurting anyone, is safe, sane and consenting then why does it matter?

Language is unwieldy, people attach connotations to words that others don’t. This is one of those.

Understanding is the basis of acceptance. Understanding the dynamic is important in this case.

The word ‘Daddy’ might hold connections for some that make it seems creepy but the actual dynamic is anything but.

"

Exactly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s amazing and ridiculous that in a site like this we could find such ignorance and narrow mind people. Kink shaming it’s the worst type of behaviour when you don’t understand or learn about it. Then if you don’t like it or it’s not your type of thing don’t come up here and give reasons with judgmental attitude.

How about people thinking that swingers are a disgusting habit ?????!

Daddy and babygirl name is innocent and fun for some. Nothing sordid about it, it’s between two consenting adult who have a private play time and it’s nobody business how they do it. As long it’s legal and don’t harm anyone

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By *eparrain1Man
over a year ago

Stone


"It’s amazing and ridiculous that in a site like this we could find such ignorance and narrow mind people. Kink shaming it’s the worst type of behaviour when you don’t understand or learn about it. Then if you don’t like it or it’s not your type of thing don’t come up here and give reasons with judgmental attitude.

How about people thinking that swingers are a disgusting habit ?????!

Daddy and babygirl name is innocent and fun for some. Nothing sordid about it, it’s between two consenting adult who have a private play time and it’s nobody business how they do it. As long it’s legal and don’t harm anyone "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So no sexual contact when they are role playing being a child?

Again, use of the phrase role play can be misleading. Littles are not pretending to be an actual child, they are merely exhibiting traits and behaviours that are not considered typical adult behaviour.

Wether people choose to engage in sexual activity or not is entirely down to them, but in my experience DD/lg has been less sexually focused than my previous M/s or D/s dynamics, and when sex does occur their little age has no bearing on it."

That makes sense thank you

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

... there is noticeably less kinkshaming in this thread than I was expecting. Still not great, but definitely better.

Let's see what happens next time CNC play comes up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The dynamic is reasonably appealing, but the label isn't. "Sir" feels more comfortable for me.

Exactly this. Ppl have the right to challenge the label that have been chosen to describe the dynamic.

Daddy Dom, Dom, Sir, Master and the many others roles are not interchangeable. They are variations around a theme. ‘Sir’ suggests you lean more towards the formal aspect, you seek some form of protocol, more or less strict. DD/lg doesn’t have this formal, protocol aspect to it. They are not the same the same dynamic.

And why would you challenge the roles or dynamic people have chosen for themselves? If it doesn’t sit well with you, leave it, but let others enjoy their life the way they want.

Leave it ? So now because we do not agree with something we should just leave it ?

Plus if you read properly what I have written I don't challenge the dynamic but challenge the names used to describe it. The label is disturbing, not the dynamic.

You underlined it above yourself that daddy and little girl usually refers to the relationship a dad has with his daughter. So I am not sorry if that labelling disturbed me.

As you have the right to state your opinion about my opinion, I have the right to do so too, even if you are happy with it or not.

By ‘leave it’ I didn’t mean “leave the conversation, your opinion is not valid”, I meant: if such a dynamic doesn’t suit you, do not engage in it.

And I still don’t understand why you would challenge any aspect of somebody else’s relationship. As long as both parties consent to that relationship, are happy with it and it doesn’t harm anybody else, why would outside parties interfere and tell them you shouldn’t be doing this or that?

And in my earlier post I actually highlighted that the DD/lg dynamic shares SOME OF the characteristics you’d expect in a healthy father daughter relationship.

I haven’t say they are the same.

"

I didn't say that they shouldn't do that or this, I have questioned the label attached to that dynamic and I have the right to do so.

I certainly haven't said that you believed that it was the same. But you underlined that the semantic attached to those label refers to the relationship between a dad and his daughter. And this is exactly what I am challenging right now.

I understand the dynamic and understand why certain person would be attracted to it. The names used to describe that dynamic in my opinion has deeper and probably unhealthy connotation attached to it.

Words have meaning, and certainly have different meaning from one person to another, but in this particular instance, the chosen words used to describe that dynamic is disturbing and related to something much deeper that just a nurturing relationship imo but I may be totally wrong. After all, my perception of the subject is coloured by my own experience and views. It is certainly not objective and more subjective than anything else, but so as yours.

However, I won't just leave it and voice my opinion anytime I want it.

