FabSwingers.com forum: Question for the ladies and Bi guys

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Firstly I don’t think I have ever approached a girl when I’ve been out and acted like a total twat to her but this site has really made me change the way that will treat girls from now on.

I look like your normal dickhead lad most people think I’m a traveler (no offence to any on here) so I guess to girls they’re always gonna think that I’m gonna cause shit or treat them badly before they get to know me.

I’m not the sort of lad who takes shit from people and will give back if they deserve it but this site has changed me in that guys message you and if you’re not interested they go mental and start throwing abuse at ya.

It opens your eyes as to how women are treated and it’s really pissing me off.

Guys do you think that after realising you are bi that you treat women or men differently?

Ladies do you think that bi guys treat you different to straight guys?

Sorry for going off on one I got really fucked off this morning and this is the only place I can get this shit off my chest.

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By *uriousKinksterMan
over a year ago

Loughborough

Bi or not, I'd like to think I'm not in that category of guys to he honest. I've never once given someone grief for not being interested in me / us because it's just not the way to behave. It someone's being rude themselves, then sure we might say something, but to be honest we just block people that are assholes because it's not worth the effort.

If you're a straight guy - don't be a dick.

If you're a bi guy - don't be a dick.

If you're a gay guy - don't be a dick.

If you're a straight woman - don't be a dick.

If you're a bi woman - don't be a dick.

If you're a gay woman - don't be a dick.

If you fall somewhere in between the above - don't be a dick.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

No, I don't think it's a bi/straight thing.

It's an awareness/empathy thing.

Some people can't imagine how the other party feels and just want what they want. Others can, and adjust their behaviour accordingly.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yeah true. Cheers for listening

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By *lym4realCouple
over a year ago

plymouth

And it is rather eye opening being on here or even other sites as so many make so many assumptions and plus they are safe behind their keyboard so ..and the main reason mrs4 now refuses to answer/read the messages as soon as the 90% on here get a mere sniff that a Female is replying ?? all hell breaks loose and they fail to grasp that she is a stranger ? and so if they'd feel quite happy approaching any Female with their knob hanging out and asking her if she wants "Fun" etc etc ...we always say feel free to do so as long as we can watch ?? but watching the news etc etc ( so they would take note and act accordingly) but there really doesn't seem to be no kind of "Learning Curve" just repeat ....repeat ..repeat then get angry/insulting when all previous attempts have met with no success at all ?? and even the mere attempt of trying to "Engage" in some kind of adult conversation is met with derision ( or i'm a control freak etc etc ) or slights on mr4's sexuality ?? i think the words "Toxic Masculinity " about sums up the 90% on here or even "Desperate" and YES mrs4 does like men to act like men and even dress as men but ...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

" And it is rather eye opening being on here or even other sites as so many make so many assumptions and plus they are safe behind their keyboard so ..and the main reason mrs4 now refuses to answer/read the messages as soon as the 90% on here get a mere sniff that a Female is replying ?? all hell breaks loose and they fail to grasp that she is a stranger ? and so if they'd feel quite happy approaching any Female with their knob hanging out and asking her if she wants "Fun" etc etc ...we always say feel free to do so as long as we can watch ?? but watching the news etc etc ( so they would take note and act accordingly) but there really doesn't seem to be no kind of "Learning Curve" just repeat ....repeat ..repeat then get angry/insulting when all previous attempts have met with no success at all ?? and even the mere attempt of trying to "Engage" in some kind of adult conversation is met with derision ( or i'm a control freak etc etc ) or slights on mr4's sexuality ?? i think the words "Toxic Masculinity " about sums up the 90% on here or even "Desperate" and YES mrs4 does like men to act like men and even dress as men but ...

Yeah I totally agree I only just kinda learnt what toxic masculinity is and that’s gotta be what it is.

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By *lym4realCouple
over a year ago

plymouth

Yep it's just not on here either ! and we've been lucky and met a few nice males but the overwhelming numbers even if we did agree to meet them mrs4 would make rather short work of them and not in the way they would envisage she would either ! and she is far worse than me ( mr4) when it comes to dealing with them as well !! just the assumption is ..she's on here ..i don't matter or have a opinion ...and she so up for it/desperate and any other name they quite freely use to describe females on here and in general and very few females do actually enjoy what they spend their time watching !?? and the near constant updates on how their "Penis" is doing ?? and how "Full" their balls are and i'm of the opinion they must be "Exhausted" come the end of the day so tired/ratty and then they get all assey ??

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By *wingsnroundabouts82Couple
over a year ago

Fucksville

I get where you're coming from I do but just a bit of advice, your status will be read by people and your comment may not come across in the light it was intended. They may feel that if they were to reject you you would put a similar comment up again. Totally not judging but your status did make me think ohhhhhh.....

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

Walk down the street in a dress and then you’ll see things differently. I like to think I’m more empathetic to the women on here as I get their issues at around 15 -25%.

By that I mean I get the abusive messages especially when you turn the guy (or couple) down. In a club I can get hassled and followed around, but again nowhere near as bad as a single woman and it’s generally at the end of the night, when guys are looking for anything that appears feminine.

I’ve been in threatening situations with transphobic and homophobic people on the street, or d*unken guys groping or ridiculing me and I have felt the fear of is the guy behind me following me or not on the way back to my home, taxi office or hotel.

However take off the dress, wig and makeup the issues I mention go away, but not for women or trans women on this site, they don’t get that luxury.

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By *lym4realCouple
over a year ago

plymouth

Well mr4 here and i hit the jackpot being "White" and "Male" and having daughters and now grand daughters ( jesus i'm old) and seeing how it is a ongoing problem and the attitude of some when you do challenge them ??..and have seen 1st hand how some males view this site and the people on it is truly shocking ..i never ever assume anything or that's it's a "Given" and quite frankly i'm shocked when someone does want to have a "Fiddle" with me !!..and been a few situations with mrs4 where she has had "Fun" with a female and the male half has then assumed he's is going to ..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I get where you're coming from I do but just a bit of advice, your status will be read by people and your comment may not come across in the light it was intended. They may feel that if they were to reject you you would put a similar comment up again. Totally not judging but your status did make me think ohhhhhh..... "

Yeah I get what you mean. I’ve deleted it now

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