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over a year ago

I find it the same as men who want you girls to dress in school uniform i just find it wrong personelly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"... there is noticeably less kinkshaming in this thread than I was expecting. Still not great, but definitely better.

Let's see what happens next time CNC play comes up. "

ive already got the popcorn ready for that

maybe i should just shut my account down, rather than wait for the pitchforks to come at me when i say not only am i in the DDlg lifestyle, but that we enjoy cnc play too

i wonder what would happen if people started shaming those that only enjoyed missionary? Or the ones that always turn the lights off?

but no, let's carry on kink shaming others here instead, because it's more socially acceptable to them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The dynamic is reasonably appealing, but the label isn't. "Sir" feels more comfortable for me.

Exactly this. Ppl have the right to challenge the label that have been chosen to describe the dynamic.

Daddy Dom, Dom, Sir, Master and the many others roles are not interchangeable. They are variations around a theme. ‘Sir’ suggests you lean more towards the formal aspect, you seek some form of protocol, more or less strict. DD/lg doesn’t have this formal, protocol aspect to it. They are not the same the same dynamic.

And why would you challenge the roles or dynamic people have chosen for themselves? If it doesn’t sit well with you, leave it, but let others enjoy their life the way they want.

Leave it ? So now because we do not agree with something we should just leave it ?

Plus if you read properly what I have written I don't challenge the dynamic but challenge the names used to describe it. The label is disturbing, not the dynamic.

You underlined it above yourself that daddy and little girl usually refers to the relationship a dad has with his daughter. So I am not sorry if that labelling disturbed me.

As you have the right to state your opinion about my opinion, I have the right to do so too, even if you are happy with it or not.

By ‘leave it’ I didn’t mean “leave the conversation, your opinion is not valid”, I meant: if such a dynamic doesn’t suit you, do not engage in it.

And I still don’t understand why you would challenge any aspect of somebody else’s relationship. As long as both parties consent to that relationship, are happy with it and it doesn’t harm anybody else, why would outside parties interfere and tell them you shouldn’t be doing this or that?

And in my earlier post I actually highlighted that the DD/lg dynamic shares SOME OF the characteristics you’d expect in a healthy father daughter relationship.

I haven’t say they are the same.

I didn't say that they shouldn't do that or this, I have questioned the label attached to that dynamic and I have the right to do so.

I certainly haven't said that you believed that it was the same. But you underlined that the semantic attached to those label refers to the relationship between a dad and his daughter. And this is exactly what I am challenging right now.

I understand the dynamic and understand why certain person would be attracted to it. The names used to describe that dynamic in my opinion has deeper and probably unhealthy connotation attached to it.

Words have meaning, and certainly have different meaning from one person to another, but in this particular instance, the chosen words used to describe that dynamic is disturbing and related to something much deeper that just a nurturing relationship imo but I may be totally wrong. After all, my perception of the subject is coloured by my own experience and views. It is certainly not objective and more subjective than anything else, but so as yours.

However, I won't just leave it and voice my opinion anytime I want it.

"

Cool!

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land


"... there is noticeably less kinkshaming in this thread than I was expecting. Still not great, but definitely better.

Let's see what happens next time CNC play comes up.

ive already got the popcorn ready for that

maybe i should just shut my account down, rather than wait for the pitchforks to come at me when i say not only am i in the DDlg lifestyle, but that we enjoy cnc play too

i wonder what would happen if people started shaming those that only enjoyed missionary? Or the ones that always turn the lights off?

but no, let's carry on kink shaming others here instead, because it's more socially acceptable to them "

Don't worry we can go hide somewhere together as I enjoy both these things too.

I used to be in a relationship where the ex had to do everything in missionary and with lights off, funnily enough. Destroyed my confidence in myself completely.

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By *heNYCSausage OP   Man
over a year ago

Everton


"... there is noticeably less kinkshaming in this thread than I was expecting. Still not great, but definitely better.

Let's see what happens next time CNC play comes up.

ive already got the popcorn ready for that

maybe i should just shut my account down, rather than wait for the pitchforks to come at me when i say not only am i in the DDlg lifestyle, but that we enjoy cnc play too

i wonder what would happen if people started shaming those that only enjoyed missionary? Or the ones that always turn the lights off?

but no, let's carry on kink shaming others here instead, because it's more socially acceptable to them "

What’s CNC? Is that something else I’ve got to learn now?

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land


"... there is noticeably less kinkshaming in this thread than I was expecting. Still not great, but definitely better.

Let's see what happens next time CNC play comes up.

ive already got the popcorn ready for that

maybe i should just shut my account down, rather than wait for the pitchforks to come at me when i say not only am i in the DDlg lifestyle, but that we enjoy cnc play too

i wonder what would happen if people started shaming those that only enjoyed missionary? Or the ones that always turn the lights off?

but no, let's carry on kink shaming others here instead, because it's more socially acceptable to them

What’s CNC? Is that something else I’ve got to learn now? "

C = consent N = non

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By *heNYCSausage OP   Man
over a year ago

Everton


"... there is noticeably less kinkshaming in this thread than I was expecting. Still not great, but definitely better.

Let's see what happens next time CNC play comes up.

ive already got the popcorn ready for that

maybe i should just shut my account down, rather than wait for the pitchforks to come at me when i say not only am i in the DDlg lifestyle, but that we enjoy cnc play too

i wonder what would happen if people started shaming those that only enjoyed missionary? Or the ones that always turn the lights off?

but no, let's carry on kink shaming others here instead, because it's more socially acceptable to them

What’s CNC? Is that something else I’ve got to learn now?

C = consent N = non"

I’ve just googled it.

If I’m honest, I wouldn’t enjoy that. That wouldn’t be for me. I’m too nice

I was once asked to ch*ke a lady, felt guilty for days lol

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By *heNYCSausage OP   Man
over a year ago

Everton


"... there is noticeably less kinkshaming in this thread than I was expecting. Still not great, but definitely better.

Let's see what happens next time CNC play comes up.

ive already got the popcorn ready for that

maybe i should just shut my account down, rather than wait for the pitchforks to come at me when i say not only am i in the DDlg lifestyle, but that we enjoy cnc play too

i wonder what would happen if people started shaming those that only enjoyed missionary? Or the ones that always turn the lights off?

but no, let's carry on kink shaming others here instead, because it's more socially acceptable to them

What’s CNC? Is that something else I’ve got to learn now?

C = consent N = non

I’ve just googled it.

If I’m honest, I wouldn’t enjoy that. That wouldn’t be for me. I’m too nice

I was once asked to ch*ke a lady, felt guilty for days lol"

I hope that doesn’t come across as kinkshaming. I’d never do that. I’m the least judgemental person on the planet lol

I was brought up to treat a woman like she’s on a pedestal. Never raise your hand, and no means no.

So if I met someone for CNC and she said no, I’d instinctively stop and then feel bad where she had to say no even though she was roleplaying.

Hope that makes sense x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"... there is noticeably less kinkshaming in this thread than I was expecting. Still not great, but definitely better.

Let's see what happens next time CNC play comes up.

ive already got the popcorn ready for that

maybe i should just shut my account down, rather than wait for the pitchforks to come at me when i say not only am i in the DDlg lifestyle, but that we enjoy cnc play too

i wonder what would happen if people started shaming those that only enjoyed missionary? Or the ones that always turn the lights off?

but no, let's carry on kink shaming others here instead, because it's more socially acceptable to them

What’s CNC? Is that something else I’ve got to learn now? "

It stands for Consensual Non-Consent. And it is another form of interaction some people enjoy. There are so many different forms in which people enjoy their relationship or interactions with others. And there is so much to learn for somebody who has an interest.

Did you know for example that some people sign formal disclaimers before engaging with each other?

They negotiate what can and cannot happen, put it on paper (you can even find generic forms on the internet) and sign. I don’t know how truly valid it is in a court of law but nevertheless they do that to try and protect themselves in case something goes wrong.

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over a year ago

So, I've read the responses and I'm still not able to open my mind to it. Now the nurturing and trust side without age play I don't have an issue with although I hate the term daddy and little girl and think it's completely unnecessary when there are other words that could be used.

I think regressing back to a young age and playing dress up with dummies, cute pyjamas and colouring books is terrifying. I know you say this isn't always sexual, but for many people who indulge they do find the age situation arousing and that is what I find worrying about it. Why would you want fuck someone who is acting like a toddler using the potty? Surely you can understand why people might look down on this being what you get off on.

Maybe if I wasn't a parent I'd feel differently. But how the world sexualises children and the amount of child porn online is a major problem and I feel like kinks like this only add to the problem.

I just had a look at the DDLG Subreddit and I feel sick now. I get they are all adults (hopefully) but it's worrisome.

I'm sorry if I'm kinkshaming anyone but opinions were asked on the subject.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

"I hope that doesn’t come across as kinkshaming. I’d never do that. I’m the least judgemental person on the planet lol

I was brought up to treat a woman like she’s on a pedestal. Never raise your hand, and no means no.

So if I met someone for CNC and she said no, I’d instinctively stop and then feel bad where she had to say no even though she was roleplaying.

Hope that makes sense"

I hear you it's not for everyone. But wanted to clarify some things. M does put me on a pedestal and he's the biggest softest lump in the world. If you came across us in the outside world, there is no way you'd think him D and me s, and if so it would be the other way around.

But like I mentioned in previous replies its a vent for me to be a bad arse bitch. It was me who wanted to do CNC to get over some trauma in a safe environment where I knew I was safe. In real life if M steps on my toe he's mortified and checks I'm ok

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By *heNYCSausage OP   Man
over a year ago

Everton


""I hope that doesn’t come across as kinkshaming. I’d never do that. I’m the least judgemental person on the planet lol

I was brought up to treat a woman like she’s on a pedestal. Never raise your hand, and no means no.

So if I met someone for CNC and she said no, I’d instinctively stop and then feel bad where she had to say no even though she was roleplaying.

Hope that makes sense"

I hear you it's not for everyone. But wanted to clarify some things. M does put me on a pedestal and he's the biggest softest lump in the world. If you came across us in the outside world, there is no way you'd think him D and me s, and if so it would be the other way around.

But like I mentioned in previous replies its a vent for me to be a bad arse bitch. It was me who wanted to do CNC to get over some trauma in a safe environment where I knew I was safe. In real life if M steps on my toe he's mortified and checks I'm ok

"

It sounds like both you and M are in a great place together and have found the ideal roles for each other.

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over a year ago

Just for the record I was trying to understand it

I thought by stating my understanding of the subject someone would explain but instead everyone got defensive.

If I was fucking someone and they insisted I call them “Santa” there would be no way to stop my brain from imagining Santa Claus rutting away

I’ve only ever had one guy try and get me to call him Daddy, instant turn off and about two minutes later he told me I was “Daddies good little boy... GIRL!” He had a son. He defaulted to saying good boy from when he was being a Dad so I’m gonna go ahead and say his brain went to the wrong place too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"... there is noticeably less kinkshaming in this thread than I was expecting. Still not great, but definitely better.

Let's see what happens next time CNC play comes up.

ive already got the popcorn ready for that

maybe i should just shut my account down, rather than wait for the pitchforks to come at me when i say not only am i in the DDlg lifestyle, but that we enjoy cnc play too

i wonder what would happen if people started shaming those that only enjoyed missionary? Or the ones that always turn the lights off?

but no, let's carry on kink shaming others here instead, because it's more socially acceptable to them

What’s CNC? Is that something else I’ve got to learn now?

C = consent N = non

I’ve just googled it.

If I’m honest, I wouldn’t enjoy that. That wouldn’t be for me. I’m too nice

I was once asked to ch*ke a lady, felt guilty for days lol

I hope that doesn’t come across as kinkshaming. I’d never do that. I’m the least judgemental person on the planet lol

I was brought up to treat a woman like she’s on a pedestal. Never raise your hand, and no means no.

So if I met someone for CNC and she said no, I’d instinctively stop and then feel bad where she had to say no even though she was roleplaying.

Hope that makes sense x"

I think what you could bear in mind is, you would agree in this case that no does not mean no, which is why is consensual non consent.

You effectively remove the meaning of the word, under very carefully managed and pre planned conditions.

Cnc can be very healing if used carefully, as it can allow a person to relive an experience whilst being in control of the situation, thereby releasing some trauma.

It should only ever be done by two consenting adults, who know each other extremely well, and who trust each other implicitly, and who have discussed it prior to the event.

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By *heNYCSausage OP   Man
over a year ago

Everton


"So, I've read the responses and I'm still not able to open my mind to it. Now the nurturing and trust side without age play I don't have an issue with although I hate the term daddy and little girl and think it's completely unnecessary when there are other words that could be used.

I think regressing back to a young age and playing dress up with dummies, cute pyjamas and colouring books is terrifying. I know you say this isn't always sexual, but for many people who indulge they do find the age situation arousing and that is what I find worrying about it. Why would you want fuck someone who is acting like a toddler using the potty? Surely you can understand why people might look down on this being what you get off on.

Maybe if I wasn't a parent I'd feel differently. But how the world sexualises children and the amount of child porn online is a major problem and I feel like kinks like this only add to the problem.

I just had a look at the DDLG Subreddit and I feel sick now. I get they are all adults (hopefully) but it's worrisome.

I'm sorry if I'm kinkshaming anyone but opinions were asked on the subject. "

The way I see it now is that there’s two parts. And they’ve been compartmentalised.

Firstly, is the psychological part. The guy who cares for, protects, and sometimes provides for a woman. I can get on board with this, except the being called daddy part lol

Secondly is the sexual part. This is where a lot of people (myself included), had (or still have have) issues. But thinking about it. Sex for me is meant to be sensual, between two consenting adults.

I can see the dynamic, but the name still is an issue for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So, I've read the responses and I'm still not able to open my mind to it. Now the nurturing and trust side without age play I don't have an issue with although I hate the term daddy and little girl and think it's completely unnecessary when there are other words that could be used.

I think regressing back to a young age and playing dress up with dummies, cute pyjamas and colouring books is terrifying. I know you say this isn't always sexual, but for many people who indulge they do find the age situation arousing and that is what I find worrying about it. Why would you want fuck someone who is acting like a toddler using the potty? Surely you can understand why people might look down on this being what you get off on.

Maybe if I wasn't a parent I'd feel differently. But how the world sexualises children and the amount of child porn online is a major problem and I feel like kinks like this only add to the problem.

I just had a look at the DDLG Subreddit and I feel sick now. I get they are all adults (hopefully) but it's worrisome.

I'm sorry if I'm kinkshaming anyone but opinions were asked on the subject.

The way I see it now is that there’s two parts. And they’ve been compartmentalised.

Firstly, is the psychological part. The guy who cares for, protects, and sometimes provides for a woman. I can get on board with this, except the being called daddy part lol

Secondly is the sexual part. This is where a lot of people (myself included), had (or still have have) issues. But thinking about it. Sex for me is meant to be sensual, between two consenting adults.

I can see the dynamic, but the name still is an issue for me. "

And you know what, that’s totally ok .

It works for some, and not for others. The variety and diversity are one of the beautiful things about fab

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny


"... there is noticeably less kinkshaming in this thread than I was expecting. Still not great, but definitely better.

Let's see what happens next time CNC play comes up.

ive already got the popcorn ready for that

maybe i should just shut my account down, rather than wait for the pitchforks to come at me when i say not only am i in the DDlg lifestyle, but that we enjoy cnc play too

i wonder what would happen if people started shaming those that only enjoyed missionary? Or the ones that always turn the lights off?

but no, let's carry on kink shaming others here instead, because it's more socially acceptable to them "

I always make a point of telling people if they are interested in us from a pure sexual point of view they will be sorely disappointed. Its just not our thing, and I am much better at hitting than fucking!

Its not that we don’t enjoy sex, but its more enjoyable when its wrapped up in a nice BDSM blanket.

Education and explanations are better tools than accusations of kink shaming and ignorance, which is why I would never leave this site or feel I couldn’t speak my mind unless it stopped being fun.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land


"So, I've read the responses and I'm still not able to open my mind to it. Now the nurturing and trust side without age play I don't have an issue with although I hate the term daddy and little girl and think it's completely unnecessary when there are other words that could be used.

I think regressing back to a young age and playing dress up with dummies, cute pyjamas and colouring books is terrifying. I know you say this isn't always sexual, but for many people who indulge they do find the age situation arousing and that is what I find worrying about it. Why would you want fuck someone who is acting like a toddler using the potty? Surely you can understand why people might look down on this being what you get off on.

Maybe if I wasn't a parent I'd feel differently. But how the world sexualises children and the amount of child porn online is a major problem and I feel like kinks like this only add to the problem.

I just had a look at the DDLG Subreddit and I feel sick now. I get they are all adults (hopefully) but it's worrisome.

I'm sorry if I'm kinkshaming anyone but opinions were asked on the subject. "

I hear what you are saying, and there are things in life I can't get my head around and feel uncomfortable with and that's fine.

As for age regression it's not a choice for me. It's what has always happened. And before I vented it with M I used to get in horrible positions. I do not dress up or anything you've described in your reply. It's just a mental place for me.

One thing I do object to is you saying that my kink, adds to the problem of child pornography. I do find that kink shaming and upsetting. But you are entitled to your opinion. Especially when I personally hate the sexualisation of children but that's as a population as a whole not a small community. Child sexualisation you need to look no further than little girls dancing to the latest tik tok dance or clothing shops. My personal kink behind closed doors is not sexualising children.

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By *heNYCSausage OP   Man
over a year ago

Everton


"...

Education and explanations are better tools than accusations of kink shaming and ignorance, which is why I would never leave this site or feel I couldn’t speak my mind unless it stopped being fun.

"

Education, exactly why I started this thread!

Thank you all for participating and keeping it a mainly judgement free environment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So, I've read the responses and I'm still not able to open my mind to it. Now the nurturing and trust side without age play I don't have an issue with although I hate the term daddy and little girl and think it's completely unnecessary when there are other words that could be used.

I think regressing back to a young age and playing dress up with dummies, cute pyjamas and colouring books is terrifying. I know you say this isn't always sexual, but for many people who indulge they do find the age situation arousing and that is what I find worrying about it. Why would you want fuck someone who is acting like a toddler using the potty? Surely you can understand why people might look down on this being what you get off on.

Maybe if I wasn't a parent I'd feel differently. But how the world sexualises children and the amount of child porn online is a major problem and I feel like kinks like this only add to the problem.

I just had a look at the DDLG Subreddit and I feel sick now. I get they are all adults (hopefully) but it's worrisome.

I'm sorry if I'm kinkshaming anyone but opinions were asked on the subject.

I hear what you are saying, and there are things in life I can't get my head around and feel uncomfortable with and that's fine.

As for age regression it's not a choice for me. It's what has always happened. And before I vented it with M I used to get in horrible positions. I do not dress up or anything you've described in your reply. It's just a mental place for me.

One thing I do object to is you saying that my kink, adds to the problem of child pornography. I do find that kink shaming and upsetting. But you are entitled to your opinion. Especially when I personally hate the sexualisation of children but that's as a population as a whole not a small community. Child sexualisation you need to look no further than little girls dancing to the latest tik tok dance or clothing shops. My personal kink behind closed doors is not sexualising children. "

This for me too

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"

...Education and explanations are better tools than accusations of kink shaming and ignorance...

"

Agreed. Not everyone will understand certain dynamics but the accusations of kink shaming and patronising means that those of us who'd like to know more from a curious point of view don't feel comfortable to do so.

Those who have a certain dynamic don't have to explain or educate people, of course they don't. On the same hand they aren't quite showing the understanding and ability to listen they hope others show as well (not just on this thread but any thread where BDSM comes up and dynamics are questioned/not understood).

There have been some brilliant answers in here that have been informative, having typed all of the above!

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

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"So, I've read the responses and I'm still not able to open my mind to it. Now the nurturing and trust side without age play I don't have an issue with although I hate the term daddy and little girl and think it's completely unnecessary when there are other words that could be used.

I think regressing back to a young age and playing dress up with dummies, cute pyjamas and colouring books is terrifying. I know you say this isn't always sexual, but for many people who indulge they do find the age situation arousing and that is what I find worrying about it. Why would you want fuck someone who is acting like a toddler using the potty? Surely you can understand why people might look down on this being what you get off on.

Maybe if I wasn't a parent I'd feel differently. But how the world sexualises children and the amount of child porn online is a major problem and I feel like kinks like this only add to the problem.

I just had a look at the DDLG Subreddit and I feel sick now. I get they are all adults (hopefully) but it's worrisome.

I'm sorry if I'm kinkshaming anyone but opinions were asked on the subject. "

I don’t see it as kink shaming, just as those who enjoy it express an opinion, those of us who don’t have equal right to express an opinion.

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

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"... there is noticeably less kinkshaming in this thread than I was expecting. Still not great, but definitely better.

Let's see what happens next time CNC play comes up.

ive already got the popcorn ready for that

maybe i should just shut my account down, rather than wait for the pitchforks to come at me when i say not only am i in the DDlg lifestyle, but that we enjoy cnc play too

i wonder what would happen if people started shaming those that only enjoyed missionary? Or the ones that always turn the lights off?

but no, let's carry on kink shaming others here instead, because it's more socially acceptable to them

What’s CNC? Is that something else I’ve got to learn now?

It stands for Consensual Non-Consent. And it is another form of interaction some people enjoy. There are so many different forms in which people enjoy their relationship or interactions with others. And there is so much to learn for somebody who has an interest.

Did you know for example that some people sign formal disclaimers before engaging with each other?

They negotiate what can and cannot happen, put it on paper (you can even find generic forms on the internet) and sign. I don’t know how truly valid it is in a court of law but nevertheless they do that to try and protect themselves in case something goes wrong. "

That is the most troubling thing I’ve read.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

...Education and explanations are better tools than accusations of kink shaming and ignorance...

Agreed. Not everyone will understand certain dynamics but the accusations of kink shaming and patronising means that those of us who'd like to know more from a curious point of view don't feel comfortable to do so.

Those who have a certain dynamic don't have to explain or educate people, of course they don't. On the same hand they aren't quite showing the understanding and ability to listen they hope others show as well (not just on this thread but any thread where BDSM comes up and dynamics are questioned/not understood).

There have been some brilliant answers in here that have been informative, having typed all of the above!

"

The trouble with the is particular subject is, that the words used to describe it, not necessarily on this thread -gross/disgusting/feel sick - mean that people feel attacked and that they need to justify it, but they are coming from a position of defensiveness a lot of the time.

This thread has been, for the most part positive and informative.

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By *upergirthukMan
over a year ago

Liverpool UK

It felt really odd when the lady who first used daddy on me did so. Its such a powerful word but I went with it as its just a role you are playing and personally if it floats their boat that's fine by me as its not something I would initiate or get a great deal from anyway.

It does get a bit tiresome trying to think of variations along the line of baby girl after a while.

Do the ladies get many guys asking if they can call them mummy at all?

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny


"I just had a look at the DDLG Subreddit and I feel sick now. I get they are all adults (hopefully) but it's worrisome. "

While it bills itself as the front page of the internet, I would never use the red site as a source of education for any BDSM activity.

It is full of the types of people who likely have never experienced what they are talking about.

Remember that site used to host content that was illegal until they purged it a while back.

There are better sources of information that are written by littles or caregivers, that are based on real experience and not sick fantasies.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land


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...Education and explanations are better tools than accusations of kink shaming and ignorance...

Agreed. Not everyone will understand certain dynamics but the accusations of kink shaming and patronising means that those of us who'd like to know more from a curious point of view don't feel comfortable to do so.

Those who have a certain dynamic don't have to explain or educate people, of course they don't. On the same hand they aren't quite showing the understanding and ability to listen they hope others show as well (not just on this thread but any thread where BDSM comes up and dynamics are questioned/not understood).

There have been some brilliant answers in here that have been informative, having typed all of the above!

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That's why I try as best I can to explain what it means to me. But damn it it's bloody hard when you're told you should be put in jail (on a different thread not this one) and some other equally hurtful and painful things.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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The trouble with the is particular subject is, that the words used to describe it, not necessarily on this thread -gross/disgusting/feel sick - mean that people feel attacked and that they need to justify it, but they are coming from a position of defensiveness a lot of the time.

This thread has been, for the most part positive and informative. "

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Yes, it's rather obvious they are coming from a position of defensiveness.

I can understand people justifying it but the gatekeeping that can occur from patronising and labelling when people perhaps aren't as knowledgeable on how to frame a question/something is said they don't like doesn't really help.

I do understand why responses can be emotive, I do and I'm not particularly blaming people for those responses - we're all human with flaws. I'd like to have known more about the subject and understand the whys but perhaps the forums aren't the best place for it.

Education and explanation are the best tools, I wholeheartedly agree with this sentiment.

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

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"... there is noticeably less kinkshaming in this thread than I was expecting. Still not great, but definitely better.

Let's see what happens next time CNC play comes up.

ive already got the popcorn ready for that

maybe i should just shut my account down, rather than wait for the pitchforks to come at me when i say not only am i in the DDlg lifestyle, but that we enjoy cnc play too

i wonder what would happen if people started shaming those that only enjoyed missionary? Or the ones that always turn the lights off?

but no, let's carry on kink shaming others here instead, because it's more socially acceptable to them "

I think more educational threads on different kinks on here would be helpful x

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